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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The mrs has a son and has flown the nest,i have never wanted kids of my own and really dont get the need to have them,i dont dislike them just dont like the responsibility or being restricted |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"The mrs has a son and has flown the nest,i have never wanted kids of my own and really dont get the need to have them,i dont dislike them just dont like the responsibility or being restricted"
Perfect answer, well the second half lol
My friends and family just don't get it xx |
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"Unconsciously I guess yes but if I had the choice I'd have kids in a heartbeat.
Why would you? Xx"
Because I like children. I love bring around my niece and nephew. it's personal choice I guess but I feel they are the purpose of life, to create more life. I'd probably moan about the lack of sleep and money but those things won't matter really. |
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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago
Skellow |
"I always wanted children off my own but saying that I'm very happy I have been apart off the childrens lifes 
Why? Aren't the ones your borrowing enough? Lol xx"
its easy too make children but been a father is a lot harder |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Unconsciously I guess yes but if I had the choice I'd have kids in a heartbeat.
Why would you? Xx
Because I like children. I love bring around my niece and nephew. it's personal choice I guess but I feel they are the purpose of life, to create more life. I'd probably moan about the lack of sleep and money but those things won't matter really. "
I love my nieces but I also love giving back lol
Funny thing, I don't get that much sleep and nor do I have that much money lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I watched a friend give birth,it was awful,she shit on the birthing table,they cut her pussy and she was screaming in agony for hours, she didnt breast feed ,watching her in crying in such pain is not something i want to repeat ,her tits were as hard as concrete ,no not for me !! |
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I never wanted children & was told at 19 I'd never have them naturally due to my medical condition.
I turned 24 & was hit by a desire / craving to have them.
We were in the process of IVF when I found out I'd got pregnant naturally. I have a 5 yr age gap between the 2 which isn't ideal.
Although they're little sods sometimes I wouldn't be without them but I do understand & respect other people's decisions not to have them. |
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"Unconsciously I guess yes but if I had the choice I'd have kids in a heartbeat. "
Exactly this. And the reason why I would is the maternal side in me would love a child. Not everyone has that feeling and that should be respected. To many people have children because they feel it's their duty to reproduce. There is nothing wrong with not having children but at the same time obviously nothing wrong with having them. It's person choice. |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I watched a friend give birth,it was awful,she shit on the birthing table,they cut her pussy and she was screaming in agony for hours, she didnt breast feed ,watching her in crying in such pain is not something i want to repeat ,her tits were as hard as concrete ,no not for me !!"
Yeah sounds awful. I think if I were a female I'd just lay an egg or something 
How'd you know her tits were hard? Lol x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I never wanted children & was told at 19 I'd never have them naturally due to my medical condition.
I turned 24 & was hit by a desire / craving to have them.
We were in the process of IVF when I found out I'd got pregnant naturally. I have a 5 yr age gap between the 2 which isn't ideal.
Although they're little sods sometimes I wouldn't be without them but I do understand & respect other people's decisions not to have them. "
Good for you xx
All 3 of us are 5yrs apart and we're alright lol x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Unconsciously I guess yes but if I had the choice I'd have kids in a heartbeat.
Exactly this. And the reason why I would is the maternal side in me would love a child. Not everyone has that feeling and that should be respected. To many people have children because they feel it's their duty to reproduce. There is nothing wrong with not having children but at the same time obviously nothing wrong with having them. It's person choice. "
Very true x
My old neighbour uses children as a cash cow  |
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"Unconsciously I guess yes but if I had the choice I'd have kids in a heartbeat.
Exactly this. And the reason why I would is the maternal side in me would love a child. Not everyone has that feeling and that should be respected. To many people have children because they feel it's their duty to reproduce. There is nothing wrong with not having children but at the same time obviously nothing wrong with having them. It's person choice.
Very true x
My old neighbour uses children as a cash cow "
So does my sister |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I watched a friend give birth,it was awful,she shit on the birthing table,they cut her pussy and she was screaming in agony for hours, she didnt breast feed ,watching her in crying in such pain is not something i want to repeat ,her tits were as hard as concrete ,no not for me !!
Yeah sounds awful. I think if I were a female I'd just lay an egg or something
How'd you know her tits were hard? Lol x"
she wanted a doctor she said her tits shouldnt be like that,and asked what i thought lol i phoned her mum she sorted it |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I watched a friend give birth,it was awful,she shit on the birthing table,they cut her pussy and she was screaming in agony for hours, she didnt breast feed ,watching her in crying in such pain is not something i want to repeat ,her tits were as hard as concrete ,no not for me !!
Yeah sounds awful. I think if I were a female I'd just lay an egg or something
How'd you know her tits were hard? Lol x
she wanted a doctor she said her tits shouldnt be like that,and asked what i thought lol i phoned her mum she sorted it"
I think she was coming onto you lol x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx"
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx"
I don't know I guess that's just previous generations and what they did got married had kids worked etc.
It will take a while before its not the norm x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx
I don't know I guess that's just previous generations and what they did got married had kids worked etc.
It will take a while before its not the norm x"
I heard that our grandparents were brainwashed into it because of WW2.
Maybe it's that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx
I don't know I guess that's just previous generations and what they did got married had kids worked etc.
It will take a while before its not the norm x
I heard that our grandparents were brainwashed into it because of WW2.
Maybe it's that?"
Haha I think it's been the way a lot longer than that. I don't think brainwashing was ever needed x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all personal choice and I don't think anyone has the right to tell someone they are selfish or wrong for not wanting children.
I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them. |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them."
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
I'm childless but not by choice. Trying to have children and the multiple miscarriages is what eventually lead the the demise of my first marriage. This time around the urge to keep trying is strong but the fear of growing apart from my husband is stronger. The liklihood of us ever having a child is tiny and we're not expecting to be blessed. |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx
I don't know I guess that's just previous generations and what they did got married had kids worked etc.
It will take a while before its not the norm x
I heard that our grandparents were brainwashed into it because of WW2.
Maybe it's that?
Haha I think it's been the way a lot longer than that. I don't think brainwashing was ever needed x"
Yeah but before that disease kept wiping us out lol |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx"
Adoption is in fact really really difficult. Unlike popular opinion, you cannot just decide to adopt and be given a child, only a tiny minority of applications are accepted. My ex husband and I were rejected when we applied five years ago, all because I had a bad credit card debt when I was 19! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx"
See I disagree with that. You can have kids you have choices. Use protection, adoption etc.
You can't have kids there's little you can do its hardly the same... |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Never maternal and due to medical grounds had a hysterectomy aged 28
dont think I have missed out on anything and love my freedom "
Yeah I think it's the freedom im afraid to lose, I hear you have to feed & water them everyday  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never wanted children. My eldest was a happy accident and I was blessed, my youngest was planned and she is so lucky to be here.
I understand people who don't want children but I think people seem to expect everyone to want them xx
Yeah, why do think we have to have them? Xx
I don't know I guess that's just previous generations and what they did got married had kids worked etc.
It will take a while before its not the norm x
I heard that our grandparents were brainwashed into it because of WW2.
Maybe it's that?
Haha I think it's been the way a lot longer than that. I don't think brainwashing was ever needed x
Yeah but before that disease kept wiping us out lol"
Really?? Hmmm I don't think so its just the way things were |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx
Adoption is in fact really really difficult. Unlike popular opinion, you cannot just decide to adopt and be given a child, only a tiny minority of applications are accepted. My ex husband and I were rejected when we applied five years ago, all because I had a bad credit card debt when I was 19!"
It wasn't that, my sister in law adopted two boys while having massive credit debt and ccj's.
In fact she only started fostering to get out of debt, but ended up falling for them and keeping them x |
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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx
See I disagree with that. You can have kids you have choices. Use protection, adoption etc.
You can't have kids there's little you can do its hardly the same..."
I meant if you get pregnant and won't have an abortion and therefore for lack of a better work stuck with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx
See I disagree with that. You can have kids you have choices. Use protection, adoption etc.
You can't have kids there's little you can do its hardly the same...
I meant if you get pregnant and won't have an abortion and therefore for lack of a better work stuck with it"
Adoption |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx
Adoption is in fact really really difficult. Unlike popular opinion, you cannot just decide to adopt and be given a child, only a tiny minority of applications are accepted. My ex husband and I were rejected when we applied five years ago, all because I had a bad credit card debt when I was 19!
It wasn't that, my sister in law adopted two boys while having massive credit debt and ccj's.
In fact she only started fostering to get out of debt, but ended up falling for them and keeping them x"
I really don't think that the head of Nottingham City Council children's services is in a position to tell lies when asked why they are rejecting applications as the decision can be challenged in court! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In fact she only started fostering to get out of debt, but ended up falling for them and keeping them x"
I know people foster for a variety of different reasons, money not being one of them though....  |
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"I would have loved to have been a father. Sadly, I know this won't happen now and it's not something I have fully come to terms with.
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How do you know? I know a lot of men who had kids later on in life.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have loved to have been a father. Sadly, I know this won't happen now and it's not something I have fully come to terms with.
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You and me both buddy. My big regret in life is not being a Daddy, huge void in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel most sorry for those who want children but are unable to have them.
I think the other way around. At least they could adopt. What if you had a child by accident and spent your days hating it? Xx
Adoption is in fact really really difficult. Unlike popular opinion, you cannot just decide to adopt and be given a child, only a tiny minority of applications are accepted. My ex husband and I were rejected when we applied five years ago, all because I had a bad credit card debt when I was 19!
It wasn't that, my sister in law adopted two boys while having massive credit debt and ccj's.
In fact she only started fostering to get out of debt, but ended up falling for them and keeping them x"
That's nice of her!!!! Not |
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In fact she only started fostering to get out of debt, but ended up falling for them and keeping them x
I know people foster for a variety of different reasons, money not being one of them though.... "
Yet I hear an advert on the radio which states how it's a great career choice and tempts people in by telling them how much they could get for each child they foster. I hate that advert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're a childless couple by choice.
Are you? If so, why? Xx"
I don't like children and have no interest in being pregnant, so I was surgically steralised. |
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