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People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!  |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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(((HUGS)))) there behind you |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
(((HUGS)))) there behind you "
Well in a sense you're right, they were under the bed in the spare room. No excuse for not going out in the rain now |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
(((HUGS)))) there behind you
Well in a sense you're right, they were under the bed in the spare room. No excuse for not going out in the rain now "
Have you lost your brolly? I think you might have  |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
(((HUGS)))) there behind you
Well in a sense you're right, they were under the bed in the spare room. No excuse for not going out in the rain now
Have you lost your brolly? I think you might have "
Do you know I think I might have too |
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free! "
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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i agree with you on this  |
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
Yes, if I've learnt nothing else in life it's that but people can also be breathtakingly kind and its so much easier.
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I completely agree.
-Courtney |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
i agree with you on this "
The good news is I found my boots |
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I've just had someone be rude to me!
One of those funny your pc is running slow calls.
Asked for the owner of the pc (mum) I said sorry not here working till 22.00 tonight.
To which the man said 'now come on don't tell lies'
I replied erm I'm not she won't be home till 22.00.
Next 'well I think ur her and and your fucking stupid!' Then it put the phone down on me.
Guess he isn't having a good day at work made me
Laugh mind.
But I agree some on here too are quite nasty and rude if they don't agree with your opinion. Why are they so intolerant? Differing opinions are what makes the world go around.
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
Yes, if I've learnt nothing else in life it's that but people can also be breathtakingly kind and its so much easier.
I completely agree.
-Courtney"
This is nice, people agreeing with me . |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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It's peeing it down here, I'd need waders! Sit down, drink tea, feel better. Sorted. |
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"I've just had someone be rude to me!
One of those funny your pc is running slow calls.
Asked for the owner of the pc (mum) I said sorry not here working till 22.00 tonight.
To which the man said 'now come on don't tell lies'
I replied erm I'm not she won't be home till 22.00.
Next 'well I think ur her and and your fucking stupid!' Then it put the phone down on me.
Guess he isn't having a good day at work made me
Laugh mind.
But I agree some on here too are quite nasty and rude if they don't agree with your opinion. Why are they so intolerant? Differing opinions are what makes the world go around.
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Oh dear  I had a similar conversation with one of those people who had just scammed my mum. I'm afraid I was quite nasty to him. |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
It's peeing it down here, I'd need waders! Sit down, drink tea, feel better. Sorted."
I have taken your advice and included a banana muffin as a precaution |
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People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
The measure of a person is how well they overcome this instinct. Lashing out and hating is easy. Being gentle and kind takes effort.
Stick with the people who have mastered this skill, not those too base to even attempt it.
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"I've just had someone be rude to me!
One of those funny your pc is running slow calls.
Asked for the owner of the pc (mum) I said sorry not here working till 22.00 tonight.
To which the man said 'now come on don't tell lies'
I replied erm I'm not she won't be home till 22.00.
Next 'well I think ur her and and your fucking stupid!' Then it put the phone down on me.
Guess he isn't having a good day at work made me
Laugh mind.
But I agree some on here too are quite nasty and rude if they don't agree with your opinion. Why are they so intolerant? Differing opinions are what makes the world go around.
Oh dear I had a similar conversation with one of those people who had just scammed my mum. I'm afraid I was quite nasty to him."
Oh so it's your fault he was nasty to me!!! ha ha ha |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
The measure of a person is how well they overcome this instinct. Lashing out and hating is easy. Being gentle and kind takes effort.
Stick with the people who have mastered this skill, not those too base to even attempt it.
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Yes I generally do . I'm a cynical old bag and can pretty much suss people out and realise where their behaviour comes from but just occasionally (like when I lose my boots) it gets only nerves.
I agree with what you say |
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free! "
A puppy visit?? That's a new one on me! |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
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I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney |
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"I've just had someone be rude to me!
One of those funny your pc is running slow calls.
Asked for the owner of the pc (mum) I said sorry not here working till 22.00 tonight.
To which the man said 'now come on don't tell lies'
I replied erm I'm not she won't be home till 22.00.
Next 'well I think ur her and and your fucking stupid!' Then it put the phone down on me.
Guess he isn't having a good day at work made me
Laugh mind.
But I agree some on here too are quite nasty and rude if they don't agree with your opinion. Why are they so intolerant? Differing opinions are what makes the world go around.
Oh dear I had a similar conversation with one of those people who had just scammed my mum. I'm afraid I was quite nasty to him.
Oh so it's your fault he was nasty to me!!! ha ha ha "
Lol yes . Although he is one person I hope I upset. |
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!
A puppy visit?? That's a new one on me! "
Yup... one of the secretaries got a puppy so she brought him in to see us! Adorable! 
Puppy therapy... told her to come back with him on Monday. |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney"
I really do surround myself with them. Deliberately! It must seem a very dismal outlook. I love people. But I'm a realist.
And I think the majority overcome the basic shittiness of human nature. But people have been my stock in trade for so long that I see us for what we are: animals who are still evolving. It's just sometimes easier to identify which are evolving at a slower rate than the others!
xxxxx |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney"
It's not necessary now, but it's a throwback of when it was, like so many human behaviours.
(God, I'm so bloody boring! No wonder I don't fit in here!)
Xxxxx |
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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good reason to go get a new pair me thinks or a few pairs |
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The world would be an awesome place if everyone got on and was civil to each other - and it was genuine.
It would also be better if I had chiselled good looks, was hung like a horse and was rich.
Sadly none of the above is ever going to happen so we just have to adapt to the reality of life and choose to ignore or disregard the naysayers or doom merchants and ensure we don't let them get us down! Water off a ducks back people! |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney
I really do surround myself with them. Deliberately! It must seem a very dismal outlook. I love people. But I'm a realist.
And I think the majority overcome the basic shittiness of human nature. But people have been my stock in trade for so long that I see us for what we are: animals who are still evolving. It's just sometimes easier to identify which are evolving at a slower rate than the others!
xxxxx"
Exactly how I see it |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney
I really do surround myself with them. Deliberately! It must seem a very dismal outlook. I love people. But I'm a realist.
And I think the majority overcome the basic shittiness of human nature. But people have been my stock in trade for so long that I see us for what we are: animals who are still evolving. It's just sometimes easier to identify which are evolving at a slower rate than the others!
xxxxx"
There have been numerous studies showing that altruism and kindness are likewise inherent aspects of the human character. So to pick out horribleness is to see what you want to see, really. I think people can be, and often are, horrible. But it is not definitively human.
-Courtney
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Speaking as a sarcastic person...
I'm the same in person, jokey put downs of anybody in the discussion, winding up people who say stupid things etc.
But it truly is all just a bit of fun. I don't take any of it remotely seriously - I just treat the forum as a conversation around a table in a pub with some friends and a lot of acquaintances.
If it comes across as nasty, blame the lack of variety of emojis! |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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True people in here could be nicer to each other but if you are talking real hatred and nastiness then consider those being hacked to death by fundamentalist or those being abused or those being murdered for there beliefs... - behaviour on here could improve but at the end of the day most of it can be tolerated or ignored. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!
A puppy visit?? That's a new one on me!
Yup... one of the secretaries got a puppy so she brought him in to see us! Adorable!
Puppy therapy... told her to come back with him on Monday. "
I got lost at "secretary" and "puppies"  |
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I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable  I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel. |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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Thursday is rant day.
Boots is on the high street, just past Jessups, but before WH Smiths..... |
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
Not all people.
But "some" people do keep other people locked up in the attic."
I don't know what you mean 
-Courtney |
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
The measure of a person is how well they overcome this instinct. Lashing out and hating is easy. Being gentle and kind takes effort.
Stick with the people who have mastered this skill, not those too base to even attempt it.
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I wish I'd written this.
Kudos to Cleo for this undeniable truth. |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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take some time off then and you both should relax then and come back when you feel like it...
people are going to act like toss pots so be it just the way it is....just be a nob back to em and then move on |
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
Not all people.
But "some" people do keep other people locked up in the attic.
I don't know what you mean
-Courtney"
Ahemcough. Of course you don't. |
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
I'm not
That's what they all say 
-Courtney"
Find someone who disagrees
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"People are horrible creatures. All of them.
To be horrible is to be human. It's a vestigial trait in our natures to tear down other people so that we can be in ascendence over them.
I think I would be sad all the time if I believed this. People are horrible at times, it is true. But to believe that being horrible is a necessary human characteristic....I don't think I would get out of bed in the mornings.
Cleo, you need to surround yourself with kinder people.
-Courtney
I really do surround myself with them. Deliberately! It must seem a very dismal outlook. I love people. But I'm a realist.
And I think the majority overcome the basic shittiness of human nature. But people have been my stock in trade for so long that I see us for what we are: animals who are still evolving. It's just sometimes easier to identify which are evolving at a slower rate than the others!
xxxxx
There have been numerous studies showing that altruism and kindness are likewise inherent aspects of the human character. So to pick out horribleness is to see what you want to see, really. I think people can be, and often are, horrible. But it is not definitively human.
-Courtney
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I'm sure altruism and kindness are considered inherent, now. Thank God!
I assure you I don't deliberately want to see horribleness in mankind!
I merely meant that the ugly, vestigial traits which kept us alive as primitive people, are still apparent in the most base. Aggression, jealousy, possessiveness, greed, ruthlessness, boastful cockiness, etc, all worked in our favour to keep us alive, and continue the species by guaranteeing us copulation, food and shelter.
I'd love to think that these things had all been eradicated. But I'm yet to be convinced, sadly. |
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!
A puppy visit?? That's a new one on me!
Yup... one of the secretaries got a puppy so she brought him in to see us! Adorable!
Puppy therapy... told her to come back with him on Monday.
I got lost at "secretary" and "puppies" "
There are worse places to get lost!  |
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A lot on here probably do it without realising - I say that because the same faces pop up in threads all innocent saying they don't
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In my other news - I'm off for a weekend away. Good times  |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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Seems to be a little click on FaB
Say something they do not agree with and.....your stalked with put downs.
Stand up to bullys people.. |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
good reason to go get a new pair me thinks or a few pairs "
Yes I think you're right |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
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I wonder how long it will take for you to notice the hypocrisy
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"Speaking as a sarcastic person...
I'm the same in person, jokey put downs of anybody in the discussion, winding up people who say stupid things etc.
But it truly is all just a bit of fun. I don't take any of it remotely seriously - I just treat the forum as a conversation around a table in a pub with some friends and a lot of acquaintances.
If it comes across as nasty, blame the lack of variety of emojis!"
I'm really talking about the people who use their sarcasm on the weak, naive and vulnerable. I enjoy a sarcastic banter with somebody able to hold their own and challenge me but to employ sarcasm to put a person down who doesnt deserve it is unkind.I've never noticed you do that. |
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"True people in here could be nicer to each other but if you are talking real hatred and nastiness then consider those being hacked to death by fundamentalist or those being abused or those being murdered for there beliefs... - behaviour on here could improve but at the end of the day most of it can be tolerated or ignored."
Well yes, it's certainly a question of degree but that's like saying I should tolerate being punched on the nose because someone, somewhere is being beaten up. |
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel. "
Completely agree with you there.
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel. "
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
Thursday is rant day.
Boots is on the high street, just past Jessups, but before WH Smiths....."
Sorry and thank you for your help |
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I simply can't believe that ! You really only have one pair of boots ? You're not one of those men pretending to be a woman are you Nicecouple ?
I can be incredibly sarcastic and I was once told that it's " my anger escaping sideways".
PS Your hair still looks great.. |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
take some time off then and you both should relax then and come back when you feel like it...
people are going to act like toss pots so be it just the way it is....just be a nob back to em and then move on "
Thank you.
I'm not upset by it and nobody has been horrible to me. I just don't like to see it done to other people. However if somebody is being a total fool I am happy to cut them down to size |
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"A lot on here probably do it without realising - I say that because the same faces pop up in threads all innocent saying they don't
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In my other news - I'm off for a weekend away. Good times "
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
I wonder how long it will take for you to notice the hypocrisy
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!
That's nice . One of my azaleas has a solitary flower on it, that's a sign of hope if ever I saw one "
Lucky you! I've given up on buying plants. They hate me! They take one look at me and commit suicide! Sometimes before I even get them home!! |
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"I simply can't believe that ! You really only have one pair of boots ? You're not one of those men pretending to be a woman are you Nicecouple ?
I can be incredibly sarcastic and I was once told that it's " my anger escaping sideways".
PS Your hair still looks great.."
Thanks and yes, I am a man pretending to be a woman |
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
Blimey View! Do I come across as sneeringly sarcastic "
Not at all, but these threads bring out all the people saying they see it in others. Now having been a few years, I see behavioural change all the time. Starting with mine, I have been too quick to pounce on people at times, abrupt to the point of rudeness, snipey etc.
Sometimes people will take exception, because they enjoy that position.
I have received messages from people saying that I am nicer than they thought, they were warned off me by others PM'ing them...... I just laughed. If people are prepared to not question the motive of someone writing in PM about others.
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"Agreed.
People seem way too quick to judge or make assumptions. It doesn't make for pleasant reading a lot of the time.
I'm not going out, we've just had a puppy visit in the office so I'm stress free!
That's nice . One of my azaleas has a solitary flower on it, that's a sign of hope if ever I saw one
Lucky you! I've given up on buying plants. They hate me! They take one look at me and commit suicide! Sometimes before I even get them home!! "
oh dear. This one was inherited from my aunt so it's doing well. |
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
Blimey View! Do I come across as sneeringly sarcastic
Not at all, but these threads bring out all the people saying they see it in others. Now having been a few years, I see behavioural change all the time. Starting with mine, I have been too quick to pounce on people at times, abrupt to the point of rudeness, snipey etc.
Sometimes people will take exception, because they enjoy that position.
I have received messages from people saying that I am nicer than they thought, they were warned off me by others PM'ing them...... I just laughed. If people are prepared to not question the motive of someone writing in PM about others.
People change when they become popular and not everyone remembers what it was like to be new..."
Yes I agree with you there. I know my posting style is very different now to when I first started posting. |
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel.
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning "
I must have missed this one fortunately! I'm all for debate - and yesterday I got verbose about the 'skinny bashing' because I'd had enough - but a glass of wine and a cuddle with the kids helped! Downright nastiness is just awful! My kids are at the age where both they and their peers can be SO unkind to each other and I loathe it!!
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel.
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning
I must have missed this one fortunately! I'm all for debate - and yesterday I got verbose about the 'skinny bashing' because I'd had enough - but a glass of wine and a cuddle with the kids helped! Downright nastiness is just awful! My kids are at the age where both they and their peers can be SO unkind to each other and I loathe it!!
I keep trying to cuddle the world but it won't let me!!! "
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel.
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning
I must have missed this one fortunately! I'm all for debate - and yesterday I got verbose about the 'skinny bashing' because I'd had enough - but a glass of wine and a cuddle with the kids helped! Downright nastiness is just awful! My kids are at the age where both they and their peers can be SO unkind to each other and I loathe it!!
I keep trying to cuddle the world but it won't let me!!!
I thought your post on that thread was excellent"
Thanks - but I wasn't sure whether I'd made it clear that I wasn't dissing larger ladies - but was just totally fed up that slimmer ladies are always fair game for insult! I find size is a very sensitive issue both here and in the real world - and I don't with to jump on bandwagons and be needlessly offensive! |
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I reckon , and this is just a thought ....
That if a few more people got out there and fulfilled a few more of their deepest desires , the forums would be a much less stressed place .
I might be wrong though , but give it a try |
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"I reckon , and this is just a thought ....
That if a few more people got out there and fulfilled a few more of their deepest desires , the forums would be a much less stressed place .
I might be wrong though , but give it a try "
Oh I do!! Not as often as you perhaps my lovelies - but I do ok!! |
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That if a few more people got out there and fulfilled a few more of their deepest desires , the forums would be a much less stressed place .
I might be wrong though , but give it a try
Oh I do!! Not as often as you perhaps my lovelies - but I do ok!! "
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
Blimey View! Do I come across as sneeringly sarcastic
Not at all, but these threads bring out all the people saying they see it in others. Now having been a few years, I see behavioural change all the time. Starting with mine, I have been too quick to pounce on people at times, abrupt to the point of rudeness, snipey etc.
Sometimes people will take exception, because they enjoy that position.
I have received messages from people saying that I am nicer than they thought, they were warned off me by others PM'ing them...... I just laughed. If people are prepared to not question the motive of someone writing in PM about others.
People change when they become popular and not everyone remembers what it was like to be new..."
Ok.
I hold my hands up.
Everyone insists that they are good, nice people. I don't doubt they are. But I do not feel this way.
I am perfectly aware that I am the most shallow, superficial, selfish, grouchy, lazy, impatient, temperamental, jealous, possessive, insecure and weak person I know.
I've had 36 years to get used to it!
When I talk about seeing unpleasant traits in others, it doesn't mean I do not recognise them in myself.
My saving grace is that I'm VERY quick to sincerely apologise when I'm a total arsehole.
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
Blimey View! Do I come across as sneeringly sarcastic
Not at all, but these threads bring out all the people saying they see it in others. Now having been a few years, I see behavioural change all the time. Starting with mine, I have been too quick to pounce on people at times, abrupt to the point of rudeness, snipey etc.
Sometimes people will take exception, because they enjoy that position.
I have received messages from people saying that I am nicer than they thought, they were warned off me by others PM'ing them...... I just laughed. If people are prepared to not question the motive of someone writing in PM about others.
People change when they become popular and not everyone remembers what it was like to be new...
Ok.
I hold my hands up.
Everyone insists that they are good, nice people. I don't doubt they are. But I do not feel this way.
I am perfectly aware that I am the most shallow, superficial, selfish, grouchy, lazy, impatient, temperamental, jealous, possessive, insecure and weak person I know.
I've had 36 years to get used to it!
When I talk about seeing unpleasant traits in others, it doesn't mean I do not recognise them in myself.
My saving grace is that I'm VERY quick to sincerely apologise when I'm a total arsehole.
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Thank you.
I'm not upset by it and nobody has been horrible to me. I just don't like to see it done to other people. However if somebody is being a total fool I am happy to cut them down to size "
it's good that you are not upset then OP, however it's just life people are going to be treating others like shite all the time...
I've had it done a few times off here but I just turned around and gave em shit back till they pissed off as I may come across as polite but if some one rubs me the wrong way be it man/woman etc etc then it's a whole different story..
being thick skinned is the way to go really.. |
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Thank you.
I'm not upset by it and nobody has been horrible to me. I just don't like to see it done to other people. However if somebody is being a total fool I am happy to cut them down to size
it's good that you are not upset then OP, however it's just life people are going to be treating others like shite all the time...
I've had it done a few times off here but I just turned around and gave em shit back till they pissed off as I may come across as polite but if some one rubs me the wrong way be it man/woman etc etc then it's a whole different story..
being thick skinned is the way to go really.."
Being thick skinned means NOT reacting the way they want you to, ie - by not giving them credence and showing upset.
Of course, in physical life this can be tricky.
I've mastered it though, mostly |
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Being thick skinned means NOT reacting the way they want you to, ie - by not giving them credence and showing upset.
Of course, in physical life this can be tricky.
I've mastered it though, mostly "
I don't always react for the most part over the years I have tried not to be it here or in real life and for the most part it has worked...
sometimes I just cant be arsed being a nice or calm headed person when some one is slagging me off or trying to act funny thats when I become bit of a mean bastard I'll admit..
in real life I've taken a fair amount of shit and not always reacted for the most part which is hard but some times it gets harder.. |
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That if a few more people got out there and fulfilled a few more of their deepest desires , the forums would be a much less stressed place .
I might be wrong though , but give it a try
Oh I do!! Not as often as you perhaps my lovelies - but I do ok!!
But you are always lovely "
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
Thursday is rant day.
Boots is on the high street, just past Jessups, but before WH Smiths.....
Sorry and thank you for your help "
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel.
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning
I must have missed this one fortunately! I'm all for debate - and yesterday I got verbose about the 'skinny bashing' because I'd had enough - but a glass of wine and a cuddle with the kids helped! Downright nastiness is just awful! My kids are at the age where both they and their peers can be SO unkind to each other and I loathe it!!
I keep trying to cuddle the world but it won't let me!!!
I thought your post on that thread was excellent
Thanks - but I wasn't sure whether I'd made it clear that I wasn't dissing larger ladies - but was just totally fed up that slimmer ladies are always fair game for insult! I find size is a very sensitive issue both here and in the real world - and I don't with to jump on bandwagons and be needlessly offensive! "
You definitely weren't dissing larger ladies and I thought you were spot on in what you said. |
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"
Being thick skinned means NOT reacting the way they want you to, ie - by not giving them credence and showing upset.
Of course, in physical life this can be tricky.
I've mastered it though, mostly
I don't always react for the most part over the years I have tried not to be it here or in real life and for the most part it has worked...
sometimes I just cant be arsed being a nice or calm headed person when some one is slagging me off or trying to act funny thats when I become bit of a mean bastard I'll admit..
in real life I've taken a fair amount of shit and not always reacted for the most part which is hard but some times it gets harder.."
Fair play. It is good to let off steam sometimes.
Just best not to sweat the small stuff. |
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I think it's true to say that most wouldn't say it face to face and feel more protected when hiding behind the keyboard, and you're right, they're really are some nasty people on this site, hell bent on putting others down in anyway possible, hence why the threads are filled which so much sarcasm, followed by just to show its in jest but they actually do mean their remark |
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"I think it's true to say that most wouldn't say it face to face and feel more protected when hiding behind the keyboard, and you're right, they're really are some nasty people on this site, hell bent on putting others down in anyway possible, hence why the threads are filled which so much sarcasm, followed by just to show its in jest but they actually do mean their remark "
But you are opening threads putting other members down, single guys for their treatment of your loved one, people who have blocked you. The more threads opened slagging off others, gives the people you are condemning the avenues.
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As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
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I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop."
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way. |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
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Ah the forums, one day you feel accepted, the next you feel invisible.
It is what it is. |
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I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop."
Same here... Although I treat the forums like I do real life... Sit back, watch/listen, drop in an occasional bon mot, which may or may not get a response, either positive or negative (although in here they'll usually get passed over, or just kill off the thread )
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
And people are nice to people everywhere too "
True! I conceded this point to the OP earlier
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
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This! I've really tried hard not to forget. When I was new people were properly lovely to me and whilst I know that there would have been an element of trying to get in my knickers, I was made to feel very welcome by everyone.
I was/am a total gobshite though and racked up 1000 posts in a month. I played all the forum games, threw in some cheek and I loved forums from that moment on. I made an effort to get to know the forumites.
It's really better just to say nothing if you have nothing good to say. Look at me threads, how do I *insert shaving/meet/fuck/whatever question* have been around as long as we all have. It won't change. We can choose how to respond or not to respond. We can avoid any topic we like/dislike. There's absolutely no need to be a tosser even if you think a thread is wank. Leaving snide/nasty remarks is pretty lame and actually makes the person doing that look like a bellend.
It's not big or clever. The odd sarcastic remark can be quite funny but it pays to know when that's cool. Don't speak to people like they're something you stepped in when you don't know them and if you spend a tiny moment considering how your post will be read, it really does make a difference. I'm all for free speech but there's really no need to rude to total strangers. Get to know them, their humour, their posting style and then you'll know who you can be sarcastic to.
Be kind, be tolerant and be yourself. Don't try to fit in, just be you and remember to have some manners. It really isn't rocket science. If you wouldn't say it face to face, don't type it.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
This! I've really tried hard not to forget. When I was new people were properly lovely to me and whilst I know that there would have been an element of trying to get in my knickers, I was made to feel very welcome by everyone.
I was/am a total gobshite though and racked up 1000 posts in a month. I played all the forum games, threw in some cheek and I loved forums from that moment on. I made an effort to get to know the forumites.
It's really better just to say nothing if you have nothing good to say. Look at me threads, how do I *insert shaving/meet/fuck/whatever question* have been around as long as we all have. It won't change. We can choose how to respond or not to respond. We can avoid any topic we like/dislike. There's absolutely no need to be a tosser even if you think a thread is wank. Leaving snide/nasty remarks is pretty lame and actually makes the person doing that look like a bellend.
It's not big or clever. The odd sarcastic remark can be quite funny but it pays to know when that's cool. Don't speak to people like they're something you stepped in when you don't know them and if you spend a tiny moment considering how your post will be read, it really does make a difference. I'm all for free speech but there's really no need to rude to total strangers. Get to know them, their humour, their posting style and then you'll know who you can be sarcastic to.
Be kind, be tolerant and be yourself. Don't try to fit in, just be you and remember to have some manners. It really isn't rocket science. If you wouldn't say it face to face, don't type it.
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I ONLY say things on here I wouldn't say to people's faces. I just walk around yelling "fuck you" at everyone in my everyday life.
I wouldn't dream of doing that here
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
and people can be very very nice"
I have conceded this at least twice now.
Doesn't change that people can be horrible, too. They often come hand-in-hand.
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"People are horrible to people everywhere...
-Courtney
and people can be very very nice
I have conceded this at least twice now.
Doesn't change that people can be horrible, too. They often come hand-in-hand.
-Courtney"
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There's enough horrible shit going on in the world without reading it in here. This is an escape, somewhere to have a giggle when you've nothing better to do. I don't read the papers for a reason! |
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just remember it is just the internet,,take it with a pinch of salt,most folk on hear aint that bad,yea sure folk get their wires crossed n there are some nasty types on here,,but hey ho,,laugh at them |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop."
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"ffs I cunt spell,,i feel like being nasteeee to myself
Dumbass! "
Knowing who you can say ^^^ this shit to and know that they'll take it in the spirit it was intended.
We've never met but I know you know me well enough from the forums to get my banter. 
Calling a total stranger a dumbass carries a risk of sounding like a twat or a grammar twat. However, knowing who you're chatting to makes a difference. Instead of a cutting remark, try being helpful. It's quite refreshing being nice to people. |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
Same."
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"ffs I cunt spell,,i feel like being nasteeee to myself
Dumbass!
Knowing who you can say ^^^ this shit to and know that they'll take it in the spirit it was intended.
We've never met but I know you know me well enough from the forums to get my banter.
Calling a total stranger a dumbass carries a risk of sounding like a twat or a grammar twat. However, knowing who you're chatting to makes a difference. Instead of a cutting remark, try being helpful. It's quite refreshing being nice to people. "
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
Same."
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"ffs I cunt spell,,i feel like being nasteeee to myself
Dumbass!
Knowing who you can say ^^^ this shit to and know that they'll take it in the spirit it was intended.
We've never met but I know you know me well enough from the forums to get my banter.
Calling a total stranger a dumbass carries a risk of sounding like a twat or a grammar twat. However, knowing who you're chatting to makes a difference. Instead of a cutting remark, try being helpful. It's quite refreshing being nice to people. "
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
I wonder how long it will take for you to notice the hypocrisy
Oh?"
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way."
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
Ah the forums, one day you feel accepted, the next you feel invisible.
It is what it is."
This. I've learnt that it's not a personal sleight though, it's merely the way forums are.
I had no frame of reference when I jumped into Fab forums, I'd never posted on any forum before.
Fab took my virginity. |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
Same.
I'll say the same to you then Scarlet, you're neither stupid nor a leper ."
Got to agree.
Some of Scarlets posts hit the nail on the head.
She manages to say in a few words what takes me three paragraphs to read.
Her humour is spot on, perfect timing and razor sharp.
There are lots of posters on this thread, who shared my perspective, yet despite their feelings about how they're perceived, I really reading their contributions.
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"only when the level of self awareness is acute enough to recognise their own failings can they deal with any issue, meantime people will point the finger at others....
Blimey View! Do I come across as sneeringly sarcastic
Not at all, but these threads bring out all the people saying they see it in others. Now having been a few years, I see behavioural change all the time. Starting with mine, I have been too quick to pounce on people at times, abrupt to the point of rudeness, snipey etc.
Sometimes people will take exception, because they enjoy that position.
I have received messages from people saying that I am nicer than they thought, they were warned off me by others PM'ing them...... I just laughed. If people are prepared to not question the motive of someone writing in PM about others.
People change when they become popular and not everyone remembers what it was like to be new...
Ok.
I hold my hands up.
Everyone insists that they are good, nice people. I don't doubt they are. But I do not feel this way.
I am perfectly aware that I am the most shallow, superficial, selfish, grouchy, lazy, impatient, temperamental, jealous, possessive, insecure and weak person I know.
I've had 36 years to get used to it!
When I talk about seeing unpleasant traits in others, it doesn't mean I do not recognise them in myself.
My saving grace is that I'm VERY quick to sincerely apologise when I'm a total arsehole.
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That's good. Just don't apologise when you really don't need to.
Remember, there are lots of people wh go out of their way to find something to take umbrage over.
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I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
Same here... Although I treat the forums like I do real life... Sit back, watch/listen, drop in an occasional bon mot, which may or may not get a response, either positive or negative (although in here they'll usually get passed over, or just kill off the thread )
I'm not fussed if I'm ignored "
Thumbs up to bon mot. A most underused descriptor. |
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"I think most people are basically alright, but things like the anonymity of the internet and pack mentality can bring out the worst in them. I know I've been guilty of saying things I wouldn't say to someone's face, if I could see their reaction in front of me.
I read a thread earlier that was so filled with snideyness it made me feel uncomfortable I'm all for taking the piss but when it seems like the person on the other end could be a bit vulnerable or doesn't quite get it, then it just tips over into cruel.
I wonder if it was the same thread I read. You've understood meaning "
I think it probably was. Really didn't make for nice reading. |
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I think forums would suffer badly without the provocatively confrontational posters,,,,,,
I find congeniality threads utterly mundane,,, ... |
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"I think forums would suffer badly without the provocatively confrontational posters,,,,,,
I find congeniality threads utterly mundane,,, ... "
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way.
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
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Very true!
We're here to make what we feel is a pertinent remark - nothing else!
Those who rely on the forums/site to constantly feed their self esteem are to be pitied I think - because no amount of fabs, compliments or offers of sex can create confidence that isn't there - and no amount of photo-shopping can replace diet and exercise to help you achieve the body type you want!
I'm not trying to sound harsh and I'm certainly not trying to insult anyone - but it worries me that some people seem to let the need to be liked and desired take over their lives! |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way.
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
Very true!
We're here to make what we feel is a pertinent remark - nothing else!
Those who rely on the forums/site to constantly feed their self esteem are to be pitied I think - because no amount of fabs, compliments or offers of sex can create confidence that isn't there - and no amount of photo-shopping can replace diet and exercise to help you achieve the body type you want!
I'm not trying to sound harsh and I'm certainly not trying to insult anyone - but it worries me that some people seem to let the need to be liked and desired take over their lives! "
The need to be liked and desired isn't confined to the forums. I see it in all walks of life.
We'd all like to be liked wouldn't we? For some there's a flaw, for want of a better word, in their make up.
Poor self esteem and self image, unresolved emotions. Paying too much attention to the thoughts and opinions of others to extremes.
Not only listening to other people's opinions, but actually believing them.
Just because one person says your ugly or stupid or worthless doesn't make you ugly stupid or worthless.
But it could if you choose to believe it.
We all have it within us to help make the world a better place.
We simply need to understand that. And want it.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way.
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
Very true!
We're here to make what we feel is a pertinent remark - nothing else!
Those who rely on the forums/site to constantly feed their self esteem are to be pitied I think - because no amount of fabs, compliments or offers of sex can create confidence that isn't there - and no amount of photo-shopping can replace diet and exercise to help you achieve the body type you want!
I'm not trying to sound harsh and I'm certainly not trying to insult anyone - but it worries me that some people seem to let the need to be liked and desired take over their lives!
The need to be liked and desired isn't confined to the forums. I see it in all walks of life.
We'd all like to be liked wouldn't we? For some there's a flaw, for want of a better word, in their make up.
Poor self esteem and self image, unresolved emotions. Paying too much attention to the thoughts and opinions of others to extremes.
Not only listening to other people's opinions, but actually believing them.
Just because one person says your ugly or stupid or worthless doesn't make you ugly stupid or worthless.
But it could if you choose to believe it.
We all have it within us to help make the world a better place.
We simply need to understand that. And want it.
Here endeth the sermon."
Amen to that brother Markoh!! Xx |
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way.
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
Very true!
We're here to make what we feel is a pertinent remark - nothing else!
Those who rely on the forums/site to constantly feed their self esteem are to be pitied I think - because no amount of fabs, compliments or offers of sex can create confidence that isn't there - and no amount of photo-shopping can replace diet and exercise to help you achieve the body type you want!
I'm not trying to sound harsh and I'm certainly not trying to insult anyone - but it worries me that some people seem to let the need to be liked and desired take over their lives! "
Maybe for some people though this is where they get their validation from others, their chance to be & feel popular, sexy, funny, intelligent etc etc that they don't get in reality & if they're happy with that then so be it.
I find for me , it generally has had the opposite effect over time.
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"As I've said before the written word can be taken so many different ways. What you think is funny / banter / taking the piss can be seen by the recipient as downright nasty & mean.
Okay, to a certain degree I feel if you participate in a forum you have to be able to stand up for yourself & not take offence easily.
I agree with View though when he said that people forget what its like to be new when they become 'popular'.
I've never forgotten what it was like when I first ventured into the forums.
And I certainly don't feel "popular" now, frequently the opposite actually.
I'm thick skinned, I've felt like a leper at times. I'm just too stupid to stop.
You're not stupid or a leper and I'm sorry you feel that way.
No need to feel sorry. I'm genuinly ok, my comment wasn't meant to be negative.
I'm not looking to be one of the "popular" kids, I simply enjoy posting and the banter.
I don't think you have to be in the cool gang, or to be adored and feted by all to join in the threads, comment, argue, empathise, support, laugh or sympathise.
Simply........use fingers to type.
Very true!
We're here to make what we feel is a pertinent remark - nothing else!
Those who rely on the forums/site to constantly feed their self esteem are to be pitied I think - because no amount of fabs, compliments or offers of sex can create confidence that isn't there - and no amount of photo-shopping can replace diet and exercise to help you achieve the body type you want!
I'm not trying to sound harsh and I'm certainly not trying to insult anyone - but it worries me that some people seem to let the need to be liked and desired take over their lives!
Maybe for some people though this is where they get their validation from others, their chance to be & feel popular, sexy, funny, intelligent etc etc that they don't get in reality & if they're happy with that then so be it.
I find for me , it generally has had the opposite effect over time.
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I'd agree! It starts off wonderful - but eventually you realise how fickle it really is - and it's the friendships on here that become most important! Xx |
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It's no secret with the invention of social media people have the guts to do things 100 miles behind a keyboard that they wouldn't have the spine to do face to face
just avoid them
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
I banter a great deal and rarely put people down intentionally. Perhaps some other posters are like that but it's taken wrong?"
Possibly!
I've just had coffee and a 90% sugar brownie biscuity thing from Costa - so I love everyone and my patience is infinite! It should last about an hour! |
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"People are bloomin horrible to others on here with a mixture of sneery sarcasm and snidey put downs. I'd hate to be on the inside of their faces.
In other news I can't go for a walk yet because I seem to have mislaid my boots hence the fed up post.
I banter a great deal and rarely put people down intentionally. Perhaps some other posters are like that but it's taken wrong?"
Yes that's a possibility. |
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