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over a year ago
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I think safety perhaps goes beyond just what might happen at the first meet. Something to consider, for example, is not leaving the meeting and driving away first - means you can be followed home, for example. No point in arranging a meeting in a public place, to later inadvertently reveal your home address. |
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Meet in a familiar place.
Make sure your route to your car/bus/train is busy and well lit.
The old txt or call me at x time to a friend.
Chat a bit with them before meeting them.
Don't flirt or be suggestive if it's just a meet and greet.
Say clearly when your about to go, nice to meet you, I will chat more on msn/fab,phone etc.
The panic alarms things are a good idea. |
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By *ugby 123 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Meet in a familiar place.
Make sure your route to your car/bus/train is busy and well lit.
The old txt or call me at x time to a friend.
Chat a bit with them before meeting them.
Don't flirt or be suggestive if it's just a meet and greet.
Say clearly when your about to go, nice to meet you, I will chat more on msn/fab,phone etc.
The panic alarms things are a good idea."
Great advice |
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"Obviously as a couple we don't have the same safety issues as single people...but does anyone ever take a friend along and they sit in another part of the pub etc?"
Your kidding... had a massive row with the guy from a couple who on a first meet, just to get to know before going to a party took it on himself to touch up Mrs Notts in the pub.. or try to!!
He soon learned just cause he was a big roughly toughty soldier his arse gets kicked just the same as everyone elses..
No ones 100% safe eh... |
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Most are decent so wouldn't need one...
Doubtful they'd be armed in the pub now eh.. that is just silly pmsl!
Cocky and arrogant isn't a nice trait no matter what profession.... |
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By *ugby 123 OP Couple
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"Obviously as a couple we don't have the same safety issues as single people...but does anyone ever take a friend along and they sit in another part of the pub etc?
Your kidding... had a massive row with the guy from a couple who on a first meet, just to get to know before going to a party took it on himself to touch up Mrs Notts in the pub.. or try to!!
He soon learned just cause he was a big roughly toughty soldier his arse gets kicked just the same as everyone elses..
No ones 100% safe eh..."
Oh yeah I know no one is 100% safe, I just meant we don't go alone so are a bit less vulnerable.
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I think it must be a lot easier as a single male on first meets. Although i do wonder sometimes turning up on a strange doorstep whats behind it.
but i like to think im a good judge of caricature and have chatted on the phone a few times first. If i was a single woman i really would have to thing twice if not three times before meeting and usually in a public place. |
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"I think it must be a lot easier as a single male on first meets. Although i do wonder sometimes turning up on a strange doorstep whats behind it.
but i like to think im a good judge of caricature and have chatted on the phone a few times first. If i was a single woman i really would have to thing twice if not three times before meeting and usually in a public place."
Absolutely - I never meet for the first time at my house - always somewhere neutral - usually a hotel bar or lounge and 9 times out of 10 it's a lunchtime too. |
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Just for the record though... surely single guys need to be just as cautious.. Nothing stopping a 'nice' girl shouting the odds after a meet eh...
Works both ways surely!! |
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By *ugby 123 OP Couple
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"I think it must be a lot easier as a single male on first meets. Although i do wonder sometimes turning up on a strange doorstep whats behind it.
but i like to think im a good judge of caricature and have chatted on the phone a few times first. If i was a single woman i really would have to thing twice if not three times before meeting and usually in a public place."
On another site we use a single male went to a pre arranged meet with a woman, when he got there the woman was there, but so was 6 men who beat him up for being "depraved"
So no, single men need to be just as careful I think. |
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"I think it must be a lot easier as a single male on first meets. Although i do wonder sometimes turning up on a strange doorstep whats behind it.
but i like to think im a good judge of caricature and have chatted on the phone a few times first. If i was a single woman i really would have to thing twice if not three times before meeting and usually in a public place.
On another site we use a single male went to a pre arranged meet with a woman, when he got there the woman was there, but so was 6 men who beat him up for being "depraved"
So no, single men need to be just as careful I think."
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"Just for the record though... surely single guys need to be just as cautious.. Nothing stopping a 'nice' girl shouting the odds after a meet eh...
Works both ways surely!!"
Well there are occasions you get a little concerned. the words tie me up or hold me down on a first meet are definate no no's to hear.
Guess its not just no that means no but as a bloke you do have to take a little care. |
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"Blimey.......
I have heard tie me up being said on a first meet.. Making me think now!"
I would only consider it if messages had been sent and nothing too heavy on a first meet. Im happy to play and have a real good imagination and can be imaginative but trust is very important. |
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