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Would you turn someone down because they are TOO attractive?
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By *ig bad OP Man
over a year ago
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I have heard many people ask about appearance and swinging, but this is a new twist on an old question. Are there times when you won't swing with a person because they are too beautiful? I am really curious about this one. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I have heard many people ask about appearance and swinging, but this is a new twist on an old question. Are there times when you won't swing with a person because they are too beautiful? I am really curious about this one."
I think it is a confidence thing, as in "why would they want to want to play with me?" but then others see something in you that you don't see in yourself...
I am lucky to have met some stunning people who haven't seen that in themselves.....
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"No... I don't think I'd turn someone down but I'm not sure I'd approach them first. "
Maybe see if they posted in the forums, get to know their personality a wee bit?
That way you could structure an approach plan and not come across as some desperate git who'll do anything for a shag.
(Though personally, i've never seen it work in practice) |
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"Yes  confidence or not, if we don't feel we're suited, then it's a no deal.
I mentioned in an earlier thread, much prefer the plain Jane look 
This site will be right up your street then."
Which may explain why we're members  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never turned down a beautiful woman even if she's been the bitch from hell. When she's bucking underneath me she can swear and curse as much as she likes!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have heard many people ask about appearance and swinging, but this is a new twist on an old question. Are there times when you won't swing with a person because they are too beautiful? I am really curious about this one."
I'd just put a bag over their head and shag them as usual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nope, beautiful is another trick of society that people are obsessed with "
Well your far too attractive but i would perform coitus willingly with you young lady |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"me and all the guys on here know your x mothering law and its true  "
Only difference between my EX motherinlaw and the M1.... Not everyone has been up the M1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"me and all the guys on here know your x mothering law and its true
Only difference between my EX motherinlaw and the M1.... Not everyone has been up the M1"
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sarah has turned down guys as they appear to up themselves in their pics (real male models - or pics lifted from the web??); and then there are the couples where the fem is sooooooooo gorgeous but her fella is like quasimodo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sarah has turned down guys as they appear to up themselves in their pics (real male models - or pics lifted from the web??); and then there are the couples where the fem is sooooooooo gorgeous but her fella is like quasimodo "
you've been meeting the same people as me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hubby and I have spoken about this before and we would not turn them down - he finds it a turn on if I fancy who ever it maybe and he is secure enough to know it is just lust and nothing more... |
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if they are REALLY that attractive then good on you ...
we've seen some nice profile pics of guys these past few days ... but when we asked for pics more recent than those posted to their profile some 2 years ago ... was amazing how much they had deteriorated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if they are REALLY that attractive then good on you ...
we've seen some nice profile pics of guys these past few days ... but when we asked for pics more recent than those posted to their profile some 2 years ago ... was amazing how much they had deteriorated "
not to sure without looking but arn't the pic dated by fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i)not to sure without looking but arn't the pic dated by fab
THAT IS THE POINT ! if you'll excuse the Caps... their pics on profile ARE OLD !"
lol mine are very recent I will have u no... we are on another site that allows vid uploads and u can see a current match of the day being shown on our t.v... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i)not to sure without looking but arn't the pic dated by fab
THAT IS THE POINT ! if you'll excuse the Caps... their pics on profile ARE OLD !
lol mine are very recent I will have u no... we are on another site that allows vid uploads and u can see a current match of the day being shown on our t.v... "
mmmm where xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No!
My playmates are all good looking. Although the one I met before Christmas I nearly didn't play with him because he's the first man I've met that made me feel frumpy.
I put this down to him being the first new playmate since my operation and me not feeling my best. When I saw how nervous he was at our social meet and eager to please, confidence meter went back up to 100%! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No!
My playmates are all good looking. Although the one I met before Christmas I nearly didn't play with him because he's the first man I've met that made me feel frumpy.
I put this down to him being the first new playmate since my operation and me not feeling my best. When I saw how nervous he was at our social meet and eager to please, confidence meter went back up to 100%! "
we r al nervous theres lions and tigers and bears out there oh my |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its personality that counts as if you don't click - whats the point.
For sure there has to be some attraction of course though, but as we're talking lookers, likely you're going to be attracted to them! |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
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Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with what others have already said. Its more than just looks that count. There has to be that click.
I have met afew guys that have had it all. And boy it helps a hell of a lot if their good looking. So no i wouldnt turn them down... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"looks are only skin deep .... I need the person to be nice inside too xx then its heven x
If i was skin deep in you, that would be heaven."
lol kisses you x sure it would look good x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes confidence or not, if we don't feel we're suited, then it's a no deal.
I mentioned in an earlier thread, much prefer the plain Jane look
This site will be right up your street then."
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother?"
Absolutely agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother?
Absolutely agree "
absolutely disagree
as long as we both wanted the same thing ...i would never turn someone down based on looks especially good looks????when i look in my mirrored wardrobes nothing nicer than seeing a fit goodlooking guy giving me what i want !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would, in reality they would pass me by anyway
Oh no they wouldnt hun xx "
Thanks sexy, but i read the OP's post as meaning the sexy Angelina Jolie type stunners, not the average woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have heard many people ask about appearance and swinging, but this is a new twist on an old question. Are there times when you won't swing with a person because they are too beautiful? I am really curious about this one."
I would turn them down. It's all about meeting someone you are comfortable with, be that on a looks level, a mental level or whatever.
When I see a guy on this site with a six pack like a washboard or biceps like a melon, as nice as it may look, i'd not want to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would, in reality they would pass me by anyway
Oh no they wouldnt hun xx
Thanks sexy, but i read the OP's post as meaning the sexy Angelina Jolie type stunners, not the average woman"
I just stalk them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother?
Absolutely agree
absolutely disagree
as long as we both wanted the same thing ...i would never turn someone down based on looks especially good looks????when i look in my mirrored wardrobes nothing nicer than seeing a fit goodlooking guy giving me what i want !!! "
Sorry Imalady but im in agreeance with the B&K, i would wonder what a gorgeous stunning couple would want with me, would think they were desperate and/or using me as their meet let them down. Yes i know i lack confidence but i still wouldnt go anywhere near them no matter how nice they were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes i would, in reality they would pass me by anyway
Oh no they wouldnt hun xx
Thanks sexy, but i read the OP's post as meaning the sexy Angelina Jolie type stunners, not the average woman
I just stalk them "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother?
Absolutely agree
absolutely disagree
as long as we both wanted the same thing ...i would never turn someone down based on looks especially good looks????when i look in my mirrored wardrobes nothing nicer than seeing a fit goodlooking guy giving me what i want !!!
Sorry Imalady but im in agreeance with the B&K, i would wonder what a gorgeous stunning couple would want with me, would think they were desperate and/or using me as their meet let them down. Yes i know i lack confidence but i still wouldnt go anywhere near them no matter how nice they were."
i dont meet couples tho im talking about single guys ...i never feel that anyone wants to meet me because they are desperate..i want people to meet me because im me not just anyone. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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"Yep, we have done. Met couples we feel are too attractive for us. Faced with a 30 something ex playboy model and her adonis partner, you get to feel overwhelmed. If you don't feel comfortable with the other couple then you are not going to enjoy it, so why bother?
Absolutely agree
absolutely disagree
as long as we both wanted the same thing ...i would never turn someone down based on looks especially good looks????when i look in my mirrored wardrobes nothing nicer than seeing a fit goodlooking guy giving me what i want !!!
Sorry Imalady but im in agreeance with the B&K, i would wonder what a gorgeous stunning couple would want with me, would think they were desperate and/or using me as their meet let them down. Yes i know i lack confidence but i still wouldnt go anywhere near them no matter how nice they were.
i dont meet couples tho im talking about single guys ...i never feel that anyone wants to meet me because they are desperate..i want people to meet me because im me not just anyone."
well I've heard you make a great cup of tea and thats enough for me |
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the way you see someone is not necessarily the way they see themselves. we all have hang-ups and insecurities about ourselves. we all have a different idea of what is deemed to be good looking which is too often influenced incorrectly by the media. |
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"the way you see someone is not necessarily the way they see themselves. we all have hang-ups and insecurities about ourselves. we all have a different idea of what is deemed to be good looking which is too often influenced incorrectly by the media."
Quite right too and ive turned guys down as i felt they were far too good looking for me yet they came across as really nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the way you see someone is not necessarily the way they see themselves. we all have hang-ups and insecurities about ourselves. we all have a different idea of what is deemed to be good looking which is too often influenced incorrectly by the media.
Quite right too and ive turned guys down as i felt they were far too good looking for me yet they came across as really nice"
But why???? if they come across as really nice and they are obviously interested in you then I think thats sad that you turn them down for being too good looking.......poor guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like erotic photography and have modelled a couple of times just for fun. So it can add an "unrealistic gloss" tweaking colour, contrast making photo's black & white, sepia etc. My photo's are no older than 6-8 months, and keep the up to date as best as possible.
It's a fair comment to say photo's can remove a degree of realism about someone, which in swinging circles can understandably put people off.
wrt to attraction, it has got to be holistic - looks, chemistry, personality, friendly, sassy etc etc
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"Quite right too and ive turned guys down as i felt they were far too good looking for me yet they came across as really nice"
looks are only a small part of what makes us who we are. i dont care how good looking a woman is, if i thought she was a total bitch i wouldnt be interested. personality and confidence are very attractive traits in my book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the way you see someone is not necessarily the way they see themselves. we all have hang-ups and insecurities about ourselves. we all have a different idea of what is deemed to be good looking which is too often influenced incorrectly by the media.
Quite right too and ive turned guys down as i felt they were far too good looking for me yet they came across as really nice
But why???? if they come across as really nice and they are obviously interested in you then I think thats sad that you turn them down for being too good looking.......poor guys "
But remember, they are looking at my lovely twin peaks not whats above, and yes i do have a face picture in private, in case you ask. Just think if we meet, they might change their mind, and its a reason i wont meet anyone from the other side of the country, wouldnt want them to drive for several hours and be disappointed.
Yes poor guys but im sure there are some pretty ladies that will suit them so much better than me |
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"But remember, they are looking at my lovely twin peaks not whats above, and yes i do have a face picture in private, in case you ask. Just think if we meet, they might change their mind, and its a reason i wont meet anyone from the other side of the country, wouldnt want them to drive for several hours and be disappointed.
Yes poor guys but im sure there are some pretty ladies that will suit them so much better than me"
no-one is perfect but two people can be perfect for each other |
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"I think it is a confidence thing, as in "why would they want to want to play with me?" but then others see something in you that you don't see in yourself...
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This is bang on the money for me. I was approached by a guy when I was meeting alone, who was very good looking. My first thought was "why me"? I went for it (as you do lol) but I did wonder.
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