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Can you love more then one person?
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"Yes. Anyone with children will tell you that. But if you mean 'love' love I think it's very possible too of course. "  | |||
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"Yes but you will always love one more...." That's just what I was going to say. | |||
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"Easily. No one person is everything you want."   | |||
"Easily. No one person is everything you want." | |||
"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no. " Maybe for you that's true, but it's not true for everyone. Some people can be in love with several people at the same time, there are stories of three way relationships and more where everyone involved was happy. I think that there is an ingrained idea of love that has been hammered into our psyche's over the millennia, some people can love like that, but others are not so linear, but that is not necessarily wrong. Just different from the norm. | |||
"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no. Maybe for you that's true, but it's not true for everyone. Some people can be in love with several people at the same time, there are stories of three way relationships and more where everyone involved was happy. I think that there is an ingrained idea of love that has been hammered into our psyche's over the millennia, some people can love like that, but others are not so linear, but that is not necessarily wrong. Just different from the norm." This | |||
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"Yes.... But who has the time? In the modern world having time enough for one is difficult, you have to be very realistic about the time you will spend together. Mostly short! To add others this realism has to be multiplied. " If everyone involved is understanding and accepting, there will be time made, and it can even be spent together. Some people have less time than others which is understandable, but people in love tend to make time for the ones they love | |||
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"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no. " This feels true for me too | |||
"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different." There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict. | |||
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"...." I bloody well hope so! I've got 3 kids!!  | |||
"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different. There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict." | |||
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"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different. There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict."It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters | |||
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"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different. There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.
It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters"It's debatable whether polygamous arrangements are about love, or simply the male in the arrangement choosing to trade up to a younger model while his first wife sucks it up. Societies where polygamy is practiced tend to be strongly patriarchal and not ones where women are treated as equals. | |||
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"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different. There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.
It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters"I wonder if the love is 'equal' in their relationships though or is it similiar to the different type of love we feel for family & friends, just a thought.... | |||
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"Easily. No one person is everything you want. "I would say that you haven't met the right person yet. | |||
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"Easily. No one person is everything you want.
I would say that you haven't met the right person yet. "Sorry Joolsandwhatshisname, but I'm inclined to say who are we to say that one person can have a right person? Just because it is a more common practice, does not mean that it is right for everyone. Admittedly, there is potential for it to not be *true love*, but that does not mean conclusively that *true love* cannot exist for multiple people and that we can instantly assume that just because someone believes that they have the capacity to love multiple people, that they have not found "the right person". Just me being pedantic, but it just seems like a very linear approach to the concept of love and exploring options is an enjoyable experience | |||
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"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different. There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.
It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters
I wonder if the love is 'equal' in their relationships though or is it similiar to the different type of love we feel for family & friends, just a thought....
"Hahaha, that is an interesting question, of which I am incapable of answering from experience, however, my feelings in relationships I've been in have been very much on par to feelings for friends and family, but I have had the will to be more flexible with my family and friends for a relationship, even though the feeling has been equal in measure, and this I feel is the way I am. My lack of differentiation may be because I'm on the autism scale and I struggle to understand the subtleties of emotions, but that doesn't defer the fact that I do not feel any more or less love for one person over another. I give more to a relationship because I want to, but that is nothing to do with different kinds of love, that is because I like making people feel special, and if they love me, then they're very special and deserve to be shown as such. | |||
