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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....
that's how it was for me.....
it was lovely...........
I loved LSD at the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think my ex was the one to be honest, I never felt that 'wam' moment, I think like most things back then I got a bit ahead of myself and married the wrong guy.
I'm still waiting for that wam moment that hits me in my heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know how you know but you just do. For me i never stayed with a guy longer than a couple of weeks before i got bored. Then i met my husband and that boredom never came. We were engaged within a couple of months of meeting and we got married 13 years later....still going strong 22 years on. |
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?  "
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do. |
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do."
Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one  |
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do."
This true, you know when you've met "the one", the problem is are you their "one" xx |
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.
Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one "
Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't speak when you're around them.
You feel nervous every time you're in their presence. "
I've never felt like that in anyone's presence....does that mean I'm with the wrong one??   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.
Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one
Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be."
That's a sadly defeatist attitude. Women will sense that and it will be self perpetuating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trying to describe how you 'know' is tricky.
I guess because I met Ben later in life after being around the block a few times, I just knew this felt different. Stuff I thought I'd never ever do again; like live together, and consider getting married again just feels right.
I thought I'd never meet anyone and I'd missed the boat! So there is hope ladies/gentlemen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....
that's how it was for me.....
it was lovely...........
I loved LSD at the time"
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know?
I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.
Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one
Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be.
That's a sadly defeatist attitude. Women will sense that and it will be self perpetuating."
Oh don't get me wrong, I'd love to fall in love with a woman and for her to fall in love with me. I want that more than you'll ever know. I'm by no means defeatist. After 37 years of not getting anywhere near it I have to face the truth that it may never happen that's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you know when you have met "The one"?
My mum always used to say to me... You just know!
How did you know? "
coz you look into his eyes and never stop you believe and trust everything he says and you smile and laugh always ,simples   |
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My ex wasn't a wham thing but a growing love. I honestly thought we'd be walking up the prom at the coast in our 80's.
But we grew apart during a 20 year marriage.
I'd love that wham feeling though next time |
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I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.
I had a few relationships after that but none of them came close to that one. I resigned myself to the fact that I'd already loved and lost my one and thought I could make do with the love I had for my partner at the time but there was always something missing.
And then, I met my husband. I knew there was something special about us the first time I saw him but we couldn't be together at that time. My heart told me that he was the one even though we couldn't be together at that time. He felt it too. I didn't see him for a long time but we thought of one another everyday. And then fate brought us together. It's been 10 years now. We are still smitten with one another. We are soul mates. We both know we could never be with anyone else again. It may sound soppy but I don't care. It's just different between us than either of us have ever experienced before with anyone. We are 100% honest with each other. We miss each other even when we're in work. We have an intuition about one another which I can't explain with words.
I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.
Mrs x |
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I honestly don't believe in a concept of just "one". There are over 7 billion people on this planet and you are just going to depress yourself thinking that.
When I was 19 I thought my ex was "the one" but after six wonderful years we realised we were wanting different things in life. We seperated, he met someone new and I've been travelling for the last two years. However, I wouldn't be the woman I am today without what our years together taught me. He was "the one" for that time in my life.
On my travels I met quite a few guys who I felt a really great connection or spark with, however with that lifestyle you are moving on a lot. Given the chance of a couple of weeks together though I think they could have felt like the "one" for the next chapter of my life.
I think what I'm saying is keep your eyes open to the world. Dont dismiss people/opportunities too quickly unless they def don't feel right. And don't limit yourself by saying will this person be my one and only forever. Hopefully they will and you'll be very happy! However you may find later that it's no longer right which is OK. If they are the only person you want to be with right now then they are "the one" for right now and for the foreseeable future.
My only other add on for everyone is if you later realise that it's not working anymore, please don't cheat. Accept its time to move on and do so. Its better for everyone involved. |
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"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.
I had a few relationships after that but none of them came close to that one. I resigned myself to the fact that I'd already loved and lost my one and thought I could make do with the love I had for my partner at the time but there was always something missing.
And then, I met my husband. I knew there was something special about us the first time I saw him but we couldn't be together at that time. My heart told me that he was the one even though we couldn't be together at that time. He felt it too. I didn't see him for a long time but we thought of one another everyday. And then fate brought us together. It's been 10 years now. We are still smitten with one another. We are soul mates. We both know we could never be with anyone else again. It may sound soppy but I don't care. It's just different between us than either of us have ever experienced before with anyone. We are 100% honest with each other. We miss each other even when we're in work. We have an intuition about one another which I can't explain with words.
I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.
Mrs x"
This is lovely and also such a valid point. You may meet someone and it not be the right time in life for things to happen. Or you may not be the right people yet to settle down together. But as you grow and life changes things that are meant to be can come back around.
A friend of mine and her husband separated about four years ago as they felt they had fallen out of love. As it was amicable, they had two daughters and they were tight on money he ended up staying in the spare room for a year. They both agreed they could try dating but nothing ever worked out and they would end up talking and laughing about it. Over time they found themselves falling back in love with each other. They've now got a gorgeous little third daughter and are very happy. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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I believe there's 'the one' for a period of your life - I don't think there's a one for your whole life; we change (and if we dont they probably will) and so need several 'ones' thoughout or lives - enjoy them and move on when you're ready or are able to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.
I had a few relationships after that but none of them came close to that one. I resigned myself to the fact that I'd already loved and lost my one and thought I could make do with the love I had for my partner at the time but there was always something missing.
And then, I met my husband. I knew there was something special about us the first time I saw him but we couldn't be together at that time. My heart told me that he was the one even though we couldn't be together at that time. He felt it too. I didn't see him for a long time but we thought of one another everyday. And then fate brought us together. It's been 10 years now. We are still smitten with one another. We are soul mates. We both know we could never be with anyone else again. It may sound soppy but I don't care. It's just different between us than either of us have ever experienced before with anyone. We are 100% honest with each other. We miss each other even when we're in work. We have an intuition about one another which I can't explain with words.
I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.
Mrs x
This is lovely and also such a valid point. You may meet someone and it not be the right time in life for things to happen. Or you may not be the right people yet to settle down together. But as you grow and life changes things that are meant to be can come back around.
A friend of mine and her husband separated about four years ago as they felt they had fallen out of love. As it was amicable, they had two daughters and they were tight on money he ended up staying in the spare room for a year. They both agreed they could try dating but nothing ever worked out and they would end up talking and laughing about it. Over time they found themselves falling back in love with each other. They've now got a gorgeous little third daughter and are very happy."
The twists and turns of life. |
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"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx
I completely agree with this  "
Agree too! Think it's because if you are looking you filter too much and put too many preconceptions on things. |
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx
I completely agree with this "
And while your busy enjoying your life to the fullest, enjoying your time with your family & friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.
I had a few relationships after that but none of them came close to that one. I resigned myself to the fact that I'd already loved and lost my one and thought I could make do with the love I had for my partner at the time but there was always something missing.
And then, I met my husband. I knew there was something special about us the first time I saw him but we couldn't be together at that time. My heart told me that he was the one even though we couldn't be together at that time. He felt it too. I didn't see him for a long time but we thought of one another everyday. And then fate brought us together. It's been 10 years now. We are still smitten with one another. We are soul mates. We both know we could never be with anyone else again. It may sound soppy but I don't care. It's just different between us than either of us have ever experienced before with anyone. We are 100% honest with each other. We miss each other even when we're in work. We have an intuition about one another which I can't explain with words.
I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.
Mrs x"
This is what I hope to have one day |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....
that's how it was for me.....
it was lovely...........
I loved LSD at the time"
thought you were getting all sentimental for a moment then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I grew strong and independent.
I brought my kids up alone.
I was happy.
I got together with a lady and settled down.
I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.
And then we parted.
Then I realised how much I loved her.
Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.
Nothing mattered without her.
Then I knew she was the one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe there's 'the one' for a period of your life - I don't think there's a one for your whole life; we change (and if we dont they probably will) and so need several 'ones' thoughout or lives - enjoy them and move on when you're ready or are able to."
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"I grew strong and independent.
I brought my kids up alone.
I was happy.
I got together with a lady and settled down.
I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.
And then we parted.
Then I realised how much I loved her.
Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.
Nothing mattered without her.
Then I knew she was the one. "
That's lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I grew strong and independent.
I brought my kids up alone.
I was happy.
I got together with a lady and settled down.
I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.
And then we parted.
Then I realised how much I loved her.
Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.
Nothing mattered without her.
Then I knew she was the one.
That's lovely "
I've married her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How did you know?
She agreed on a second date
(Despite what happened on the first )
Mr ddc
Yep! I knew life would never be boring.
All these years later, I'm still smiling.
Mrs DDC
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You two are too cute |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met the one still madly in love 10 years later.
My grandad fell in love when he was 80 he had been on his own for 20 year's he died a very happy man
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I met the one still madly in love 10 years later.
My grandad fell in love when he was 80 he had been on his own for 20 year's he died a very happy man
Xx"
How lovely for him and you |
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"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life "
Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie? |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life
Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie?"
He had lied his ass off and been very, very good at it. The person I fell for didn't exist. |
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"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life
Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie?
He had lied his ass off and been very, very good at it. The person I fell for didn't exist."
Yup, that is what a true narcissist is, a hollow shell, a very beguiling figment of someone's own imagination.  |
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