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age.. why so bothered???

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Had a lady message us today saying you should get someone younger love he is a bit old for you ??? Firstly I don't get why it is there business and secondly what does age have to do with anything ..... what do other people think about big age gaps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh 13 years isn't that much of a gap. Wouldn't let it fuss you what others think as long as you two are happy that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't fuck a teenager.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Age matters to me personally, I really don't care about what other people do though, if people have a 30 year age gap that's their buisness, only time it bothered me was when one of my daughters was seeing a guy much older than her, I didn't make a big deal out of it as I knew it wouldnt help or solve anything but inside I was uncomfortable about it, thing is being a mother you can't help how you feel about your kids

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And that is ur choice isn't it but people shouldn't judge others jess is probably more mature than alot of people my age

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't fuck a teenager.

Haha, yeah you would

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"And that is ur choice isn't it but people shouldn't judge others jess is probably more mature than alot of people my age "

That's was to bullet proof

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Age matters to me personally, I really don't care about what other people do though, if people have a 30 year age gap that's their buisness, only time it bothered me was when one of my daughters was seeing a guy much older than her, I didn't make a big deal out of it as I knew it wouldnt help or solve anything but inside I was uncomfortable about it, thing is being a mother you can't help how you feel about your kids"

30 years maybe too much lol but surly in the end if the girl/girl is being treated right and is in love why should it matter ???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

30 years maybe too much lol but surly in the end if the girl/girl is being treated right and is in love why should it matter ???"

For other people it matters not, nothing to do with me what other do, if they want a relationship with a guy 50 years older fair play, but as a mother I view my children different, some things just don't sit right with me and you can't control your feelings, you can control how you act on them, and as I said I didn't make a big deal out of it because I knew it would make matters worse but it didn't change how I felt inside

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And that is ur choice isn't it but people shouldn't judge others jess is probably more mature than alot of people my age

That's was to bullet proof"

Sorry how is me saying I wouldn't fuck a teenager judging you?

I don't fuck men or men with tits either. Have I ever judged any one that does? No.

As for the poster above. Don't fucking tell me what I would and wouldn't do. You know jack shit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

30 years maybe too much lol but surly in the end if the girl/girl is being treated right and is in love why should it matter ???

I am also a father too and fully understand what u are saying but at what point do u say that's to big of a age gap would u be worried if it was 5 years 10 year? ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"And that is ur choice isn't it but people shouldn't judge others jess is probably more mature than alot of people my age

That's was to bullet proof

Sorry how is me saying I wouldn't fuck a teenager judging you?

I don't fuck men or men with tits either. Have I ever judged any one that does? No.

As for the poster above. Don't fucking tell me what I would and wouldn't do. You know jack shit.

And where in the post did I say would you fuck a teenager???? I asked if age matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

30 years maybe too much lol but surly in the end if the girl/girl is being treated right and is in love why should it matter ???

I am also a father too and fully understand what u are saying but at what point do u say that's to big of a age gap would u be worried if it was 5 years 10 year? ? "

Depends on their age, my daughter was only 17 when she turned up with this guy in his 30, I just felt she was to young to be with a guy who was closer to my age than her own, but that was more down to her age than the age gap, had she been 30 and seeing a guy who was 45 that wouldnt bother me at all because at 30 your old enough to know what you want and what your doing at 17 your still learning and people can easily take advantage of that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

It's like any subject though

Be it age, colour or size it will matter to some and not others

Some people have no preference about any of the above and some do

You will also find that for sex age don't matter to a lot but for a relationship it does

I get hundreds of mail from young guys who want to fuck me, but how many do you think would be seen out with me or want a relationship with me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling? "

Borderline what?? So now you are judging???

And is there any need to be agressive ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of people on here with issues; ignore other people and do what suits you both.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having just looked at your profile .

I think most of them are just gutted they aren't in your position Alan lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling? "

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whatever,If ya like yeah. I call it giving an opinion which you asked for in your Op.

The fact you don’t like it is irrelevant to me.

You obviously wanted a big pat on the back.

Sorry to disappoint you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

If he does can I have a go in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having just looked at your profile .

I think most of them are just gutted they aren't in your position Alan lol.

Haha thanks .... I just don't get it if a girl is LEGAL dunno why he mentioned 13 lol ..... and is mature enough I don't get why people have such a problem love is love at the end of the day and if someone is happy why should it matter .... it don't to me one bit I just wanted to see who it does matter too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Whatever,If ya like yeah. I call it giving an opinion which you asked for in your Op.

The fact you don’t like it is irrelevant to me.

You obviously wanted a big pat on the back.

Sorry to disappoint you. "
y

You went past the opinion stage lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having just looked at your profile .

I think most of them are just gutted they aren't in your position Alan lol.

Yep.

Like I say when I'm 30 (which is worryingly close now) if I can get a sexy, fun, energetic 18 year old I would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

What???

I was using the same age gap with different ages as am example to drive home my point, and others who think its not the age GAP that matters but the actual age

Can you not see that a 13 year age gap between say 40 and 27 is different to a 13 year gap of say, 29 and 16????????????

What the fucks wrong with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

What???

I was using the same age gap with different ages as am example to drive home my point, and others who think its not the age GAP that matters but the actual age

Can you not see that a 13 year age gap between say 40 and 27 is different to a 13 year gap of say, 29 and 16????????????

What the fucks wrong with you?"

What is your point exactly there is no 13 year old there's an 18 year old.

The fact that the same age gap is is illegal when younger (my folks are 2 years apart omg that means 16 and 14!!!!!) Bares No relevance to the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having just looked at your profile .

I think most of them are just gutted they aren't in your position Alan lol.

It's just a matter of what makes you happy

I personally couldn't have a relationship with a much younger guy, firstly I just wouldnt feel comfortable with it, I don't want a guy making me look old

I don't want to be out with a guy people think is my son, things like that matter to me, I know people say it don't matter what others think but to me it does, I wouldn't want to be seen as some sad old woman plus to be honest its very rare I find young guys attractive im not really into the young baby faced look and my kids would disown me if I turned up with a guy in his 20s

At the end of the day it's personal preference isnt it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

Are you starting to get it now???

Jesus fucking christ.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't fuck a teenager.

Haha, yeah you would

My thought exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

Are you starting to get it now???

Jesus fucking christ."

Who says every 18 year old is still learning and don't know what they want some 18 year old are more mature than some women alot older my partner acts alot older than I actually do lol .

But everyone has there own opinion but I'm glad you can discuss that opinion in a adult way unlike other on this post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like I say when I'm 30 (which is worryingly close now) if I can get a sexy, fun, energetic 18 year old I would.

I don’t think he'll let you fuck his mrs fella. No matter how far up his arse your head is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

Are you starting to get it now???

Jesus fucking christ.

Who says every 18 year old is still learning and don't know what they want some 18 year old are more mature than some women alot older my partner acts alot older than I actually do lol .

But everyone has there own opinion but I'm glad you can discuss that opinion in a adult way unlike other on this post

Ah I see, so now I've posted a quote saying pretty much the same, from a woman, its an opinion again??

I was judging you when it was just me.

Make your FUCKING (that's fucking in case you missed it)

Mind up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

18 years between me and my mrs,we met when i was 20,its down to preference, live and let live, if its legal and they are happy good luck to them,as for not fucking a teenager, so 20 is ok but 19 isnt ,not sure about that!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think age matters at all... As long as your both happy..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I'm your age OP and there's absolutely no fucking way I could be in a relationship with an 18 year old. Age is important to me, as it is to a lot of people.

But if you're happy and secure in your relationship then who cares what strangers think of it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking to your profile,you have an age limit too...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

What???

I was using the same age gap with different ages as am example to drive home my point, and others who think its not the age GAP that matters but the actual age

Can you not see that a 13 year age gap between say 40 and 27 is different to a 13 year gap of say, 29 and 16????????????

What the fucks wrong with you?"

I understand what you're saying and I agree. The OP asked about big age gaps. A 20 year gap between a younger couple is different to a 20 year age gap with a much older couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a lady message us today saying you should get someone younger love he is a bit old for you ??? Firstly I don't get why it is there business and secondly what does age have to do with anything ..... what do other people think about big age gaps

She can have an opinion but she was wrong to mail to tell you as it's none of her business.

I think it's entirely up to the couple. A 50 year age gap doesn't matter, as long as they are happy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you have to have things in common with people and it depends on the individual.

My son is 19 and his friends the same age I laugh and chat to them but I have nothing in common with this age group.

I have always had more in common with people my age group .

Years ago before married I was 17 and he was 28 .I eventually finished with him as he wanted to stay in and I wanted to go out all the time.It would of never worked out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People presume things like someone's taking advantage. No one knows your relationship though so tell em to stick a pipe in it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not a huge age gap but it seems more when one half of the couple is 18 imo.

I never understand why someone would bother messaging a random stranger to tell them this tho.

If you're happy in your relationship than crack on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have just gap year students and graduates come and work for us. I could never get into a relationship with someone that young. I just couldn't keep up with their texting speed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

What???

I was using the same age gap with different ages as am example to drive home my point, and others who think its not the age GAP that matters but the actual age

Can you not see that a 13 year age gap between say 40 and 27 is different to a 13 year gap of say, 29 and 16????????????

What the fucks wrong with you?"

Some ones an angry little man this morning

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

What???

I was using the same age gap with different ages as am example to drive home my point, and others who think its not the age GAP that matters but the actual age

Can you not see that a 13 year age gap between say 40 and 27 is different to a 13 year gap of say, 29 and 16????????????

What the fucks wrong with you?"

I understood what you meant, I think people are being intentionally obtuse.

I've always preferred older men. My ex husband was nine years older. My dad was 14 years older than my mum and they were married 47 years when she died.

That said, for me personally, my limit is not young enough to be my son or old enough to be my dad.

If my 24 year old rocked up with a 50 year old I'd wonder if she'd lost her mind. What I find "worrying" is the older partner invariably states the younger partner is "mature". If you truly want "mature" why not go for it? Almost like men who are "straight" but only want to meet "convincing" tgirls...but I digress.

All things considered, what others choose to do is of no concern to me, just get on with your life and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People presume things like someone's taking advantage. No one knows your relationship though so tell em to stick a pipe in it

No one presumed anything that I read.

The OP asked for opinions then threw his toys out the pram with his sycophantic mate because they didn't like some of the answers. Tough shit. Don't open a thread asking for opinions then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like little fluffy kittens. Anyone else like little fluffy kittens?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understood what you meant, I think people are being intentionally obtuse.

Thank you. I'm glad someone thinks so too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like little fluffy kittens. Anyone else like little fluffy kittens? "

Me too to cuddle I suspect some in here are best kept awy from them

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

You ooze pure class as a person.

Our age gap is not a problem for us. We are in love and that is luck. There are attributes concerning our ages that turn each other on. The biggest problem we have is her biochem degree at a top uni followed by her masters and pgce mean she won't start teaching and have a normal life till 2021.

The amusing bit is. For us as a couple we could not imagine a swinging involvement with an 18 year old lad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like little fluffy kittens. Anyone else like little fluffy kittens? "

I soooooooooooooo want to reply with;

"Depends on the age gap"

but I'm going to resist the urge.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

It isn't her business and as long as both in the relationship are happy age has nothing to do with anything but given that is your view on the matter why are you making it other people's business by asking for their opinion?

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By *layne75Couple over a year ago

New orleans

"Having just looked at your profile .

I think most of them are just gutted they aren't in your position Alan lol.

My thoughts exactly.

I had a 29 year old boyfriend when I was 18. He was incredible in bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to find that when people are immediately and aggressively defensive it tells you a lot about what is right and wrong.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I'm happy if people find the right partners for long term relationships or for shags. If the person is right for you, it's perfect and no one's business.

But you'll always get sour fab users trying to hurt or knock you and it's part of socialising here with disgruntled twisted individuals. We just have to block and report anyone behaving inappropriately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I tend to find that when people are immediately and aggressively defensive it tells you a lot about what is right and wrong. "

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

How about you try posting without the aggression

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 32 and 18 is far too young for me, Mrs GNB has just turned 27 and she wouldn't go any younger than 20. It is down to personal preference. What you guys do is your business, i don't really get why people feel the need to judge.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Inbetween the swearing....Bulletharry was making sense for me...it depends for me on the age of the people rather than the age gap as to whether I think ah that's nice to eee not so good.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

OK drop it now please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Inbetween the swearing....Bulletharry was making sense for me...it depends for me on the age of the people rather than the age gap as to whether I think ah that's nice to eee not so good."

Me too...so while I can't imagine me ever having a relationship with an 18 year old I could feasibly imagine a relationship with a 42 year old.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Inbetween the swearing....Bulletharry was making sense for me...it depends for me on the age of the people rather than the age gap as to whether I think ah that's nice to eee not so good."

Exactly this^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

13 years isnt anything. As long as you are happy screw what anyone else thinks

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"Inbetween the swearing....Bulletharry was making sense for me...it depends for me on the age of the people rather than the age gap as to whether I think ah that's nice to eee not so good."

I have to agree. The age gap has a bigger impact if the age of the younger partner is under 20. That's just my opinion. Shame the OP doesn't seem to be able to grasp that idea. But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think messages like this are more about the individuals sad life than about the actual issue she has with age differences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The problem people have here is the 18 bit, because she's a teen, they forget that at 18 some can be quite mature and know what they want etc. You're not old enough to be her dad, so when the teen bit goes (when she's 20) people won't see it as much of a problem, you'll be 33and the age gap will still be the same, yet people will judge differently.

My friend at Uni is 19 and her bf is 28 and people have said stuff to her, when I met her bf I thought he was the same age as her, so the only way people are judging is once they know the gap, until then they don't care. She's very mature for her age (guess that's why she sits with us mature student

) so if she wants to date someone 28 it's up to her. My ex was 36 when I got with him and I was 21, no one cared about the age gap there.

Just be happy and ignore what others say, it's your relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem people have here is the 18 bit, because she's a teen, they forget that at 18 some can be quite mature and know what they want etc. You're not old enough to be her dad, so when the teen bit goes (when she's 20) people won't see it as much of a problem, you'll be 33and the age gap will still be the same, yet people will judge differently.

) so if she wants to date someone 28 it's up to her. My ex was 36 when I got with him and I was 21, no one cared about the age gap there.

Just be happy and ignore what others say, it's your relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like little fluffy kittens. Anyone else like little fluffy kittens? "

I guess 90% would I think like to be in your shoes, she looks great, but really don't worry if your both happy then go and enjoy what you have together, you don't need to justify anything with other peoples opinions

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

) so if she wants to date someone 28 it's up to her. My ex was 36 when I got with him and I was 21, no one cared about the age gap there.

Just be happy and ignore what others say, it's your relationship

Thankyou that is the best response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always been with older men, there's a 15 year age gap between me and my current partner and on the face of it people are a little sceptical - before I met his parents they were a bit unsure of a 25 year old but once they see us together they accept it. I had a 23 year age gap with my previous partner, we were together 8 years - it must have looked awful to the outside world but to us it felt totally normal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, age matters a great deal to me.

Young people have zero appeal, due to my being attracted to personality, character and intelligence. I'm sure there are some brilliant young people out there. But I've never met one yet, who ticked my boxes. And I wouldn't even want to play with a teenager in the same room. It'd make me very uncomfortable, as a mother.

But that's my problem.

What other people feel and think shouldn't affect the behaviour of two people who are, technically, adults.

If you're happy, sod'em.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) so if she wants to date someone 28 it's up to her. My ex was 36 when I got with him and I was 21, no one cared about the age gap there.

Just be happy and ignore what others say, it's your relationship

Thankyou that is the best response

Because it's the one that you want to hear or am I being way too cynical....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) so if she wants to date someone 28 it's up to her. My ex was 36 when I got with him and I was 21, no one cared about the age gap there.

Just be happy and ignore what others say, it's your relationship

Thankyou that is the best response

Because it's the one that you want to hear or am I being way too cynical....

It's called confirmation bias

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

13 years seems to be my standard age gap in relationships!

Fuck what they think, do what works for you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think 13 years difference is enough and you should look for someone a bit older, say around 40, now where to find one of those hmmmmm

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By *ickyandMallory1984Couple over a year ago

lincoln

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

Are you starting to get it now???

Jesus fucking christ."

Hmmmm my only thought for your aggression is you suddenly woke up today and realised your still single! With your attitude that is probably why! It was a simple question and you have been trying to turn it into a argument! Only one throwing toys out the Pram is yourself! Only one swearing is yourself It is there relationship it is not illegal they are both happy what's the problem? You need to take a chill pill! Age doesn't matter for us and we know how to have a civilised debate! Age does matter for you and you clearly have no clue on how to have a civilised debate! Hmmmm maybe a heading for a new forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Firstly I can't believe the cheek of some people actually sending you a message and commenting on the age difference! Wtf!

A 13 year age difference really isn't a big deal in my book.

And although I'd like to think I'm broadminded and no amount of age difference would put me off....I'm afraid it would. When young girls look like they are with their grandads...it really makes me uncomfortable!

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Firstly I can't believe the cheek of some people actually sending you a message and commenting on the age difference! Wtf!

A 13 year age difference really isn't a big deal in my book.

It's for this reason that I do exercise an upper age limit...not for what other people think, but I'd rather not be with someone in my parents generation.

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By *huckzMan over a year ago

spalding

Your age difference isnt that big. I would be more interested to know how long you have been together and who's decision it was to swing? Before I cast my opinion . Pm if you like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP how rude hope you told her where to go, you don't need anybody else's approval or opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No you said i was judging you.

You're fucking a teenager. I'm not judging you for it. Just saying i wouldn't.

I can say it with words of less syll-a-bles if it helps?

But I didn't ask if people would fuck a teenager lol I asked does age matter lol I can do less syll-a-bles too

I couldn't give a fuck what you're question was mate. My answer was intentional.

My point being similar to naughtynymphos.

13 years.

So 49 and 36? Acceptable

40 and 27? acceptable

31 and 18?border line IMO

26 and 13? totally fucking unacceptable.

See the point we're trying to make now or are you still struggling?

That you have some weird idea that the op is going to invent time travel and rewind time til she's 13?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since I seem to be speaking some weird fucking alien language try reading the above post. Then fucking read it again.

Are you starting to get it now???

Jesus fucking christ.

Who says every 18 year old is still learning and don't know what they want some 18 year old are more mature than some women alot older my partner acts alot older than I actually do lol .

But everyone has there own opinion but I'm glad you can discuss that opinion in a adult way unlike other on this post

Ah I see, so now I've posted a quote saying pretty much the same, from a woman, its an opinion again??

I was judging you when it was just me.

Make your FUCKING (that's fucking in case you missed it)

Mind up."

Vic Reeves grabs handbag

Ooohhh - oooooohhh!

Talking of age, clearly this is from a potty-mouthed little boy.

OP do what makes you happy.

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