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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't love anyone, being in love with passion and everything that comes with it is, something I find very difficult to do, even though I was married for 15 years it didn't come easy, infact I would say the last year of my marriage i was the happiest and most in love I had ever been as an adult (look how that turned out!)
The love for my family is different, the only people within my family I love is my boys and sister; everyone else I just tolerate because they are my family. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i love..it comes from inside me, its not dependent on anyone else.
its unconcerned in how it expresses itself..its not placating in any way.
funny this should be posted today..because i have conflict in wanting to 'fall in love' again which for me is entirely different. i suggest to myself its because there is an aspect of me i need to fall back in love with.
do i need to be 'allowed' to fall in love with people or myself?...inner work day today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel like love is just a feeling that people have where you care about anyone and want the best for them.
In love is more selfish, the in part implies that to me, because it means inclusive love (to the point of exclusion of anyone else). |
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I think they are a sliding scale personally - one tends to be in love with a romantic partner and have a steadier kind of love for family, but each can near the other end of the scale too I think - some mothers for instance can have an almost obsessive love for their children.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think they're wholly different things and having only one word for all the different kinds of love isn't really adequate. I don't see one as superior to another, just different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some say love, it is a river, that drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor, that leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower, and you, it's only seed
It's the heart afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of waking, that never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken, who can not seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying, that never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter, far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed, that with the sun's love in the spring becomes the rose. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some say love, it is a river, that drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor, that leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower, and you, it's only seed
It's the heart afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of waking, that never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken, who can not seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying, that never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter, far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed, that with the sun's love in the spring becomes the rose."
That sir is a beautiful piece of writing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some say love, it is a river, that drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor, that leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower, and you, it's only seed
It's the heart afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of waking, that never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken, who can not seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying, that never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter, far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed, that with the sun's love in the spring becomes the rose.
That sir is a beautiful piece of writing "
They are the lyrics to a song called the Rose. I agree they are beautiful  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I like the different opinions on love and being in love, and I think it's a good point being hard to distinguish the types of love when there's only one word to cover them all.
I think there's a lot of sense in the concept that being in love means a sense of ownership, however, I also don't think that's strictly true either and is down to the individuals.
The scale theory is one I think is most intriguing, having different levels of love for the different people in your life.
I have yet to form an opinion of my own as every time I think I have an idea, I have a counter argument directly disproving my thoughts. Hence I've been quiet since posting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is unconditional love we can give to anyone, even those we do not especially like.
There is familial love for our closest relations.
There is deep and passionate love we can feel for only one or a very few people at the same time.
There is self love, taking care of one's own needs.
There are not enough words for 'love' as it encompasses so many emotional states.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not think love implies ownership, indeed rather the opposite. I have felt 'owned' in relationships and failed to grow as a person within them. I dont think love is a selfish emotion. Lust is. Desire is.
Love and like are interchangeable at some level.
To love football, love your country, love curry or Rock and Roll is very different from the love you feel for your partner or children. |
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