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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What would you do, if someone has been lying to you for months?

Would you:

a) call them out on it face to face??

b) let them continue and see how far they are willing to take it??

c) have some fun with it??

d) would that affect the trust you had for them for other things??

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"a)"

Straight up! Face to face straight to the point!

Would you trust them again?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

definitely A

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose."

I agree totally...this person knows about the trust issues this person has had in the past and has persistently lied...Its been impressive.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

It would depend on the subject matter, you can't treat everything the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What would you do, if someone has been lying to you for months?

Would you:

a) call them out on it face to face??

b) let them continue and see how far they are willing to take it??

c) have some fun with it??

d) would that affect the trust you had for them for other things??"

Depends what the lie is.

There is no one size fits all answer, without details it's meaningless.

You're not going to have the same response to finding out someone has lied about cheating on their diet compared to say they've been cheating on their partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

B just for a bit then A. Then walk away

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?"

Ok I agree the basic white lie is not the issue...Its a huge effects the person who wants to call them out on it...They are good mates (or thought they were!)...Cud effect them in a big way...Or change the dynamic.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"What would you do, if someone has been lying to you for months?

Would you:

a) call them out on it face to face??

b) let them continue and see how far they are willing to take it??

c) have some fun with it??

d) would that affect the trust you had for them for other things??

Depends what the lie is.

There is no one size fits all answer, without details it's meaningless.

You're not going to have the same response to finding out someone has lied about cheating on their diet compared to say they've been cheating on their partner"

This is why you and I should have married years ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?

Jesus Christ just tell us the bloody lie already

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

I know a man that every time he opens his mouth its a lie the problem is he believe,s it him self quiet funny at times

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"a)

Straight up! Face to face straight to the point!

Would you trust them again?"

As Granny says, it depends on the lies, the person, the reason for the lie, and my relationship with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose.

I agree totally...this person knows about the trust issues this person has had in the past and has persistently lied...Its been impressive."

I've had the same thing. I won't discuss it in the forums but I was once in love with someone who didn't lie to me but he didn't lie, but he didn't tell me the truth to protect me, so as a result I got twice as hurt when I found out the truth. It's been three years and I've never totally forgiven him for being such a super rat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What would you do, if someone has been lying to you for months?

Would you:

a) call them out on it face to face??

b) let them continue and see how far they are willing to take it??

c) have some fun with it??

d) would that affect the trust you had for them for other things??"
depends what you are wanting from person concerned if it's just NSA F&G it doesn't matter just F&G if you are wanting a regular meet than ask about the alleged lie and see how he / she reacts no point playing with them that would then make you as bad as the alleged liar

hugs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I give them a chance to provide me with a reason for their dishonesty , but if they attempt to provide an excuse instead of a reason, my response changes accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose.

I agree totally...this person knows about the trust issues this person has had in the past and has persistently lied...Its been impressive.

.....along these lines!!!!

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By *now white1000Woman over a year ago

York

And then follow up by cutting them out of my life completely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many on here lie about their name?

do you not trust them then?

Everything is relative.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose.

I agree totally...this person knows about the trust issues this person has had in the past and has persistently lied...Its been impressive.

You said you wouldn't discuss it in the forums... Is that a lie ?

( winky woo )

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I give them a chance to provide me with a reason for their dishonesty , but if they attempt to provide an excuse instead of a reason, my response changes accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"D. My trust is a bloody hard thing to gain and an easy thing to lose.

I agree totally...this person knows about the trust issues this person has had in the past and has persistently lied...Its been impressive.

You said you wouldn't discuss it in the forums... Is that a lie ?

( winky woo )"

I vaguely outlined it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't even expect the truth from them at all after months of lying. I would do A and call them out on it, see if they're willing to explain properly or gonna lie more.

If they lie more then i cut them dead, cry a lot and look for ways not to be conned again like that.

If they're truthful and seem genuinely sorry i might consider trusting them again but it's unlikely.

You can't have fun with lies. I am providing a pic service and can transfer his face to your ass cheek or your ass to his face if you want that? That's some fun you can have with liars...

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?"

Yep. Totally agree. My instinct says A and D. Trust gone gone gone. Good luck dealing with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?

Yep. Totally agree. My instinct says A and D. Trust gone gone gone. Good luck dealing with it. "

So your parents lying about santa clause or the tooth fairy destroyed your trust in them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who is it ?

How detrimental are the lies to me ?

Will it make any difference to the relationship ?

These things matter.

I mean. If it's my neighbour who says they love flowers and they don't why would I want to call them out on it ?

What kind of lie is it ?

Yep. Totally agree. My instinct says A and D. Trust gone gone gone. Good luck dealing with it.

So your parents lying about santa clause or the tooth fairy destroyed your trust in them?"

Oo! Good one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What would you do, if someone has been lying to you for months?

Would you:

a) call them out on it face to face??

b) let them continue and see how far they are willing to take it??

c) have some fun with it??

d) would that affect the trust you had for them for other things??"

Cut their throat, hang draw and quarter them, put out their eyes and toss them into a pit of lime, ffs, the world is full of liars, learn to rise above it and don't let it piss you off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's analyse what a lie is ,something that leaves a particular piece of information out or something that deliberately distorts the reality ,so an example of why these examples might work ,you like a guy you have sex with him it's great sex you don't want to have a relationship with him because you want NSA he's told you he's single or separated or just hasn't mentioned he has a partner ,you've found out ,so what's changed just something you didn't really need to know because you want NSA ,sometimes what you don't know doesn't hurt you ,sometimes overthinking the situation spoils the situation up to that point ,keep it simples

hugs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I'd be curious about why they'd lie to me and likely A.

We all lie, it's part of being human, telling a few each day.

A close friend would shock me if I'd been deceived for so long. But maybe there's something to be learned about them or ourselves - what part have we to play in being lied to?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'd be curious about why they'd lie to me and likely A.

We all lie, it's part of being human, telling a few each day.

I disagree. When I married I made the decision to completely stop lying about anything, and I can honestly say on a personal level I did not for at least 20 years. It's harder that way, you have to face issues you could otherwise avoid, and live without compromise, but it is possible, and I found it very fulfilling. Lying is a violation.

If someone lies to avoid hurting my feeling, or losing me, or to protect me, I may choose to tolerate it somewhat more than if they are lying to manipulate or control me, but either way it makes it infinitely harder to trust, and I find that really sad.

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