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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I was wondering if i could have advice from people on here like how to stop. I seriously am starting to hate myself so much when i gamble but cant stop. I spend to much and its starting to get me down i really dont know why i do it

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By *_and_k_staffsCouple over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

First, don't go chasing losses...it's too easy to get yourself in trouble.

Piece of advice I was given, only ever do it with money you could lose tomorrow and it not affect your life, not money that could pay the bills etc

Sounds dead obvious but many just see what can be won not what they can lose!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First thing is recognise you have a problem - well done!

Next step get proper help - all the betting adverts etc have reference to a helpline you can call I think if things get out of hand - a quick Google should find the name.

You can also self exclude from online betting sites - while you are in the right frame of mind if go in and self exclude from any you are a member of so even if the temptation cones back you can't place a bet!

Good luck fella, but get help before it destroys you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get help mate, been there myself and it was motta nice place to be.

G.A. helps

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Wishing you all the luck in the world. It won't be easy, but you've taken the 1st step

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ive soent far to much these last 2 months nearly £4000

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do what I did and delete everything on your computer and phone and tell yourself if you want to put a line on then go to the bookies. It makes it a lot harder to give over the money. When it's just a number on your phone it doesn't seem as bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you married? Maybe get someone else to handle your money until such time you can cope again.

Not going to preach about the humongous loss, but there must be someone close that can help you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you married? Maybe get someone else to handle your money until such time you can cope again.

Not going to preach about the humongous loss, but there must be someone close that can help you? "
i dont tell anyone of my gambling habbits but now its really getting to me cant sleep much and really hate myself also not married im single

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I lived with a compulsive gambler for 6 years and he blew pretty much everything and went to gamblers anon and I went to the family side of it, I ended up blocking internet sites and took hold of the money side... The first step is to address you have an issue once you have done that you are one step further to recovery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate, seriously, Self Exclude on ALL your accounts tonight!

Again, like the person above, don't want to preach but do it now ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know i have a problem but i cant stop i want to but think i will win big one day im so stressed

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I lived with a compulsive gambler for 6 years and he blew pretty much everything and went to gamblers anon and I went to the family side of it, I ended up blocking internet sites and took hold of the money side... The first step is to address you have an issue once you have done that you are one step further to recovery "

Plus I got him blocked from most betting sites after finding out which one he used it came to ahead after he used my wages the day I got paid and gambled it all...luckly I got it all back from the gambling site

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I know i have a problem but i cant stop i want to but think i will win big one day im so stressed"

You will have small wins and massive losses I do understand what you are going through I went through the family counselling for it but only YOU can change your habits

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I know but its so hard i really cant do it on my own

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I know but its so hard i really cant do it on my own"

There are support sites available often online ones and the smartains can also provide details of them...I would also suggest Google to research local support networks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Will do thanks

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will do thanks"

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate of there's one person to help... its yourself!

Nobody can make you stop, bit you have made the first move and admitted to yourself you have a problem, now you MUST make the next move and seek help.

Please message me if you need to speak to someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks just hope i stop sooner rather than later

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You CAN stop, it's just a case of doing something else to take your mind off it.

Rock bottom is not a nice place to be, pick yourself up and seek professional help ..... please!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Thanks just hope i stop sooner rather than later"

To be honest at this moment in time it doesn't sound like you want to stop as you are making excuses not to stop now...my last message still stands good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks just hope i stop sooner rather than later

To be honest at this moment in time it doesn't sound like you want to stop as you are making excuses not to stop now...my last message still stands good luck "
i need to stop not want to i need to

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

"I was wondering if i could have advice from people on here like how to stop. I seriously am starting to hate myself so much when i gamble but cant stop. I spend to much and its starting to get me down i really dont know why i do it "

Wow! I never thought id come across this on here, but this is something i can massively relate to. You wouldnt actually beleive me if i was to talk figures!

Ask yourself this,.... does the thrill of winning outweigh the pain of loosing??

Not a trick question just honestly ask yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No i hate losing i feel hopeless and depressed and feel i dobt deserve money if all i do is gamble it away i hate myself

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

What way do you gamble?? As in.... fruit machines, machines in yhe bookies casinos horses dogs ect ?

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By *oachman 9CoolMan over a year ago

derby

"I know i have a problem but i cant stop i want to but think i will win big one day im so stressed"
I,ve never been Where you have so please have my Sympathy there, you know you have the problem which is good so hopefully you Can build on this we can go only give Advice here but please do get out of what you are in, I,ve never used bookies or on line gambling pleased to say, sorry you ever went there but dig hard and you will slowly come out thee Otherside, I know it won,t get your £4000 back but hopefully it might make You feel a bit better, upto around several years ago for 12 years I made a big mistake useing chatlines, I know Nothing to do with gambling but I consider what I spent was really a no Return, and I spent roughly £4000 over that period biggest mistake I have ever made with money, we all make mistakes some bigger than others, it did take will power to come off the Chatlines,but you can do it the same too with your gambling hang on in there fella we are All hopeing for yer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do what I did and delete everything on your computer and phone and tell yourself if you want to put a line on then go to the bookies. It makes it a lot harder to give over the money. When it's just a number on your phone it doesn't seem as bad."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No i hate losing i feel hopeless and depressed and feel i dobt deserve money if all i do is gamble it away i hate myself"

get a hobby to fill your time in and keep your mind busy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No i hate losing i feel hopeless and depressed and feel i dobt deserve money if all i do is gamble it away i hate myself

get a hobby to fill your time in and keep your mind busy! "
thats a good idea my hobby is watching football so need to stop betting on that also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you self exclude?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes just done it now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You said you done it last night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You said you done it last night? "
yeah i did paddy power which is only one i really use just cancelled everyone im setup on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try banning yourself from local bookies too. Speak to managers, explain you have a problem and ask them to ban you. Pick up the phone and speak to Gamblers Anonymous

And next time you think of having a bet, remember how you feel now. That big win you crave to claw back losses is possible but most likely you will have further and greater losses

Good luck

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By *eforfuncplCouple over a year ago

Morecambe

Oh I bet you'll get over it soon xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Gambling addiction is the same as any other addiction whether it be drugs, alcohol or whatever.

Other people have mention GA, that's a good place to get help immediately from people who have been there and understand how you feel and this is important as addiction is a lonely place.

You could also speak to your GP about an IAPTS (increasing access to psychological therapy) referral. You would get a referral for a set number of sessions of cognitive behavioral therapy and this would help you recognise what leads to your urges to gamble and develop strategies to deal with these urges. There is usually a 6 month wait for this but if you could pay private there will be loads of cbt therapists who have experience of helping people such as yourself.

You've made the first step by admitting you have a problem. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Advice ..op the house always wins gambling is business they operate for profit you can never win cut your loses its now and move on or you will lose more

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I can't give you any advice on stopping gambling but having lived with a compulsive gambler and eventually growing tired of his lies, never having any money, his temper tantrums when a horse didn't win, violent rages if he lost on a sure thing and generous bonhomie on the rare occasions he did win I divorced him. It ruins relationships op, please seek help to beat it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your kind words i usually place bets today and ive not done one today so hope this continues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep up the good work

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By *ntimatediscretionMan over a year ago

eaglescliffe

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've refrained from commenting so far but this is a very interesting thread.

I've worked with various types of addiction and have a large number of vices but never gambling.

It's one thing to say 'stop' - it's another thing to do it.

On the plus side it sounds like you recognise you have a problem and want to do something about it.

Hope it works out for you, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your kind words i usually place bets today and ive not done one today so hope this continues"

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Over 2weeks no bets not gambled feel great

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Over 2weeks no bets not gambled feel great "

That is brilliant!!! Are you getting any help or counselling?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Over 2weeks no bets not gambled feel great "

Excellent news

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"Over 2weeks no bets not gambled feel great "
. Great news . Maybe think about putting the money saved in a pension fund or a stocks and shares ISA..It will give you something to look forward to in the future .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not getting any help just realised gambling isnt for me dont even buy scratch cards

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