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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been on the forums for over a year now, with a break over the summer, and there are a core of forum users who posted regularly and know each other. I feel as though I'm just starting to get recognised but have a way to go before I'm a 'forumite.' When did folks feel that they'd been accepted so to speak?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i just kept on thrusting myself upon you all -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv never felt I'm "accepted". I don't want to be "accepted" I want people to enjoy my contributions because they like them and maybe like me for who I am, not because Iv been "accepted"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've noticed your posts op. I felt welcomed straight away that's why I keep coming back xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been posting for about a month now and I feel accepted and welcomed, well the fact that I just keep posting probably has something to do with it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

someone posted the other day how happy they were as they felt part of the forum now - i thought that was sad they felt otherwise - glos couple i think it was

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Accepted by who ?

I just post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been on the forums for over a year now, with a break over the summer, and there are a core of forum users who posted regularly and know each other. I feel as though I'm just starting to get recognised but have a way to go before I'm a 'forumite.' When did folks feel that they'd been accepted so to speak?"
sometimes it does feel like if the face fits and all that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accepted by who ?

I just post. "

+ 1

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

What do you feel you have to do to get accepted? Why don't you feel accepted. I don't know what being accepted means,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im just me. Im not here to be accepted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a forum,feel free to post away.I post things people like,I post things that people think what a knob.

But that's what forums are about.

Spread your wings and fly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accepted by who ?

I just post. "

Good point. Me too. I respond to the post not the poster.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know what you mean but it's like anywhere some people will just click with each other and their posts make them be remembered by others!

It doesn't actually bother me though, I just post on threads I like or have something to say xx

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

if I have something to say I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women are accepted readily and guys are either ripped the crap out of or are accepted if they say the right things .... I think I will be ripped the crap out of lol. It's the old case of, if your names not on the list, you can't come in!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Iv never felt I'm "accepted". I don't want to be "accepted" I want people to enjoy my contributions because they like them and maybe like me for who I am, not because Iv been "accepted"

For single guys its a very different experience though. Perhaps accepted is the wrong word, more along the lines that other users recognise you and know you're not a rabid creature/ blithering idiot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

most forum users dont know how special I am..

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

OP just keep posting. It's not about anyone here formally accepting you.

It's about you accepting that you have a much right to be here as anyone else.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"most forum users dont know how special I am..

Your just TOO special to know how special that is xxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Women are accepted readily and guys are either ripped the crap out of or are accepted if they say the right things .... I think I will be ripped the crap out of lol. It's the old case of, if your names not on the list, you can't come in! "

Don't agree with this at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accepted by who ?

I just post. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thing is just as soon as you get used to someone they go unlos - or change their name or heaven forbid change the avatar - confuddles the hell outta me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP just keep posting. It's not about anyone here formally accepting you.

It's about you accepting that you have a much right to be here as anyone else.

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't agree with this at all. "

I do , just read the forums!

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Been on site for 9 yrs and posting here for about 7yrs. I just look at like one big pub, people come, people go, some are chatterboxes then go home, others just stand in a corner and chip in occasionally. Some are intellectuals and others like myself, just spout inane drivel

There's room for everyone here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't agree with this at all. "

me neither -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"most forum users dont know how special I am..

Your just TOO special to know how special that is xxx "

crumpit u will always be special to me..you were a rumour at a time to my ears, it was for a few years, then you came onto the forum, I lavished your decorum, after all that, I realized you were just a twat xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just post what,when and how I like not sure if accepted or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accepted by who ?

I just post. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not here to impress. I'm just me. I say my bit and if it's well received great and if not its no biggie.

I don't go out of my way to offend and I think in general I'm nice. So if people don't like me for whatever reason, then that's their issue not mine.

I wouldn't worry or give it a second thought OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just post what,when and how I like not sure if accepted or not

i accept that youre too flippin far away and makes me grrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've noticed your posts op. I felt welcomed straight away that's why I keep coming back xx"

It helps if you have boobs..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"most forum users dont know how special I am..

Your just TOO special to know how special that is xxx

Not JUST a twat

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I guess my point is that it's only recently that other users have started messaging me about my posts (in a nice way) and chatting, posting on my threads etc.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i ventured onto the forums after about 2 months of me joining..

innocuous posts, kept posting until

met some peeps at a club and i still keep posting..

do i feel accepted by some on the forums..no..do i give a shit, no,cant be everyone's cup of tea.. i find it mildly amusing, they think im part of a clique, which is a complete illusion..ive never been part of a clique in my life

always welcoming..and inclusive, if they choose to see differently, not much i can do about that,

am i accepted? its more, am i acceptable, to them, i suppose, but, im not going to change the way i am.

im used to being odd in life, there are always those that dont 'get' you so, although its a shame, it doesn't get me to lose sleep over it..i just giggle occasionally when i am completely ignored, shrug and go 'oh well'..

i am glad however you feel part of it all..long may it continue xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think if you just post on stuff that interests you and keep posting you become a regular forum user.

On my walk to work I see the same people out walking their dogs. Every day they follow the same route. The first few times we acknowledged the recognition that we see each other every day. That progressed to a good morning or a hello. Then you move onto small talk about the weather followed by general chit chat. On the days you don't see them, you wonder where they are.

It's the same thing here. There's not some hidden club, it's just about habit and seeing the same names and faces. The more you post, the more people get to know you. If you're not posting enough, people don't make the same connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just post what,when and how I like not sure if accepted or not

i accept that youre too flippin far away and makes me grrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've noticed your posts op. I felt welcomed straight away that's why I keep coming back xx

It helps if you have boobs.."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say regular rather than 'accepted'. I don't think there's such thing as universal acceptance anyway - you could find the majority agreeing with a person on one thread then arguing against them on another.

There are a core of forum users who know seem like they know each other because they do, they've met in the real world and that comes across in threads sometimes. There will probably be a lot of it in the run up to Miss CC's Halloween party.

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By *eonardoLoveMan over a year ago

London

Forum will accept you only after 1000 offensive posts.

If the offence is without any reason, post counts per 3.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I just plonked myself in here, got comfortable and never felt the need to be accepted.

If you mean at what stage will other forumites know your birthday and start having 'in-jokes' with you? Well that's up to the individual as to how and, to what level they interact with others on here. Personally, I'm not in here for that degree of bonding; I just love that I'm able to pop on say my bit and enjoy most of what others and have a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"most forum users dont know how special I am..

Oh we're well aware that you are special

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know what you mean OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest I wouldn't say Men have it that bad.

We get the odd "Kill All Men" threads etc.

But I would say any problems I've had on here I've probably caused myself

Most people seem pretty friendly.

"You can please some people some of the time,but you can't please all people all of the time"

I'm the Cliche Master

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've posted off and on for the last 5 years, I have met some really amazing people as a result...I'm sorry you feel like that but I would just post...I post the most Iane shit at times but I couldn't give a shit personally...I'm on here because I can..

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Acceptance or not has never stopped me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post for the lurkers. Lurkers lurk for a reason, hopefully what I say resonates with them, they check my profile out, see that I'm a handsome devil and say hello.

"Hey, I think that too! Let's fuck?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having tits doesn't automatically get you acceptance....but then if i wanted acceptance ( by whom ? btw) then I'd be more sycophantic with my posts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'd never change who I am or what I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't agree with this at all. "

I disagree with this too. Yes the forums can be a little cliquey. But if you say something interesting the feedback is usually good whether male or female.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I elbow my way in. I don't care if I'm ignored or if anyone likes me. I keep my boobs covered and my mind open.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"To be honest I wouldn't say Men have it that bad.

We get the odd "Kill All Men" threads etc.

But I would say any problems I've had on here I've probably caused myself

Most people seem pretty friendly.

"You can please some people some of the time,but you can't please all people all of the time"

I'm the Cliche Master

I heard most men cant' find the cliche.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having tits doesn't automatically get you acceptance....but then if i wanted acceptance ( by whom ? btw) then I'd be more sycophantic with my posts."

You're so lovely

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I've been on here for about 5 years now - am I accepted? I honestly don't know, and don't really bother.

I post on the things that interest me, have some great conversations and have met some lovely people through forum chat that I would not have met any other way.

Its a bit like - the first time you walk into a new pub, a few folk look at you and might nod, the 5th time they might say hello, and a while down the road, you are a regular too and will know a few of them, but there are always those who will keep to their wn circle too - there is room for everyone!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having tits doesn't automatically get you acceptance....but then if i wanted acceptance ( by whom ? btw) then I'd be more sycophantic with my posts.

You're so lovely

....yeah like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest I wouldn't say Men have it that bad.

We get the odd "Kill All Men" threads etc.

But I would say any problems I've had on here I've probably caused myself

Most people seem pretty friendly.

"You can please some people some of the time,but you can't please all people all of the time"

I'm the Cliche Master

I concur. I've said some things in the forums that frankly I'm ashamed about and the criticism aimed at me is usually spot on! Its good to have my ramblings challenged sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never accepted. .. but keep posting regardless! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't say feel accepted but wouldn't say shunned. Sometimes we say something that people find funny or interesting and other times feels like we're ignored. That's life on the forum tbh unless you have the platinum supporter's to get access to the secret forum and your invited into the clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having tits doesn't automatically get you acceptance....but then if i wanted acceptance ( by whom ? btw) then I'd be more sycophantic with my posts.

You're so lovely

Yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never accepted. .. but keep posting regardless! Lol "

Trouble is you're like that stuff that some people love, but other people hate! Can't remember what it's called..

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney"

This is right, though I know what the OP is getting at. When you lurk around the forums you can get the sense that there are certain cliques at work or that you're being ignored. It’s all a bit of an illusion really. As long as you’re not a total dick you will be welcomed with open arms. And the more you post, the more noticed you will become. And before you know it you’ll be one of the regular faces. It just takes time. We were all new once. I know I hung around the forums for a while with similar thoughts as you OP but this place has been absolutely wonderful for me. Don’t give up on it.

So don’t worry about being accepted. There’s no such thing really. You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea but there are plenty of people on here, you can and will get close to if you give it time. I know that from personal experience. The forums are a great place to connect with likeminded folk. So just keep posting I say!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep posting OP I like tour posts .

I find most people jolly positive . They put up with my silly ramblings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never accepted. .. but keep posting regardless! Lol

Trouble is you're like that stuff that some people love, but other people hate! Can't remember what it's called.."

Think its called work?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I could not have put it better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I could not have put it better

Thank you, I think that was what I was driving at but in my addled state it became muddled

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I could not have put it better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been here on and off for 7 years,It was the first Internet forum I'd ever posted on and I have to say that I've always just posted what I wanted,I've never felt that I needed to be accepted,the forum is owned by everyone that posts on it

If you feel happy and comfortable to just join in and post then thats great but it's not an acceptance thing at all x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Fliss !

You were missed !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Fliss !

You were missed !

See!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When you get the badge, secret cipher and complimentary platinum membership

I'm waiting by my front door with baited breath for the postman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Not sure, I've only been here a couple of months or so and definitely don't fit in yet.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Having said that, I've met a couple of guys through the forums and have a fantastic chat buddy from here too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure, I've only been here a couple of months or so and definitely don't fit in yet."

I'm not sure any of us ever feel We fit in(I've killed loads of threads when I'm the last person to post

)

But you don't get a badge to say you are now a fully pledged forum member of the forum.

Post away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I recognise your posts OP and think you're a valued member of the forum!

I know where you're coming from, as there is a close group of friends that have been here for a while and interact with each other and are seen as the 'popular' Forumites - but I think that's more because a lot are active in the scene, have met at socials or 121 and so it's natural that they are going to banter off with each other. And that's no different with any walk of life.

As I say, I see you as a popular Forum member and always enjoy your posts, there's loads of other Forumites out there, myself included, and I don't think anyone isn't 'accepted' provided they contribute fair and interesting content.

The only people I see not really 'accepted' (for want of a better word) are the ranty post type people but they're definitely in the minority and tend to be transient and short lived in here anyway

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Not sure, I've only been here a couple of months or so and definitely don't fit in yet."

You see I don't think that's true either... I've noticed your posts. I figured you'd been here longer.

I think we worry too much about responses to what we post. I say what I have to say then move onto the next thread. If it's a topic I'm interested in, I keep an eye on the other replies, sometimes I go back, sometimes not. It's certainly never intentional to ignore a poster.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been posting here for years and years and years and years and years and years and never in all that time have I ever even entertained the notion that there would be an value in seeking the acceptance of other forum contributors .....

Basically what I'm saying here is....... simply enjoy the forums as nothing more than frivolous adventure where you can choose to engage in thought exchange on a myriad of topics where no-one has primacy of the thread content...

Unless its my thread,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just post on the off chance someone will either find it funny or feel sorry for us and want a sympathy shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting here for years and years and years and years and years and years and never in all that time have I ever even entertained the notion that there would be an value in seeking the acceptance of other forum contributors .....

Unless its my thread,,,,,

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I think we worry too much about responses to what we post. I say what I have to say then move onto the next thread. If it's a topic I'm interested in, I keep an eye on the other replies, sometimes I go back, sometimes not. It's certainly never intentional to ignore a poster.

True, though I don't worry and I move to the nest thread and often forget to come back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney"

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

True, though I don't worry and I move to the nest thread and often forget to come back

That too! I sometimes remember I said something then can't remember which thread I said it in. I really wish I wasn't such a gobshite on those days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP."

I can see what you mean. I just think it makes me a bit sad that people feel that way.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I am happy on the periphery......

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP.

I can see what you mean. I just think it makes me a bit sad that people feel that way. "

I think I misspoke (typed) when I said accepted, its more a level of recognition I guess.

Perhaps it stems from the fact that until this week the forums have been my only way of making connections on fab. What can be achieved in a social or club in one night can take months online.

Please note that I'm not liable to fun off wailing into the wilderness, it was more of a musing on my part which upon further reflection (with all the alcohol out of my system) would've told me that as I've been espousing in the past weeks and months that were all different and experience fab differently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When you get the badge, secret cipher and complimentary platinum membership

Platinum membership? Is that what you call it? My platinum membership consisted of a platinum wire, heated to red hot and inserted into my urethra!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't

I may post a fair bit but I wouldn't say I know a lot of people on here

I have met very few of the regular forum posters

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

I just wade in when the fancy takes me - not sure if anyone notices, but I keep jumping in lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never felt 'accepted' (whatever that phrase fully encompasses) partly because there's a IRL social element to the forums which I don't partake in.

But that's my choice, which is why 'acceptance' is not something that bothers me.

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

As a woman I don't feel that i've been accepted readily.

Maybe it's my matter of fact nature or the way people perceive me to be, but despite having been around for quite some time, I have no 'forum friends'.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I just wade in when the fancy takes me - not sure if anyone notices, but I keep jumping in lol"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just post, couldn't care if I'm accepted or not

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

more often than not,I find the desperation to fit in off-putting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You post on the forums therefore you are! We're all equals surely?

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

There is some forum bullies same few that seem to gang up on people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post for the giggle and banter not to be accepted or fit in..im not here to fit in...I am here for NSA sex .if people don't like me tough no skin of my nose and there's less than a handful on here who really know me, whatever the rest come up with who cares because I really don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney"

I don't think it's sad to want to be accepted. Plenty of us are attention seeking, so it's nice to be noticed. And because regulars talk to other regulars, to those who aren't on here often it can be quite intimidating or cliquey at times

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

More often than not I'm ignored, but I agree with Zoya... I don't care, I like the forum banter.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I fully understand what your saying. I was told on another thread I was "not one of the usual crowd " last week which really got to me. I have posted threads, replied and read threads daily. So what makes you the "usual crowd" then if not what I'm already doing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww OP im pretty sure anyone is welcome to post here. I personally just give my two penny on stuff whether its needed or not sometimes I get a response other times I dont, its just how it is

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

We all know who they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would feel such a failure if anyone referred to me as part of the usual crowd ....

I stand alone in my magnificence ....

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I see you as one of the regulars. As with Strawberry Pop... I'm not sure if I just see names and recognise them but I think everyone who posts on a pretty regular basis. I think if those who reply to threads started some every now and then too it wouldn't just be the same regular names/threads running.

I remember always thinking what if I post a thread and no-one replies? Then I thought well so what if that happens? What does it matter? You won't say something that everyone will be interested in but there's such a diverse crowd here, there's bound to be someone who gets what I'm on about. I wish everyone was a little braver.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

Flagrante

We don't even think about whether we are "included"....this is a place to have a giggle and give some input

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

Yes, but I didn't say it was sad to want to be accepted. I said it was said that people feel they aren't.

-Courtney

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I just kept posting and commenting as I didn't know anyone. I've only met 3 regular forum users.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are loads of posters on here whose posts I notice, recognise or remember. But I don't really do the naming names thing on threads so maybe others are the same, and those people don't realise that they're noticed.

Maybe it's the case that it's the same bunch of people mentioning each other on the naming names type of threads, which perpetuates the impression of some sort of inner circle of acceptance?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

When I first joined I put a thread upmin introductions and noone answered it

I came in here and I'm not sure how long it was before my name got recognized but you get the gobshites like me that post all the while then some that just come in occasionally, noone is more "in" than anyone else. It's just one big very distinctions family here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just kept posting and commenting as I didn't know anyone. I've only met 3 regular forum users. "

Yeah but apparently you do have cute bum...

Not that I've noticed it,,,,,

I'm just repeating what I've heard....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think most people ARE accepted and valued for their forum posts. Pretty much everyone posting on this thread I recognise as a regular Forum poster.

Having said that I think we may be confusing being recognised and accepted versus being high-profile.

In a football analogy, some Forumites are more globally recognised, the Man Utd, Chelsea's and Arsenals of this world, while the majority of us are the Norwich, West Broms and Bournemouths.

But we're all playing together in the Premier League.

Ok that's probably the worst analogy EVER on Fab but I hope you know what I mean!

Just enjoy the forums for what they are, post what you want (within the rules), fuck what others think and enjoy yourselves!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I just kept posting and commenting as I didn't know anyone. I've only met 3 regular forum users.

Yeah but apparently you do have cute bum...

Not that I've noticed it,,,,,

I'm just repeating what I've heard....

That's funny because I got told that last night!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all know who they are "

Ooh sounds ominous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im just here - love me or loathe me

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think if you just post on stuff that interests you and keep posting you become a regular forum user.

And squirrels become your friend.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I never really cared but I care even less to try and fathom out who is who.... So many leave, then return with new names.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP just keep posting. It's not about anyone here formally accepting you.

It's about you accepting that you have a much right to be here as anyone else.

This x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There have been a few things recently that people have posted that has made me think 'hmmmm really?!" ...... a prime example above, me thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accepted by who ?

I just post.

+ 1

+2. Who is supposed to make those who post feel welcome?

Just post and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think most people ARE accepted and valued for their forum posts. Pretty much everyone posting on this thread I recognise as a regular Forum poster.

Having said that I think we may be confusing being recognised and accepted versus being high-profile.

In a football analogy, some Forumites are more globally recognised, the Man Utd, Chelsea's and Arsenals of this world, while the majority of us are the Norwich, West Broms and Bournemouths.

But we're all playing together in the Premier League.

Ok that's probably the worst analogy EVER on Fab but I hope you know what I mean!

Just enjoy the forums for what they are, post what you want (within the rules), fuck what others think and enjoy yourselves!

I'd rather be compared to Norwich than Chelsea any day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think if you just post on stuff that interests you and keep posting you become a regular forum user.

Great analogy.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I think if you just post on stuff that interests you and keep posting you become a regular forum user.

And squirrels become your friend.

That's cause I buy them nuts!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been on the forums for over a year now, with a break over the summer, and there are a core of forum users who posted regularly and know each other. I feel as though I'm just starting to get recognised but have a way to go before I'm a 'forumite.' When did folks feel that they'd been accepted so to speak?"
you will never be accepted get used to it me and Trevor McDonald have been trying for over a year to get into the clique let's start a hotlist thread ,whatyasay hey ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being accepted is over rated.

The only person who need accept you is you. However if you mean being seen as an active part of the community... I suppose that's more down to how active you are and whether people are responding to your activity (be it positively or negatively)

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By *illyjohnyCouple over a year ago

brighton

We only post if it's something that catches us at a particular time or mind set ?

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

Keep waiting ...

I been here 4 or more years and still get by passed with most things I try to join in on.

it is like you are invisible most of the time.

Very hard to fit in here.

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By *illyjohnyCouple over a year ago

brighton

Didn't know it was a club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Maybe it's the case that it's the same bunch of people mentioning each other on the naming names type of threads, which perpetuates the impression of some sort of inner circle of acceptance? "

That's probably it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Keep waiting ...

I been here 4 or more years and still get by passed with most things I try to join in on.

it is like you are invisible most of the time.

Very hard to fit in here.

"
yes dont think I've ever seen you in forums before ,this is my first time here mind

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Acknowledging one is not part of some 'crowd' does not make them an attention seeking wannabe by the way.

It's just an observation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way."

Would probably just lead to people fishing for likes.

Now if we could posts memes, my life would be complete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way."

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By *dventuroususCouple over a year ago

sunderland

We have been posting here on and off for 7 years, and yes there are cliques here, but overall theres more that simply just join in and discuss things as a forum should be, but its the nature of the beast, that at times you disagree with a certain person and you are suddenly arguing with 4 or 5, rightly creating that cliquey feeling, of course they are there, personally we post for ourselves and have never felt a need to accept or be accepted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can relate to the OP's post and your experience.

I discovered the forums a few months after I joined and felt a little intimidated at first.

It didn't help when someone told me; "I don't talk to randoms".

Ffs how far up your own arse do you need to be to say something like that?

Got to admit it put me off participating for a while.

These days I give a lot less of a shit......

I do actively avoid the "kiss fuck, who would you miss" threads though, two touched a nerve a few weeks ago.

Perhaps I give more shits than I thought........

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way."

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can relate to the OP's post and your experience.

I discovered the forums a few months after I joined and felt a little intimidated at first.

It didn't help when someone told me; "I don't talk to randoms".

Ffs how far up your own arse do you need to be to say something like that?

Got to admit it put me off participating for a while.

These days I give a lot less of a shit......

I do actively avoid the "kiss fuck, who would you miss" threads though, two touched a nerve a few weeks ago.

Perhaps I give more shits than I thought........

The "I don't talk to randoms" shit is usually seen in face pic Friday type threads. Weird and indeed head up arse-ish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP."

We felt accepted earlier this week .

It was a nice feeling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can relate to the OP's post and your experience.

I discovered the forums a few months after I joined and felt a little intimidated at first.

It didn't help when someone told me; "I don't talk to randoms".

Ffs how far up your own arse do you need to be to say something like that?

Got to admit it put me off participating for a while.

These days I give a lot less of a shit......

I do actively avoid the "kiss fuck, who would you miss" threads though, two touched a nerve a few weeks ago.

Perhaps I give more shits than I thought........

I think most of us get a little hurt when we're not mentioned in those who's hot or who would we miss threads which is bloody stupid really because it's just people behind a screen, they, and I include myself in this, are really not important in the grand scheme of things.

And being accepted on the forums is the same, I have never felt not accepted but I've also never had this epiphany that I have been accepted on here, I just post because I can

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met two regular posters and one less frequent poster. It made little difference to how welcome I felt. I started using the forum, joined in and enjoyed it. It is now almost exclusively why I continue to log onto the site. Am I accepted? I give the question little thought because I come on to read the interesting stuff, blow off a bit of steam by posting crap or expressing an opinion, have a bit of a laugh and every blue moon post something I feel might be of value to others.

I've fallen out with a couple of people but overall think my presence is of virtually no consequence, nor should it be.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP.

We felt accepted earlier this week .

It was a nice feeling

That's good to hear because I remember you saying in the past how you felt on the outside...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can relate to the OP's post and your experience.

I discovered the forums a few months after I joined and felt a little intimidated at first.

It didn't help when someone told me; "I don't talk to randoms".

Ffs how far up your own arse do you need to be to say something like that?

Got to admit it put me off participating for a while.

These days I give a lot less of a shit......

I do actively avoid the "kiss fuck, who would you miss" threads though, two touched a nerve a few weeks ago.

Perhaps I give more shits than I thought........

And being accepted on the forums is the same, I have never felt not accepted but I've also never had this epiphany that I have been accepted on here, I just post because I can

In the main I don't give a rats ass if I get a mention or not. I was having a bad day when I was stung.

The "I don't talk to randoms" comment was just plain rude. Dare I say cunty?

I post if I feel I can contribute, serious or inane drivel.

People like it or they don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This makes me sad

Anyone who posts and isn't rude is accepted, surely?

-Courtney

I suppose it depends on how people perceive the word 'accepted', what it means to them.

judging by countless posts in the past I think it's not uncommon at all for others to feel like the OP.

We felt accepted earlier this week .

It was a nice feeling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

What name did you have before?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some threads I feel part of the furniture, other times I feel like I'm just another poster, so to speak. Either way I don't worry too much

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"We have been posting here on and off for 7 years, and yes there are cliques here, but overall theres more that simply just join in and discuss things as a forum should be, but its the nature of the beast, that at times you disagree with a certain person and you are suddenly arguing with 4 or 5, rightly creating that cliquey feeling, of course they are there, personally we post for ourselves and have never felt a need to accept or be accepted. "

I've been here about the same time, there have always been accusations of cliques, but the regular posters are completely different now vs then.

So how can any clique possibly have survived?

Surely it's just that those that post the most recognise each other and naturally get to know each other a little better?

I've only been posting again for about three months, hardly anyone would remember my previous appearances, and yet I don't feel on the outside of anything....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can relate to the OP's post and your experience.

I discovered the forums a few months after I joined and felt a little intimidated at first.

It didn't help when someone told me; "I don't talk to randoms".

Ffs how far up your own arse do you need to be to say something like that?

Got to admit it put me off participating for a while.

These days I give a lot less of a shit......

I do actively avoid the "kiss fuck, who would you miss" threads though, two touched a nerve a few weeks ago.

Perhaps I give more shits than I thought........

And being accepted on the forums is the same, I have never felt not accepted but I've also never had this epiphany that I have been accepted on here, I just post because I can

"
Awwww I accept you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

unless you read all threads you will never notice everybody - several people that have posted on this one ive never noticed before and we have all been here for years

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Everyone is accepted, unless and until they are disrespectful to others or break site rules - timeouts or service suspension for serious errors.

I don't walk into the room and wonder how long till I'm accepted - I'm just there. I think my time here's been largely the same. I tried it out and love it here and don't think that you should take it seriously. I often don't have too much time spare, though occasional moments can be great. Most of us likely will never meet but others to me are no less tangible and real, as if we were workmates or friends from the pub or somewhere. I'm not one to restrict chat to non sexual stuff in the wider world, pretty much like my fab buddies.

I like the fact that many of us are really different from each other and the only confirming is a cluster creaming over someone's - and invariably it's a female - physical form. Wads of compliments shot out, detailing the perfection of some tits, an arse etc, as an aside within a thread that's discussing politics, car problems or something far removed a woman's cock-magnet features.

Some know me, I think some like me and probably some just about tolerate me. You don't need forum membership - though insurance is recommended, so once you start contributing, you are one of the clan. I think if anyone appeared and, like a wallflower at a dance, waited for some transitional event, which signified Official Forum Contributor status, they would wilt and shrivel.

Get in there. Speak up. Spill your seed of opinion and wisdom and some will lap it up, like a bukkake feast.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!"

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before."

I genuinely didn't notice You have a female profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before."

Oh yes, hello you!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before.

Oh yes, hello you!!

bloody hell - ive even met you - see what i mean about name changing and avators - my blonde head canny cope with it

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before.

Oh yes, hello you!!

bloody hell - ive even met you - see what i mean about name changing and avators - my blonde head canny cope with it

I feel like a

sneaking around pretending to be a man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If there was an option to 'Fab' posts, I think people would be pleasantly surprised that actually they aren't invisible, they aren't ignored, and some people do like what they have to say.

I do agree with that wish there was a *like button sometimes..

Me too...I often want to agree with something without just quoting and thumbing it and filling up a thread that way.

I've been posting for about a year. I don't think I post enough for people to remember me. Plus I've changed my name and avatar which never helps

I feel sometimes like I'm on the outside looking in, but that's more my personality I think.. I never feel confident in my social interaction skills

Not gonna lie - you confused me with your current avatar

I've grown very attached to this name and pic now! It's bad in clubs though when I get asked what my name is on fab..

If I asked your fab name and you told me

"It's mr lover man"

I couldn't resist replying "Shabba"

Hahahahaha me too

I'll be honest I do think you're a man, sorry!!

Hang on.. Let me check.. Nope, still got tits and a fanny

My friend changed his name to shabba ranks so I said I would be mr lover man. I like to be confusing

My name was Little Miss Rhia before.

Oh yes, hello you!!

bloody hell - ive even met you - see what i mean about name changing and avators - my blonde head canny cope with it

I feel like a

sneaking around pretending to be a man

i can confirm youre all woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on the forums over 3 years. I go through phases of being a regular to non existent. I don't care about "fitting in" if a post catches my eye I'll put my 2 pence worth in, if not I just read and move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I noticed you a while ago op.

I knew I was kinda accepted when I posted about a bad club experience and said I felt like giving up on my persona.

Fab forumites rallied round and boosted me up.

They've been brilliant ever since.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I noticed you a while ago op.

I knew I was kinda accepted when I posted about a bad club experience and said I felt like giving up on my persona.

Fab forumites rallied round and boosted me up.

They've been brilliant ever since.

To be honest Rachael to my mind you're a fab touchstone, you made me feel normal when working out my bi attractions and I'm inspired by your strength with regards to you working through your sexuality x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ironically tonight I was in a club and chatting to someone that I inexplicably recognised. When I said my fab name she squealed and hugged me because she liked me! I think that answered any question I might have had

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I noticed you a while ago op.

I knew I was kinda accepted when I posted about a bad club experience and said I felt like giving up on my persona.

Fab forumites rallied round and boosted me up.

They've been brilliant ever since.

I wrote earlier in the thread about a bad experience within the forums, your post reminds me to redress the balance.

I heartily endorse what you said, 99.99999999999% of the forumites are awesome people.

The amount of times I've seen them rally round someone in need is inspiring.

Most of the time strangers supporting strangers.

Inspiring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been on the forums for over a year now, with a break over the summer, and there are a core of forum users who posted regularly and know each other. I feel as though I'm just starting to get recognised but have a way to go before I'm a 'forumite.' When did folks feel that they'd been accepted so to speak?sometimes it does feel like if the face fits and all that x"

100% this. Have given up posting largely due to some rather unpleasant experiences on the forums. Indeed, very nearly left fab over it, till others - some of whom won't post anymore on the forums themselves due to similar experiences - convinced me not to walk over the attitude of others. J

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Indeed, very nearly left fab over it, till others - some of whom won't post anymore on the forums themselves due to similar experiences - convinced me not to walk over the attitude of others. J"

Odd?

You would think if someone takes the time to persuade a forum user to stay and not be pushed out that they'd not allow themselves to be pushes out either

It's just an internet discussion board which seems to be pretty tame compared to others out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Indeed, very nearly left fab over it, till others - some of whom won't post anymore on the forums themselves due to similar experiences - convinced me not to walk over the attitude of others. J

Odd?

You would think if someone takes the time to persuade a forum user to stay and not be pushed out that they'd not allow themselves to be pushes out either

It's just an internet discussion board which seems to be pretty tame compared to others out there

With respect your experiences are clearly different to what I - and others - have experienced. There are quite a few people on here who read the forums from time to time but won't participate due to arguments, trolling etc. You must have seen people get the proverbial kicked out of them on here. Do you think they will post again? If you haven't experienced it, be glad. It's not a nice experience. It is saddening how much venom there is at times.

There are also a few regular posters on here who disapprove on some of the behaviours on here but won't voice their concerns publicly but do so in private messages

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

We find them that send you a private message about your thread block us if they are having a go at us so you can not get back to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Indeed, very nearly left fab over it, till others - some of whom won't post anymore on the forums themselves due to similar experiences - convinced me not to walk over the attitude of others. J

Odd?

You would think if someone takes the time to persuade a forum user to stay and not be pushed out that they'd not allow themselves to be pushes out either

It's just an internet discussion board which seems to be pretty tame compared to others out there

There are also a few regular posters on here who disapprove on some of the behaviours on here but won't voice their concerns publicly but do so in private messages "

I've been on and off here for 7 years

Never experienced anything like it,maybe it's just differing personalities and sensitivities,I come on here for a giggle,I ignore confrontational people (and there are definitely a few of them)they're insignificant to me and my reasons for being on here

I take nothing personally as unless you've met me you don't know me,things get so easily taken out of context with just text,The forum is pretty well moderated too,plus you can report any post that you think breaks rules,I have seen some awful posts and I've seen that dealt with,I've also seen a massive sense of friendship and community as well even with people that aren't considered regulars

Anyway at least you're still posting

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

There are also a few regular posters on here who disapprove on some of the behaviours on here but won't voice their concerns publicly but do so in private messages "

my advice is stopping being the mouthpiece of the people who may sit on the sidelines bitching about posters, you may find some are on the sidelines because they can't post. Not all, but some have agendas.

just do your thing

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

We do

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