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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
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I think that if I'm in a mood where I'm in a particular mindset, that my opinion is the only opinion  then even if people try to make me feel better by saying the right things then my mood just exacerbates 
I get over it by realising I'm being daft sooner or later. I tend to make bread or some sort to randomly distract and not look at messages/phone etc for a while, give me an island anytime |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
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if the pic fills you will disgust.... delete it and take time to take another that you are happy with......
it is worth it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why was it only after that it filled you with disgust? If you where fine with it to send.
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It was one of those moments where I thought I should be okay with this because it's him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
if the pic fills you will disgust.... delete it and take time to take another that you are happy with......
it is worth it"
It's deleted and I will improve upon it later. It's definitely worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think that if I'm in a mood where I'm in a particular mindset, that my opinion is the only opinion then even if people try to make me feel better by saying the right things then my mood just exacerbates
I get over it by realising I'm being daft sooner or later. I tend to make bread or some sort to randomly distract and not look at messages/phone etc for a while, give me an island anytime "
Mmmmmm bread... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't send pics that haven't been scrutinised and passed my seal of approval first. I don't keep pics i don't like. Seems an odd thing to do if he's already seen you he knows what you look like. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
if the pic fills you will disgust.... delete it and take time to take another that you are happy with......
it is worth it
It's deleted and I will improve upon it later. It's definitely worth it."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't send pics that haven't been scrutinised and passed my seal of approval first. I don't keep pics i don't like. Seems an odd thing to do if he's already seen you he knows what you look like."
I'm usually the same for every pic I've ever sent there will be around 20 others deleted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of my pictures fill me with disgust , but strangely they get the most fabs .
I can't believe I've been involved in some of the stuff our pics portray 
Anyway back to the op ... I've lost count of the amount of pics my hubby posts which I then remove because they don't show me in my best light ....  |
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"Why was it only after that it filled you with disgust? If you where fine with it to send.
It was one of those moments where I thought I should be okay with this because it's him. "
and what do you think he could see in the picture that he hadn't already seen, I'm asking cause you said he's seen you naked in person.
When I put my new photos up I've decided to put one of me up with the weight loss affect on my body (not naked just knickers and bra) but I already feel empowered thinking about it |
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I often look at myself and think you look really hot today...sometimes I stand in the mirror and jiggle my stomach and think you need to get rid of this and sometimes I look and think God you look rough..but most of all I look and think you are ok.. I do love myself and it has taken a lot of years to do so and gone to rock bottom to achieve that..
We all self criticise ourselves on occasions and often are hard on ourselves but just remeber that people will love your imperfections even if you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why was it only after that it filled you with disgust? If you where fine with it to send.
It was one of those moments where I thought I should be okay with this because it's him. and what do you think he could see in the picture that he hadn't already seen, I'm asking cause you said he's seen you naked in person.
When I put my new photos up I've decided to put one of me up with the weight loss affect on my body (not naked just knickers and bra) but I already feel empowered thinking about it"
Well I've been seeing this person for many years and sometimes it's a bit of a giggle
Good for you on the weightloss |
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"Why was it only after that it filled you with disgust? If you where fine with it to send.
It was one of those moments where I thought I should be okay with this because it's him. and what do you think he could see in the picture that he hadn't already seen, I'm asking cause you said he's seen you naked in person.
When I put my new photos up I've decided to put one of me up with the weight loss affect on my body (not naked just knickers and bra) but I already feel empowered thinking about it
Well I've been seeing this person for many years and sometimes it's a bit of a giggle
Good for you on the weightloss "
so you shouldn't feel disgusted then |
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No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why was it only after that it filled you with disgust? If you where fine with it to send.
It was one of those moments where I thought I should be okay with this because it's him. "
Just because you think you should be ok with something doesn't mean you should feel bad if you aren't x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing. "
It's really hard sometimes to convince ourselves that not everybody _iews us the way we _iew ourselves x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing. "
Yes I'm with you on all of that. I admire people who just don't feel like that. I wish confidence came easier x |
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
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Maybe the cropped photos give you a certain sense of anonimity - and this uncropped one 'lays you all bare and vulnerable'...
You women tend to only see the worst in you - we men tend to see only the best. IMHO, that is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
Maybe the cropped photos give you a certain sense of anonimity - and this uncropped one 'lays you all bare and vulnerable'...
You women tend to only see the worst in you - we men tend to see only the best. IMHO, that is."
I think you're right on the feeling vulnerable. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing.
It's really hard sometimes to convince ourselves that not everybody _iews us the way we _iew ourselves x"
It is. Bad stuff is always easier to believe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So this morning I sent someone a naked photo. Shock horror!
Unlike all my other photos it was not filtered or cropped.
This person has seen me naked countless times when we have been together, I'm never normally that hung up with him aa I feel so comfortable with him.
Yet seeing this photo filled me with disgust after I sent it. No matter how much he reassures me that's still how I feel.
I'm sure there are many of us on here who at times feel the same way. So my question is how do you then make yourself feel better?
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it's a picture sexy just see it for what it is a likeness of you he already has knowledge of in the flesh xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing.
It's really hard sometimes to convince ourselves that not everybody _iews us the way we _iew ourselves x
It is. Bad stuff is always easier to believe x"
It is
I've had three Caesarians as a result of this my stomach is basically fucked, I have no muscle tone left as my stomach muscles have been cut open so many times, I just have a loose flabby belly and no matter what I do it will not go, I tried loosing weight and doing sit up etc but still I have the loose skin, even when I was a size 10 I had the deflated balloon belly look
I always think that when I get naked peoples eyes will be draws to my belly and because of this I find it hard to get fully naked, I feel very self conscious when I am and find it hard to relax and enjoy myself
Does it bother other people as much as it bothers me? To be honest I have no idea, nobody's ever commented on it bit that could be just because they are being polite, or maybe it does not bother them, who's knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can honestly say I don't like any of my photos.
When I joined I only had fully clothed photos on public and one cock pic in friends only.
After a few weeks I felt a little more confident that perhaps people see my photos differently to me so I added a few showing my body and have had a few fabs which makes me believe I might not look so bad after all.
I have no issue getting naked in person but just think I'm either in photogenic or crap at selfies.....to feel better I just look at my 24.5 stone fat pics |
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing.
It's really hard sometimes to convince ourselves that not everybody _iews us the way we _iew ourselves x
It is. Bad stuff is always easier to believe x
It is
I've had three Caesarians as a result of this my stomach is basically fucked, I have no muscle tone left as my stomach muscles have been cut open so many times, I just have a loose flabby belly and no matter what I do it will not go, I tried loosing weight and doing sit up etc but still I have the loose skin, even when I was a size 10 I had the deflated balloon belly look
I always think that when I get naked peoples eyes will be draws to my belly and because of this I find it hard to get fully naked, I feel very self conscious when I am and find it hard to relax and enjoy myself
Does it bother other people as much as it bothers me? To be honest I have no idea, nobody's ever commented on it bit that could be just because they are being polite, or maybe it does not bother them, who's knows "
that is why I've made the decision to post my belly picture in all its glory I'm not going out my way to make it worse but I'm going to give a true representation. I just want to lose the few lb to target then its going up along with other uptodate pics, I'm genuinely interested in the reaction it will get. In my head I've already got an idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I know exactly what pictures I like instantly and will delete the others from my camera instantly. This doesn't just relate to pictures of me, but all pictures I take.
I have the opposite problem though Op, others don't like my pics and want to see something different. All that is important to me is whether I like them. |
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"No advice other than I know how you feel and I think many of us do.
I can take 20 photos of myself and 19 will actively repulse me. There will be the one that doesn't, and that will be the one I might post. The other 19 will be deleted and never go anywhere whatsoever. Even to someone who has seen me naked in the flesh - I don't want to send them a fixed reminder of all the bad bits that while we're together in person I can convince myself they're not seeing.
It's really hard sometimes to convince ourselves that not everybody _iews us the way we _iew ourselves x
It is. Bad stuff is always easier to believe x
It is
I've had three Caesarians as a result of this my stomach is basically fucked, I have no muscle tone left as my stomach muscles have been cut open so many times, I just have a loose flabby belly and no matter what I do it will not go, I tried loosing weight and doing sit up etc but still I have the loose skin, even when I was a size 10 I had the deflated balloon belly look
I always think that when I get naked peoples eyes will be draws to my belly and because of this I find it hard to get fully naked, I feel very self conscious when I am and find it hard to relax and enjoy myself
Does it bother other people as much as it bothers me? To be honest I have no idea, nobody's ever commented on it bit that could be just because they are being polite, or maybe it does not bother them, who's knows "
I love looking at/touching/kissing a body that has 'character'. As such - your scars would never be a turn off. As for a few 'sags' here and there - it happens to us all eventually...it doesn't make up un-sexy... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sad to read some of the comments in here.
Nobody is perfect, i'm far from it, but love your body coz it's the only one you have. And really love it, look after it the best you can and then at least you know you're doing the best you can for yourself.
Some people aren't gonna love everything about you, well those people don't get to share your body then do they (not that they want to but hope you get what i mean). |
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