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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Just post..ignore the bullshit and use the forums how you want to use the, within the rules of course..

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

You've got perfect rounded breasts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well considering you choose to talk about Tasers, The Death Penalty and Muslims- which are incendiary subjects what do you expect?

Try Fluffy Bunnies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "
what is rounding ? If you mean pounced on for the content of your thread then some require more rounding than others but you should always have the courage of your conviction

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just post..ignore the bullshit and use the forums how you want to use the, within the rules of course..

What are the rules? Is rounding on people allowed? It seems to be. I personally feel it ought not to be

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

Sorry but what does 'rounding on' mean? Genuine question coz I've never heard it before.

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By *appyguy17Man over a year ago

walthamstow

Hi,

It can be a bit clicky on here.....but just post what you want and enjoy the reaction !!

People on here are like people anywhere..."a mixture".....x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? what is rounding ? If you mean pounced on for the content of your thread then some require more rounding than others but you should always have the courage of your conviction

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I post with what I believe authenticity, if people are outraged, feel rounded on and take offence that may be more to do with them rather than my words.I don't go out to be rude and hurtful, but I am not here living in a flowery, flowery world.

Although, if I feel the pack is circling, I have no issue calling them on that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well considering you choose to talk about Tasers, The Death Penalty and Muslims- which are incendiary subjects what do you expect?

Try Fluffy Bunnies.

Those were debates. Which are fine. No, it was BBWs that ended with my being rounded on. Amazingly

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By *moothies.Couple over a year ago

Woodthorpe

It's like life. Some people take the piss about everything and others disagree with everything.

It can be a good place for a laugh just don't take it all too seriously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

Are they being abusive or just expressing an opinion that happens to be shared?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I post with what I believe authenticity, if people are outraged, feel rounded on and take offence that may be more to do with them rather than my words.I don't go out to be rude and hurtful, but I am not here living in a flowery, flowery world.

Although, if I feel the pack is circling, I have no issue calling them on that.

And when the pack circles, as you put it, do you think it should be stopped?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well considering you choose to talk about Tasers, The Death Penalty and Muslims- which are incendiary subjects what do you expect?

Try Fluffy Bunnies.

Those were debates. Which are fine. No, it was BBWs that ended with my being rounded on. Amazingly"
oh for goodness sake a couple of people independently disagreed with you and questioned you, the "bullying and rounding up on your" is there for everyone to see to make there own minds up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry but what does 'rounding on' mean? Genuine question coz I've never heard it before."

Imagine a school playground where kids are shouting at one kid in the middle. Loads more kids keep joining the group.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Certain topics will cause outrage on here but nobody has to agree with anyone.

It's an open forum where everyone will have their own _iews and opinions.

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I've read part of your last three threads (too long to read them all lol) and can't see anywhere where you were rounded on? You asked for opinions and you got them.

Perhaps more specific examples are needed?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Although, if I feel the pack is circling, I have no issue calling them on that.

And when the pack circles, as you put it, do you think it should be stopped? "

It usually is but sometimes a little late., but that is down to the mods not being online or have so many to look through.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

I almost never start my own threads and often cancel posts without submitting for that same reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

"
well forums unfortunately are guilty of bullying sometimes the little clique of forumites that stick together are synonymous for it

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

and worth considering is, there are so many returners who know how it works and they know what causes outrage: lob in the bomb and watch the reaction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although, if I feel the pack is circling, I have no issue calling them on that.

And when the pack circles, as you put it, do you think it should be stopped? "

Depends. If it's a group of people with the same opinion, then no.

If it's a group of idiots just posting gleefully like a pack of wolves taking the piss... they really should have more self awareness.

If it's abusive report. If it's someone posting topics that are obviously going to be incendiary then surely expect people to give their opinion.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

well forums unfortunately are guilty of bullying sometimes the little clique of forumites that stick together are synonymous for it

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I'm not denying they are but have you actually read the thread he's referring to, a couple of people disagreed with something he said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down."

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Distributes hugs to everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is always gonna be a debate on any post . Would be rather boring if everyone agreed on everything

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

I almost never start my own threads and often cancel posts without submitting for that same reason."

this

There are quite a few people who stay off the forums because of this pack mentality.

Time to stop, people of fab?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them...."

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is always gonna be a debate on any post . Would be rather boring if everyone agreed on everything "

Debates are fine.

Think more of couple of kids in a playground having a fight. Couple of others join in for one kid, cheering and jeering the other one. More and more join in, now all jeering at the one kid.

That's not debate. It's rounding on someone or bullying.

It happens a lot on the forums.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"There is always gonna be a debate on any post . Would be rather boring if everyone agreed on everything

Debates are fine.

Think more of couple of kids in a playground having a fight. Couple of others join in for one kid, cheering and jeering the other one. More and more join in, now all jeering at the one kid.

That's not debate. It's rounding on someone or bullying.

It happens a lot on the forums."
are you still talking about the bbw thread?

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

You have to have a sense of humour and not take things to heart, not everybody on here wants to be serious - so ignore them or have a go back xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

well forums unfortunately are guilty of bullying sometimes the little clique of forumites that stick together are synonymous for it

I'm not denying they are but have you actually read the thread he's referring to, a couple of people disagreed with something he said"

I was talking in general, ok? Just used that thread from last night to highlight the issue. A better example could be used - two threads, same subject, guy called Ricky. Went on for two days

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

well forums unfortunately are guilty of bullying sometimes the little clique of forumites that stick together are synonymous for it

I'm not denying they are but have you actually read the thread he's referring to, a couple of people disagreed with something he said

I was talking in general, ok? Just used that thread from last night to highlight the issue. A better example could be used - two threads, same subject, guy called Ricky. Went on for two days"
right as long as weve cleared that up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know."

I agree with View.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel relureluctant post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

I don't think anyone should ever feel reluctant to post in a forum and would certainly feel mortified if I had influenced anyone to so feel, however, when topics are posted where people are going to have strong emotional based _iews I would advise some thought on how to word them and an acceptance that many won't share those _iews.

With regards to "rounding", I think its inevitable that where you have a number of regular posters in what is generally a transient community they are likely to share a number of base social and moral _iews.

When these are in opposition to your own I understand that it could feel as though you are being rounded upon.

I do think that the majority of regular posters in the forums will give their opinion on a thread but certainly won't make you feel unwelcome in more light hearted threads.

My advice, be who you are, don't take things to heart and join in!

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By *ibbyhunterCouple over a year ago

keighley

Debate and having a different point of _iew is what these forums are all about, it's the spelling police and bad grammar police that has me running for the hills,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's dawning on me that there's a lot of time wasters, clowns & sado's on here.. You just gotta try ignore the crap & enjoy the real...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them...."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

Rounding is when you express an opinion. Then one, then two, then 3,4,5.... appear like a pack of wolves, all having a go. Bullying, really, but most certainly rounding

well forums unfortunately are guilty of bullying sometimes the little clique of forumites that stick together are synonymous for it

I'm not denying they are but have you actually read the thread he's referring to, a couple of people disagreed with something he said"
which thread was that ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I have now read the bbw thread in its entirety and still can't see any rounding on anyone. I cam see some dollys that were thrown from their pram though.

All I saw was someone disagreeing with a point and a discussion ensuing which is what you wanted? You kept forcing the issue demanding an apology. Not everyone will agree with you.

Yes some threads on the same matter will have different responses demanding on who posts it, who is online and who responds. It's the way it works, you cannot police it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you really feel a post has crossed the line, always report. Sometimes they're dealt with, sometimes they're not.

I think there can be a bit of a groupthink mentality on occasion, but it's not always that. Sometimes people just have strong _iews on a topic, and it's not necessarily because of what other posters are saying.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

I am not rounding on you before I am accused but in 7 weeks have you actually seen what you have agreed with?

How have you determined who the mods are friendly with ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them...."

If you think the mods are letting people off etc report them to admin. Having said that. In the 5 years I've been posting I have never seen a thread be left open when it's clear it should be closed.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

When threads are contentious there will always be strong opinions, having your opinions challenged is not being 'rounded' on..

some on here and OP you've mentioned one are deliberately offensive and inflammatory and post things which whilst their opinion goes beyond what is acceptable to others and when challenged the fall back rather than give any facts or try to prove their point is to portray themselves as the victim ..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

"
do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Over the last 2 months of being on here I have noticed that there are a few types of posters.

1, the keyboard worrier. Ranting and raving.

2, the whats wrong with me posters.

3, the school boy who turns everything into sex. Ummm rounded like your breasts.

4, the serous poster who wants well reasoned answers to serious questions.

Not sure if there are more but it's a shame that the forums cannot be divided into these categories. Then you won't be rounded on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you put up a post that you truly believe in. Then you should just fight your beliefs and not worry if folk don't agree with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have now read the bbw thread in its entirety and still can't see any rounding on anyone. I cam see some dollys that were thrown from their pram though.

All I saw was someone disagreeing with a point and a discussion ensuing which is what you wanted? You kept forcing the issue demanding an apology. Not everyone will agree with you.

Yes some threads on the same matter will have different responses demanding on who posts it, who is online and who responds. It's the way it works, you cannot police it. "

I don't want to highlight that post as it was quite mild.

I'm talking in general. If you search for clique and read posts in those threads you will see there are many who are reluctant to post or have even given up posting for the reasons mentioned above. Further, I've had others contact me agreeing with what I've written so far

Debates are good but what is unacceptable is how the pack mentality takes over. And it does!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would feel jolly glum if some one was reluctant to post a thread or message in here.

I try to look at things positively and if there is a thread I disagree with I stay away or try to give my opinion in a thoughtful but honest way . And not one that's just a dig at the person who posted it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are we a nation of clypes it's a Scottish term ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would feel jolly glum if some one was reluctant to post a thread or message in here.

Great to hear. Hope others will feel the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well considering you choose to talk about Tasers, The Death Penalty and Muslims- which are incendiary subjects what do you expect?

Try Fluffy Bunnies.

Those were debates. Which are fine. No, it was BBWs that ended with my being rounded on. Amazingly"

You posted some contentious threads that will always get people talking and were happy to argue your point. Works both ways.

Your use of the word "Amazingly" is very telling above.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"It usually is but sometimes a little late., but that is down to the mods not being online or have so many to look through."

Where's Purehoneypot gone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It usually is but sometimes a little late., but that is down to the mods not being online or have so many to look through.

Where's Purehoneypot gone

I've been wondering the same thing.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I have now read the bbw thread in its entirety and still can't see any rounding on anyone. I cam see some dollys that were thrown from their pram though.

All I saw was someone disagreeing with a point and a discussion ensuing which is what you wanted? You kept forcing the issue demanding an apology. Not everyone will agree with you.

Yes some threads on the same matter will have different responses demanding on who posts it, who is online and who responds. It's the way it works, you cannot police it.

I don't want to highlight that post as it was quite mild.

Debates are good but what is unacceptable is how the pack mentality takes over. And it does! "

I am not going to post anymore on this thread as it just fuels the sideliners to message you....

the fact that you receive messages from others speaking about other posters and/or agreeing, does highlight your point but also what is wrong as well.... they are prepared to bitch about other posters but not say anything public in support of you. That says more about them sadly.

I can only speak for me, I have been here 8 years and enjoy it. I have had numerous timeouts that I have learned from. I have met one mod at a social for 10 mins. I have not exchanged a message with them for years.

Nor, do I proactively exchange messages with other forum posters, I am here for my enjoyment, not building friendships.

welcome and enjoy

I can't agree with all your posts, but I can't disagree with some of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

I don't mind people having a different opinion to me and telling me they don't agree so long as its done in a mature way but mostly on here it's not, they have to belittle you and put you down while disagreeing, then I find some follow you round the forums putting down everything you say for weeks after, and its nearly always the well knows regulars ( obviously not all im not suggesting all regulars do this)

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

and when people really piss me off, I take my dogs for a walk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

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That is very sad to hear. No one should be afraid to post x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Right op, ifmyou didn't keep referring to threads where what your talking a out didn't happen I might take you seriously.

Yes there is a pack mentality at times, there are a few (very few) posters that just get their bit between their teeth on certain posts and don't let up.

There are also threads that cause strong debate where sparks fly which is inevitable, there are also some some things that are said and I just think oh fucking hell.

Generally arguments will occur, most people on the forums (in my opinion) can have a row on one thread then agree on another.

A forum is like any other place a group of society congregate.

The mods do a good job bit can't always be online the rules are stricter now than they have ever been.

I'm a gobshite bit most people would say I'm a fair gobsnite and I certainly don't like to see the gang mentality.

But we've all had our fair share of shit on here.

If you post on a public forum you have no control over how a thread will turn out.

But you also need to put things in prospective and not over think trivial things

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

We can only hope

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

That is very sad to hear. No one should be afraid to post x"

Clearly some are.

So what can be done from here?

"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."

Who remembers those MTv ads?

Time we were all part of the solution?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know."

Im not naming names but their are certain people who regularly post spiteful vindictive attacks on threads and never get pulled up or have posts removed. Blocking should block interaction on forums to so you could blank their poison.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

Next time you feel like that, hit the post button not the delete one.

You may be pleasantly surprised.

I've posted threads that were well received and some that died on their arse.

I've contributed to threads and had all sorts of abuse and insult.

Just helps me find people I'd get on with and those I can hit the block button.

Use it as a filter.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

I think I know who you are on about. Every thread with sarcasm and a thin veneer of trolling played out as humour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

That is very sad to hear. No one should be afraid to post x

Clearly some are.

So what can be done from here?

"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."

Who remembers those MTv ads?

Time we were all part of the solution? "
I agree. If there are people who are afraid to post then maybe the mods need to look at why ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody."

Seriously you should see some of the hate mail I get from posts on here

I am quite thicked skinned but I do tone down a lot of what I say, I think the problem is because there is no emotion in font people take what you say the wrong way, if its face to face people can read how to take you from your facial expression, where as words don't have that

I have never deliberately tried to upset anybody but sometimes I say something as a joke and its taken the wrong way and i get a fair bit of hate mail

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

We have been on here under different profiles in the past. Some of the long term members have made bitchy uncalled for comments to us and others in various threads and nothing was done even when reported. Then far less severe comments were made by newer members were those same members suddenly take the moral highground and the thread suddennly gets closed. So clearly what they say goes and everyone else has to play along or stay away. Ill probably be chastised and rebuffed for saying this but from the pm's im getting Im far from alone in moticing it Im just the only one saying it outloud...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

We can only hope "
look the way I see it if a poster with their cock Tits or pussy on show tries to make a serious point on here it will beget derisive comment you can't take someone seriously when they are on show ,also the idiotic comments "do you fantasise about Fucking a pregnant woman " " yes I fucked my best mates pregnant wife behind his back" they will get what they deserve

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

We all get PMS agreeing with stuff we say some are more vocal on the forums than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

Exactly and mods let them do it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

We can only hope look the way I see it if a poster with their cock Tits or pussy on show tries to make a serious point on here it will beget derisive comment you can't take someone seriously when they are on show ,also the idiotic comments "do you fantasise about Fucking a pregnant woman " " yes I fucked my best mates pregnant wife behind his back" they will get what they deserve

If you're shallow enough not to take a serious comment in the way it's intended because an arse, cock or tits is their avatar, it says more about you than them.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody.

Seriously you should see some of the hate mail I get from posts on here

I have never deliberately tried to upset anybody but sometimes I say something as a joke and its taken the wrong way and i get a fair bit of hate mail

"
I hope you report this hate mail. That's bang out of order. I've never had any hate mail, must to abusive messages from a couple of guys that sent the same message to everyone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

Because they are still here day after day no time outs clearly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody.

Seriously you should see some of the hate mail I get from posts on here

I have never deliberately tried to upset anybody but sometimes I say something as a joke and its taken the wrong way and i get a fair bit of hate mail

That is horrible & undeserved.

I've had the opposite to be fair, where I've been accused of insulting someone in the forums & I've had private messages asking if I'm OK & saying they knew I wasn't being offensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

I think I know who you are on about. Every thread with sarcasm and a thin veneer of trolling played out as humour. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

No. I've noticed it too. You're not alone and I'm hoping this thread will encourage others to step forward

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody.

Seriously you should see some of the hate mail I get from posts on here

I have never deliberately tried to upset anybody but sometimes I say something as a joke and its taken the wrong way and i get a fair bit of hate mail

That is horrible & undeserved.

I've had the opposite to be fair, where I've been accused of insulting someone in the forums & I've had private messages asking if I'm OK & saying they knew I wasn't being offensive."
that's the same as I get

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

But you can't know that nothing was done. Maybe the thread wasn't pulled but the person was banned from the forums for a period of time. Admin don't go about shouting about who had been banned and what for etc.

As with all thinhs we do in our adult life there are choices. You can choose to be bothered by a handful of people hlwho get their kicks by typing out things you find offensive or you can choose to laugh at them and concentrate on those who enter into the spirit of the thread and give good discussion and debate.

One in particular for me springs to mind when a young guy with either aspergers or autism (I can't remember which) started a thread about love. A lot of people posted 'humourous' comments which had nothing to do with the op however I chose to only interact with him and have a reasoned, controlled discussion with him to understand the point he was trying to make.

You get idiots who like the sound of their own voice and think they are legends in their own lunch times everywhere, not just here and it is how you deal with them that directly impacts on your enjoyment of the environment uou are in. Be that real life situations or online ones where you can easily ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right op, ifmyou didn't keep referring to threads where what your talking a out didn't happen I might take you seriously.

Yes there is a pack mentality at times, there are a few (very few) posters that just get their bit between their teeth on certain posts and don't let up.

There are also threads that cause strong debate where sparks fly which is inevitable, there are also some some things that are said and I just think oh fucking hell.

Generally arguments will occur, most people on the forums (in my opinion) can have a row on one thread then agree on another.

A forum is like any other place a group of society congregate.

The mods do a good job bit can't always be online the rules are stricter now than they have ever been.

I'm a gobshite bit most people would say I'm a fair gobsnite and I certainly don't like to see the gang mentality.

But we've all had our fair share of shit on here.

If you post on a public forum you have no control over how a thread will turn out.

But you also need to put things in prospective and not over think trivial things"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

If you're shallow enough not to take a serious comment in the way it's intended because an arse, cock or tits is their avatar, it says more about you than them."
just expressing my opinion which I'm allowed to do am I not ,you've just made a judgement of me and you must know how that would feel if it were me doing it of you

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad."

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

You should report them, there is no need for that sort of behaviour and perhaps if you did then this 'gang' may fade away?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had hate mail because of my posts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody.

Seriously you should see some of the hate mail I get from posts on here

I have never deliberately tried to upset anybody but sometimes I say something as a joke and its taken the wrong way and i get a fair bit of hate mail

That is horrible & undeserved.

I've had the opposite to be fair, where I've been accused of insulting someone in the forums & I've had private messages asking if I'm OK & saying they knew I wasn't being offensive."

Oh yeah I get that too, I'm not suggesting I get nasty mail several times a day and that's all I get I'm just saying it has happened I have also had possative mail about posts

There are some lovely people on here but I do think there are a hand full who only seem to come on to put other people down

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

"
this thread is supposed to be about now can things change, if your going to put up with abuse messages then who can do anything about it? So your not helping

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well after nine years I've realised I'm not controversial enough as I've never had hate mail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are people who I think post some things that I think they should get forum timeouts for, and they don't seem to. But that's because I'm noticing those people because (usually) they've directed one of their cunty little comments at me in the past. There will be others I don't notice. We can be sensitive to specific things or topics and never even notice others.

I really don't think there's a big conspiracy of who does and doesn't get bans (other than that I always do which is clearly an outrage

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem? "

Does it really...in what way?..i think it says more about there reactions than mine ...i was agreeing with the OP...shes right...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

If you're shallow enough not to take a serious comment in the way it's intended because an arse, cock or tits is their avatar, it says more about you than them.just expressing my opinion which I'm allowed to do am I not ,you've just made a judgement of me and you must know how that would feel if it were me doing it of you

But I don't judge what people put on the forums based on their avatar pic.

How are you anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem? "

In all seriousness what happens if you do report it?

Even if they did ban them, which is highly unlikely give them a few minutes and they can be back with a new profile

Ideally reporting abusive people would solve the problem but im reality it makes no difference at all

Fab is a good site and they do their best but we can't expect them to solve every problem thrown at them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem?

Does it really...in what way?..i think it says more about there reactions than mine ...i was agreeing with the OP...shes right..."
but if your going to let people get away with stuff how can it be stopped?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't really seen any 'rounding on'.

But I do know if you put a post up on forum you have to be relaxed about how your post will go and the direction it takes.

I like the different opinions, some I would never have thought myself, it gives me a different perspective.

It seems to be when someone posts who is overly angry/aggressive then many forumites will pull them up! And I don't see anything wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

No Funnily enough, I don't. I just post what I like. I've disagreed with people on one thread and could agree with them on another one. I don't hold grudges.

Sj reigns me in when I get out of order. I accept that. I'll still post what I like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

You do know because the thread wasnt pulled and the person was still posting every day as always still being spiteful etc they wouldnt have been had they had a timeout would they.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

You do know because the thread wasnt pulled and the person was still posting every day as always still being spiteful etc they wouldnt have been had they had a timeout would they."
fair enough, I don't look to deeply into when someone is posting or not, to be honest most things just go over my head

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone is wrong and won't listen or appreciate the other side of the argument, i feel they deserve all they get.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

subtract all the private pm's people receiving from the personal agendas going on...

that will minimise the reluctance to post

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

You do know because the thread wasnt pulled and the person was still posting every day as always still being spiteful etc they wouldnt have been had they had a timeout would they.fair enough, I don't look to deeply into when someone is posting or not, to be honest most things just go over my head

The people Im talking about are prolific posters whose posts are in so many threads you can hardly not know they are here. Clearly Im not talking rubbish because others are guessing exactly who Im talking about. But Im stepping out now because nothings gonna change. This thread will soon close for being to long, the posters will continue to be nasty keyboard warriors and the mods will continue to let them do it so other than letting off steam and letting some of the more reasonable posters know some people are reluctant to post this thread will die and be forgotten...

"
there are a couple of posters that I have in my head that I call mood Hoover's I have no idea if they are the same ones or not, but the ones I'm talking about are so prolific at it (in my opinion) I just think they must have some serious issues going on in there lives, they just log in to find who they can have a go at that day but I have no idea if they get pulled up on it or not

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem?

In all seriousness what happens if you do report it?

Even if they did ban them, which is highly unlikely give them a few minutes and they can be back with a new profile

Ideally reporting abusive people would solve the problem but im reality it makes no difference at all

Fab is a good site and they do their best but we can't expect them to solve every problem thrown at them

no we cant but if they have repeat offenders that are banned a number of times they give out lifetime bans (i know one person who got one!). They can also suspend accounts etc but if they are not made aware of the problem then those actions cannot be taken.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I made an interesting observation this morning with the 'pairing up' forum members threads. There was somebody who normally posts on these types of threads that it's the clique and distances themselves from it. Now, they were mentioned several times as someone to be paired up. This has clearly had a positive impact as they joined in, rather than comment negatively.

That's a positive out of a perceived negative.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

I have no idea who anyone is talking about

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

do you have any evidence to back this up? Who are the mods friends? What rules have they broken?

Have you read the forum rules?

I might not like what the mods say sometimes but I think they are fair, they are also volunteers and not online 24 hours away.

this

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I've had a few hate messages from people after i've commented on posts...and it hasnt been from the OP...so yes i do think theres a gang on here...i think we know who they are

Report the messages if they are that bad.

Nah not worth it tbh...im one of the thick skinned ones...and besides they usually block me

So you think there is a problem but can't be bothered to do anything about it? Surely that makes you part of the problem?

Does it really...in what way?..i think it says more about there reactions than mine ...i was agreeing with the OP...shes right..."

you really cant see how it make you part of the problem? you wan the site to do something about nasty people yet dont report those who are nasty? i am not sure how much clearer i can make it to be honest.

yes their reactions are wrong but to allow them to continue doing it is also wrong and we all know two wrongs dont make a right.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I made an interesting observation this morning with the 'pairing up' forum members threads. There was somebody who normally posts on these types of threads that it's the clique and distances themselves from it. Now, they were mentioned several times as someone to be paired up. This has clearly had a positive impact as they joined in, rather than comment negatively.

That's a positive out of a perceived negative."

every cloud eh _iew

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had 5 forum timeouts in 6 weeks for different reasons.

I'm not subtle when I have a dig at some one though.

Others are more so. They're the ones who live and die for fab. Some people just need to get a life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a positive out of a perceived negative."

But were they someone who posted a negative in a "woe is me, no one fancies me, it's all the usual names" way? So getting a pair up was probably the point of their post? There are a few individuals I can think of where this is their MO.

(Genuine question, haven't read the threads so don't know who you're talking about.)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ps

I've had 5 forum timeouts in 6 weeks for different reasons.

I'm not subtle when I have a dig at some one though.

Others are more so. They're the ones who live and die for fab. Some people just need to get a life.

People who make a play of the fact they deliberately stay just the right side of the rules amuse me - they must expend a lot of effort caring enough to want to post something cunty without getting banned. Or maybe I'm just annoyed they're better at it than me

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

That's a positive out of a perceived negative.

(Genuine question, haven't read the threads so don't know who you're talking about.)"

No, I can honestly say they don't come across that way at all, they seem strong & independent.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Just post..ignore the bullshit and use the forums how you want to use the, within the rules of course..

What are the rules? Is rounding on people allowed? It seems to be. I personally feel it ought not to be "

I think it depends what you say. Whilst I would defend your right to express what you feel by posting in the form I would also defend the right of others to say they disagree and point out the fallacies in your comments. However I do agree with you that resorting to personal insults and ridicule does not lead to healthy discussion and should be frowned on regardless which side of any argument it comes from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a positive out of a perceived negative.

(Genuine question, haven't read the threads so don't know who you're talking about.)

No, I can honestly say they don't come across that way at all, they seem strong & independent.

That does sound a positive thing then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people feel they are being picked on because others don't share the same _iewpoint. Often when one person states an alternative _iew, others can post and agree with that so it may look like a 'rounding on' situation.

However some people do respond to threads in an aggressive or rude manner ie put wtf at the start or end of their post. It is an ignorant thing to do but people will respond how they wish.

I always stipulate that you should never feel put off by others, challenge those you feel are inappropriate and be confident in posting your true opinion. It is a forum for discussion and it doesn't matter who agrees and who doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can this be summed up as "I posted some wildly unpopular _iews and am annoyed that more people disagreed than agreed"?

Cause it's always contextual;

if I say mushroom fried rice is the best!" (It's not special is but we'll go with it) I'd expect some disagreement but several people "rounding on" and repeatedly attacking the opinion wouldn't be on.

However if I say "we should never have let black people into europe"* it would be perfectly acceptable for a large number of people to a post against it and at length as it's a position which would be against the vast majority of people's opinions as well as being one that most would tend to argue over.

So as usual with these kinds of threads context/specifics are needed but they never get mentioned as the op usually knows it will show them in a bad light so keeps it vague.

*I don't belive this BTW it's just racism is an easy go to subject for broadly offending people

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

What I dislike is being one of the majority disagreeing with the OP, then being accused of being part of a clique/pack. As if I don't have my own mind and voice. If I think the OP is wrong I will say so, I don't care what anyone else thinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ps

I've had 5 forum timeouts in 6 weeks for different reasons.

I'm not subtle when I have a dig at some one though.

Others are more so. They're the ones who live and die for fab. Some people just need to get a life.

Maybe. I really don't bother analysing everything that happens here. I'll be outraged one minute and laughing the next. If people wanna take my comments personally given I don't know them and they don't know me, thats their problem.

No one has to justify why they're here.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

It's also depends on how it's interpreted by the posters. On the thread in question, I made comment that you were most likely speaking from personal experience (which lets face it is how personal opinion is normally developed) and therefore meant no offence by it, but you choose to go on the defensive of the negative comments instead of focusing on the positive ones, so it's arguable that you could have archostrated your own downfall on the thread, by making the choice you did

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Debate and having a different point of _iew is what these forums are all about, it's the spelling police and bad grammar police that has me running for the hills,"

It should have been a full stop after 'about' and a capital letter for "it's"

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "
As fab is a cyber world you can post anything that you like . Posting on a forum is entirely different to having a conversation in real life . Who cares about derogatory comments on the internet . ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? As fab is a cyber world you can post anything that you like . Posting on a forum is entirely different to having a conversation in real life . Who cares about derogatory comments on the internet . ? "

The people who wrote the malicious communications act?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most people know you're spot on OP.

Plus the mods are too busy closing interesting threads, leaving us to discuss what size tits we prefer.

That's why these forums are dying on their arse, interesting posters left long time ago

There you go, T&A in one post. S'easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's also depends on how it's interpreted by the posters. On the thread in question, I made comment that you were most likely speaking from personal experience (which lets face it is how personal opinion is normally developed) and therefore meant no offence by it, but you choose to go on the defensive of the negative comments instead of focusing on the positive ones, so it's arguable that you could have archostrated your own downfall on the thread, by making the choice you did "

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ps

I've had 5 forum timeouts in 6 weeks for different reasons.

I'm not subtle when I have a dig at some one though.

Others are more so. They're the ones who live and die for fab. Some people just need to get a life.

No this isn't true. The reason people don't get timeouts is because they are better communicators and don't have to resort to 'having digs' at people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?"

just press the OPs green arrow find the BBW thread, open your pop corn and enjoy it while you read.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?

just press the OPs green arrow find the BBW thread, open your pop corn and enjoy it while you read."

Ahh so yes catagory B, person makes widely insulting remark and then feels hard done to when people are offended.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Getting worked up over a few words on a screen lol.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

I sometimes refrain from posting because the ignorance/bigotry displayed annoys me so I avoid such threads.

At 55, I'd have a serious word with myself if I was afraid to post my opinions on a forum of anonymous strangers in case they were "nasty" to me.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Just post..ignore the bullshit and use the forums how you want to use the, within the rules of course..

What are the rules? Is rounding on people allowed? It seems to be. I personally feel it ought not to be "

Do you mean lots of people not agreeing with a subject ?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them...."

You know that really is insulting the unbiased mods on here. Plus, when did mods ever have friends, they don't call us Billy for nothing you know

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm really surprised at this as I've always thought you to be very sure of yourself on here, very level headed and to not take any bullshit from anybody."

This.

I'd feel the forum would have lost a thoughtful and level headed poster if she no longer posted. She's one of the ones I always look to as a voice of reason and sense.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?

just press the OPs green arrow find the BBW thread, open your pop corn and enjoy it while you read.

Ahh so yes catagory B, person makes widely insulting remark and then feels hard done to when people are offended. "

i dont think anyone was offended by it they just disagreed with it

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

I'm not sure how that would or could work.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Most people know you're spot on OP.

Plus the mods are too busy closing interesting threads, leaving us to discuss what size tits we prefer.

That's why these forums are dying on their arse, interesting posters left long time ago

There you go, T&A in one post. S'easy "

i see way more threads on here about politics, current events etc than i do ones about tits and arses. i learn most of whats going on in the world from here as i dont watch news programmes or read newspapers lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?

just press the OPs green arrow find the BBW thread, open your pop corn and enjoy it while you read.

Ahh so yes catagory B, person makes widely insulting remark and then feels hard done to when people are offended.

i dont think anyone was offended by it they just disagreed with it"

I've read it to see what everyone was talking about and I don't really think it was "widely insulting" either. So is this entire thing just a storm in a tea cup?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the mods think it's getting spiteful or personal or going against the rules, they will remove certain posts or close the thread down.

Unless its the mods friends breaking them....

in all the time that I have been here, I don't believe I have seen that. I don't know who the mods friends are, so I wouldn't know.

I'm not sure how that would or could work."

It would make most threads nonsensical to me because of the size of my block list!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"What I dislike is being one of the majority disagreeing with the OP, then being accused of being part of a clique/pack. As if I don't have my own mind and voice. If I think the OP is wrong I will say so, I don't care what anyone else thinks."

and if you protest as such you get the old 'the lady doth protest too much' arguement

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Oh was there a specific thread this is about?it been deleted?

just press the OPs green arrow find the BBW thread, open your pop corn and enjoy it while you read.

Ahh so yes catagory B, person makes widely insulting remark and then feels hard done to when people are offended.

i dont think anyone was offended by it they just disagreed with it"

Perhaps my use of the word offence was too strong/misplaced but hopefully you understood what I meant by my OP

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Most people know you're spot on OP.

Plus the mods are too busy closing interesting threads, leaving us to discuss what size tits we prefer.

That's why these forums are dying on their arse, interesting posters left long time ago

There you go, T&A in one post. S'easy "
I see no evidence the forums are dying, forums go through phases sometimes good sometimes not, one day it can be full of negativity and one day everyone joining in and having a laugh.

I've been here 9 years, its like a revolving door people come and go all the time, and I can honestly say out of the long term regular posters over the years that have left it isn't because of the forums and they can't be that bad because we are all still here posting. One person leaves another will join, that's life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts?

There are loads of times I write a post and delete is last minute in fear of the abuse and put downs from other people

Your not really allowed an opinion on here unless it goes with the masses

Best to keep your opinions to yourself unless your thick skinned

I'm genuinely sorry to hear it but understand completely. Thanks for taking the time to express that so much more eloquently and elegantly than I have.

Hopefully the posters throughout the forums will take notice.

But I don't judge what people put on the forums based on their avatar pic.

How are you anyway?"
I'm good, I'm not judging an avatar just seeing the ridiculousness of making a serious point with your nuts pussy or Tits on show ,makes me laugh so the comment I will sometimes make may be based upon this or maybe we should see our ministers in Westminster debating serious political issues naked ,how seriously would we take them if they did this xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

I care about derogatory comments in a forum in exactly the same way as I care about them in real life.

I don't see the interaction any differently, regardless of whether it's a forum persona or someone I'm in the same room with.

It's still a person with feelings and emotions, thoughts and sensitivities.

Words are the most powerful and important tools we have as human beings.

And yet we have such a poor grasp of their power and often use them with total indifference.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"Anyone ever, like me, feel reluctant to post for fear of being 'rounded on'? Is 'rounding on' posters acceptable under Fab rules?

I am all for debate and the expression of differing points of _iew, but feel that often threads generate into glorified bun fights?

What are others' thoughts? "

I couldn't care less what others think I just post my honest _iews and opinions regardless. I've never felt reluctant to post anything, freedom of speech is a right and a privilege in this country so use it (as long as you stay within the forum terms of use otherwise you could get a ban).

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"There are people who I think post some things that I think they should get forum timeouts for, and they don't seem to. But that's because I'm noticing those people because (usually) they've directed one of their cunty little comments at me in the past. There will be others I don't notice. We can be sensitive to specific things or topics and never even notice others.

I really don't think there's a big conspiracy of who does and doesn't get bans (other than that I always do which is clearly an outrage

Wonder why I don't get any bans? I nearly always either say the same things as you or agree with what you say. Could the mods not only be part of this clique but sexist to?

The conspiracy just keeps on growing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes i feel emotional that so many of you are so very, very wrong.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Ok a few points before I shut this as it is just giving a platform to have digs about people, which is ironic really.

I would be the first to say there is sometimes a pack mentality on here as it would be stupid of me not to seeing as though I stop threads and ask people to stop it on threads....having said that, sometimes if a few people disagree with someone on a thread they get called a pack of wolves for that too, when clearly it isn't.

You have to accept if you get into a debate there will be some who don't agree with you, if it upsets you it is best to log off for a while.

If you think threads are breaking rules then please report so it can be checked out.

Mods/ Admin don't advertise when people are banned so unless that person mentioned it no one would know.

If you tot up a few bans you could end up with a perm.

Attacking mods / disputing mods decisions on the forum is against rules. Send your feedback to Admin from the CONTACT button instead.

Time to shut now, if you want to dispute that use the CONTACT button please

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