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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have no problem meeting married people if they are up front.

I would not meet someone who was married and went on and on about it constantly and those that get upset and try and justify themselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no problem meeting married people if they are up front.

I would not meet someone who was married and went on and on about it constantly and those that get upset and try and justify themselves"

As above x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hers the thing many meet and dont relise that whom they are meeting is married...alot more married folk playing away on here than most relise but the men get the backlash the women dont.... same with those who state they will not play with bi guys well the chance's are you have ...people will always lie to get what they want and its not alway the guys,....mrs rip

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 women will stop chatting

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By *olfcartweaselCouple over a year ago

Melrose

We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll meet married women who's husbands allow them to play and I've heard it from him directly. It she is looking to cheat then it get's a bit more complicated and I'd need to know why she is doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always up front about being married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 women will stop chatting "

I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 men don't stop chatting...

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

"I have no problem meeting married people if they are up front.

I would not meet someone who was married and went on and on about it constantly and those that get upset and try and justify themselves"

Same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hers the thing many meet and dont relise that whom they are meeting is married...alot more married folk playing away on here than most relise but the men get the backlash the women dont.... same with those who state they will not play with bi guys well the chance's are you have ...people will always lie to get what they want and its not alway the guys,....mrs rip"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 women will stop chatting "

This is exactly my point.

If the female was the cheat then all is good still, but ius blokes get the sharp end of the knife.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for me. I'd offer them friendship & possibly a social meet - if they were open about being married, but nothing more. I've naively been "the other woman" before and I wouldn't make that mistake again.

Also - I try not to judge married people on here on face value. They clearly have their own reasons.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Oh so true but it is what is no need to moan about it life's far to short in my opinion .

P's wasn't inferring you where moaning just saying .

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple over a year ago

Aberdeen

Personally we wouldn't meet anyone who is in a relationship where the other party has no idea. No judgement but we just don't need to be part of any drama

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Twisted....

Thank you for your honesty!

Yes we do all have reasons for why we play away, some are genuine, some are just greedy buggers!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big no for us.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

probably down to the ratios, certainly more 'single' men who may be married than 'single' women, also its very rare you get a married woman blaming their unaware partner for why they are here but some men do and that is reprehensible with most people..

just get on with it..

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By *ugh Jarse 69Man over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

its on my profile that im in a relationship so i guess im upfront about it. i also have no qualms about meeting a married lady. Turns me on even more if its behind her husbands back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses "

as above. In addition i had a phone call this morning from a woman wanting to know who I was and how come my number was on her partners phone. I told her the truth I won't lie to hide another person's deception when I have only met once and for a social at that.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

would you have done the same ting had you had sex with him?

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By *essiCouple over a year ago

suffolk

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

Trusting is a major player in this and having permission from your partner is one thing, how you prove if is another...

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

Most of the men I have had sex with have been married AND their wives knew all about it and gave their consent.

But if your question is would I fuck married and cheating behind their partners back?

No, not knowingly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but its a fact that people like to think they are doing the right thing but you never will.. its swinging its about having sex with others ...you go to a club you see someone single mid 30s and thinks oh very nice i fancy a play with him/her so your in the darkroom and rather than just play you say hey are you married...erm no you dont you just play...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

Trusting is a major player in this and having permission from your partner is one thing, how you prove if is another..."

signed and notarised affidavit, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no problem meeting married people if they are up front.

I would not meet someone who was married and went on and on about it constantly and those that get upset and try and justify themselves"

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I don't question people's motives. If they are married and happy to meet its there choice.

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By *essiCouple over a year ago

suffolk

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

Trusting is a major player in this and having permission from your partner is one thing, how you prove if is another...

signed and notarised affidavit, lol"

And this would be kept where prey tell ...

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

with my feet firmly on the ground and there are no horses in close proximity.............

No.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

Trusting is a major player in this and having permission from your partner is one thing, how you prove if is another...

signed and notarised affidavit, lol

And this would be kept where prey tell ...

tattooed across ones bottom..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I prefer single guys but I'm sure I have played with married men and not known mainly in clubs, I guess it's on a case by case situation with me whether I would meet a married man..

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

I have met and would meet married men, as long as they were honest about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have met and would meet married men, as long as they were honest about it"

Honest in what way?

Tell you they are cheating?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meet and have met married men.

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By *ugh Jarse 69Man over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"I have met and would meet married men, as long as they were honest about it"

im honest about it, and if only i'd seen this 3 months ago as was in Hastings. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met both, both socially and sexually

My moral compass does sway on this matter

To me, there is a difference between someone in a complicated marital situation and someone just after a quick leg over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have no interest in meeting cheaters, but would happily meet men or women with permission from their spouses

Trusting is a major player in this and having permission from your partner is one thing, how you prove if is another...

signed and notarised affidavit, lol

And this would be kept where prey tell ...

tattooed across ones bottom..

In the cloud, in a private account, lol

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By *anchestercubMan over a year ago

manchester & NI

I've lost count by now.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I prefer single guys but I'm sure I have played with married men and not known mainly in clubs, I guess it's on a case by case situation with me whether I would meet a married man.."

there's just no way you would know. I would never actively choose to meet someone in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im married and do this.

For two reasons miss group fun

And the thrill of a new partner and feel it's safer to do this with people that separate sex for a relationship could get off with people in the everyday world but think it would get complicated too easily as maybe they looking for more than a bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have and do. But I won't meet anyone who wants to meet me BECAUSE I'm married, e.g. who fetishises the fucking someone else's wife thing.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry but I wouldn't knowingly, I may have unknowingly though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have and do. But I won't meet anyone who wants to meet me BECAUSE I'm married, e.g. who fetishises the fucking someone else's wife thing."

I get so many of those messages

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Im married and do this.

For two reasons miss group fun

There are plenty on here looking for more though even some that say they aren't so it's still a risk

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"I have met both, both socially and sexually My moral compass does sway on this matter "

We sleep at night..do they ? connie x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no issue with it.....before FAB I did. I like the fellows who are honest about it...makes it easier to chat and be open. The fellows could lie...one social he complained how hard it was for single men on here, yes complained not just conversation. Then after we engaged he jumped up and said he had to be home by 8pm or all hell would break loose...he was married...I felt conned. Had he been up front it gives me the choice...I would like that level of respect. If they are married they are careful about protection and I am assured of NSA and we can chat about home life without restriction. There is irony in the honesty thing I understand however I can deal with it, I'm an adult. Would you rather he lie in order to make you feel better? I wouldn't xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 women will stop chatting "

I firmly believe it depends on the man in question.

If he's hot, sexy, popular then that prerequisite often fade into the background....

Same applies to the women on here.

Happens all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no issue with it.....before FAB I did. I like the fellows who are honest about it...makes it easier to chat and be open. The fellows could lie...one social he complained how hard it was for single men on here, yes complained not just conversation. Then after we engaged he jumped up and said he had to be home by 8pm or all hell would break loose...he was married...I felt conned. Had he been up front it gives me the choice...I would like that level of respect. If they are married they are careful about protection and I am assured of NSA and we can chat about home life without restriction. There is irony in the honesty thing I understand however I can deal with it, I'm an adult. Would you rather he lie in order to make you feel better? I wouldn't xxx"

Yea that stinks I have had play meets and had lots of fun a cuddles and holding after sex it's nice to do that too it does not mean any more or any less then the sex prefer to have the time to play all night sometimes I can sometimes I can't but when I do its always better x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do and couldn't care less.

Their choice.

Only problem is it's difficult for them to be spontaneous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

aslong as hes upfront about it then ive no problems in meeting married men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do and couldn't care less.

Their choice.

Only problem is it's difficult for them to be spontaneous. "

Same. I don't feel that someone else's marriage is any of my business.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

Im married, its in my profile, also that I prefer to meet single men, but I do seem to attract married men, I dont know why as it doesnt seem too easy to meet them. When I am free, they are not. I have met married men from here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll meet married women who's husbands allow them to play and I've heard it from him directly. It she is looking to cheat then it get's a bit more complicated and I'd need to know why she is doing it."

Why do you need to know, either you meet cheaters or you don't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have done, do & will continue to do so - in not the married one they are - men or women - sometimes a marriage is just a comfort blanket for financial reason or for the sake of the kids & then when they hang up thier wayward ways, they still have got it - each to their own

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I do not want to meet married or attached guys. Have done in the past but won't now.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I don't knowingly meet married men playing without permission - and I do ask. I am playing with my lovers permission, but no one has ever asked about that!

I do not want the hassle of an upset spouse blaming me for it, and having been cheated on in the past, is not something I would put someone else through.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes meet with married women is more simple and effective for me. Married people know what they want, they not looking for new husband or new wife. Simply and easy.

I like married women because they know what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I've met married women.

I'm no one's moral guardian on here and everyone has their reasons.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I like married women because they know what they want. "

And us singles are idiots who haven't got a clue?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have met a married lady from here, she hasn't logged on for some time, but that was her decision and I had no qualms in taking her to a place that her husband quite obviously could not

Do I have regrets? Non at all, she instigated proceedings and I was happy to oblige

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

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By *ames GentlyMan over a year ago

cannock

I am married and I don't hide it from people in the messages I send in fab.

It's not right and if we apply morals then there are lots of things that I are right.

But by being on fab and swinging I am not looking for a a full blown affair that will lead to families being split up and heart ache. I'm looking for caring times with people who have the same outlook on life. Not owning them to caring enough to stay in touch listen to them talk about the world give an opinion if asked for and enjoy the delights.

The thing I think is I'm not looking to spoil the ladies life or if I meet a couple to break up the couple and run off with the lady because I'm married so am I not safer to get to know?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no problem meeting married people if they are up front.

I would not meet someone who was married and went on and on about it constantly and those that get upset and try and justify themselves"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like married women because they know what they want. "

As do single ladies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like married women because they know what they want.

And us singles are idiots who haven't got a clue?

That's not what he said now is it, he was answering the question as why he liked meeting married women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes the only time I've said no is when I've asked why and they said there bored of sex at home but get plenty.

I'm married and upfront about it and have met married people

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I've played with married single and one woman suffering from a terminal illness .

I've had long term fuck buddy arrangements with all three and I can say the morals of all three were normal nun of them were suddenly second class citizens less trust worthy or what ever because they were cheating or playing wth a cheat .

In fact I'd say they were all warm empathetic individuals who because of there life out look were very attractive individuals in there own right .

But hay I'm a married man so I would say that about people who are willing to play with married people wouldn't I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have and meet married women and I got no problems with it, anything to make them feel special few hours away from their hubby

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By *ames GentlyMan over a year ago

cannock

I am married and I don't hide it from people in the messages I send.

It's not right I know that but if we apply morals then there are lots of things that are not right.

But by being on fab and swinging I am not looking for a a full blown affair that will lead to families being split up and heart ache.

I'm looking for caring fun times with people who have the same outlook on life. Being genuine enough to stay in touch not just a one night stand. To listen, to talk them about the world family what ever it is that takes you away from vanilla life. So that I can understand the mind that leads to their enjoyment the delight of the body.

The thing is I'm not looking to spoil the ladies life or if I meet a couple to break up the couple and run off with the lady. I'm married so am I not safer to get to know?

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"I'm married so am I not safer to get to know?

I'm not sure of the reasoning behind this... married men are just as capable of falling for someone outwith their marriage... and not safer at all if an upset/aggrieved spouse comes to find the lady you have been playing with.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Sometimes meet with married women is more simple and effective for me. Married people know what they want, they not looking for new husband or new wife. Simply and easy.

I like married women because they know what they want. "

Quite a laughable statement for two reasons. First, A married woman is capable of falling for you and making things complicated and second, as I single woman I can tell you I know exactly what I want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like married women because they know what they want.

And us singles are idiots who haven't got a clue?

That's not what he said now is it, he was answering the question as why he liked meeting married women.

I'm not sure why people are taking offense at this? It makes perfect sense to me as a rationale. It can be easier to meet someone in the same situation as yourself, with the same stakes as yourself because you're going into it with the same expectations.

Also if they're meeting each other it stops cheaters contaminating the rest of the Fab pool...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always inform that I'm married early on, and 99 out of 100 women will stop chatting "
same here they look at my profile and that's it , but every ones can chose and I don't hold against them .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't meet a married man. If I even slightly suspect I cut off contact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like married women because they know what they want.

And us singles are idiots who haven't got a clue?

That's not what he said now is it, he was answering the question as why he liked meeting married women.

Also if they're meeting each other it stops cheaters contaminating the rest of the Fab pool...

Hahahahaha, classic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" It can be easier to meet someone in the same situation as yourself, with the same stakes as yourself because you're going into it with the same expectations.

Also if they're meeting each other it stops cheaters contaminating the rest of the Fab pool...

This is very true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like married women because they know what they want.

And us singles are idiots who haven't got a clue?

That's not what he said now is it, he was answering the question as why he liked meeting married women.

Also if they're meeting each other it stops cheaters contaminating the rest of the Fab pool...

"
That's the second time in as many days I've been referred to as a disease

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

A lot of singles won't meet married people not just because of morals. It's also because a relationship is less likely to happen if that person is attached and more likely to be complicated.

Some people here would love a relationship to bloom from Fabs, particularly if this is one of their main outlets when it comes to seeking others. So engaging with people who are married is waste of time. Play with other singles and build from there as it's less aggro.

However, I highlight LESS as this is still Fabs and can still be complicated whether the person is attached or not!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am married and I don't hide it from people in the messages I send in fab.

It's not right and if we apply morals then there are lots of things that I are right.

The thing I think is I'm not looking to spoil the ladies life or if I meet a couple to break up the couple and run off with the lady because I'm married so am I not safer to get to know?"

Not if the wife finds out no you're not safer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman over a year ago

Back where I belong

I don't have a problem meeting married men, as long as they are honest x

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By *km45Man over a year ago

UTTOXETER

I would only prefer to meet married ladies as part of couple. I would have to be pretty convinced to meet one alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married or gf have no problem in meeting. If they wana cheat that's up to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together "
That's what gets me too, with either gender. Guilt makes them feel bad, and makes me feel bad. Unless they're total gits in which case it's just me that's left feeling bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

That's what gets me too, with either gender. Guilt makes them feel bad, and makes me feel bad. Unless they're total gits in which case it's just me that's left feeling bad."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

That's what gets me too, with either gender. Guilt makes them feel bad, and makes me feel bad. Unless they're total gits in which case it's just me that's left feeling bad."
We just could not do it to each other,swinging for a couple is based on honesty...............most are just wankers on here looking for a fuck or cowardly women scared to leave a meal ticket...anyone disagree?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies. "

Well said

Have seen the middle part played out in the forums on more than one occasion......

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By *histler21Man over a year ago

Ipswich

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I've met some married ladies. Hopefully, I will continue to do so in the future. They are consenting adults who are there for their own reasons - I respect them without question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

"
think the hardened swingers at the F&G emporiums don't really care as they don't have any connection or want any to the person they fuck the people looking for a little more from a partner would mostly care

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

That's what gets me too, with either gender. Guilt makes them feel bad, and makes me feel bad. Unless they're total gits in which case it's just me that's left feeling bad.We just could not do it to each other,swinging for a couple is based on honesty...............most are just wankers on here looking for a fuck or cowardly women scared to leave a meal ticket...anyone disagree?"

A meal ticket? Hmm that's the second time this week I've seen wives/married women described in this manner - because obviously none of us could possibly earn our own money and are just leeching off our husbands.

So I'll put my hands up as someone who disagrees

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies. "

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

Yes me,

I don't know the reasons they are meeting or want to meet other people or don't leave the person they are with so I don't judge them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

I definitely disagree with the meal ticket statement I earn more, i bought our house. I do this because I like sex and hubs isn't a fan simples...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated."

I've met a good few married bods over the years, and not one has ever encountered the kind of dramatic fall out that gets trotted out here. I don't mean that to sound cocky and I can completely understand people not wanting to involve themself with meeting a married man or woman but I do think the scorned wife or husband on the doorstep thing is grossly overstated in terms of likelihood of occurring. Equally as possible for difficulties, jealousies or complications to creep in between an openly swinging couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated."

Difference of opion, which is fair enough, but you are mixing an absolute statement with a broad generalisation (it's "only uncomplicated" suggests that there are zero exceptions from your experience and opinion - which is an exceptionally confident statement to make; and "potential to get complicated" - which everything does, and most things already are)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met a couple of married/attatched men in the past. But now no I wouldn't as I had a lot of hassle from one of the guys. I niw will only meet single guys. But I suppose each to their own

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Absolutely not. I got badly burned a few years ago on another site meeting someone who claimed to be divorced ( had a flat in London but a family home elsewhere), found out after 7 months he was very much still married! Horrid, upsetting experience and I won't go anywhere near them. Have even put it on my profile ( but they still message me).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

Totally disagree.

Women do earn their own money these days, it's not the 50's & therefore don't have to rely on a 'meal ticket' anymore.

I would say the majority of people on here are just looking for a fuck, single / married or as part of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

You can pad it out with words if you like. If i meet a guy that is attached there is the potential for his other half finding out and i end up caught up inn something I'd rather not. You cannot argue that it won't happen. It has. I've never had that happen with any of the single guys I've met. I'm not sure where your argument is. Yes everything has the potential to get complicated but some more likely than others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have met a couple of married/attatched men in the past. But now no I wouldn't as I had a lot of hassle from one of the guys. I niw will only meet single guys. But I suppose each to their own "
I'm sorry but how the hell can you ever be sure ,just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated."

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

I also once had a woman text me, asking me what was I doing meeting her partner? I had no idea what she was talking about but eventually realise it was a guy I'd been texting but had decided not to meet. They were living together. I told her he was on this site, sent her a link to his profile ( which had verifications ). Poor woman was devastated. I hope she kicked his sorry ass out the door! And then I got a message from him saying to ignore any messages I got from her as she was a psycho...

I hate cheaters!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

If allowed to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

"
it does especially if the green eyed monster comes out to play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

yep - applies equally to the cheating, the married, the single and everything else in between which is why we should all determine what we're personally most comfortable with and go with that. I've had the single men who have got too involved and wanted more than I'm offering. I haven't had any drama from the married blokes. So I'll use my experience to date to make my decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

You've obviously never had messages and phone calls from someone else's wife then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

You've obviously never had messages and phone calls from someone else's wife then"

No, I haven't. That's my point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I've met married ladies before and had a lot of fun with them. Prefer it if they are open and honest about their relationship status to begin with though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

You've obviously never had messages and phone calls from someone else's wife then

No, I haven't. That's my point. "

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

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By *p4funduoCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have no problem meeting married people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

You've obviously never had messages and phone calls from someone else's wife then

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that"

But as I said, I make my decisions based on what experience has told me. Which is that I've had more complications from single men (borderline stalky behaviour, wanting to meet more frequently than I want to, telling me he'd fallen in love with me, not understanding the stakes for me) than I've ever had complications from married men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

You've obviously never had messages and phone calls from someone else's wife then

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

Ah.....i refuse to continue contact at the first whiff of that so it never gets to that stage with me.....i don't want that complication either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With swinging couples you have sex, then you go back to real life.

With married cheaters meeting other married cheaters you have sex then you go back to real life.

These work because the sex is for sex, not to fill an emotional void.

When you have non-married singles you frequently see jealousy, pissing contests, "ownership" statements in verifications, attachment issues and more.

Yes there's exceptions to this, but the above is based on what I see.

I'll meet the uncomplicated married ladies.

They are only uncomplicated if their spouses know what they are up to......otherwise it has the potential to get very complicated.

From what I hear & see, everything on here has the potential to get very complicated if allowed to do so.

If allowed to"

As in allowing their emotions to get the better of them & unleashing a shit load of drama on all in sundry.

One of the reasons why so many go UNLOS & then become the comeback queens & kings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that"

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but you seem to be using "it can" and "it could" and "potentially" to mean "it will", because it has happened to you. And because it has happened to you, you can't see why others don't also see potential issues as likely or inevitable issues.

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't mind married

it wouldn't be the first time

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will."

I have experienced much more drama with singles wanting to muscle into my real life ... demanding times and places and texting and messaging all the time. Loads more potential for thinking they can have ownership issues ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And for the record those being cheated on aren't stupid. They normally know.....what they choose to do with that info is unique to them though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

Why would you let them do that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

So I'll put my hands up as someone who disagrees

"
You treat your husband as a prize clem.........you must be proud

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I've met married ladies before and had a lot of fun with them. Prefer it if they are open and honest about their relationship status to begin with though. "
so would you be sick to the pit of your stomach if after you had your wicked way with her you found out she was married ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will."

No, I understand that 100%. Especially if you've had a shitty situation in the past. You won't accept anything other than what you feel to be right and nobody will change that.

But others have other experience, which through the same thought and self-defence process as yourself leads them to a different conclusion.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

Why would you let them do that? "

Why would you think I let them? They just assume they can do it ... they can't. Many of the guys I used to meet with wanted something regular, I did not as it was Nsa. They wanted what they wanted when they wanted it ... was not my thing at all. I don't let anyone do anything, but I understand and have experienced where it comes from and what its like .... it does not happen as I kept my swinging life and my real life separate ....a little different now, except when I meet women on my single profile, but I don't think women have the same issues with other women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

No, I understand that 100%. Especially if you've had a shitty situation in the past. You won't accept anything other than what you feel to be right and nobody will change that.

But others have other experience, which through the same thought and self-defence process as yourself leads them to a different conclusion. "

I'm not even saying i won't meet married.....just that surely it has the potential to be more complicated. My original comment was relating to you calling married women uncomplicated. That was the only point i had issue with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

Why would you let them do that?

Because you said they do it? As soon as they expect another meet with me I'll sever contact so I've never let them get that far.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

Why would you let them do that?

Because you said they do it? As soon as they expect another meet with me I'll sever contact so I've never let them get that far."

They do it. I cant control another persons behaviour nor would I try to. I can, however, cut them off, like you do. Its always the single ones who try to muscle in with me .... for me, its always on my terms. Now as part of a couple, when I meet as part of a couple, its always on our terms ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

Why would you let them do that?

Because you said they do it? As soon as they expect another meet with me I'll sever contact so I've never let them get that far.

So no actual complication then is my point. Because you don't let it.

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By *epper123Woman over a year ago

London

I think that is the same point someone else made further up the thread re: meeting married, it does not have to be complicated ... and some of the people also spoke from their experience of it not being nor having been. Just saying I have experienced much more potential of drama from singles ... as others stated too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think that is the same point someone else made further up the thread re: meeting married, it does not have to be complicated ... and some of the people also spoke from their experience of it not being nor having been. Just saying I have experienced much more potential of drama from singles ... as others stated too"

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds."

When I was married, I was cheated on. He had a full blown affair, that got complicated ... a swinging nsa thing does not have to. I see them as very different and I have been on both sides of the equation ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

As have I.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldnt again. More hassle than they are worth IMO

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes but how many of those single were "single"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I haven't. That's my point.

And it's my point that it can cause more complications. I'm not sure how anyone can't see that

On that basis everyone on here could post a story which could happen to someone else. Yes, some are more likely than others, so I'm not being facetious here.

So, in the same way that you are doing, my post above was written using my personal experience, rather than someone else's opinion.

And I'm not trying to change the opinion of anyone else; just explain my own.

No not at all. Just trying to enhance my enjoyment and have a drama free life as much as i can. Call it a risk assessment if you will.

No, I understand that 100%. Especially if you've had a shitty situation in the past. You won't accept anything other than what you feel to be right and nobody will change that.

But others have other experience, which through the same thought and self-defence process as yourself leads them to a different conclusion.

"
what are you saying then? Kiss from me

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds."

I think the point she's trying to make in its simplest form is there's no such thing as NSA fun with attached people because they are already attached to a pretty big string, which you can (not always) end up entangled in

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds."

I think it's just different types of complications, Scarlet. I could handle a wife/husband asking about their partner meeting us "you need to speak to them" {hangs up phone}. From what I've seen on the forums singles offer either more heart-wrenching complications, or bunny-boiler ones ("so I sent her a link to his profile on here")

People just need to keep it in proportion and realise that in either case, the complications are probably a very small ratio (he said with fingers firmly crossed

)

That said, we'll meet either, we're tarts like that

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The marital status of someone we are meeting doesn't bother us

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

They come with lesser complications too that can provide hassle eg can only meets certain times, you can't enjoy time with them because they are clock watching, cancelling at the last min because the partners plans have changed, you can't leave marks on them or strong scents so no perfume rules etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

People just need to keep it in proportion and realise that in either case, the complications are probably a very small ratio (he said with fingers firmly crossed

)

That said, we'll meet either, we're tarts like that

Mr ddc"

Yes i get that there are different types of complications.....i feel more in control of the sort of complications you get with singles....you can't foresee them in advance but from chatting you can guage their potential to want more..and Because I'm careful about who i meet i rarely have any that i have to block contact with.....but with the married ones They are unpredictable Because it it is the 3rd party that poses the threat... so in most cases i choose not to put myself in that situation..

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

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Which, in reality, is what it's all about: doing whatever it takes to make you feel happy, with the minimum risk of drama. Which is why there's no right or wrong.

We're still newish, so are probably a bit naïve - no doubt this time next year, after a particularly scary experience, we'll be saying "omg, we'd never meet singles/married people".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

Have to totally disagree with you on this one lovely..my married man meets me very reg never watches any clocks, stays over .Ive scratched him a good few times and bit his ass I blame hhim for pushing me over the edge.I always wear perfume he never showers to go home.We have spontaneous meets and never as cancelled on me .So not every married man falls into that box ...some are very flexible.Guess you have to understand the reasoning and know the full story ..but hes definitely not what you have described .I know some are but some aren't.

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By *onkers 76Man over a year ago

pontypool

I'm married I state it on my profile and I always tell people in the first or second message and in my experience women in my locality don't really like it , I've been told many times that they would of met me if I wasn't married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is kinda refreshing, a sensible reasoned debate about the whole married thing without descending (yet!) in the usual vitriol and abuse at the 'cheaters' you normally get in these type of threads.

I'm married and I say so early in my profile, I prefer to be upfront (and yes, I deliberately don't use the word honest!) with people so they can make their own informed choice if they want to talk to me or meet me.

Everybody's moral compasses will be in a different place on this, and will be shaped by their own experiences. One thing I do know - everyone's backstory and circumstances are different and it's very easy to judge people without knowing the journey or factors that have brought the 'cheaters' to this site. It's not always so black and white as some people think.

And there's one thing that really does show one dimensional thinking in my mind, and that's when people say 'if they're not getting enough sex with their husbands / wives they should just leave them' .. love is about more than just sex, I know it is genuinely hard for some people to grasp (and I do honestly get that!) but believe me it is possible to have a loving and otherwise excellent marriage and still be on here.

Those that 'get it' will get it! Those that don't, won't. I expect all sorts of abuse for saying that (tin hat and flak jacket in) but I know from speaking to other marrieds on here that they feel the same way too.

Anyway, back to it, as you were ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

married with consent is fine with me

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"This is kinda refreshing, a sensible reasoned debate about the whole married thing without descending (yet!) in the usual vitriol and abuse at the 'cheaters' you normally get in these type of threads.

Anyway, back to it, as you were ... "

Great post

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I refuse to meet married men, or even men in relationships. I am quite good at catching people out during a social!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest, i leave it up to the woman. If she is happy to play away from her husband then thats up to her. Her business, her conscience. As long as she keeps our meet and her personal life separate thats fine. I have met and fucked a few married/partnered women.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I refuse to meet married men, or even men in relationships. I am quite good at catching people out during a social! "

And there in lays the on major problem with this world you shouldn't have to catch anyone out what's written in your profile should be respected and married people playing away from home should be up front about it .

My mind boggles over the why's in this world it really is complete madness and all because sex is involved its like its a game a game some people must win at any cost .

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I refuse to meet married men, or even men in relationships. I am quite good at catching people out during a social!

My mind boggles over the why's in this world it really is complete madness and all because sex is involved its like its a game a game some people must win at any cost ."

Of course I prefer people to be honest about it, easy for me to then block them.

I generally won't meet them if i've any doubts but it has happened on occasion that i've managed to find out the truth at the social. Another reason I insist on a social first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ive met married men in the past. i found too much drama with it all. they felt guilty which made me feel bad. never again unless they are consenting swingers playing together

So I'll put my hands up as someone who disagrees

You treat your husband as a prize clem.........you must be proud"

Why, because he obviously must be the one who earns the money and supports the little wife, and I repay that by cheating? It's not actually 1953. Not all women are looking for a "meal ticket" in a partner. Some might even be the "meal ticket" themselves (more fool them).

If you didn't hold out for a relationship with someone who could/would pay their own way it doesn't mean everyone else is in the same situation.

So yeah, I still disagree with your misogynistic bollocks. You can think what you like about poeole cheating, I really don't give a fuck, but perhaps you should drag your _iews back into the 21st century as to potential reasons why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds."

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got a friend on here....shes had a visit from the other half of a couple...and a few other ladies have had there door battered down by this particular woman....my friend didnt know he was married until the knock on the door....and guess what...he told his wife were everyone of his conquests lived.

so do i believe its right...no i bloody well dont...its a selfish act towards the woman or man you profess to love and care for...looking at some of the replies on this thread...looks like theres a few with no morals

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Men or women.

How many of you females/couples would meet a married man?

And how many blokes would meet a married lady?

I refuse to meet married men, or even men in relationships. I am quite good at catching people out during a social!

My mind boggles over the why's in this world it really is complete madness and all because sex is involved its like its a game a game some people must win at any cost .

Of course I prefer people to be honest about it, easy for me to then block them.

I generally won't meet them if i've any doubts but it has happened on occasion that i've managed to find out the truth at the social. Another reason I insist on a social first."

That the point you shouldn't need to block them they should read no married or attached in your profile respect your choice on the matter and move on with out sending a message .

The mind boggles as to why someone would message you who's married or attached after reading such a thing .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either. "

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!"

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

That's fair enough your entitled to disagree. As always with opinion it's based on personal experience, your experience has varied to mine and there are of course usually exceptions to the rule. For how he can meet I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't meeting on the side either, and he isn't aware, or she's already aware and wanting to catch home out so sends him on his merry way to do so, it's how I caught my ex hubby, but again that's therefore obviously based on my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

Lets just say he does his thing she does hers and they are both happy...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets just say he does his thing she does hers and they are both happy..."

There are an awful lot of people in this state on here...and it's generally easier to just describe themselves as cheating so you don't get in to the stuff about people wanting to know you have "permission" from your partner and all of that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would never meet a married man posing as a single, because 9 out of 10 times I call them on it, and then they admit it. I feel for the woman: my dickhead ex cheated on me with his ex and lied about it to my face for a month. I hate all the lying associated with married men.

A married couple playing together? Much hotter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy. "

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?"

Just because something CAN be a complication doesn't mean it WILL be a complication. Just like just because a couple are openly swinging doesn't mean there won't be jealousy and that bollocks further down the line. Or just because someone is single and CAN be uncomplicated doesn't mean they WILL be uncomplicated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer not to meet married guys, simply because they always seem to be after quickies and rush meets, you know pop round to mine for a hour in the day kind of meet

I want to meet guys who have the time to put into a meet not a clock watcher

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?

Yeah i really do get the point that anything can be complicated. But I'm still interested to know how being married isn't an added complication.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My _iew its a swinging site...and all parties whether married or not should have permission to play...if not its cheating end of...you cant put it any other way...and if people dont have any morals to say no...i just hope there never in the same situation as the other half....they always get caught in the end...and usually its the third person involved gets the blame

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By *imon_79Man over a year ago

southend

Maybe there should be an additional button when searching. A "will meet married" one like there is for meeting smokers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe there should be an additional button when searching. A "will meet married" one like there is for meeting smokers

You think that would stop married people mailing you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?

Yeah i really do get the point that anything can be complicated. But I'm still interested to know how being married isn't an added complication."

For me, it removes other things that are more of a complication. My _iew of what is a complication is obviously going to be different to yours because we're in different situations. So if someone is married they're more likely to want the same kind of interaction as I do - which automatically makes it less complicated than a single person who potentially doesn't get it.

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By *imon_79Man over a year ago

southend

"Maybe there should be an additional button when searching. A "will meet married" one like there is for meeting smokers

You think that would stop married people mailing you?

No probably not,but I don't mind married people mailing me xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?

Yeah i really do get the point that anything can be complicated. But I'm still interested to know how being married isn't an added complication.

Thank you...at last....so it isn't that they are uncomplicated just they come with a different set of complications that you are more able to deal with?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No It's not the same point but I'm not explaining it again. I don't see how married people, where their partners aren't involved, can be seen as uncomplicated. But if you all can then great

I'm not trying to change your minds.

You don't need to, just take the word married in all your posts and replace it with single, and you have your answer. I was making the point that single isn't automatically "uncomplicated" either.

And i wasn't saying that single is uncomplicated....but thing two did say that married was uncomplicated. That was what i had issue with....I'm not arguing with you!!

Fair enough, wasn't responding to your _iew on Thing Two's choice of words, was responding to your choice of words "I don't see how married people can be seen as uncomplicated".

Anyway, it's probably better if married people tend to prefer meeting other married people and singles prefer meeting singles. Everyone's happy.

How can having an unknowing partner not be a complication?

Yeah i really do get the point that anything can be complicated. But I'm still interested to know how being married isn't an added complication.

Not if their other half finds out. That is automatically more complicated than meeting a single as a third party is involved. Possibly more if they have kids.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married people are uncomplicated because you only get complication if the other partner finds out and decides to make life difficult for you. So they're only complicated if the situation goes spectacularly wrong and you can easily mitigate against that with the choice of which married people you meet. If the situation is as it normally is when I choose to meet that person, then it is highly unlikely to become complicated. And yes of course my _iew is coloured by my own experience, as is everyone else's on the thread.

As I said, since everyone finds married people so complicated then surely they should be pleased that a lot of them prefer other married people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol that's like saying petrol is only dangerous if it catches light! Lol ok ok so ill just put this petrol *here* and these matches next to it *here* and bingo! I've mitigated the danger! Bless you for being so naive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not naive. Just know what works and doesn't work for me, based on experience. I'd be more naive if I listened to what a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum said and chose my actions based on what they say has happened to them, despite all evidence from my own experience being to the contrary.

I'll stick with what I know works for me best as I'm sure will you and everyone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck. I guess you'll be needing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for your kind wishes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you should go skating,

On the thin ice of modern life,

Dragging behind you the silent reproach,

Of a million tear-stained eyes.

Don't be surprised when a crack in the ice,

Appears under your feet.

You slip out of your depth and out of your mind,

With your fear flowing out behind you

As you claw the thin ice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or you go skating, and nothing bad happens and everyone goes home and it was a nice day out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ice never lasts....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't need to, you step off it. Either back onto the solid ground to stay there, or onto another piece of ice. And I'm an excellent swimmer.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

"It doesn't need to, you step off it. Either back onto the solid ground to stay there, or onto another piece of ice. And I'm an excellent swimmer."

Good lord, you two, do you know how hard it is to reopen these things!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not that hard...I wouldn't have bothered if it was

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

"It's not that hard....

That's Mrs ddc's complaint too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trouble is people always want the last word!

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