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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never fallen in love with one, no. But the overwhelming majority of my friends are women anyway. Of my few male friends, I definitely fancy two of them enough to sleep with but never ever would. In both instances I think that's why we became friends in the first place actually  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney"
I have but not giving any details x  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney I have but not giving any details x "
Oh, come on...please? Its not like we know them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I married my best friend! We split up in January but should have ended it years ago as there was no passion in the slightest. Our friendship was so good though and we were afraid to lose it. Looking back, we were both on the rebound when we got together and just felt safe together. We're still very close.
I have had crushes on lots of my friends over the years, but I believe that was due to existing in a sexually unfulfilling relationship. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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When I was much younger I fell in lust with two male friends (not at the same time).
I had a fling with one and the the friendship ended.
My sister had a fling with the other and the friendship ended.
I had a fling with a family friend and we're still friends over 20 years later. We didn't ever fall in love or even lust, it was just one of those things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm good friends with my ex so the other way round.
He came round on Saturday to fix a few things in my home for me 
And no, sex is definitely not on the agenda. |
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No never fallen romantically in love, but a lot of my male friends became friends through shagging then the shaggingnstopped and we became friends, the male friends I have that I haven't shagged I'd never think of them that way |
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
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Nearly all my friends are male, and there is often a 'frissant' between us as the basis for the friendship yes, even if we have no intention of acting upon it. With some it started off as a frissant and went on to become a true friendship where there is love but a decision not to pursue things.
Occasionally there was a frissant that was eventually acted upon lol, once after 9 years of mutual desire!
I love having such friends of all 3 kinds! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I married my best friend! We split up in January but should have ended it years ago as there was no passion in the slightest. Our friendship was so good though and we were afraid to lose it. Looking back, we were both on the rebound when we got together and just felt safe together. We're still very close.
I have had crushes on lots of my friends over the years, but I believe that was due to existing in a sexually unfulfilling relationship. "
That is really insightful. Did you realize at the time that you likely had crushes on your friends because of your lack of sexual fulfillment in your marriage, or did it take the break-up of the marriage for you to realize? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am in love with my best male friend and it's unrequited and painful. "
Have you brought it up with him, or is there another way you know it isn't reciprocated? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No never fallen romantically in love, but a lot of my male friends became friends through shagging then the shaggingnstopped and we became friends, the male friends I have that I haven't shagged I'd never think of them that way"
That is interesting - that you stay friends after shagging. This happens often, then? And it isn't ever awkward? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I seem to get on far better with men than I do with women.
I have a few male friends who I have crossed the line with in the past. It thankfully didn't ruin the friendship but it definitely changed it. |
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"I am in love with my best male friend and it's unrequited and painful.
Have you brought it up with him, or is there another way you know it isn't reciprocated?"
He loves me but he's not in love with me.
His situation is complicated and i'm a slutbag. It's unlikely to ever work, if it even did get off the ground. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I fell in love with a friend. It didn't end well though. She ended up leaving her husband. We never had sex. "
Did she leave her husband for you? Did nothing happen because of her situation or because of you?
You don't have to share, of course, I'm just curious and nosy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories"
That sounds absolutely wonderful.  |
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I have quite a few male friends, plus a tiny few really close female friends that go way back.
I've shagged some, slept with some (just zzzz) and done noting with some. They all still feel like friends in my head.
I met my best guy friend on here 3 years ago. We've not even kissed. I love him as a friend but I'm not in love with him |
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"Not being dramatic or anything but I really don't think I've ever fallen in love with anyone 
Fair enough. A crush, then?"
It's hard to explain, I was with someone for 22 years and it was awful. I didn't love him and ended up trapped in a way. |
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"No never fallen romantically in love, but a lot of my male friends became friends through shagging then the shaggingnstopped and we became friends, the male friends I have that I haven't shagged I'd never think of them that way
That is interesting - that you stay friends after shagging. This happens often, then? And it isn't ever awkward? "
no, and that's in real life and also in swinging, had sex and for whatever reason the sex has stopped but the friendship has remained, also I live in a small town if you weren't friends with the people you shagged younwouldnt have any friends lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I married my best friend! We split up in January but should have ended it years ago as there was no passion in the slightest. Our friendship was so good though and we were afraid to lose it. Looking back, we were both on the rebound when we got together and just felt safe together. We're still very close.
I have had crushes on lots of my friends over the years, but I believe that was due to existing in a sexually unfulfilling relationship.
That is really insightful. Did you realize at the time that you likely had crushes on your friends because of your lack of sexual fulfillment in your marriage, or did it take the break-up of the marriage for you to realize?"
Deep down I always knew but I wasn't ready to acknowledge it, as that would have meant having to do something about ending my marriage. |
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I literally don't have a friend. I'm not meaning to be winsome here and 'oh poor me' but it's true. It's either work colleagues and work do-s or the wife's few friends. Not mine. And the answer is no, I don't fancy a shag with any of them. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"I fell in love with a friend. It didn't end well though. She ended up leaving her husband. We never had sex.
Did she leave her husband for you? Did nothing happen because of her situation or because of you?
You don't have to share, of course, I'm just curious and nosy. "
She left her husband because she fell in love with me too. And realised she didn't love him.
I wasn't willing to break up my family at the time. So nothing happened between us.
It was very painful and messy. We didn't have a physical affair but you could describe it as an emotional affair.
We haven't seen each other since. This happened quite a few years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories
That sounds absolutely wonderful. "
it was then he passed away suddenly a huge shock  im thankful that i got to know what an amazing guy he was and share mylife with him i treasure my memories |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nothing is worse than meeting a hot woman and she wants to be friends. When all you want to do is ravage her body. "
But did you go on to be friends with these women?
Or did a friendship with a woman ever lead to this feeling? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories
That sounds absolutely wonderful. it was then he passed away suddenly a huge shock im thankful that i got to know what an amazing guy he was and share mylife with him i treasure my memories"
Its always sad to lose someone so meaningful in our lives, but think about how much more you would have lost if he didn't have the courage to tell you how he felt.
It is so wonderful that you have those memories to treasure - both as a friend and a lover.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' "
But was the point made?
I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
A point made in 'When Harry met Sally'
But was the point made?
I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another "
Harry and Sally ended up together, so it did support the point.
I bet your friend will have thought about it. Unless he's blind. Have you seen yourself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
A point made in 'When Harry met Sally'
But was the point made?
I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another "
I have never had a male friend who did not eventually hit on me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
A point made in 'When Harry met Sally'
But was the point made?
I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another
Harry and Sally ended up together, so it did support the point.
I bet your friend will have thought about it. Unless he's blind. Have you seen yourself!"
Women are often a little naive in this respect I think. |
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Both of my long term relationships were with friends. The second one we are still friends, we just aren't compatible as upbringings are too different.
The first one we were friends 2 years, together 3 years, fwb 7 years. I still loved her as a friend after everything, and I still miss her even though she is a compulsive liar and sometimes made my life hell.
She chose to end the friendship as she still loved me but got with a fella and settled down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women."
I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on.
One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on.
One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form. "
You're a woman, I was referring to straight men |
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women."
I prefer being friends with ladies than men. I don't think that is a bi product of being bi, I don't like football. I do like cars though. I can never think of anything to say to men but I can to women. Much easier.
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I met a cpl of my best friends through this lifestyle, and I love all of my friends all be it in a different way. I can't imagine not seeing them again now even when I do finally settle down.
We often have nights together where there is no play or see each other for a lunch and doesn't feel awkward or anything like that. Honestly feels like I have friends for life with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's my opinion, feel free to have a different one. When I was younger I certainly subscribed to the pc idea of heterosexual friendhips being possible without one or both being attracted to the other - life experience has changed my mind.
People don't have to act on it you know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women.
I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on.
One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form.
You're a woman, I was referring to straight men"
Yes I know you are ~ but I am just saying that none of my straight male friends have ever made a pass at me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence. "
I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends.
I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's my opinion, feel free to have a different one. When I was younger I certainly subscribed to the pc idea of heterosexual friendhips being possible without one or both being attracted to the other - life experience has changed my mind.
People don't have to act on it you know"
I understand your opinion. And it is one that many share, I think. I disagree, but I can see where you are coming from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I met Paul I was clear with him that I only wanted friendship and sex.
8 years on... We're married.
When I was a teenager I fell in love with a friend, he was really hot and we spent all our time together.... The big issue though was that he was gay. he knew how I felt and he loved me back but unfortunately I didn't have a penis haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence.
I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends.
I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience. "
I don't really class When Harry Met Sally as a ground breaking and devastating insight into the world of modern day heterosexual friendships tbh...
When observing people you don't know as well too - you can see who is clearly in denial about being in love with each other, or where it's unrequited, and who are genuinely just good friends. I'm not sure that's a "PC view", I think it's just the way things are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence.
I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends.
I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience.
I don't really class When Harry Met Sally as a ground breaking and devastating insight into the world of modern day heterosexual friendships tbh...
When observing people you don't know as well too - you can see who is clearly in denial about being in love with each other, or where it's unrequited, and who are genuinely just good friends. I'm not sure that's a "PC view", I think it's just the way things are. "
The comment about the movie wasn't really directed at you - poor placement on my part.
As to your second point, I think it is usually obvious, but not always. And it is certainly easier to see it from an outsider perspective....I mean, you don't really know if you have veer misread a relationship of your own unless it was pointed out to you. So you never **really** know... |
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I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone.., |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women."
That would mean I have at least half a dozen men in my life who want or have wanted to have sex with me and I know that ain't true.
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone..,"
Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why? |
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone..,
Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why?"
He knew it for years.... |
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone..,
Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why?
He knew it for years.... "
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone..,
Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why?
He knew it for years....
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Story of my life I'm the unrequited love queen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney"
what's your example of this ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney what's your example of this ? "
I don't have one. |
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney"
I've certainly never fallen in love with a friend. It takes a lot for me to fall in love with anybody. Very rare. And to be honest I don't really have friends in the traditional sense. Most of my closest acquaintances are women though, so there's certainly a few I've fancied but nothing more. That wasn't a very interesting answer I know, but true |
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Hmmmm, not sure if it counts, but I've got two friends who mean absolutely the world to me. They are two lights in my life abs the brightest ones at that. One is my best friend and the other is his ex. I told myself that I wouldn't sleep with either of them unless it was the same time. Not in a cheap three some way but in a these two people mean everything to me and if they ever feel like they would like me with them, then I can show them how much I love them both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hiya Everyone,
I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking....
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything?
Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab.
I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well.
Thanks for your input everyone!!
-Courtney
I've certainly never fallen in love with a friend. It takes a lot for me to fall in love with anybody. Very rare. And to be honest I don't really have friends in the traditional sense. Most of my closest acquaintances are women though, so there's certainly a few I've fancied but nothing more. That wasn't a very interesting answer I know, but true "
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Never loved real friends...I do not even know if I have never had any real female friends. If so max 2 or 3 in my life
I always tried to have relationships outside my group of friends. The best thing to do. Do not know if I had real relationship though |
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Not sure if I have ever been in love with anyone, I would of slept with loads of female friends over the years and one who I was really close to as we flirted a lot, But she had a boyfriend so I never made a move on her, I was happy and a little sad at the same time when she announced that she was getting married |
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"Nothing is worse than meeting a hot woman and she wants to be friends. When all you want to do is ravage her body.
But did you go on to be friends with these women?
Or did a friendship with a woman ever lead to this feeling?"
Went on to be friends with them and no sex for me.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i love..simple
lust i can control...
i hug all my friends male and female
would never make a move on any of them unless i knew it was wanted..
fancied a few yes,
slept with a few and remained friends after, yes
had relationships with a few and remained friends afterwards..yes
been in love..yes totally and unashamedly.
i believe in love at first sight.we had 8 wonderful years together..did he need to go and do other things, yes,
does that make me love him less..no..
am i open to it happening again..yes..
but hell have to find me..i'm not seeking it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have fallen in love with nearly all of my friends at one time or another. Outside of fab, I only had anything with two of them, one I have not seen since, but still keep in touch via Facebook occasionally, and the other I've recently got back in contact with also.
I fancy the pants off my best friends wife, and the sister in law of one of my exes whom I've been friends with for years,but never really seen any chance of anything happening lol |
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I find it quite easy to fall in lust, swinging I keep emotions at the door and generally never meet more than once.
Best friend wise or friends in generally, I have never fallen in love with any if it then up until quite recently I didn't have any friends, it was just me and the ex husband and our kids, but since my split I have a group of friends (which we both share), there's a guy I fancy but that's about it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I fell in love with my gay best friend about 4 years ago now. Something to do with how he was one of the first men to treat me with respect and love for as long as I could remember, I got horrendously d*unk on valentines day because I am a cliche and told him and he was so lovely about it, and told me he understood and he was flattered and if I had a cock and no massive boobs he would probably feel the same.
He is still one of my closest friends and I'm so pleased we worked through that and I love him more but not in a sexual way.
There was a girl on the London fetish scene 2 years ago I sort of fell in 'casual love' with. We did a lot of public play and she was the first girl I felt 'weird' about, and after a month or two it hit me round the head that I was crushing haaaaarrrrddd. She is poly and had 4 different relationships on the go and I was about to move to Spain for my year abroad so I let that flame go out. We are still close and I have a huge amount of time and respect for her.
Finally! My ex and I started playing with a friend (we got her to join here too) and whilst he and I were apart he was absolutely vile to me so I spent much of my holiday on the phone to her and if course I loved her as a friend but the more we chatted and the more he was vile the more I displaced my feelings of desire onto her and the more insecure he got so the more horrible he got... And circles, until I was back in the north with them both and it went back to normal. I then has a rocky few months with him which put my relationship with her on the back burner. I came out of all of it in June and was interested in getting back in touch and she had made things official with her lovely fella.
I love love and these relationships taught me that love doesn't have to be possessive and normally if it is something isn't right. Love doesn't give you the right to that person.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm much the same as _rightonsteve in that I prefer the company of women to men, not that I don't have male friends but I can't do with the whole 'alpha male' shit that most men carry around with them.
When I was at uni in the first year I crushed hard on a girl on my course, she was awesome and devastatingly beautiful but we were both in relationships at the time so nothing happened. In the second year we grew closer but it changed to a deep friendship, by the end of uni we were so comfortable with each other that we would get changed in front of each other and not bother |
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