So l'm watching tv about disabilities, drinking a cup of my usual green tea, when she quietly announces that she gets hot for guys who are amputee. Well the tea went through my nose as l devoured this new facet of her likes and dislikes.
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities. "
People in my opinion fetishise about any situation. One young lady l knew wanted sex in a bath tub full of beans.
I suspect people with disabilities have fetish needs as well.. |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities.
People in my opinion fetishise about any situation. One young lady l knew wanted sex in a bath tub full of beans.
I suspect people with disabilities have fetish needs as well.."
Yeh but that bath full of beans isn't a person. I'm pretty sure people with disabilities don't want to be fucked just cos they're missing a leg or whatever. |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities.
People in my opinion fetishise about any situation. One young lady l knew wanted sex in a bath tub full of beans.
I suspect people with disabilities have fetish needs as well.."
Yeah! sex!!! did I mention sex? did you hear that?  |
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A book I read about conservation in Thailand, the author used to go to a bar, and a 16 year old Downs syndrome girl was sat there every night, she was the Landlady's daughter. One night, she was missing, and he enquired where she was, her mother told him she was upstairs with a man, when he expressed his disbelief,she told him that, men paid a higher price for her because of her disability.
Sad and sick world out there. |
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Google Paradevo for a whole online community of those who are attracted to disabilities.
These people are known as "devotees" ("devos" for short).
They all seem to have very specific requirements, "I'd love to be with a guy with a left above-knee amputation"  |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities.
One persons fetish is another persons weird. Same as not wanting sex with someone with a disability   "
Excellent reply. There is a code fetish people use, ykiok. Your kink is ok. As long as it's adult consensual, l make no judgement on whatever kink a person has. |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities. "
Does finding someone attractive equal a fetishism nowadays then?
Does that mean anyone who likes men or women in glasses is a fetishist? Or those who like balding men or bug booked ladies? |
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Watched an awesome documentary about the wheelchair sport 'murderball' and one guy happily admitted to using his disability to get pity sex.
Some people like having their features fetishised, some don't. |
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Many disabled people find it distasteful that their disability is the attraction for others.
Some devotees like the idea of perceived helplessness of the disabled person. |
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"Many disabled people find it distasteful that their disability is the attraction for others.
Some devotees like the idea of perceived helplessness of the disabled person."
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My ex girlfriend's boyfriend (I was experimenting) was an amputee just at the wrist. So instead of fisting her he "stumped" her, which she loved apparently. I never met him. And it's not something I would fetishise. I think she loved him for him though, I don't think she wad drawn in by his lack of hand. |
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"Many disabled people find it distasteful that their disability is the attraction for others.
Some devotees like the idea of perceived helplessness of the disabled person."
sounds a bit like the 'feeder' and their victims, almost like a perverse parasite..
funny old game is life.. |
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I'm an amputee and have had a couple of folk on here offer to drive the length and breadth of the country to meet me just because that aspect of me turns them on ? Each to their own to be fair but I wouldn't meet up with anyone just because that found that part interesting. |
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NEVER yuck someone else's yum (providing its legal and consensua) is something I learned a long time ago.
Also I know a lot of people with amputated limbs, it's not always a disability. |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities.
One persons fetish is another persons weird. Same as not wanting sex with someone with a disability
Excellent reply. There is a code fetish people use, ykiok. Your kink is ok. As long as it's adult consensual, l make no judgement on whatever kink a person has."
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But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency. "
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"NEVER yuck someone else's yum (providing its legal and consensua) is something I learned a long time ago.
Also I know a lot of people with amputated limbs, it's not always a disability."
Never yuck another persons yum..excuse the text speak but lmao..excellent..l am going to steal that quote  |
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I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess. |
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I get massively turned on by someone with a lisp. I'm drawn to them. It's not a conscious thing, my body reacts without much thought.
It's someone who gives you a boner for whatever reason. It doesn't matter what it is. We're all different and we all find different things attractive. I'm not sure I would label my thing for people with lisps as a fetish, it's just something I find attractive.
I have a fetish for latex. That is a fetish.
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"I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess. "
I know a few lads like that too. |
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"I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess. "
It is a recognised disability though. |
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"I think it's weird to fetishise disabilities.
Does finding someone attractive equal a fetishism nowadays then?
Does that mean anyone who likes men or women in glasses is a fetishist? Or those who like balding men or bug booked ladies? "
No you just are not allowed to speak in any way positive or negative about anyone in the british standard book of unfortunate souls for fear of someone totally unrelated to that particular group being offended on their behalf or for a "campaigning blogger" writing a 3 page essay on why you may not think what you think.
However if you come from an equally ill-thought-through list of person types then it is ok to speak about it because if you are deaf for instance, then in the minds of a moron you are able to talk about someone with 2 bums because; "you know...he's disabled too so he must know how it feels" or some other half baked hair brained Facebook logic.
Best not let it worry you.
If someone whose opinion on the matter counts tells you they are offended, kindly seek their reasoning, if they have a good reason to be offended by what you say and make you realise that you were wrong, apologise and change their ways. If what they are saying is unreasonable, politely tell them why you are not going to apologise and agree to differ realising that being afflicted in a certain way does not mean that you have a veto on any discussion or that you are the sole arbiter of what constitutes offensive. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent? "
I dunno about decency, but it's weird to detach a person from their disability. To find someone attractive solely cos they're missing a limb is definitely objectifying. |
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"Watched an awesome documentary about the wheelchair sport 'murderball' and one guy happily admitted to using his disability to get pity sex.
Some people like having their features fetishised, some don't. "
How weird. It is almost as if we cannot group all disabled people into the same box and treat all the same. |
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"I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess.
I know a few lads like that too. "
I have a friend who has lost both his legs. We went to visit him in the hospital in Birmingham when he was flown home. It was fairly soon after it happened and when we arrived, we said we weren't sure what to bring him and quick as a flash he replied with 'well some socks would have been good!' 
I don't see his injuries, I see the smart, funny, upbeat lad I've always seen... he's just shorter now. He laughs in the face of his difficulties and I'm pretty sure he has dark days but I'm also sure that he's one of the most inspirational people I know and that's massively attractive. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
I dunno about decency, but it's weird to detach a person from their disability. To find someone attractive solely cos they're missing a limb is definitely objectifying. "
So? Everybody is objectified in some way. |
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"I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess.
I know a few lads like that too.
I have a friend who has lost both his legs. We went to visit him in the hospital in Birmingham when he was flown home. It was fairly soon after it happened and when we arrived, we said we weren't sure what to bring him and quick as a flash he replied with 'well some socks would have been good!'
I don't see his injuries, I see the smart, funny, upbeat lad I've always seen... he's just shorter now. He laughs in the face of his difficulties and I'm pretty sure he has dark days but I'm also sure that he's one of the most inspirational people I know and that's massively attractive."
Classic battlefield humour. Selly Oak is full of lads like that. I had no end of fun whilst I was a guest. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
I dunno about decency, but it's weird to detach a person from their disability. To find someone attractive solely cos they're missing a limb is definitely objectifying.
So? Everybody is objectified in some way. "
Not sure how that makes it okay? |
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"I wouldn't class all amputees as disabled. One of my mates lost his leg below the knee in 94 in Bosnia. He still served his full 22 and could run faster than me!. His leg also made a great drinking vessel for the new boys to the mess.
I know a few lads like that too.
I have a friend who has lost both his legs. We went to visit him in the hospital in Birmingham when he was flown home. It was fairly soon after it happened and when we arrived, we said we weren't sure what to bring him and quick as a flash he replied with 'well some socks would have been good!'
I don't see his injuries, I see the smart, funny, upbeat lad I've always seen... he's just shorter now. He laughs in the face of his difficulties and I'm pretty sure he has dark days but I'm also sure that he's one of the most inspirational people I know and that's massively attractive.
Classic battlefield humour. Selly Oak is full of lads like that. I had no end of fun whilst I was a guest."
Yup... he proposed to his girlfriend on Christmas Day and said he had to get the nurses to lower the bed cause he had no knees. I actually laughed and cried all at once. 
He's an amazing lad and now goes back to talk to the new recruits to give them a dose of reality. He did the poppy ad for the TV and he really is pretty special. I'm almost sure that his reaction to someone finding his stumps a fetish would tickle him ridiculously. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent? "
Not just amputees, disabled people in general, I don't feel comfortable knowing people would want sex with certain members of my family just because they are disabled, but then, it's not a cut and dry is it, I probably wouldn't like to think of people ' not' wanting sex with them because they are disabled. Needs more investigation this one. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
I dunno about decency, but it's weird to detach a person from their disability. To find someone attractive solely cos they're missing a limb is definitely objectifying.
So? Everybody is objectified in some way.
Not sure how that makes it okay?"
I didn't say it made it ok but I also don't think it's up to you to decide how people choose to live. Fetishes and kinks are very personal choices and you don't have to agree with it but you can also choose to be non-judgemental. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
Not just amputees, disabled people in general, I don't feel comfortable knowing people would want sex with certain members of my family just because they are disabled, but then, it's not a cut and dry is it, I probably wouldn't like to think of people ' not' wanting sex with them because they are disabled. Needs more investigation this one."
Put the fetish to one side for a moment.
Disabled people are perfectly entitled to have sex with whomever they like.
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
Not just amputees, disabled people in general, I don't feel comfortable knowing people would want sex with certain members of my family just because they are disabled, but then, it's not a cut and dry is it, I probably wouldn't like to think of people ' not' wanting sex with them because they are disabled. Needs more investigation this one.
Put the fetish to one side for a moment.
Disabled people are perfectly entitled to have sex with whomever they like.
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But we're not talking about disabled people choosing are we, we're talking about non- disabled people fetishising over amputees. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
Not just amputees, disabled people in general, I don't feel comfortable knowing people would want sex with certain members of my family just because they are disabled, but then, it's not a cut and dry is it, I probably wouldn't like to think of people ' not' wanting sex with them because they are disabled. Needs more investigation this one.
Put the fetish to one side for a moment.
Disabled people are perfectly entitled to have sex with whomever they like.
But we're not talking about disabled people choosing are we, we're talking about non- disabled people fetishising over amputees."
And where's the harm in having a fetish? I don't understand what people find so offensive. |
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I think people are concentrating on extreme fetishism of people who don't want the attention as a hypothesis, when a fetish for say, amputees, could be as mild as liking lingerie.
You go to a meet with someone you're interested in, and as a bonus they turn up wearing stockings/have no leg below the left knee. Fetishism isn't always extreme, and it isn't always so compelling that you meet up with someone just because of it.
In addition, there are many women who pop into my head - Viktoria Modesta as a prime example - who embrace fetishism and their amputations. They are amputees with their own fetish identities. |
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I once worked for a guy who was disabled, I never asked what his condition was but he was tiny and mainly used a wheelchair.
Anyway, he was a fetishist, and told me the story of how he went to a torture garden party with balloons tied to his chair, while he was dressed in a black, shiny SS uniform, and two able bodied Germans tried explaining how it was offensive. |
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"But, what if children were a legal fetish, would you all agree on a code of conduct then?
Surely we don't have to rely on the law to dictate our lines of decency.
In what way is having a fetish about amputees indecent?
Not just amputees, disabled people in general, I don't feel comfortable knowing people would want sex with certain members of my family just because they are disabled, but then, it's not a cut and dry is it, I probably wouldn't like to think of people ' not' wanting sex with them because they are disabled. Needs more investigation this one.
Put the fetish to one side for a moment.
Disabled people are perfectly entitled to have sex with whomever they like.
But we're not talking about disabled people choosing are we, we're talking about non- disabled people fetishising over amputees.
And where's the harm in having a fetish? I don't understand what people find so offensive."
Not sure about discussing this in the absence of the people it affects the most, I'm not sure how they feel about their disability being seen as a fetish and can't speak for them.
But from my point of view, it seems like seeing the disability and not the person, which is something that upsets a lot of people in that situation. It's just a tricky one without the amputees input, so enough said from me for the time being. |
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"More disabled people need to comment on this thread really, because they are the people who are affected by this the most."
They have been...
cr5-7 gets it.
Being described as "inspirational" for living with a disability leaves a nasty taste for a lot of people. What else are they meant to do? There's no choice in the matter. It's just called living.
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They have been...
cr5-7 gets it.
Being described as "inspirational" for living with a disability leaves a nasty taste for a lot of people. What else are they meant to do? There's no choice in the matter. It's just called living.
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My comment on my friend being inspirational is more about his attitude in dealing with the adversity the loss of his legs has caused. He is not inspirational because he's what you would class as disabled. Some of us don't see the disability, some of us see the person first.
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"More disabled people need to comment on this thread really, because they are the people who are affected by this the most.
They have been...
cr5-7 gets it.
Being described as "inspirational" for living with a disability leaves a nasty taste for a lot of people. What else are they meant to do? There's no choice in the matter. It's just called living.
My comment on my friend being inspirational is more about his attitude in dealing with the adversity the loss of his legs has caused. He is not inspirational because he's what you would class as disabled. Some of us don't see the disability, some of us see the person first.
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I didn't mean to seem like I was having a dig at you, I was just making a general comment. |
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Does finding someone attractive equal a fetishism nowadays then?
Does that mean anyone who likes men or women in glasses is a fetishist? Or those who like balding men or bug booked ladies? "
You are right Evie...... Stop looking at my specs you pervy bastards ! Weirdos! |
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"NEVER yuck someone else's yum (providing its legal and consensua) is something I learned a long time ago.
Also I know a lot of people with amputated limbs, it's not always a disability."
What if I lost the tip of my little finger in a door accident as a child?
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They have been...
cr5-7 gets it.
Being described as "inspirational" for living with a disability leaves a nasty taste for a lot of people. What else are they meant to do? There's no choice in the matter. It's just called living.
My comment on my friend being inspirational is more about his attitude in dealing with the adversity the loss of his legs has caused. He is not inspirational because he's what you would class as disabled. Some of us don't see the disability, some of us see the person first.
I didn't mean to seem like I was having a dig at you, I was just making a general comment."
I didn't read it as a dig lovely... I just felt I should explain what I meant by being inspired by my friend. He truly is amazing. I'm fairly sure I would have crumbled in his shoes (pardon the pun) so I don't ever think it's a bad thing to acknowledge his bravery both before and after his injuries. |
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"More disabled people need to comment on this thread really, because they are the people who are affected by this the most.
They have been...
cr5-7 gets it.
Being described as "inspirational" for living with a disability leaves a nasty taste for a lot of people. What else are they meant to do? There's no choice in the matter. It's just called living.
My comment on my friend being inspirational is more about his attitude in dealing with the adversity the loss of his legs has caused. He is not inspirational because he's what you would class as disabled. Some of us don't see the disability, some of us see the person first.
I didn't mean to seem like I was having a dig at you, I was just making a general comment.
I didn't read it as a dig lovely... I just felt I should explain what I meant by being inspired by my friend. He truly is amazing. I'm fairly sure I would have crumbled in his shoes (pardon the pun) so I don't ever think it's a bad thing to acknowledge his bravery both before and after his injuries. "
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To be clear about this thread, it's a bout adult consensual agreement of attraction between people. Fetish/kink/role play/scening. Scening and peoples desires, needs are diverse.
I have met people from every walk of life, doctors, teachers who wished to be disciplined, nurses who wished to play out daddy dom scene with me. Heck l had one lady who enjoyed dressage, yep pony play, l have met even black guys who wanted to role play as a slave. Folks it's about meeting the needs, yours, his, hers and yes mine under the umbrella of mature, adult consensual agreement.
Right l'm off, there's a rather nice female that wants to experience the sensation of " fire flogging " now where's my bottle of meths, flogger, sponge and fire extinguisher. . |
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