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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

Hell no....

If I was in a relationship I wouldnt

But I have been "the other woman" before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv been cheated on before and it broke my heart, so no I wouldn't cheat.

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By *rof_cplCouple over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

Nope, seriously.

We don't need to. We have the kind of relationship where we can let each other play, but not without the other person knowing and giving persmission.

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By *eMontresMan over a year ago

Halesowen

No need, we both have each others consent to play alone, though t elects only to play as a couple.

On the occasions I have had the opportunity to play alone, it has been with t's full consent, and details fully shared prior to and after the fact

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I have no experience to draw upon but I believe not. If we had children 100% No... I couldn't have innocence look at me as a liar and cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never - no need to

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I have no experience to draw upon but I believe not. If we had children 100% No... I couldn't have innocence look at me as a liar and cheat."

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

"Nope, seriously.

We don't need to. We have the kind of relationship where we can let each other play, but not without the other person knowing and giving persmission."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never have before. Don't think i'm the type to live with the guilt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, never.

I've been on the other side of that and it hurt like fuck.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hell no....

If I was in a relationship I wouldnt

But I have been "the other woman" before"

This!

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By *essiCouple over a year ago

suffolk

Never say never ....

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By *rivate roomMan over a year ago

Bracknell

"Hell no....

If I was in a relationship I wouldnt

But I have been "the other woman" before"

For a long time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think so

I lived in a sexless marriage for 8 years with a man who fucked everyone behind my back and I still never cheated on him, I suppose if I was going to I would have then

I never will in the future as I'll never have another relationship so it don't apply anymore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By *mumaWoman over a year ago

Livingston

No... never have done and never would cheat on a partner. Been accused of it though, then found out he was spouting his guilt on me cos he had!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have in the past hut never again.

Same answer for both of us.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Yes have to admit i once did and did not regret it..

well not cheat just lie a lot..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cheat at what?

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By *ady4ladyWoman over a year ago

liverpool

Those who say they have no need to cheat as they have open relationships etc i feel are assuming that cheaters only do it for the sex.... but cheaters have relationships, feelings, dates, anniversaries and dual lives.

Not all cheaters are just after sex

just saying!

( never say never)

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

Never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ashamed to say Iv been the other woman twice but I would never cheat on a partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been deceived before and I didn't like it. I try to live by "treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself".....well other than anal....besides, I'd get caught out, I'm not good at complicated

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By *rof_cplCouple over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

F always cheats at Monopoly, ALWAYS!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Cheat at what?"

mine was 'liar dice'..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would never cheat on my husband.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Wouldn't cheat. Have been cheated on. Have been the other woman, and have been involved in open relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?"

then you don't play..

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By *essiCouple over a year ago

suffolk

"Cheat at what?

mine was 'liar dice'..

"
be there done it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?"
we never play separately. So if either says no then it's no.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Cheat at what?

mine was 'liar dice'..

be there done it"

to my eternal shame initially i struggled with the concept..

do recall one guy when he realised he had been bluffed, came out with the classic 'but, but you lied'..

it was hilarious..

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

No.

Him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?"

Still no. We don't do this to compensate for anything we do it as an add on. Vanilla with sprinkles if you will. Would both happily pack it all in in a heartbeat if one of us wanted to stop. And it would be without feeling we are missing out on anything and that's the complete truth.

Mrs x

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By *i1971Man over a year ago

Cornwall

No - I wouldn't cheat

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

Mrs x"

so agree with this..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

Mrs x"

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Never. If you destroy trust what you you really have left?

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By *essiCouple over a year ago

suffolk

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

Mrs x

so agree with this.."

One would not sure about the other though...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

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By *rof_cplCouple over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

then you don't play.."

This ^^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?

Mrs x"

vanilla with sprinkles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sometimes do sudoku in pencil. Is that cheating?

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By *eMontresMan over a year ago

Halesowen

"Yes

Couples saying no. What if you didnt have consent?"

Then we wouldn't be together, so still no as I'd find a partner who was content to give her consent. Obviously in a new relationship it might be a bit scary to introduce all my aspects of kinky fuckery in one go, but if it was obvious that it would never be on the cards, then I'd be looking elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only thing I cheat at is online escape games because sometimes the clues are so obscure they are hit and miss. I can't cheat at board games and I wouldn't feel good about cheating on a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

No.

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By *ohnkezCouple over a year ago

shefiield

No need to cheat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to me cheating means you're no longer happy with the person you're with... so why do it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm afraid I did, after being in a loveless relationship for 11 years (8 of which were in separate bedrooms)

I couldn't confront her with the discussion of why the relationship was failing as she was very controlling, so I had an affair, got found out and she threw me out (of my own house)

I'm not proud of my actions, but everybody who knows me and her, had said they can understand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have done

I see things differently now

I don't buy into the 'once a cheat, always a cheat' mentality.

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By *oughandCurvyCouple over a year ago

galway

Nope, once you cheat you break something in your relationship that can never be repaired, and also I've no need to I get to have my cake and eat it so I'm a happy girl

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We both have in the past and both respective partners knew about it , so we didn't lie about it . I personally feel the lie is worse than the cheating . No need to cheat now both happy with each other and we are on here ! R

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I wouldn't - cheating is one of the most filthy low down shitty things you can do to anybody.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never have, never will.

And if Marc does, I will cut his dick off. And he is well aware of this fact

-Courtney

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By *ohnkezCouple over a year ago

shefiield

"Never have, never will.

And if Marc does, I will cut his dick off. And he is well aware of this fact

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In all honesty...i have no idea what the future holds. At the moment I have no desire and no need and no intention of cheating. Ever. I can't guarantee that will stay the same forever. Circumstances and people change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In all honesty...i have no idea what the future holds. At the moment I have no desire and no need and no intention of cheating. Ever. I can't guarantee that will stay the same forever. Circumstances and people change."

Absolutely.Time changes everything and people change with time.Some people fear change,others don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The last time I cheated was betrayal rather than infideleity. It fucked up what at that time was the best relationship I'd been in. So no not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I cheated was betrayal rather than infideleity. It fucked up what at that time was the best relationship I'd been in. So no not a chance."

We've both done it and had it done to us before. Not with each other but with ex partners. I think this has helped to shape our feelings about it.

We have discussed every scenario we can think of and agreed from day one that we will always be honest with one another about everything (feelings) including if we felt temptation to stray.

Neither of us are naive and we know how things can change but I absolutely believe neither of us would cheat. I have 100% trust in Mr L (something I didn't believe I'd ever be capable of prior to meeting him). I feel very lucky to have a rock solid relationship with my favourite person. 10 years in and I love him more than ever.

Sorry if this sounds soppy but its the truth. We never take each other for granted and have a very deep connection. I would be a fool to risk what we have with deceit. Especially as I would respect him more for being honest about wanting to go elsewhere.

When you find real true love, you want the other person to be happy and fulfilled so as much as it would tear me apart I would let him go if he didn't feel the same about me.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

at Monopoly yes if I sat "near the bank"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

NEVERRRRRRR!!!!

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

I am looking for someone to cheat on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nice to know my thoughts are not so wierd and other people think like I think x we think very similarly x could never risk what I feel for one guy no matter what!! But feels really good x not missing out at all just being totally happy with what you already have x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having just started a divirce after finding out my soon to be ex husband done nothing but cheat, I would say no. I wiuld not want any ex of mine to feel as useless and constantly question what is so wrong with themselves like I do on a daily basis. X

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No spent 3 years in a sexless marriage, had several oppertunities to cheat but I never did, I loved my husband and I vowed to be faithful to him forsaking all others, shame he never took the vows that seriously

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Loving all the chaste swingers in here!

Butter wouldn't melt, guys. :P

*doffs bowler*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have before and in all honesty probably would again.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

where's the satisfaction in that, I'm sure I can win without cheating....

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its amazing isnt it? you ask people directly and inevitably they say no ,never and so i ask who is it that is shagging all the escorts and prostitutes both male and female. Who are all the men on FAB looking for sex and who is shagging all the cheating men? Are they all shagging eachother? There cant be a massive coven of pious women out there who are single an therefore fully available to act freely as potential marriage wreckers..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would, have, do.

I probably would have answered the question very differently a few years ago but life changes.

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By *adja_lazloCouple over a year ago

Solihull

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

never, no need to, and no one should.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no never would

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never. I'd never do something to someone that I wouldn't want done to me, its wrong on all levels in my book.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would, have, do.

I probably would have answered the question very differently a few years ago but life changes. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

At monopoly?

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By *ntitledMan over a year ago

Widnes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

Maybe those in the 54% and 37 % respectively that don't are replying here, and everyone else keeping their heads down and saying nothing do?

What about the OP, did he answer?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

Maybe those in the 54% and 37 % respectively that don't are replying here, and everyone else keeping their heads down and saying nothing do?

What about the OP, did he answer?"

You could be right. But as Dr House said "Everybody lies"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes I do cheat, but I make it clear at the start of any relationship - don't invest your heart! Im not worth it... But on the other hand im a cheating rotten scoundrel and I just love it - there's nothing better than shagging away and its even better when other woman is cheating too - my spunk shoots miles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. I am a cheat.

But I would never be the other woman and be with an attached man. Don't know why.

Hypocritical, I know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

It's a problem of sampling. I really dislike that people assume those who say the "right" thing are lying just because of public opinion.

More probable is that the people who would not cheat are more likely to give their opinions openly. Especially in a forum where they will be judged. Therefore it is not a representative sample.

-Courtney

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

I said that I don't have any relationship experience to draw upon but I believe I wouldn't. I just don't know. I do however know that if I had children, I would not as I believe with a passion that when you decide to have them, you do everything you can to protect their home environment until they can spread their wings. A shag is not worth that in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally wouldn't cheat

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By *ig1gaz1Man over a year ago

bradford

I have before 1998 when was younger, but after that never would cheat on someone and never have done either

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

I'd be interested where you found those figures, because if they're from the Hofstra University study those were estimates, and included non-sexual 'affairs'. Most serious studies give much lower figures, in the mid teens.

Apart from that, wouldn't you expect couples here to be less likely than average? Like Mrs LL said above, once you are having great sex, with or without extra sprinkles, why would you complicate things further?

I'm sure affairs make for great telly, but after a full day's work, cooking dinner, sorting out the kids, walking the dog grouching at the bloke you've never heard of on "Strict Celebrities Baking on Ice with Talent" (and wheedling the wife to make up for it afterwards), I'm not sure I'd have the time!

Mr ddc

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By *uby_xWoman over a year ago

funky town

I did when I was younger but we live and learn.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

Obvs Monopoly is a different case.

I still maintain that offering your daughter a Mars bar in exchange for Mayfair isn't 'technically' cheating

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

statistically what percentage are the above contributor's as a percentage of the actual site membership..?

and what in percentage terms are both of those figures in relation to the population of the country..?

and where do the statistics you quote originate from, which group within society..

one could assume that those who participate in this aspect have no need for extra marital/partnership sex as they get that through this aspect..?

one could also suggest that a figure plucked from wherever has to be looked at in a much wider context before using it as a basis of making assumptions based on only one bit of information..

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By *eforfuncplCouple over a year ago

Morecambe

No what would be the point lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cheated on someone with 28 different women in a 3 year period, another relationship with 16 women in a similar period. I can't remember the others, but there were definitely more and this has nothing to do with swinging.

It also had nothing to do with not getting sex, it was just the love of variety and adventure ... sex was always there, just not always there with different people to try different stuff with.

Then someone cheated on me and I got a big fuck off dose of karma! I've more or less avoided commitment since as it would take a special kind of person to handle me

I'm contradictory however - it turns me on to think of a girl cheating on their husband ... especially if I'm involved in encouraging her slutty side.

I dunno, I guess I'm just a bit sick and wrong with twisted moral standards

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been caught cheating loads.

At monopoly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had an affair when I was married but I came clean to my husband & left him. I didn't want to stay & I had a proper 14yr relationship with the guy I left my husband for.

I did not cheat on him & the relationship ended amicably last year.

I have a pretty good relationship with my ex husband too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

Whats the point when I can be honest and swing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

There's lots of reasons for this happening, it's never as black and white as it looks from the outside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I cheated on someone with 28 different women in a 3 year period, another relationship with 16 women in a similar period. I can't remember the others, but there were definitely more and this has nothing to do with swinging.

It also had nothing to do with not getting sex, it was just the love of variety and adventure ... sex was always there, just not always there with different people to try different stuff with.

Then someone cheated on me and I got a big fuck off dose of karma! I've more or less avoided commitment since as it would take a special kind of person to handle me

I'm contradictory however - it turns me on to think of a girl cheating on their husband ... especially if I'm involved in encouraging her slutty side.

I dunno, I guess I'm just a bit sick and wrong with twisted moral standards

I think, judging by the amount of cheaters on here you're pretty normal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think, judging by the amount of cheaters on here you're pretty normal. "
Nothing I did above happened with anyone from this website - I hadn't even heard of it back then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've cheated in the past, but no not now. It's destructive

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By *G LanaTV/TS over a year ago

Gosport

I doubt it partly as I can't see myself getting into another serious relationship but also because I have suffered being cheated on. What was really stupid was she had insisted on us being open about our meets when we started swinging and it wouldn't have been a problem if she had been open about it. I wonder if much of her decision to leave was due to the conflicting emotions and guilt as years after our divorce despite remaining friendly she still can admit it. The thing was she wasn't even subtle about doing so, maybe she wanted me to know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Loving all the chaste swingers in here!

Butter wouldn't melt, guys. :P

*doffs bowler*"

Thank you Joe. Curtsies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Life changes people. We all justify our decisions and they seem right at the time. I think the term 'cheat' oversimplifies a situation where two people have a lack of 'something' in their relationship that can only be met by another person. For 'something' substitute sex, love, intimacy, communication or a hundred other words.

Dont judge too quickly. One day it might be your turn.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Life changes people. We all justify our decisions and they seem right at the time. I think the term 'cheat' oversimplifies a situation where two people have a lack of 'something' in their relationship that can only be met by another person. For 'something' substitute sex, love, intimacy, communication or a hundred other words.

Dont judge too quickly. One day it might be your turn. "

As long as the third-party isn't 'used' impersonally. Unfortunately, that is mostly how it happens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes Josie, in an ideal world this could be true. Sadly someone usually ends up being hurt. Not just the person being 'used'.

People who are desperate dont usually think clearly or consider consequences fully.

To answer the OP, yes I have but these days I am less scared of taking control of my life and dont blame others when things go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've cheated after being cheated on. Never even considered cheating before then though, am loyal to people who are loyal to me.

Not into cheating though, it makes me feels bad, so i'm done with exclusive relationshits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've cheated after being cheated on. Never even considered cheating before then though, am loyal to people who are loyal to me.

Not into cheating though, it makes me feels bad, so i'm done with exclusive relationshits. "

Typo or Freudian slip?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've cheated after being cheated on. Never even considered cheating before then though, am loyal to people who are loyal to me.

Not into cheating though, it makes me feels bad, so i'm done with exclusive relationshits.

Typo or Freudian slip?"

Purposely done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No...aside from it being disgusting and hurtful, I have no need to cheat.....

I have been cheated on by my ex, several times.....heartbreaking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

No. If I was in a relationship I wouldn't think of it. Ever!!!

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By *estinysswingersCouple over a year ago

Worsley

Would never cheat.

Treat people how we like to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have cheated and I wouldn't do it again, it was at an awful time in my life and I don't use that as an excuse, nothing could ever excuse my behaviour regardless of where I was in my life. It will stay with me forever and while my husband took me back, we had another four great years but because of my actions all those years ago our world fell apart last year.

I will always blame myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont judge too quickly. One day it might be your turn. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never thought I would but after spending years in a one way relationship (In every aspect) and him cheating more times than I can count, I did.

People have different situations and circumstances and I'm not saying its right or excusable or looking for sympathy but sometimes its more complicated than first meets the eye.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never

I've had it happen to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to clarify I hadn't cheated before and wouldn't ever again I wouldnt put myself into a relationship like that again

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"People have different situations and circumstances and I'm not saying its right or excusable or looking for sympathy but sometimes its more complicated than first meets the eye."

Very well put and I totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People have different situations and circumstances and I'm not saying its right or excusable or looking for sympathy but sometimes its more complicated than first meets the eye.

Very well put and I totally agree."

Its nice to see someone that does, a lot of people judge before they know the full situation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I slept with a married woman years before I joined fab, she promised me everything the ditched me and stayed with her husband. Hence why I've found fab to have lots of fun and no commitment. Would never cheat or have an affair again. Messes so many things up including myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Those who say they have no need to cheat as they have open relationships etc i feel are assuming that cheaters only do it for the sex.... but cheaters have relationships, feelings, dates, anniversaries and dual lives.

Not all cheaters are just after sex

just saying!

( never say never) "

Agree with this.

I was a serial cheater to an ex and I didn't want sex I wanted to be loved, adored, cherished. I got my sex from him. kept everyone happy until the time came to move on

To this day he thinks I was an angel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never have...never plan to...don't think I ever would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having been cheated on in the past no.

And I don't meet with married people off here either

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Just create the relationship and rules between you that you all want. No need for lack of honesty and guilt trips etc.

Everyone else's, or societal norms are not imposed onto you. Make life easy for yourself and choose what's natural and right for you. I sometimes just don't get why people make things so hard for themselves.

I wouldn't cheat but I would end the wrong relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This sort of post is like a bareback post. Everyone lines up to say they are perfect and would never do it.

Statistically 46% of women and 63% of men have extramarital sex. That suggests a good proportion of those above could be stretching the truth.

It's a problem of sampling. I really dislike that people assume those who say the "right" thing are lying just because of public opinion.

More probable is that the people who would not cheat are more likely to give their opinions openly. Especially in a forum where they will be judged. Therefore it is not a representative sample.

-Courtney"

You are right that non-cheaters may post more but by the same standard those that cheat and lie will say they don't cheat to ensure they are not criticised and are accepted by the group.

There are others who say they will not cheat but whom have little experience of life and have never faced the cheating situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,ve been cheated on and I,ve cheated, I currently see one guy who is married but I would have no issue cheating with someone I thought was better than what who I was with, its all about excitement for me.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I,ve been cheated on and I,ve cheated, I currently see one guy who is married but I would have no issue cheating with someone I thought was better than what who I was with, its all about excitement for me."

Classy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The vast Majority of men saying they would never do it... Quite frankly is bullshit at its finest... Ask yourself the question a naked woman on the bed saying Fuck me? Telling me you'd walk out the door in a situation like that I'd have her hanging off the chandalier!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The vast Majority of men saying they would never do it... Quite frankly is bullshit at its finest... Ask yourself the question a naked woman on the bed saying Fuck me? Telling me you'd walk out the door in a situation like that I'd have her hanging off the chandalier!!!"

I guess it'd be hard

, I'm sure some men would decline. Or are all men incapable of controlling themselves?

I think not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men are arseholes believe it or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Classy!

thanx for your input

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol"

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not all men are arseholes believe it or not."

They are!! Unless they've had a sheltered life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men are arseholes believe it or not.

They are!! Unless they've had a sheltered life "

BS.

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By *ingpongMan over a year ago

Wallsend

yes, my marriage is basically a marriage of convenience now, so i do cheat, but lets be honest, if you're getting it at home, something's got to give

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends what they look like surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was in a horrible relationship for 32 years, we didn't enjoy real intimacy let alone decent sex but I was loyal and faithful throughout. (he wasn't)

I only experienced my first ever orgasm 5 years ago...

I met my partner, he's a lovely man everything my ex wasn't, but he's an alcoholic and although we enjoy a good life together once again i find myself in a relationship where decent sex is compromised...

Yes, I cheat, I was cheating 6 months into my relationship, but I can't and won't compromise my sex life again...

My situation isn't unique, we're all basically here for the same thing whether we're cheating or not, so no-one had the right to judge others on morals or principles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you."

if only you knew half of what I,ve been through in my life maybe you wouldn't question my morals. I just find it quite sickmaking to see all these guys, and some females, giving out their holier than thou opinions on here, when I have been approached by at least 1 guy from a couple who has posted on this thread to meet alone, he know who he is !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men are arseholes believe it or not.

They are!! Unless they've had a sheltered life "

Utter nonsense. Perhaps its the circles you mix in.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Wow!

I've never cheated. If I'm with someone, in a monogamous relationship and I don't want to be with them any more then I leave. I wouldn't involve anyone else. I wouldn't stay with them until someone 'better' came along and I wouldn't cheat. I think it's called integrity.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Yes, I cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your right a bit there, although I cheated on my husband, last year he did the same thing, I never in a million years would have thought he would 'he just isn't the type' but put a woman in front of him with her fake tits etc out and he was all over it (no I didn't get mad, how could I after what I did!) the marriage broke up later that year though because clearly we both had issues!! Best of friends now though!

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By *ustusboth2013Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

Cheat at what?

Fiddling the lottery to ensure a jackpot win? If possible then probably.

If you mean do something behind my partners back to compromise our relationship, e.g. The typical have sex with someone else. Then no!

Why would I need to cheat when we enjoy sex together and I get to share the woman with her.

It would really make no sense in our relationship for either of us to cheat for the sake of sex when we can fulfil all those desires and enjoy together.

And I don't get a buzz from cheating that some people do. In a past relationship I did cheat and I didn't enjoy the after feeling. It was horrible for me to live with that guilt.

I understand the reason I did it, but it didn't make it right and is not an excuse.

However, I've rectified this and I'm with someone that enjoys the swinging scene as I do.

Since then, I have had no desire or reason to cheat.

So my question back to you, are you cheating?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Why is it holier than thou to say we wouldn't cheat? So a guy on here is lying. So? Does that mean the majority are? I don't think so.

Different people have different opinions, but very often on these types of threads people talk about high horses and being holier than thou and it gets exhausting.

Some people are lying, some are telling the truth. The sample is unrepresentative, and the OP asked the question with a bias as to the answer. Whatever. It doesn't mean anything anyway.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

Male half's of couples mailing me asking to meet him alone without his wife knowing then banging on about how they are a much in love couple in their profile and how they only meet together do don't ask to meet alone

I'm not saying all men would cheat but a lot more would than will admit, but then again if they are married and on here with their wife they are hardly going to post saying they would when their wife could read it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Why is it holier than thou to say we wouldn't cheat? So a guy on here is lying. So? Does that mean the majority are? I don't think so.

Different people have different opinions, but very often on these types of threads people talk about high horses and being holier than thou and it gets exhausting.

Some people are lying, some are telling the truth. The sample is unrepresentative, and the OP asked the question with a bias as to the answer. Whatever. It doesn't mean anything anyway.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

If you read my initial post you will see that it says both Mr L and I have been cheated on in past relationships and have cheated. We have had plenty of life experiences too, including some pretty horrendous stuff in fact but that is irrelevant.I didn't question your morals. I said and I quote, "it is quite disrespectful to assume everyone else has the same morals as you". I wasn't judging you I was saying not everybody would cheat so don't judge others based on the things that you would do. Some would, some wouldn't. That is all.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"if only you knew half of what I,ve been through in my life maybe you wouldn't question my morals. I just find it quite sickmaking to see all these guys, and some females, giving out their holier than thou opinions on here, when I have been approached by at least 1 guy from a couple who has posted on this thread to meet alone, he know who he is !!"

Okay... so we don't all know the ins and outs of everyone's history but please keep your dirty laundry in the basket at home where it belongs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been cheated on before and it broke my heart, so no I wouldn't cheat. "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was in a horrible relationship for 32 years, we didn't enjoy real intimacy let alone decent sex but I was loyal and faithful throughout. (he wasn't)

I only experienced my first ever orgasm 5 years ago...

Like it

Yes, I cheat, I was cheating 6 months into my relationship, but I can't and won't compromise my sex life again...

My situation isn't unique, we're all basically here for the same thing whether we're cheating or not, so no-one had the right to judge others on morals or principles! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes "

That's honest.

I have been cheated on and I knew it was happening. But when I asked the question, I was told I was un trusting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

Sorry about that

Just don't tell Marc!

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been cheated on before and it broke my heart, so no I wouldn't cheat.

Agreed "

totally this.

Although I must say that even before being cheated on years ago, I'd still not have cheated on anyone.

I like having a clear conscience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

Sorry about that

Just don't tell Marc!

-Courtney"

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

sorry fella your talking bollocks..

used to work in a blue light emergency service and over the 22 + years i can say that personally on 2 occasions i declined sex with women which was only based on the fact that i wore a uniform they had some 'thing' about..

both had been drinking and whilst not in the scenario you describe one was partially dressed, no way would i have touched either of them in that scenario..

not a fucking chance, possibly lose ones job, pension, wife and family for a fuck with a d*unken person..

let alone what else may be alleged when they sober up and realise what they've done..

in a scenario etc meeting on here as a 3 then clearly that's entirely different..

its nonsense to infer that all men have no control or that their dick over rules their common sense and they will fuck anyone..

its total bullshit to assume as you have done..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

You usually find its the ones who make the biggest song and dance about things that have the most to hide

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sorry fella your talking bollocks..

both had been drinking and whilst not in the scenario you describe one was partially dressed, no way would i have touched either of them in that scenario..

not a fucking chance, possibly lose ones job, pension, wife and family for a fuck with a d*unken person..

let alone what else may be alleged when they sober up and realise what they've done..

in a scenario etc meeting on here as a 3 then clearly that's entirely different..

its nonsense to infer that all men have no control or that their dick over rules their common sense and they will fuck anyone..

its total bullshit to assume as you have done.."

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

absolutely correct !! the stench of bullshit emitting from this thread is incredible lol

I beg to differ and think it is quite disrespectful of you to assume everybody else has the same morals as you.

Ive had that too

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

You usually find its the ones who make the biggest song and dance about things that have the most to hide"

Ah the classic "one doth protest too much" scenario

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have also had this, unfortunately, including from very vocally anti-cheating forum posters. Cheat, don't cheat, whatever, I don't give a toss - just have the courage of your convictions please.

I'm with you on the cheat/don't cheat thing... it's really nothing to do with me. I choose not to cheat when I'm in a monogamous relationship. I can't judge others, I've been the other woman. I've also been cheated on so when it's my responsibility, I choose to behave with integrity for my own sanity. But my circumstances are simple. Not everyone has simple circumstances and I haven't walked in their shoes so I'm happy to live in my own little bubble and leave everyone else to live in theirs.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

To the OP's question; would I cheat?

Define cheating:

Would I cheat by having sex with someone else whilst in a relationship? Probably not; as (1) sex is not all that important to me; yes, yes, I know I am on a swinger's site; (2) I will probably only be with a partner with whom I can be honest about my needs and will seek permission from her/him and similarly give permission to her/him to enjoy sex with others

Would I cheat by having an affair? No; because if I feel the need to form an emotional bond with someone else then my relationship is finished anyway and its time to pack my suitcase

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By *olwaySonarMan over a year ago

Carlisle

Not all cheaters are just after sex

just saying!

( never say never) "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do what makes you happy

no regrets, everything you did was exactly what you wanted at some point in time.

I think as others have said as long as you are prepared for the potential consequences then crack on and be happy xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have done, never again.

Besides we took slightly different wedding vows so we could swing (no forsaken others in our vows!) but we did promise honesty and trust. My vows I have and will always keep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having been cheated on in the past no.

And I don't meet with married people off here either "

That you know of

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By *lueEyedGuyMEMan over a year ago

MancBoltonBuryWigan

I'm cheating right now.

Eating chippy for dinner rather than something healthy

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I'm cheating right now.

Eating chippy for dinner rather than something healthy

Oh you cad you!

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By *UNKIEMan over a year ago

south east

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

No why would i need to when we can be on here and meet sexy people with her full blessing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No... never have done and never would cheat on a partner. Been accused of it though, then found out he was spouting his guilt on me cos he had!!"

This. So having experienced this, no, never, if/when I do find that 'someone', I'm outta here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would you?

Don't lie now... Honesty is the best policy!"

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't, no need to. I do honestly feel sorry for those in positions where they either live lives that are not true to who they present to be, or married with kids types where the children have no idea mum or dad are fucking others.

Cheated at monopoly once, ended up losing anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The end.

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