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"OP, I feel this all the time. " Looking at your pictures you really have no need to feel this way. | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow " there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. | |||
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"I think that all the time but then there is the odd thread that encourages you to name names and wam!! The people you thought wouldn't be interested are!! " Again looking at your pictures you really have no need to feel like that | |||
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But nothing ventured nothing gained! Aim high and hopefully you'll get a really pleasant surprise  good luck!
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"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow " I get contacted by guys I'd consider out of my league all the time. The only reason I think they contact me is because there are so many women on here they're getting a bit desperate! | |||
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"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense. " But what if one day they want a woman who is petit and slim and the next day they want a woman with great boobs and a bum? I think guys generally like variety... no? -Courtney | |||
"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x" The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now. | |||
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"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now." Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can! Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella! | |||
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"Not out of our league but there are couples we like the look of but don't message them. Not through fear of rejection but more that we don't think we fit the descriptions of what they're looking for. Mrs x" | |||
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" Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can! Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella! " Be nicer to yourself!!!!! Be nicer to yourself. Be nicer to yourself. You, like many other men, are amazingly nice, but you are not nice to yourself. A woman who wants to meet you is just as lucky to meet you as you are to meet her.
-Courtney | |||
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"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense. But what if one day they want a woman who is petit and slim and the next day they want a woman with great boobs and a bum? I think guys generally like variety... no? -Courtney" That's it. Men do like variety. A woman comes in many different forms. All of which can be equally delectable. A lot of men do have a wide range when it comes to what they find attractive. And if a man's saying he wants to be with you, then he wants to be with you. Not sure if women see men in a similar way. Maybe a woman could answer that. | |||
I'm comfy in my skin, I could do with a few less chins but in general I'm pretty happy with my lot. I'd quite like to be a bit fitter for health reasons so maybe finding a gym bod to keep me moving would be a good thing but I'd never approach one. I'd be permanently holding in my tummy! | |||
" Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can! Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella! Be nicer to yourself!!!!! Be nicer to yourself. Be nicer to yourself. You, like many other men, are amazingly nice, but you are not nice to yourself. A woman who wants to meet you is just as lucky to meet you as you are to meet her.
-Courtney" lol sometimes it needs a Trans Atlantic approach to kick us out of our British reserve! Spot on Courtney! | |||
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"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that." We aren't over confident or arrogant .... but no one is out of our league and we aren't too good for anyone either  | |||
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"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that." Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.  | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it. "and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame. | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it. " ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties | |||
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"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame."It is a shame.... | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties "It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd. | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame.
It is a shame.... " | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties
It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd. "Shall we have a night out and if there is anyone you fancy I'll tell them and visa versa | |||
"I don't really look at it that way. It isn't really about "leagues" for me. Some people sound like they are looking for a couple like us, and that's great! And some are looking for something else, and that's great, too! It's not like all the hot people fuck in one room and the not hot people fuck in another...or is it
-Courtney"I'm just looking for you Courtney I need you to educate me and analyse me | |||
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"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....." | |||
"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....." Just as well I like a good wank | |||
"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....." Haha | |||
"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank..... Just as well I like a good wank "but you can have a fag whilst you wank, it's outside | |||
"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank..... Just as well I like a good wank
but you can have a fag whilst you wank, it's outside "A plan with no draw backs | |||
"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....."
It does make you wonder though. I never feel the urge to name people unless it's threads about going for a few beers cause there's lots of you I'd love a night out with. I much prefer going to a social and meeting everyone... then if there's a spark it's pretty obvious.
Equally, you send a message with 'fancy a fuck*' and they say no thanks, it's not the end of the world. We're not 12!
*do not send 'fancy a fuck' messages to strangers... they never work! | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow " Ive been really surprised with some of the meets ive got? Chat normally and be nice to people and there is no harm in sending a polite message | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties
It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd.
Shall we have a night out and if there is anyone you fancy I'll tell them and visa versa "That sounds fun.
I'm such a tit, I've been doing it wrong. I mail people I fancy and if the feeling's mutual we fuck.  | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here." I think you know when somebody is out of your league, people say personality counts but when sending a message it don't, if you mail somebody and they don't like your pics they aren't going to bother getting to know you to see if your a nice person or not I've mailed many guys and never got a reply from a single one, because my tastes are to high I guess so now I don't bother I know from looking at a guy if he will mail be back, you only have to look at who's verified them to know if your their type | |||
"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too Wow there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that. Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school. Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.
ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties
It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd. " Fancy a fuck?! | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here." OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself. You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape . Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture . This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you . Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only. | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here. OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself. You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape . Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture . This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you . Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only. " | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here. OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself. You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape . Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture . This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you . Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only. "hi are you out of my league sexy bum ? | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here. OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself. You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape . Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture . This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you . Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only. hi are you out of my league sexy bum ? "what do you think | |||
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"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now." Maybe its more difficult being a single male on here but I wouldn't take any notice of people being nasty, they're just keyboard warriors and probably not worth your time | |||
"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know "That is true Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested | |||
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"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know
That is true
Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested
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"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know
That is true
Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested
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"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!" Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best. | |||
"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know
That is true
Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested
I'm the same!!! Especially when I look at veris & see pics of stunning figures "Does this mean you don't think you have a stunning figure??? | |||
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"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!! Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best." | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!! Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best." But I think your out of my league | |||
"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress "I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x | |||
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress "I think for me is not wanting that feeling of just being a make do | |||
"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x"That's not always true I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up | |||
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up "But are those sort of people the type you want to meet? To me that's just natures way of saving you a meeting with a twat!!  | |||
"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world" If you think that what hope do I have | |||
"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world" Who could say no to an arse like that | |||
"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up "Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option. | |||
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"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world If you think that what hope do I have "Sorry off topic a bit here but that wallpaper is ace | |||
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"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here." You're probably right mate.... no point | |||
"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up
Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option. "Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly | |||
"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense. " This ???? I sometimes tell the M not to mail couples if the F is hotter than me as I don't want the other M to be disappointed and be left out during the meet as all attention would be on her. | |||
"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world If you think that what hope do I have
Sorry off topic a bit here but that wallpaper is ace "Thanks. Says a lot for me though | |||
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up
Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.
Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly "It's a bit shit either way to be fair | |||
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up
Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.
Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly
It's a bit shit either way to be fair "My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!" | |||
"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world Who could say no to an arse like that " | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!! "You can't when they just drive off | |||
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If thee went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up
Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.
Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly
It's a bit shit either way to be fair
My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off "you seem to do well on meeting, plenty of verifications | |||
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"I know both feelings, on here and real life. On here I was contacted by a girl who said directly in her first message I was "waaaaay" out her league and so she wouldn't ask me to meet As well I was rejected by another girl because I was not her type. Try (gently), it is the only thing you have to do and you will never have regrets "Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league 
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"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress
I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x
That's not always true
I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up
Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.
Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly
It's a bit shit either way to be fair
My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off " I remember you telling that story. What a kick in the balls. | |||
"I know both feelings, on here and real life. On here I was contacted by a girl who said directly in her first message I was "waaaaay" out her league and so she wouldn't ask me to meet As well I was rejected by another girl because I was not her type. Try (gently), it is the only thing you have to do and you will never have regrets
Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league
"Reverse psychology/shock them kinda thing 'oh no you're not. You're lovely' | |||
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"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off "We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day. My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney" | |||
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"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting " Isn't that just something that ugly people say? | |||
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"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting Isn't that just something that ugly people say? "Speak for yourself ugly | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney"Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that. Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to. | |||
"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting " Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world. | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to."I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple. And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!) | |||
"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting Isn't that just something that ugly people say?
Speak for yourself ugly "You're absolutely right! lol Don't know what happened, I was a kid model growing up! | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)"That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)
That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop "No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead.... | |||
"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world. " Everyone's opinion is different When it comes to who's better looking and everybody has different opinions on what makes a person interesting so you may think your better looking than some people but not everyone will agree | |||
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"No one is out of my league...I go in for the kill if I get rejected I just take it on the chin and move on.. "Best way to be | |||
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I`m sat in one of the jaccuzzis in Chams one Sunday night. Firstly, a couple of which the lady is younger than me and good looking enters the jaccuzzi and being the sort of guy I am, move to give them room. Then a single lady closer to my age entered the jaccuzzi but was separated from me by another single male and eventually another couple as well. I was getting a bit disappointed that I was getting pushed away from the lady I wanted to focus on but was getting pushed towards the couple with the younger lady who`s "league" was "above" mine and I was getting quite uncomfortable in trying to maintain a respectful distance and I hope this was obvious to the couple. Suddenly I was aware of the younger lady`s hand on my cock and she proceeded to give a hand job - no verbal contact, no eye contact, just a hand job!
OP! Just be patient, READ profiles until you know every word and get yourself along to clubs and socials. Talk to people while your there. Talk to both halves of the couple, talk to other single guys who may well introduce you the sort of people you would benefit from meeting! | |||
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"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world. Everyone's opinion is different When it comes to who's better looking and everybody has different opinions on what makes a person interesting so you may think your better looking than some people but not everyone will agree" Well yeah, obviously. But it's my opinion that matters to me, so if I think someone is too good looking for me then even if they disagree they probably aren't going to be able to convince me otherwise. I don't really give a shit what other people think, I give a shit what I think. | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)
That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop
No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead...."But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn".... | |||
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"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)
That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop
No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....
But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"...."I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.
Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are. | |||
"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)
That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop
No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....
But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"....
I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.
Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are. "I don't meet toast either. The difference we disagree on is that I won't meet anyone for whom I am toast and not steak. I only want to be streak, I don't want to feel like toast, even if it's the juiciest fillet steak on offer. If I'm going to feel like toast, I'm out. | |||
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"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!
You can't when they just drive off
We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.
My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you
-Courtney
Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.
Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.
I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.
And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)
That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop
No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....
But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"....
I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.
Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are.
I don't meet toast either. The difference we disagree on is that I won't meet anyone for whom I am toast and not steak. I only want to be streak, I don't want to feel like toast, even if it's the juiciest fillet steak on offer. If I'm going to feel like toast, I'm out. "Well, I know you are going to say you aren't and that it just depends on how you feel, but I think you should never feel like toast. Never. And if you do then it shouldn't just be because of how someone else looks. It should be because you can tell they are an asshole. | |||
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"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here." my philosophy ,if you don't ask you don't get xx | |||
"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here." No. I contact them- if we have the right rapport and there is chemistry it matters little. Its not the playground where the pretty girls and sporty guys all date each other anymore! | |||
"Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league
"Strange type of approach...you know girls but she wanted to thank me for the pic I fabbed | |||
"toasts, steaks, ribs, etc" I am eating tuna steaks tonight. Hope you all are ok with that | |||
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"Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league
Strange type of approach...you know girls but she wanted to thank me for the pic I fabbed"Are you just making this up | |||
"Are you just making this up "Yeah right... I created a thread for "funny messages XD" but it was deleted. I have lots of them.
This was one funny but very appreciated. Good for my ego | |||
"I don't like to think of anyone as out of my league. You never know what people are looking for or the kind of guys they're attracted to. The reality of Fab however, especially for single guys is that you're generally going to have to be pretty good looking and fit to stand a chance with a lot of the women and couples. So in that sense you will be out of their league and there won't be too much you can do about that but that's more a reflection on the site than a reflection on you." Amen. Also there might be some women and couples here that will like you. But some people get dozens or even hundreds of messages a day. They'll delete 99% of their messages without reading them. Just try not to take it too personally as we all have our preferences and there will be people out there and on here who will really like you. | |||
