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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any girls had experience of this from other girls. Ive had a few incidents. Particularly one girl found out I met a particular guy and proceeded to bad mouth me to him.
I later found out that he refused to meet her despite lots of pleading on her part. |
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Bleurgh!
I hate that part of this scene. I don't have the jealous gene but I've come across it a few times. It's not my thing... I feel like the girls should stick together, not be bitching at each other.
*shudders* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bleurgh!
I hate that part of this scene. I don't have the jealous gene but I've come across it a few times. It's not my thing... I feel like the girls should stick together, not be bitching at each other.
*shudders*"
Exactly. I hate girls who turn on other girls. |
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
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"Any girls had experience of this from other girls. Ive had a few incidents. Particularly one girl found out I met a particular guy and proceeded to bad mouth me to him.
I later found out that he refused to meet her despite lots of pleading on her part."
Never quite understand the jealousy thing on here its a site to meet people...yes you may make some good friends along the way and meet again..but who they meet in between is not really anyone's business...and i would hope that the people i have met would no better than to think i would do that.. lets all have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh yes....the good old pissing up the lamp post messages  "
Don't you just love em! Especially the 'wait for you to go the toilet in a club moment and then pounce on the guy you are with' FFS show a bit of dignity ladies please. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I'm sure it goes on but I like to sidestep it when I see it and not get involved. Speaking personally, I've never really got jealous, I like all the people I've met on here and would recommend them to anyone else in a heartbeat. |
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I'll admit I have been jealous a few times only because of things that were said that was said to make me feel jealous...I know I shouldn't but I do try and avoid the feelings of jealousy and its an unhealthy emotion to experience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'll admit I have been jealous a few times only because of things that were said that was said to make me feel jealous...I know I shouldn't but I do try and avoid the feelings of jealousy and its an unhealthy emotion to experience "
I think jealousy is normal but making up lies and slut shaming someone is so wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any girls had experience of this from other girls. Ive had a few incidents. Particularly one girl found out I met a particular guy and proceeded to bad mouth me to him.
I later found out that he refused to meet her despite lots of pleading on her part.
Never quite understand the jealousy thing on here its a site to meet people...yes you may make some good friends along the way and meet again..but who they meet in between is not really anyone's business...and i would hope that the people i have met would no better than to think i would do that.. lets all have fun xx"
why don't you understand it though many girls are meeting the same guys, the verifications the pics the updates and the fabs highlight it all and the green eyed monster appears and like someone said handbags at dawn  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think some try and encourage it on the forums at times also...
Yup...and it's amusing to sit back and watch "
I'm rubbish at spotting it. Point it out to me next time and I can rub my hands in amusement. |
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So sad to see some women feeling they need to tear other women down for any reason .Says more about their own insecurity than about anything else . If a woman feels the need to mark her "percived" territory then that's her issue not mine .If the single guy and I are happy to meet then no concern of any other woman .
I even had a single fem throwing a hissy fit to my husband as to who he played with at a party lol! I don't do jealousy ,but I sure as hell do a reality check for a person if required lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh yes....the good old pissing up the lamp post messages
Don't you just love em! Especially the 'wait for you to go the toilet in a club moment and then pounce on the guy you are with' FFS show a bit of dignity ladies please."
Had that and the back stabbing and bitching. Nearly left because of it... But remembered I have been here too long to be chased off |
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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago
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"Any girls had experience of this from other girls. Ive had a few incidents. Particularly one girl found out I met a particular guy and proceeded to bad mouth me to him.
I later found out that he refused to meet her despite lots of pleading on her part.
Never quite understand the jealousy thing on here its a site to meet people...yes you may make some good friends along the way and meet again..but who they meet in between is not really anyone's business...and i would hope that the people i have met would no better than to think i would do that.. lets all have fun xx why don't you understand it though many girls are meeting the same guys, the verifications the pics the updates and the fabs highlight it all and the green eyed monster appears and like someone said handbags at dawn "
No green eyes here just blue 
To old and wise to be getting in to Jealous rages over men or women.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes over the years had this from woman and even men and I never even new them . Found it only in swinging not vanilla world and found it very strange as there was no need . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had it a lot on here, chat is the worst for it at times. Got told to fix my "ratty hair extensions" before I come on cam....yeah that's my real hair love, cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bleurgh!
I hate that part of this scene. I don't have the jealous gene but I've come across it a few times. It's not my thing... I feel like the girls should stick together, not be bitching at each other.
*shudders*"
 we're all here for fun and I (jane) am a lover not a fighter  and I was always brought up with its nice to share  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol "
That's pretty messed up |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol "
What exactly did you win? I'll never understand that mindset. Still, each to their own. |
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol
What exactly did you win? I'll never understand that mindset. Still, each to their own."
I was thinking the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol
New id get one of then can you not see my tounge in my cheek......at least I think it's my tounge
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-Courtney"
I think it's more likely you come across as friendly and not interested in drama. Like attracts like. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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never seen jealousy as such, some totally unhinged fuckers behaving worse than kindergarten kiddies if they are not getting the adulation they feel they deserve........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol "
you won ? look he maybe on loads of other sites doing same old thing just not in front of you .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-Courtney
I think it's more likely you come across as friendly and not interested in drama. Like attracts like. "
Or maybe I'm actually one of the jealous ones so I don't see it in others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-Courtney
I think it's more likely you come across as friendly and not interested in drama. Like attracts like.
Or maybe I'm actually one of the jealous ones so I don't see it in others "
Should I hotlist you for the regular soap style bitchy status updates? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-Courtney"
Courtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x "
Oh. Apologies 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x Courtney you can be jealous if you want xx
Oh. Apologies
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol
New id get one of then can you not see my tounge in my cheek......at least I think it's my tounge
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Phew! I'm glad you clarified... and weren't serious!
I do think this is a terrible place to be if you suffer from jealousy (not you, the generic you) cause it must just tear you up to have to deal with that. I suspect you'd then have to question your reasons for swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x "
Jealousy has no bearing on whether someone is single or in a relationship.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x
Jealousy has no bearing on whether someone is single or in a relationship. "
true |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Nope, sorry. Been trying to respond to this but the thought of people getting jealous of others of a swinging site is just beyond my ability to think. Situations like what the OP has posted is like anti-swinging to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x t
Jealousy has no bearing on whether someone is single or in a relationship. "
it kinda does coz Courtney can't be seen to be getting jealous about another guy in front of her partner ,that's my thinking on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever felt jealousy from another woman. Not anyway, at least. I have found most women to be really nice. Maybe I'm just naive.
-CourtneyCourtney you have a partner you are not in the same boat as the single guys and girls x t
Jealousy has no bearing on whether someone is single or in a relationship. it kinda does coz Courtney can't be seen to be getting jealous about another guy in front of her partner ,that's my thinking on it "
Very true. But I was thinking more that other women have never gotten jealous of me with regards to which single men I play with. But I see your point  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I'll put my hand up n say yea in the beginning I used to get jelous n ova a certain guy I still do but he's not on here anymore n I speak to him daily so I won lol
New id get one of then can you not see my tounge in my cheek......at least I think it's my tounge
Phew! I'm glad you clarified... and weren't serious!
I do think this is a terrible place to be if you suffer from jealousy (not you, the generic you) cause it must just tear you up to have to deal with that. I suspect you'd then have to question your reasons for swinging."
Gosh yea it did I was a fucked up mess ova him for ages but I was still in a crappy unloving marrage that I was desperate to leave so that didn't help with my emothions as I'm sure many on here will remember lol. Yea he's been brilliant tbh n now we are very good friends allthough we still haven't shagged. X |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys "
But then you are listening to gossip. How are you sure that the information you are given isn't for their own agenda. Just throwing that out there.Personally I have seen more jealousy and gossip from men than from women. Women should empower each other and not be envious and hurtful of each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys
But then you are listening to gossip. How are you sure that the information you are given isn't for their own agenda. Just throwing that out there.Personally I have seen more jealousy and gossip from men than from women. Women should empower each other and not be envious and hurtful of each other. "
They should... BUt I found out first hand that they dont.... Come out the other side of it now... But omg... never knew that a group of women could be so evil and vicious till I fell foul of some on here.
I stay away from chat now. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys
But then you are listening to gossip. How are you sure that the information you are given isn't for their own agenda. Just throwing that out there.Personally I have seen more jealousy and gossip from men than from women. Women should empower each other and not be envious and hurtful of each other. "
some is, some isn't lola xx the truth comes out, i just stay out of things as much as i can.people want to speak to me they will do and if they dont, that is their choice
i totally agree, i love and support women when they allow it..always have big encompassing hugs for everyone...just my nature, i just accept not everyone is like me..tough sometimes, but the friendships ive made far outweigh this stuff and i concentrate on that..xx |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys
But then you are listening to gossip. How are you sure that the information you are given isn't for their own agenda. Just throwing that out there.Personally I have seen more jealousy and gossip from men than from women. Women should empower each other and not be envious and hurtful of each other.
some is, some isn't lola xx the truth comes out, i just stay out of things as much as i can.people want to speak to me they will do and if they dont, that is their choice
i totally agree, i love and support women when they allow it..always have big encompassing hugs for everyone...just my nature, i just accept not everyone is like me..tough sometimes, but the friendships ive made far outweigh this stuff and i concentrate on that..xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only experienced this once and it surprised me as the woman involved was a longstanding forumite and I didn't expect it from her.
She messaged telling me that a guy I was flirting with in the forum was sharing a room with her at a forum beach party social.
I still don't know what guy she was referring to as she didn't quote his username and I couldnt remember flirting with anyone in particular. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Experience tells me that those with an issue with others jealousy are very often the jealous kind themselves."
some cases maybe, but not in mine..id rather walk away..and i do..in the 'real' world too...
this is the first ive spoken on the subject. because really id prefer to stay silent.. however, if it makes other women feel not so alone..i will speak up. im not afraid of my own voice, id just prefer to speak with other peoples difficulties in mind..rather than my own struggles with it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've not experienced this with Women and would never dream of being jealous on here! Its NSA fun....no need for jealousy, sharing is caring "
jealousy is the person not the theory ,the theory is NO STRINGS ATTACHED the person that gets jealous can't deal with it its a common problem for swingers and its split many a couple up ,I've seen it first hand |
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"I've not experienced this with Women and would never dream of being jealous on here! Its NSA fun....no need for jealousy, sharing is caring jealousy is the person not the theory ,the theory is NO STRINGS ATTACHED the person that gets jealous can't deal with it its a common problem for swingers and its split many a couple up ,I've seen it first hand "
But I thought couples can't experience jealousy on here? Only singles? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think I have only experienced jealousy once in my life. It was relatively recent and it was the most nauseating feeling I have ever experienced without being physically sick. It lasted about an hour in total and thankfully I realised what it was, expressed how I was feeling and it dissipated. I also realised my stupidity in ending up feeling that way and I made a pact with myself not to feel like that again. So far I've kept the pact and think I know the tell tale signs now so can avoid them. I didn't think I did jealousy, but I was wrong. I hope I don't feel it ever again though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bleurgh!
I hate that part of this scene. I don't have the jealous gene but I've come across it a few times. It's not my thing... I feel like the girls should stick together, not be bitching at each other.
*shudders*"
Exactly this. For me, girls always come first and I will do my bit to look after and protect my female friends. There are some women who are snide (they think the rest of us don't find out) and would stab another woman in the back if it meant getting to a man first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bleurgh!
I hate that part of this scene. I don't have the jealous gene but I've come across it a few times. It's not my thing... I feel like the girls should stick together, not be bitching at each other.
*shudders*
Exactly this. For me, girls always come first and I will do my bit to look after and protect my female friends. There are some women who are snide (they think the rest of us don't find out) and would stab another woman in the back if it meant getting to a man first "
I always like to think that there is a code amongst us ladies... But some seem to think that any man is fair game. and I know what you mean about snidy ones.. but they always get found out. I am not good at holding my tongue when I catch them out though. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"had loads of it...all behind the scenes, but i get to hear about it.
quite a shocker when on a site like this....
i agree women should be there for each other..
sidestep or avoid. and stay silent and carry on....not my circus , not my monkeys "
I'm not interested in the politics or gossip that seems to go hand in hand at times ! I'm here for fun! I choose my friends, talk to whoever I like, I'm not disrespectful and am loyal! I understand completely where these comments are coming from, however! I won't ever be the best and I'm not the worst there is. I'm ok with being a 'happy medium' doing my thing |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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I've had the "you can keep him ..." from this woman in a couple
Whatever made her think that I wanted him, let alone keep him. I just wanted causual sex with him; anything more and I would be much more discerning; some people are just weird |
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