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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why does a married man who gets caught out get upset when he's wife starts playing around for revenge?

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's called hypocrisy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's called hypocrisy "
indeed it is my friend see how many blokes agree with us?x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's called hypocrisy "
indeed it is my friend see how many blokes agree with us?x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cause people aren't purely rational?

People can pursue themselves it's OK to cheat but then still have feelings about it if they're on the other end of it.

Frankly though why if you found out your partner was cheating would you go and cheat in revenge?

Just leave them

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By *ohnaronMan over a year ago

london

"Why does a married man who gets caught out get upset when he's wife starts playing around for revenge?"

Put me in touch with the woman and i will ask her.]

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cause people aren't purely rational?

People can pursue themselves it's OK to cheat but then still have feelings about it if they're on the other end of it.

Frankly though why if you found out your partner was cheating would you go and cheat in revenge?

Just leave them

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I agree and I have told her that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why does a married man who gets caught out get upset when he's wife starts playing around for revenge?

Put me in touch with the woman and i will ask her.]"
sad answer

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cause people aren't purely rational?

People can pursue themselves it's OK to cheat but then still have feelings about it if they're on the other end of it.

Frankly though why if you found out your partner was cheating would you go and cheat in revenge?

Just leave them

Yeah, I don't get that either. Also, it's surprising how many people say they would forgive a partner of cheating if their partner bought them a present or something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are we talking about just a one night stand where it was just sex or an actual affair where emotions were involved?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cause people aren't purely rational?

People can pursue themselves it's OK to cheat but then still have feelings about it if they're on the other end of it.

Frankly though why if you found out your partner was cheating would you go and cheat in revenge?

Just leave them

I agree and I have told her that "

By any chance are you the one she's having revenge sex with?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

one rule for them and different rules for the other - isnt fair - it stinks but it happens all the time sad to say

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"By any chance are you the one she's having revenge sex with? "

I love that terminology, it tickles me what a hoot yeah baby

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By *ndm4444Man over a year ago

Tonbridge

"Are we talking about just a one night stand where it was just sex or an actual affair where emotions were involved?"

In my view this is a very good point that people tend to forget. I think there's a world of difference between the two and regard an affair as betrayal whereas lust on a one or two meeting basis as completely different. Of course they both hurt the partner but lust, whether or not it leads anywhere, is a normal human reaction.

For the record as a youngster I dumped a girlfriend when she had a one night stand but if similar had happened during the last 10 or so years my reaction would have been far more understanding and forgiving - unlike finding out about an affair.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Why does a married man who gets caught out get upset when he's wife starts playing around for revenge?"

Loads of reasons. Many (not all) people who get caught out, men and women, will have justified their actions to themselves and often in terms of blaming their partner behaving in such a way as to make their cheating inevitable, some even couch it in terms of saving their marriage. When they discover their partner doing the same thing they have to apply the blame partly to themselves face up to the actual situation and the fact that it's a two way street.

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By *cd and scruffCouple over a year ago

Rochester

Surely if one is looking elsewhere then they should be addressing the issues in their relationship or finishing the relationship instead of destroying each others world?

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By *lashheartMan over a year ago

shrewsbury

Because they are human.

There's not enough facts to comment otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't when a couple constantly cheating on eachother, get angry and still stay together, why they just don't have an open relationship....

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Because they are human.