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over a year ago
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"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals...."
What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....
What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"
well, maybe  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....
What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"
Entirely different. If there is anyone in a difficult situation, I am sure most of us would be willing to sacrifice our comfort. I am posing the scenario where it is a perfectly adequate lady who is having to stand. |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"
Good Lord!
A lady would never take public transport!
(I used to, but now one has to be more careful. Besides, once you get to my age, the young women offer me theirs instead saying "ere, you go grandpa") 
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I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.
But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.
I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more  |
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"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....
What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"
Some don't care you're pregnant I can't even count how many times when I was heavily pregnant with my twins and wearing a very obvious bump support harmed and back brace to help me support the weight of the babies and I was left standing uncomfortably in agony only wishing I'd be at least offered a seat. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more.
thank you  "
Yoy're welcome Granddad.
I also read today that standing on public transport burns more calories. I'll take anything I can towards hitting my goals.  |
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"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.
But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.
I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more "
because they get abuse for doing it these days that's why they don't do it anymore |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more.
thank you
Yoy're welcome Granddad.
I also read today that standing on public transport burns more calories. I'll take anything I can towards hitting my goals. "
to be fair, I got the bus to Dundee one morning last winter as my car is crap in the snow... I was stunned how territorial people were.... They were saying 'such and such sits there' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.
But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.
I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more "
I am not sure that is entirely true. I recall being on the Tube not so long ago and at least three people offered their seats to a heavily pregnant lady.
But the question was about giving up your seat to a perfectly fit lady. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it |
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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago
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People can be far too judgemental in situations like this. I suffer with a herniated disc which causes terrible pain in my lower back and right leg, but to look at me I would appear perfectly healthy. So should I give up my seat and stand in agony silently, or sit there and people think I'm ignorant and not a gentleman? Food for thought  |
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"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it"
But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When i was heavily pregnant someone only ever gave their seat up for me once. It was in a fast rickety tram. i gave it up myself to an elderly woman with a stick and got tuts from all the passengers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.
Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat."
That's the very reason why I don't use public toilets. |
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"Absolutely. Drummed into me from an early age. Old school gentleman and make no apologies for it."
I'm the same- I also let ladies ( especially with young children clearly making her life difficult) go before me at a shop checkout/counter |
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"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it
But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat?"
Nope, on those days everyone except old biddies, pregnant women, and people on crutches can go away. And even then I'm reluctant in my thoughts |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.
Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat.
That's the very reason why I don't use public toilets."
Yeah, that too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"
Er no. Equality and all that.
Unless she was ancient or pregnant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nobody ever gave up their seat for me when i was pregnant, and my kids were all whoppers so it was obvious i was pregnant.
After i'd had the baby it was a different story though and i got offers of help with my pram and my toddlers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.
Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat."
Unless you've been freezing your arse off waiting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it
But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat?
Nope, on those days everyone except old biddies, pregnant women, and people on crutches can go away. And even then I'm reluctant in my thoughts"
OK, reading the comment above that latter, mums or dads with kids. Because I have such a look, there's generally family sized spaces around me |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"
...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?
...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man"
Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.
I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.
You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat? |
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"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?
No. You snooze, you lose. "
I really would not expect an able-bodied female to offer her seat to another able-bodied female. Would you expect an able-bodied male to offer you a seat? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?
No. You snooze, you lose.
I really would not expect an able-bodied female to offer her seat to another able-bodied female. Would you expect an able-bodied male to offer you a seat?"
Nope. |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?
...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man
Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.
I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.
You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?"
depends if I felt caged in as I don't like being too close to people so sometimes in the past yes even on a crowded train I have got up from my seat and stood some where else and let somebody take my seat.
as I have long legs and am not too fond off being sandwiched between people... |
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I always do . Its somthingbi have been brought up to do.i am quite happy to do so.
Its cause me to have some funny looks when I have been in London.
Its only right a fit healthy chap should stand and a lady sit |
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I always offer my seat to anybody that needs it more than me
some ive found to be stuborn and not taken the offer
but I always will get out of my seat for a lady or anyone that is older than I am
my children have also been brought up the same |
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"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.
But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.
I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more because they get abuse for doing it these days that's why they don't do it anymore"
Not from me, it seems wrong if that's the case |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?
...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man
Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.
I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.
You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?"
Not a chance. Equality, basically. Women are just as able to stand as I am. |
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"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?
...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man
Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.
I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.
You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?
Not a chance. Equality, basically. Women are just as able to stand as I am. "
So if there's one seat available who gets it ~ you or the missus?
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I always give up a seat for a lady. Was brought up that way. There are too many people who just think of themselves. We took kids out of pushchairs who were old enough to sit on laps and folded up buggies and put in the luggage rack. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Paul does because he was brought up to be very gentlemanly and does treat woman as if they are "precious" ie opens doors, drops you close to the place you are going and then parks and he won't allow a woman to carry bags! I have argued with him so many times over this as I am miss independent but he eas brought up to look after woman |
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