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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all can anyone help me out with this one
I'm in a wheelchair but it does not effect me in the bedroom at all
Is it just me or can no one see past just the wheelchair
Was on this site with the wife for about 3 years and had some good time but now I'm on here on my own and in a wheelchair before I was not in a wheelchair
Would appreciate any thoughts anyone has
Alan x |
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Single guys struggle, you make it clear on your profile so people are aware, it may or may not put people off, I wouldn't meet someone in a wheelchair as I play at home and my home isn't wheelchair friendly.
If I met you in a club I wouldn't turn you down just because you where in a wheelchair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guys struggle, you make it clear on your profile so people are aware, it may or may not put people off, I wouldn't meet someone in a wheelchair as I play at home and my home isn't wheelchair friendly.
If I met you in a club I wouldn't turn you down just because you where in a wheelchair"
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I can tell you now that categorically it wouldn't bother me. If you are honest and tell us exactly what we would be faced with be it scars, trauma, health problems, if there are certain positions that would be a struggle or if help would be required then all we would want is a clear and honest discussion before hand and so as to not make anything awkward. You never know what life could throw at you and we could end up in a similar situation and still wanting to play. So we would never discriminate. I understand for some people it would be difficult especially accommodating and making places accessible. But if you work around that it shouldn't be an issue.
Rach xxx |
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"Thank you kind words but most clubs don't accommodate for wheelchair's so I'm stuck at home but thank you "
there are more clubs becoming wheelchair friendly, vanilla alternative just outside Bedford most definetly is
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello all can anyone help me out with this one
I'm in a wheelchair but it does not effect me in the bedroom at all
Is it just me or can no one see past just the wheelchair
Was on this site with the wife for about 3 years and had some good time but now I'm on here on my own and in a wheelchair before I was not in a wheelchair
Would appreciate any thoughts anyone has
Alan x "
Other than potential accessibility issues I see no reason why being in a wheelchair would make much difference to your chances of success ....
Some people will meet you and some people won't ......
That's the way of it for everyone on the site...
But good-luck anyway....
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello all can anyone help me out with this one
I'm in a wheelchair but it does not effect me in the bedroom at all
Is it just me or can no one see past just the wheelchair
Was on this site with the wife for about 3 years and had some good time but now I'm on here on my own and in a wheelchair before I was not in a wheelchair
Would appreciate any thoughts anyone has
Alan x "
The wheelchair would not be a problem, but we wouldn't meet you because you only play bareback..
Still cannot understand what your complaining about, you have only been on the site 2 weeks and have one meet already....that's more than most singles without any disability  |
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"I can tell you now that categorically it wouldn't bother me. If you are honest and tell us exactly what we would be faced with be it scars, trauma, health problems, if there are certain positions that would be a struggle or if help would be required then all we would want is a clear and honest discussion before hand and so as to not make anything awkward. You never know what life could throw at you and we could end up in a similar situation and still wanting to play. So we would never discriminate. I understand for some people it would be difficult especially accommodating and making places accessible. But if you work around that it shouldn't be an issue.
Rach xxx"
You are a star Rach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can tell you now that categorically it wouldn't bother me. If you are honest and tell us exactly what we would be faced with be it scars, trauma, health problems, if there are certain positions that would be a struggle or if help would be required then all we would want is a clear and honest discussion before hand and so as to not make anything awkward. You never know what life could throw at you and we could end up in a similar situation and still wanting to play. So we would never discriminate. I understand for some people it would be difficult especially accommodating and making places accessible. But if you work around that it shouldn't be an issue.
Rach xxx"
Couldnt have said it better xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know what you mean there as iv had the same thing happen to me with someone els saying they was in a wheelchair
I do hate people that let people down as everyone's time is not there to be wasted
I have and would never let someone down if I said I was going to meet I always meet but that's just me but thanks of the kind answer xx |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello all can anyone help me out with this one
I'm in a wheelchair but it does not effect me in the bedroom at all
Is it just me or can no one see past just the wheelchair
Was on this site with the wife for about 3 years and had some good time but now I'm on here on my own and in a wheelchair before I was not in a wheelchair
Would appreciate any thoughts anyone has
Alan x
The wheelchair would not be a problem, but we wouldn't meet you because you only play bareback..
Still cannot understand what your complaining about, you have only been on the site 2 weeks and have one meet already....that's more than most singles without any disability "
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"Thank you everyone for all your kind words maybe its just me thinking to much into it
Much appreciated to everyone
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As much as it's nice to think people are horrible shit bags. There really are some genuinely nice people in the world - and if you hold a negative view of the world, you don't give it a chance to show its positivity.
I hope I'm right in that maybe like everyone else on here you don't always find the meets you want - it will have nothing to do with your disability. You have 1 more meet than even the dudes with six packs remember!
Chin up petal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you I am a very happy go lucky person I always have a smile on my face the people that know me say I'm always happy
Iv never tried to let if bother me as I see it as a extension to me instead of being able to walk I can roll lol
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"Thank you I am a very happy go lucky person I always have a smile on my face the people that know me say I'm always happy
Iv never tried to let if bother me as I see it as a extension to me instead of being able to walk I can roll lol
Thank you x "
Great attitude to have.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't have a problem with swingers with any disability. Although rules of attraction still apply for us.
Every club we have been to has had access for the disabled. The club scene pleasantly surprised us with its inclusivity. |
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"I can tell you now that categorically it wouldn't bother me. If you are honest and tell us exactly what we would be faced with be it scars, trauma, health problems, if there are certain positions that would be a struggle or if help would be required then all we would want is a clear and honest discussion before hand and so as to not make anything awkward. You never know what life could throw at you and we could end up in a similar situation and still wanting to play. So we would never discriminate. I understand for some people it would be difficult especially accommodating and making places accessible. But if you work around that it shouldn't be an issue.
Rach xxx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once had a meet with a guy (while ago now) who had, had a stroke, I knew about it before hand of course but it didn't put me off one bit, he was a lovely guy and sure there were somethings he was physically able to do but we go round it, he's a bloody good friend x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are quite a few disabled people on here, some require wheelchairs some don't.
As a few people have said be up front with your meets, see how it goes. |
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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago
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"There are quite a few disabled people on here, some require wheelchairs some don't.
As a few people have said be up front with your meets, see how it goes."
and don't get too hung up with people telling you that your disability is out oftheir comfort zone, just be polite and bump on
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"Hello all can anyone help me out with this one
I'm in a wheelchair but it does not effect me in the bedroom at all
Is it just me or can no one see past just the wheelchair
Was on this site with the wife for about 3 years and had some good time but now I'm on here on my own and in a wheelchair before I was not in a wheelchair
Would appreciate any thoughts anyone has
Alan x "
. As you had has two meets recently it indicats that most members are open minded and do not discriminate .
However not many members will want a bareback meet which you are insisting on. The profile pictures could be improved . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started talking to a guy in a wheelchair with ms ...... (I'm a care support worker so people with disabilities don't worry me)
He then suddenly got defensive and started saying I was only thinking of meeting him because I felt sorry for him... Had to block in the end cause he got quite nasty .
I see the person not the chair but like someone said ..... It would only be the bareback that would concern me xxxx |
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