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"Is being in love the same as falling in love? " For me, no. | |||
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"Not in my eyes"  this. if your in love they shout" not in my eyes" | |||
"Falling is the start of it, being is when you're sure." That's pretty much how I see it too | |||
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Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them. | |||
"I love my friends..am not in love with them though. When does the falling change to being I wonder? " But being in or falling in love isnt something you do with friends It's like I love my kids and I love some unrelated people, but that's not the same love either and neither of those love is the same as falling or being in love In my eyes anyway | |||
"Is being in love the same as falling in love? " More or less - you fall in love and then you are in love! | |||
"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them."Apologies..I missed that one x | |||
"I love my friends..am not in love with them though. When does the falling change to being I wonder? But being in or falling in love isnt something you do with friends It's like I love my kids and I love some unrelated people, but that's not the same love either and neither of those love is the same as falling or being in love In my eyes anyway " I feel like i fell in love with my kids, didn't 'love' them as soon as they were born - it happened over a few months because i take a while to get attached to anyone, but yeah it's still never been an 'in love' type of feeling, the love for them is different than to a partner. | |||
"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them.
Apologies..I missed that one x"Oh no, no apology needed. I just thought great minds think alike | |||
"Is being in love the same as falling in love? " Blimey these questions are getting tough. Falling into the bath isn't the same as being in the bath. One's more "arrrrghhh", while the other's more "mmmmmm". Think that's about the same.
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"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them."Yours was even harder, so I wimped out  | |||
"Is being in love the same as falling in love? " not really falling in love is the process of getting to being in love xx  | |||
"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them.
Yours was even harder, so I wimped out
"It's obvious that you are in love with Mrs ddc, I'm sure there are people you love | |||
"Is being in love the same as falling in love? not really falling in love is the process of getting to being in love xx " | |||
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"Yesterday's love thread: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/429261 "Was that my one? | |||
"Is being in love the same as falling in love? not really falling in love is the process of getting to being in love xx "this  | |||
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"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them.
Yours was even harder, so I wimped out
It's obvious that you are in love with Mrs ddc, I'm sure there are people you love "I do love Fruit and Nut Toblerone, but I'd hate to have to choose  | |||
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"What is the difference between loving someone & being in love with them." Loving someone = a process, an act, something you are doing. Being in love = a state of being, a description of you. | |||
"I love my friends..am not in love with them though. When does the falling change to being I wonder? " Good question. I see it as an natural progression over time. sometimes it can be instant like the rush of love you feel for a newborn baby or a puppy
Same with friends, I love my bestie albeit in a different way from say my family / romantically.
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"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word." I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word." what is the original sense of the word? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me." That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word?" From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word." Love and the experience of it is so subjective that we can never quantify it. I love many people and each feels very different. My children, my friends, my parents and the lovers I've had. I've only ever felt my soul connect with one other person (all very Jane Eyre), in a breath-taking, universe exploding, knock-you-for-six sort of way. I wouldn't say that was 'more true' than the other types of love I've experienced. We need some new words to distinguish between them perhaps. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. " That sounds like parenthood. There is definitely an 'absence of I' in becoming a parent. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? " Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. That sounds like parenthood. There is definitely an 'absence of I' in becoming a parent." But if we extend that Absence of I to all, then I feel we are moving into the love that has been spoken of in the past, it will only work if everyone did it, otherwise it leads to people being walked over, and herein lays the reason for such a absence of love in the world. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think." But what if love didn't have any division? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. " I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life " No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. " I think relying on others to see to our needs is not love but dependancy. Loving ourselves and taking responsibility for our emotional well-being allows us the extend love to others in a manner that doesn't expect reciprocity. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. But what if love didn't have any division?" I think it would be confusing. Also time spent with someone, and how you spend that time, will affect how you bond with them. You can love everything, but certain types of love are needed at times. Everyone needs nurturing, but sometimes you need to push for your kids to be more independent for their sake, so not nurture them as much but let them take responsibility for themselves for some things. I do actually love my pets as much as anyone else, they get kisses and talked to and that lol, and i know people say you shouldn't treat animals like people but i say why not, if you love them then love them like you would anyone else. Idk, hope that makes sense? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. I think relying on others to see to our needs is not love but dependancy. Loving ourselves and taking responsibility for our emotional well-being allows us the extend love to others in a manner that doesn't expect reciprocity." But if love is without expectations, it's about everyone seeing actually what love is, then it takes care of itself, looks impossible though. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. " right, but how can you just love a person, I fully understand that with parents and children, I never fell in love with my parents I've always loved them, I loved my son the moment I I found out I was pregnant, with my grandson the time i saww him on the sixteen week scan. But people in my life I love I've grown to love through different parts of them. I don't just randomly walk down the street and love everyone I meet | |||
"I think relying on others to see to our needs is not love but dependancy. Loving ourselves and taking responsibility for our emotional well-being allows us the extend love to others in a manner that doesn't expect reciprocity." This! | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. But what if love didn't have any division? I think it would be confusing. Also time spent with someone, and how you spend that time, will affect how you bond with them. You can love everything, but certain types of love are needed at times. Everyone needs nurturing, but sometimes you need to push for your kids to be more independent for their sake, so not nurture them as much but let them take responsibility for themselves for some things. I do actually love my pets as much as anyone else, they get kisses and talked to and that lol, and i know people say you shouldn't treat animals like people but i say why not, if you love them then love them like you would anyone else. Idk, hope that makes sense?" I understand what you are saying, but what if love is an instant insight inside us, not connected to anything external, it just comes to us in an instant and changes us for good. | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. right, but how can you just love a person, I fully understand that with parents and children, I never fell in love with my parents I've always loved them, I loved my son the moment I I found out I was pregnant, with my grandson the time i saww him on the sixteen week scan. But people in my life I love I've grown to love through different parts of them. I don't just randomly walk down the street and love everyone I meet " But back to original comments on this thread, what does falling in love mean? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word.what is the original sense of the word? From what I've understood, and I'm not an authority on this, the original meaning of the word is " Absence of I" meaning there is no self interest and people give themselves up to each other, in that state nobody has to think of themselves because the other person is looking out for them and visa versa. This is what my studies have led me too thus far. I don't understand what your saying, are you saying if your in love you no longer have to think about yourself as a person, that the other person will take over your mind and life No, I'm saying that if we just love without focussing it in a certain person, then we love full stop, and within that love there is no thought of myself, I want, I deserve, all that has ceased, but I wont fall apart because others love me and will see to my needs as I will see to there's. When people originally invented that word, that was the state they were identifying. It's hard to grasp this, it took me ages. right, but how can you just love a person, I fully understand that with parents and children, I never fell in love with my parents I've always loved them, I loved my son the moment I I found out I was pregnant, with my grandson the time i saww him on the sixteen week scan. But people in my life I love I've grown to love through different parts of them. I don't just randomly walk down the street and love everyone I meet But back to original comments on this thread, what does falling in love mean?" meeting someone, getting to like them, sharing, having a connection feelings start to develop, they get deeper the more you know someone a progression of emotions | |||
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"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. But what if love didn't have any division? I think it would be confusing. Also time spent with someone, and how you spend that time, will affect how you bond with them. You can love everything, but certain types of love are needed at times. Everyone needs nurturing, but sometimes you need to push for your kids to be more independent for their sake, so not nurture them as much but let them take responsibility for themselves for some things. I do actually love my pets as much as anyone else, they get kisses and talked to and that lol, and i know people say you shouldn't treat animals like people but i say why not, if you love them then love them like you would anyone else. Idk, hope that makes sense? I understand what you are saying, but what if love is an instant insight inside us, not connected to anything external, it just comes to us in an instant and changes us for good." I think that ability is there, instant love, but only for the truly innocent. It's hard to stay innocent in a world like this one, especially if people have abused you and made you become protective of yourself. And even when you manage to stay innocent someone out there is waiting to take advantage of that. Although there are people who are truly open and are able to give love without prejudice i'm not one of them any more. I think a lot of people aren't to some degree and will self preserve first, maybe always do this and never truly love without conditions. | |||
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"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. But what if love didn't have any division? I think it would be confusing. Also time spent with someone, and how you spend that time, will affect how you bond with them. You can love everything, but certain types of love are needed at times. Everyone needs nurturing, but sometimes you need to push for your kids to be more independent for their sake, so not nurture them as much but let them take responsibility for themselves for some things. I do actually love my pets as much as anyone else, they get kisses and talked to and that lol, and i know people say you shouldn't treat animals like people but i say why not, if you love them then love them like you would anyone else. Idk, hope that makes sense? I understand what you are saying, but what if love is an instant insight inside us, not connected to anything external, it just comes to us in an instant and changes us for good. I think that ability is there, instant love, but only for the truly innocent. It's hard to stay innocent in a world like this one, especially if people have abused you and made you become protective of yourself. And even when you manage to stay innocent someone out there is waiting to take advantage of that. Although there are people who are truly open and are able to give love without prejudice i'm not one of them any more. I think a lot of people aren't to some degree and will self preserve first, maybe always do this and never truly love without conditions." That is just one of the challenges we face on trying to bring about real change in society. | |||
"How about a love where you meet half way ,you know what eachother thinks you tend to eachothers desires you miss eachother when apart you yearn to be with eachother but don't suffocate eachother ,your interests coincide but don't conflict and you respect and admire eachother have you had that I wonder "Has desire anything to do with love? | |||
"I feel true love is very rare to be honest, and is mistaken for things like Romance, sex and passion, I feel it is much deeper and universal than this, and wonder if anybody really loves anybody in the original Sense of that word. I still love my ex, we aren't together but are still good frends and support each other. We're more like family and it's hard to imagine us as lovers any more. I think this bond is stronger than when we were together. Don't know if he feels the same way about me. That's more my understanding of love, if you love the circumstances surrounding you have no influences upon it, you just love full stop. People seem to have divided love into different categories, they love someone because they make them feel good, but then if that person stops making them feel good it can turn into contempt or even hate, so did they really love that person in the first place? Don't know, i do know there's different types of love i can feel, like nurturing love, or persuasive love, and many others that all are appropriate at certain times with certain people. Truest love, altruism, i think i had that for my kids because i did do things for them that meant i went without and did not always benefit from doing that...i know you can argue it was so my DNA survived but it honestly felt at times it wasn't worth the price to myself but i carried on anyway. I do know my ex is the only person i've ever felt i would die without him in my life or would even die for. I love my sister a lot and my best friend and know i would i'd miss them but wouldn't even die for them i think. But what if love didn't have any division? I think it would be confusing. Also time spent with someone, and how you spend that time, will affect how you bond with them. You can love everything, but certain types of love are needed at times. Everyone needs nurturing, but sometimes you need to push for your kids to be more independent for their sake, so not nurture them as much but let them take responsibility for themselves for some things. I do actually love my pets as much as anyone else, they get kisses and talked to and that lol, and i know people say you shouldn't treat animals like people but i say why not, if you love them then love them like you would anyone else. Idk, hope that makes sense? I understand what you are saying, but what if love is an instant insight inside us, not connected to anything external, it just comes to us in an instant and changes us for good. I think that ability is there, instant love, but only for the truly innocent. It's hard to stay innocent in a world like this one, especially if people have abused you and made you become protective of yourself. And even when you manage to stay innocent someone out there is waiting to take advantage of that. Although there are people who are truly open and are able to give love without prejudice i'm not one of them any more. I think a lot of people aren't to some degree and will self preserve first, maybe always do this and never truly love without conditions. That is just one of the challenges we face on trying to bring about real change in society." I'm not sure how we stop abusers, i've been looking more into pathology (psychological) and i used to believe that anyone, even those we think are the most 'evil', can be 'cured' and not abuse any more. Now i'm not so sure it can be for everyone. Idk when i'm having a good week i'll be more positive again. | |||
"How about a love where you meet half way ,you know what eachother thinks you tend to eachothers desires you miss eachother when apart you yearn to be with eachother but don't suffocate eachother ,your interests coincide but don't conflict and you respect and admire eachother have you had that I wonder "that's more my definition of love | |||
"What is the difference between loving someone & being in love with them. Loving someone = a process, an act, something you are doing. Being in love = a state of being, a description of you. " | |||
"How about a love where you meet half way ,you know what eachother thinks you tend to eachothers desires you miss eachother when apart you yearn to be with eachother but don't suffocate eachother ,your interests coincide but don't conflict and you respect and admire eachother have you had that I wonder that's more my definition of love"I had that | |||
"I did a very similar thread to this the other day
Asking what the difference between loving someone & being in love with them.
Yours was even harder, so I wimped out
It's obvious that you are in love with Mrs ddc, I'm sure there are people you love
I do love Fruit and Nut Toblerone, but I'd hate to have to choose
"Choose 
I would say share and we're quits but you know I don't like.
Mrs DDC | |||
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