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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
I'm a bit curious (read nosy)  about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.  |
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over a year ago
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate. "
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare..... |
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate.
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare..... "
But... but... but you told me you loved me!
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over a year ago
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"I have this dynamic.
It works for us. I'd go into some of the dynamics and rules but can't be bothered with the typing!"
I don't think they're really interested otherwise i would have responded too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate.
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....
But... but... but you told me you loved me!
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Ahhh Joe, your always in my dreams... or was that nightmares? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate.
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....
But... but... but you told me you loved me!
"
Oooo you two timing slag. You've downgraded from wherherspoons art to pound land special manager buys. |
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate.
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....
But... but... but you told me you loved me!
Oooo you two timing slag. You've downgraded from wherherspoons art to pound land special manager buys. "
*tweaks Spirit X's nipple*
Bitch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha
Sounds like a challenge.
Mate.
Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.
Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....
But... but... but you told me you loved me!
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I love you Joe. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oi you pair, when your quite finished, Joe owes me an explanation as to why he's chosen you over me!  "
We share a passion for gopher tuna and some men like cheese, go taste the dip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a bit curious (read nosy) about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share. "
I thought this was going another direction.
Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have this dynamic.
It works for us. I'd go into some of the dynamics and rules but can't be bothered with the typing!
I don't think they're really interested otherwise i would have responded too "
I am interested... that's kinda why I asked. 
Hijacks happen all the time... just skip past them and share if you'd like to, I really would like to know more.  |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm a bit curious (read nosy) about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.
I thought this was going another direction.
Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic"
That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a bit curious (read nosy) about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.
I thought this was going another direction.
Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic
That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me."
Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossible |
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We play as a couple, but I (him) have her full consent to play alone when we're apart (we don't live together). On the rare occasion I have the opportunity, I always check she's ok with it still, and she likes to hear about it when we're next together. Though she also has my consent to do likewise, she has no inclination to do so.
It works for us, we've been together 5 years and are totally open and honest with each other. |
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I play predomantly on my own, jay does stuff and we do stuff together but its mostly about me.
I have his full consent to do what I like, only rules we have is I tell him when I'm meeting, he trusts my judgement with men, afterwards he will say did you have a nice time and I will say yes, might make a general comments about the meet in general and that's it.
No jealousy, no problems |
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"I'm a bit curious (read nosy) about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.
I thought this was going another direction.
Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic
That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me.
Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossible"
or maybe you don't understand because you arnt in the relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basically he doesnt want to know. It was a decision made after several million conversations about his lack of interest in sex. begrudgingly bi annual service for 10 of the last 11 years.
Truth be told i think he doesnt want to know because he is in denial. However i will stop when he starts having sex with me. Its not perfect but it works for us for now. other than the lack of sec my hubs s the perfect man so cant have everything, but im greedy x |
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"I'm a bit curious (read nosy) about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.
How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.
I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.
I thought this was going another direction.
Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic
That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me.
Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossibleor maybe you don't understand because you arnt in the relationship"
Touché madam  or maybe I was in relationships where sex was what kept us together longer than personalities allowed |
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