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Looking for R/ship?
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I have been single for a while now and having been a swinger on and off for about 10 years it crossed my mind how many actually find love on sites such as this?
How many are actually looking for it on sites as this.
I doubt it would happen but it would not be a bad idea to have an option to tick saying you are open to a r/ship on here. Or maybe we should open up a thread regarding that.
So I will kick it off  (im good like that)
I am 44 from Tunbridge Wells and I would not be adverse to finding love on a site such as this I do not drive but would travel about an hours journey.
Feel free to comment if your also looking |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Looking for it and falling on it are two diffo things.
If your here for the fun and happen to connect with someone and both fall for each other then cool 
If your here looking for a relationship all the best  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met Jenny through here nearly 5 years ago for a fuck. Bought a home together 2 years ago. Getting hitched next year. So yes, its possible to find love through here. |
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"I met Jenny through here nearly 5 years ago for a fuck. Bought a home together 2 years ago. Getting hitched next year. So yes, its possible to find love through here. "
That's cool. I don't have the time for a relationship at the moment but if it happens it happens. |
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Oh I didn't mean I was here openly looking, obviously I am here for fun, but yes I would like to meet someone into the same lifestyle and I guess I was just thinking for that to be a reality here would be the best place to start lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love happily ever after. I'm just far too scared to hope for it, never mind look for it.
I've read many stories from people who have and I think it's lovely.
Good luck to you all xx |
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want "
Someone worthwhile?! 
So you don't think someone pottering along in the same diversion as you could be compatible? Or would you not consider a swinging relationship? /curious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want "
People who wouldn't date someone from Fab, why not particularly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
Someone worthwhile?!
So you don't think someone pottering along in the same diversion as you could be compatible? Or would you not consider a swinging relationship? /curious"
In a word no....... I wouldn't want a swinging relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not looking for a relationship but if I was I wouldn't get into a relationship with anybody I'd met off here
Why not?"
Because its not what I'm looking for |
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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago
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Can't say I'm looking, but I haven't closed the door either.
I know this site isn't really aimed at relationships, but I cannot see any harm in having a wee tick box indicating ones openness or otherwise to a relationship.
Good luck op I hope you find what you are looking for, it sounds like pleanty of others have |
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
Someone worthwhile?!
So you don't think someone pottering along in the same diversion as you could be compatible? Or would you not consider a swinging relationship? /curious
In a word no....... I wouldn't want a swinging relationship "
Fair enough. I'm not sure I would either but I wouldn't rule out meeting someone through a site like this. What makes you think other people wouldn't also want a monogamous relationship? You're here and you do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
Someone worthwhile?!
So you don't think someone pottering along in the same diversion as you could be compatible? Or would you not consider a swinging relationship? /curious
In a word no....... I wouldn't want a swinging relationship "
Same here
Problem with meeting somebody through swinging is you runthe risk they may want to carry on
I wouldn't want to swing as a couple, been there with my ex husband its not something I would want from any future relationships, so what if I meet somebody and I don't want to carry on but they did? It wouldnt work so surely best to look outside of swinging for a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want "
Strange thing to say!! Aren't people on here worthwhile then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
People who wouldn't date someone from Fab, why not particularly?"
I've been in a relationship once off this site 4 years ago, which ended horrifically in court when the guy viciously assaulted me because he couldn't get over the fact that I'd met people off here before him.....and was convinced that every time I left home on my own I was going to meet someone
So if I ever do venture down the relationship road my view..... It won't be anyone off here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
People who wouldn't date someone from Fab, why not particularly?
I've been in a relationship once off this site 4 years ago, which ended horrifically in court when the guy viciously assaulted me because he couldn't get over the fact that I'd met people off here before him.....and was convinced that every time I left home on my own I was going to meet someone
So if I ever do venture down the relationship road my view..... It won't be anyone off here
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That's awful, so sorry.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like others, this is the last place I'd look
This is just a diversion until someone worthwhile comes along.
You have to be very careful not to suckered in as some people will say anything to get what they want
Someone worthwhile?!
So you don't think someone pottering along in the same diversion as you could be compatible? Or would you not consider a swinging relationship? /curious
In a word no....... I wouldn't want a swinging relationship
Fair enough. I'm not sure I would either but I wouldn't rule out meeting someone through a site like this. What makes you think other people wouldn't also want a monogamous relationship? You're here and you do. "
I'm not on here looking at all, as I said it's a diversion, I don't even welcome so called friends invites anymore |
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"When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves."
I wouldnt go into my sexual history, nor would I ask about theirs, what people do before I meet them is not of my buisness (so long as its legal) nor what I did theirs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh I didn't mean I was here openly looking, obviously I am here for fun, but yes I would like to meet someone into the same lifestyle and I guess I was just thinking for that to be a reality here would be the best place to start lol "
It's definitely a great place to look if you want to be part of a swinging couple. Good luck. |
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"When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves.
I wouldnt go into my sexual history, nor would I ask about theirs, what people do before I meet them is not of my buisness (so long as its legal) nor what I did theirs "
Exactly...to a point..... I'd want to know they were safe and of course...monogamous, but it goes without saying that there wouldn't be anything but safe sex until both parties were sure |
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"When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves."
'Respectable society' 
That properly made me chuckle. I know what you mean but just because I've swung in the past it doesn't mean I'm not a respectable member of my community. I think I'm different in that I don't actually give a shit what other people think of my past. I'm a decent sort, I'm kind and loyal and honest and I don't believe I've done anything to be ashamed of.
Welcome back by the way. 
Am sorry to hear the bad experiences some of you have had, I can completely understand why you wouldn't want to go down that road again. It's tricky not to tar everyone with the same brush when you've had shitty experiences but not everyone will behave the same way. I hope you guys find someone who makes you happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For those saying they wouldn't have a relationship with someone off here; there's every chance you will meet someone that is on here (especially with the amount of men on here) and I can't see one of the first questions being: 'Hi are you on fab?'
Many meet through this and continue the lifestyle or stop it all together, should be a mutual choice, but who knows.
Not actively seeking a relationship (never am) but what happens happens, you can't help what doors open |
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"When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves.
'Respectable society'
That properly made me chuckle. I know what you mean but just because I've swung in the past it doesn't mean I'm not a respectable member of my community. I think I'm different in that I don't actually give a shit what other people think of my past. I'm a decent sort, I'm kind and loyal and honest and I don't believe I've done anything to be ashamed of.
Welcome back by the way.
Am sorry to hear the bad experiences some of you have had, I can completely understand why you wouldn't want to go down that road again. It's tricky not to tar everyone with the same brush when you've had shitty experiences but not everyone will behave the same way. I hope you guys find someone who makes you happy. "
The 'respectable' was tongue-in-cheek. I could have referred to them as the 'sexually unliberated' or something. And hi.x |
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"When I am ready for a relationship I'd be worried that people from 'respectable' society would have a problem with my sexual history. I think I'd prefer a relationship with someone less likely to judge or feel threatened due to having participated themselves.
'Respectable society'
That properly made me chuckle. I know what you mean but just because I've swung in the past it doesn't mean I'm not a respectable member of my community. I think I'm different in that I don't actually give a shit what other people think of my past. I'm a decent sort, I'm kind and loyal and honest and I don't believe I've done anything to be ashamed of.
Welcome back by the way.
Am sorry to hear the bad experiences some of you have had, I can completely understand why you wouldn't want to go down that road again. It's tricky not to tar everyone with the same brush when you've had shitty experiences but not everyone will behave the same way. I hope you guys find someone who makes you happy.
The 'respectable' was tongue-in-cheek. I could have referred to them as the 'sexually unliberated' or something. And hi.x"
Yeah I knew what you meant, it made me chuckle all the same. We don't seem able to live and let live on the forums, I'm not naive enough to think it's any different in the real world. |
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Wow I didn't mean to start a forum war
I fully understand what and sorry to make this assumption but what appears to be mainly ladies saying they would not meet from here. I fully understand that, and for the right lady I would certainly give it up but on the same score if they wanted to continue then that's a bonus.
Now back to the original point where are the ladies from Kent lol |
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Like the majority of people here, I was looking for nothing more than great sex. What I actually found was not only the most mindblowing sex I could have imagined, I found my soul mate. We've been together 2 years and got married in May |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Working in a court that deals with injunctions & non-molestation orders, I know there are arseholes in the vanilla world too, both male & female so, I think people on this site are just as worthwhile as those who aren't as long as they're not an arsehole. |
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"Working in a court that deals with injunctions & non-molestation orders, I know there are arseholes in the vanilla world too, both male & female so, I think people on this site are just as worthwhile as those who aren't as long as they're not an arsehole."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like the majority of people here, I was looking for nothing more than great sex. What I actually found was not only the most mindblowing sex I could have imagined, I found my soul mate. We've been together 2 years and got married in May"
Wow, that's fabtastic ! Congrats |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think whatever works for you. It doesn't matter where it happens or who with - as long as it makes you both happy and it's not hurting anyone.
It's not for me, hearth and home. I know I'll never be able to have a regular, normal relationship again. But I wouldn't knock anyone who wants a shot at the brass ring. |
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"I would never consider people on here not worthwhile.
If I clicked with someone and a relationship developed then great, I'd know we enjoyed similar interests. "
I need a highly sexed filthy bugger so more likely to find them here than 'out there' in 'respectable society' |
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