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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? |
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
where do you feel looked down on? Is it the workplace or in general. If people are to ignorant to understand someone has difficulty.
If your feeling your being looked down on try explaining to the person, how it affects you and how you manage your problem, this goes for anyone no matter what the difficulty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people are likely to jump to conclusions on the internet because it's just words (admittedly, I would), but elsewhere people I would have thought are fairly understandable.
I have a friend who is extremely smart but has THE worst spelling I've ever seen due to being dyslexic.
Who exactly makes you feel that way? |
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
Using text speak is not the same as having problems with spelling. |
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Are they looking down on you or are you just thinking they do.
I don't have dyslexia but I know many people that do, mostly people my age that where treated like idiots at school with no understanding and no resources, could how your feeling be a throw back from this.
If not and they are genuinely looking down on you, spend a few minutes educating them, it might not sink in with everyone but changing some attitudes has to be a positive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hiya mate, I've seen quite a bit of this, there are some lovely understanding people out there, but there are some who can be quite awful to people who they see as different in any way, grammar Nazis need to be aware of these conditions and realise that it is them that is the problem, nobody should be excluded in a decent society. |
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"Sorry shouldn't have post it just going through a ruff time and something happend . Straw that broke humped animals back ! "
cause you should of posted it, if you explained what happened maybe we could help you more.
I grew up with a dad that couldn't write at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya mate, I've seen quite a bit of this, there are some lovely understanding people out there, but there are some who can be quite awful to people who they see as different in any way, grammar Nazis need to be aware of these conditions and realise that it is them that is the problem, nobody should be excluded in a decent society."
If grammar Nazis are given a clue that the person in question is dyslexic, they would be sympathetic. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
people will always consider themselves better than others for a whole variety of reasons, why let it bother you so....
you will consider them in a certain way.
I better put 'some' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry shouldn't have post it just going through a ruff time and something happend . Straw that broke humped animals back ! "
You should post mate, the forum has been a comfort to people having difficulties, if it helps you, do it, you'll always find support and advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya mate, I've seen quite a bit of this, there are some lovely understanding people out there, but there are some who can be quite awful to people who they see as different in any way, grammar Nazis need to be aware of these conditions and realise that it is them that is the problem, nobody should be excluded in a decent society.
If grammar Nazis are given a clue that the person in question is dyslexic, they would be sympathetic."
Why do they do it in the first place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My nine year old son is dyslexic. It's really difficult to get the help that he needs, not as easy as you might think.
Dyslexia doesn't just mean bad spelling, there is a lot more too it.
I spend a lot of time trying to build my sons confidence and it take just one thing to knock him back down. Human beings can be cruel and horrible, don't let them get you down op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ? "
I totally agree mate, there seems to be a strange set of rules from nowhere, that tells people who it is acceptable to pick on. |
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By *icky999Man
over a year ago
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
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fuck 'em, just trolls with nowt better to do.
I do get wound up when somebodys just being plane old lazy though. |
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"My nine year old son is dyslexic. It's really difficult to get the help that he needs, not as easy as you might think.
Dyslexia doesn't just mean bad spelling, there is a lot more too it.
I spend a lot of time trying to build my sons confidence and it take just one thing to knock him back down. Human beings can be cruel and horrible, don't let them get you down op "
Harnessing the gift of dyslexia can be difficult
I am lucky to be arrogant enough to teach myself how to use it to my advantage xx
Best lesson , or insight I had was not to depend on others solving my problem xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ?
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fuck 'em, just trolls with nowt better to do.
I do get wound up when somebodys just being plane old lazy though. "
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ?
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fuck 'em, just trolls with nowt better to do.
I do get wound up when somebodys just being plane old lazy though.
*plain "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ? "
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ?
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way."
its the way off the world 40 yrs from now pm off country will stand up and say yo me fella brethren on Oder side u know jack u get me blood ? . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ?
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way.its the way off the world 40 yrs from now pm off country will stand up and say yo me fella brethren on Oder side u know jack u get me blood ? . "
That is literally like reading Japanese to me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ?
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way.its the way off the world 40 yrs from now pm off country will stand up and say yo me fella brethren on Oder side u know jack u get me blood ? .
That is literally like reading Japanese to me "
oh ur Donald den ! Lol bro |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ?
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way.its the way off the world 40 yrs from now pm off country will stand up and say yo me fella brethren on Oder side u know jack u get me blood ? .
That is literally like reading Japanese to me oh ur Donald den ! Lol bro "
You're not really helping yourself now  |
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ? "
Having lived with dyslexia all my life I can sympathise with you to a certain extent, however dyslexia should not be used as a cover for general ignorance, nor for a 'couldn't care less' attitude.
Being dyslexic you just have to make more of an effort. I had to use the spellchecker to get 'sympathise' right. I always have it on on everything I do. As for grammar, that can be more difficult but it does not take too much effort to but a few comers in, where necessary, to make your meaning clear.
I'm no English, spelling or grammar expert, in fact quite the opposite, but with a little effort and a bit of time, it's not too difficult to write coherently, mostly correctly and understandably and, although it helps, you don't have to know what an adverb is to do that.
All that being said, if you hadn't had said you were dyslexic I would never have suspected that you were and I doubt any of the others on here would have ever.
Maybe you're better than you think!! |
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I'd challenge prejudice that's insensitive straight away - if it's due to ignorance, then it potentially be solved by education: as long as they're open.
If it's just someone that's offensive, I'd again challenge it.
Overall, invisible disabilities are less understood and supported - imo - than the visible ones.
If op is talking about Fab users, then it's worth reporting anyone who is offensive to Admin. Hate speech is not allowed and is illegal.
Look for decent people and you'll likely find tons on fab who are supportive and caring. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ?
People with learning difficulties such as dyslexia I applaud for their struggle doing things most of us are very enough to take for granted.
However people who are just dumb, speak in chav text speak I have no time for whatsoever. I have nothing in common with those people and certainly would not associate with them in any way.its the way off the world 40 yrs from now pm off country will stand up and say yo me fella brethren on Oder side u know jack u get me blood ? .
That is literally like reading Japanese to me oh ur Donald den ! Lol bro
You're not really helping yourself now "
im only messing ment as a joke |
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I'm 50 and was diagnosed as dyslexic at university last year, which came as a bit of a surprise but explained a lot of things.
It was nothing to do with reading and spelling where I scored in the 95th percentile but more to do with the ability to process information, where I only scored in the high 40's.
Apparently, there is no way I should be able to read and write as well as I do but I must have developed coping strategies at a very early age (an age where if I were just starting school, I would be diagnosed almost immediately). |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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Unfortunately, it's human nature to assume things on face value and to have prejudices, ie., when people have some difficulties with spelling and maths, they must be then of lower intelligence or just too lazy (proofread work, etc.). This is what a lot of professionals previously used to think about 'hidden' conditions like dyslexia, but what they and other people don't realise is that dyslexics work twice or three times as hard to try to achieve the same results, as someone without any difficulties. This is why dyslexics are given extra time in exams and extensions to coursework at universities for example. I know it's all too easy to say, 'chin up, don't let the knockers get to you', etc. as for each knock back, it does put a slight dent into someone's confidence and self esteem, when it's been said for the 1000th time over a lifetime.
I have battled with dyslexia all my life and even at postgrad level, I still question myself sometimes, or occasionally need some reassurance. Overtime, I developed strategies (and the help of modern technology, too!) to achieve my goals. Spellcheckers and Google is my friend, along with programmes, such as Read and Write Gold.
If anyone puts you down, it's ignorance on their part and I know it's not easy, but put it aside and carry on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This does seem to be a regular gripe with you OP. You have either got to learn to work round it or give them the time they deserve.
In the nicest possible way. If they don't care then why should you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's wrong to have ago about a persons colour and sex etc but is it ok for someone to have ago if u don't know your times table or haven't a clue what a adverb is etc ? "
Im the same as you and I struggle with the along with you, but I have a BA and a MA. Honestly mate, stop fecking feeling sorry for yourself and crack on. You don't even have to work harder to achieve whatever it is you want to, you just have to work differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd challenge prejudice that's insensitive straight away - if it's due to ignorance, then it potentially be solved by education: as long as they're open.
If it's just someone that's offensive, I'd again challenge it.
Overall, invisible disabilities are less understood and supported - imo - than the visible ones.
If op is talking about Fab users, then it's worth reporting anyone who is offensive to Admin. Hate speech is not allowed and is illegal.
Look for decent people and you'll likely find tons on fab who are supportive and caring. "
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
'Am I being over-sensitive?' - This is for you to determine Op. If you sense that some refinement of your judgement process would help you, then consider how you might achieve that.
Also, it pays to focus on the specific rather than make generalisations imo. In other words, each time something happens, treat it as something unique, and question what you could do about it, perhaps what you could do differently than what you have done before. More challenging of the person, distancing yourself from just that person, education or a coping strategy which results in you retaining your power and positive well being.
If you start to address each occurrence differently to prior events, then it could help create a new habitual process for you. Don't hold the belief that you have repeat a new behaviour for any specific length of time, or volume of repeated occurrences, in order for a habit to be formed. Most of us can remember when we've absolutely turned a corner and something new is now in place. Repetition certainly helps strengthen habits and increases the likelihood that our neural pathways will become the new default.
Ultimately we can only really be responsible for ourselves. Sure, we can influence others but they are responsible for themselves. By changing our response to what's going on outside of ourselves then we retain our own power, without giving it up to others.
Lots to reflect upon. Just take small steps that you may be comfortable with. And none that you're not. But consider being prepared to step outside of your comfort zone, as currently it doesn't sound such a great place for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya mate, I've seen quite a bit of this, there are some lovely understanding people out there, but there are some who can be quite awful to people who they see as different in any way, grammar Nazis need to be aware of these conditions and realise that it is them that is the problem, nobody should be excluded in a decent society.
If grammar Nazis are given a clue that the person in question is dyslexic, they would be sympathetic.
Why do they do it in the first place?"
I am afraid that it is quite common to judge people based on their ability to communicate. That is the way we find out whether we might get on. If we can't understand someone easily, we assume that we would not get on. Whether we like it or not, we all judge people on some things. Fabs, of course, is a textual site. |
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? "
My middle daughter is dyslexic we had loads of problems at school with her, the teachers basically branded her as lazy and disruptive and just sat her at the back of the class, regardless of many meeting and me expressing my concerns
when she went to secondary school at 11 she could hardly read and write she had only been at the school for two days when I had a call asking me to go in, when I got there expecting the worse the head said one of the teachers had concerns about her and they wanted to test her for dyslexia I could have kissed him, she was bullied all the way through because she saw the 'thick teacher' but after she was getting the right tuition she did really well her reading and writing came on leaps and bounds she's now doing her third year in paediatric nursing and doing really well
it's the old expression he who laughs last
it's like most problems though if people can't see it they don't understand it |
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A lot of people can't be bothered to try and translate any other speech structured differently to their own. Some are too lazy, stupid, or impatient with others so they feel a need to belittle that person instead of looking at their own failings.
Be sensitive about it if you want to, nothing wrong with being sensitive.
Say something to that person, if you feel they give a shit and you can be bothered to explain how you feel. Ignore them if you want, they're not trying to help you and aren't important to you. Tell them you know how to spell fuck off and know what that means, if you want.
Don't let them bring you down. It's their failure and not yours. Just because someone structured language so we could all communicate a certain way doesn't mean that language is perfect, this is why there are so many languages about that many people use and they all intersperse with each other on occasion.
I relied on spellcheck to type all that out by the way and made many mistakes but corrected them. |
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"Unfortunately, it's human nature to assume things on face value and to have prejudices, ie., when people have some difficulties with spelling and maths, they must be then of lower intelligence or just too lazy (proofread work, etc.). This is what a lot of professionals previously used to think about 'hidden' conditions like dyslexia, but what they and other people don't realise is that dyslexics work twice or three times as hard to try to achieve the same results, as someone without any difficulties. This is why dyslexics are given extra time in exams and extensions to coursework at universities for example. I know it's all too easy to say, 'chin up, don't let the knockers get to you', etc. as for each knock back, it does put a slight dent into someone's confidence and self esteem, when it's been said for the 1000th time over a lifetime.
I have battled with dyslexia all my life and even at postgrad level, I still question myself sometimes, or occasionally need some reassurance. Overtime, I developed strategies (and the help of modern technology, too!) to achieve my goals. Spellcheckers and Google is my friend, along with programmes, such as Read and Write Gold.
If anyone puts you down, it's ignorance on their part and I know it's not easy, but put it aside and carry on. "
Well said. So much better put than my attempt. |
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"A lot of people can't be bothered to try and translate any other speech structured differently to their own. Some are too lazy, stupid, or impatient with others so they feel a need to belittle that person instead of looking at their own failings.
Be sensitive about it if you want to, nothing wrong with being sensitive.
Say something to that person, if you feel they give a shit and you can be bothered to explain how you feel. Ignore them if you want, they're not trying to help you and aren't important to you. Tell them you know how to spell fuck off and know what that means, if you want.
Don't let them bring you down. It's their failure and not yours. Just because someone structured language so we could all communicate a certain way doesn't mean that language is perfect, this is why there are so many languages about that many people use and they all intersperse with each other on occasion.
I relied on spellcheck to type all that out by the way and made many mistakes but corrected them."
You always put things across in such a clear and succinct way. I'm a bit of a secret admirer of you.
Not so secret now I guess |
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"A lot of people can't be bothered to try and translate any other speech structured differently to their own. Some are too lazy, stupid, or impatient with others so they feel a need to belittle that person instead of looking at their own failings.
Be sensitive about it if you want to, nothing wrong with being sensitive.
Say something to that person, if you feel they give a shit and you can be bothered to explain how you feel. Ignore them if you want, they're not trying to help you and aren't important to you. Tell them you know how to spell fuck off and know what that means, if you want.
Don't let them bring you down. It's their failure and not yours. Just because someone structured language so we could all communicate a certain way doesn't mean that language is perfect, this is why there are so many languages about that many people use and they all intersperse with each other on occasion.
I relied on spellcheck to type all that out by the way and made many mistakes but corrected them.
You always put things across in such a clear and succinct way. I'm a bit of a secret admirer of you.
Not so secret now I guess "
Got 4 kids so went down to their level for a while, trying to get back up to mine lol.
And that's why it's important to be flexible when it comes to communication, so that you can communicate with everyone at their level of understanding - and so they can with you. |
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"I'm now middle age I thought times were different now but I still feel that because you have problems with maths or spelling that your looked down upon . Do you feal the same ? . Or am I being over sensitive ? where do you feel looked down on? Is it the workplace or in general. If people are to ignorant to understand someone has difficulty.
If your feeling your being looked down on try explaining to the person, how it affects you and how you manage your problem, this goes for anyone no matter what the difficulty"
Or reach up and punch them in the bollocks |
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