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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as? |
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
I have nearly always been in a relationship until my divorce and far prefer it, Venus in Taurus, what can I say.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
Been married ( 9 years) and 1 long term relationship ( 3 years) .. so I guess I've spent 60% single and the rest in a relationship.
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"Single and alone.
I was never as lonely as when I was in bad relationship.
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Ive been in relationships over the past 15 years. Totally agree with that statement! Been single 4 years now and im much happier x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
Single longer than in relationships and its lonely on times  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I was in constant (3) relationships since the age of 16-30
Been single now for over 10 years (through choice) but I will be honest and say I didn't expect it to be this long single, though I will also be honest and say I haven't actively seeked a relationship during that time either.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single for 6 yrs then in relationship for 8, single again after a 6 month blip ....staying single for a very long time ...way too much much drama & way too much compromising! |
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Single. My longest relationship with a full time boyfriend was when I was 17/18/19.
I'm a commitment phobe. I suspect simply because I've never found the right person for me. I've had a variety of relationships over the years but I've never been married, never lived with anyone.
My bar is probably set too high.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single mainly.
But in my late twenties I got into a relationship with a girl that became my best friend. The relationship only lasted 2 years but the friendship remained. Unfortunated I met another girl a few years down the line who didn't think our friendship was appropriate... and I was given a choice. I think you can guess which one. Needless to say, love being blind, I made a bad choice!
The short relationships Ive had since that time have been alright. But if I was honest about what I miss the most. That would be my friend! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single mainly.
But in my late twenties I got into a relationship with a girl that became my best friend. The relationship only lasted 2 years but the friendship remained. Unfortunated I met another girl a few years down the line who didn't think our friendship was appropriate... and I was given a choice. I think you can guess which one. Needless to say, love being blind, I made a bad choice!
The short relationships Ive had since that time have been alright. But if I was honest about what I miss the most. That would be my friend!"
Is it totally irreparable? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had 2 years without a relationship after my ex hubby. Before that I had gone from relationship to relationship so I was ready for a break.
Until I met Paul, I still didn't want a relationship which I think deep down is probably what made him want me more as there was no pressure or expectations. Finally 8 years down the line were still together although took 7 years to seal the deed with marriage |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a late-starter: had no-strings fb from age 20-28.
Followed by 24 years (almost half my life) with the woman I married.
Last 5 months though, trying to get used to being single again. |
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"Single mainly.
But in my late twenties I got into a relationship with a girl that became my best friend. The relationship only lasted 2 years but the friendship remained. Unfortunated I met another girl a few years down the line who didn't think our friendship was appropriate... and I was given a choice. I think you can guess which one. Needless to say, love being blind, I made a bad choice!
The short relationships Ive had since that time have been alright. But if I was honest about what I miss the most. That would be my friend!"
Tell her. Give her the chance to forgive you. She might surprise you.  |
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
only been on my own for about 6 months otherwise girlfriends or wife. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Spent half lifetime single but never short of fun , and the other half in two relationships first one with women with highs lows fun and heartache second one havin nothin but fun and love |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since I was 18 I've been 16 years in one relationship and 1 year single, and it's been the
best/worst
most confusing/exciting
depressing/exhilarating
year of my life"
That sums up my experience of singledom too. I'm we'll settle into it eventually! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
I have been with my hubby since we were 18 so 30 years next summer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
I (Dan) jumped from bed to endless bed upto the age of 45, then I met Kim and she had something that stopped me jumping out of hers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
it's all life I just go with the flow and have enjoyed it all ,whats meant to be will be  |
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By *-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Since I was 18 I've been 16 years in one relationship and 1 year single, and it's been the
best/worst
most confusing/exciting
depressing/exhilarating
year of my life
That sums up my experience of singledom too. I'm we'll settle into it eventually!"
Will we? I'm not so convinced things will ever settle done again, I'm not sure I want them to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've spent more time single than in a relationship
I've only every had one relationship in my life
My ex husband was my first boyfriend we got married and divorced I've not had a relationship since
We was together for 9 years the rest of my life I've been alone
I'm used to it now, to be honest I'm not sure I could ajust to being with somebody now I've resided to the fact I'll die on my own  |
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
Lol I feel you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?
Lol I feel you"
I long for true love and companionship, I'm just here in the meanwhile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have been in relationships (4 times with 3 guys) when I was 16-37.
Finally enjoying the fact I really CAN cope plus have a lot of fun without a bloke for the last 4 years  "
You miss us blokes really , go on admit it xxxx |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
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"Have been in relationships (4 times with 3 guys) when I was 16-37.
Finally enjoying the fact I really CAN cope plus have a lot of fun without a bloke for the last 4 years
You miss us blokes really , go on admit it xxxx"
Nahh.. my aim is a lot better now  |
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I'm largely not pulled towards a lifestyle of relationships, especially a string of them. Been very happy in and out of them. Neither is better, as long as we're satisfied and content. Even if there is societal pressure to be at least coupled. (less so for larger poly groupings).
One of my friends had had no single day of his life without a female partner from school through his thirties - often cheating and having the next lined up, whilst still with the former. Sad and grotesque.
On fab we have a good number of very happy single folk - we're in great healthy company.
And many of us have reservations at the fab care home, for when we're a little later on but still enjoying ourselves. |
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In and out of relationships for 20 years, last 6 years single and it seems like a few of you, fed up being single but can't be arsed to put myself out there, keep thinking I am in my 20's and it will come to me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it's probably 50/50 for me. I'm perfectly happy being single, although it's also nice to have a partner. Just not sure I could be bothered with the hassle of it right now. Maybe if the right guy came along..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people in life (like me) go through seemingly endless times of singledom, whereas others seem to effortlessly drift from one relationship to the next.
Up until now, which have you spent the most time as?"
Mainly in a relationship / married from the age of 22, mainly single before that.
OP (Lee, Luke or Liam? Lol) I do recall a thread you started a few months ago where you outlined the criteria that a woman had to meet 'or you wasn't interested' and the list (when aggregated) was nigh on unobtainable for any mere mortal as far as I can remember.
Seeing as you've said elsewhere on this thread that you long for true love and companionship can I flip this thread around a bit and ask would you be prepared to compromise on some of your prerequisites to achieve that companionship you long for?
I would imagine there's a lot of ladies out there that meet 80-90% of your requirements but very few that meet 100%? (Assuming they like you back, of course!) - anyway, I hope you do find someone to love and be with if that's what you're after!
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my younger years I was mainly in relationships,however I would say in the last 10yrs I've mainly stayed single and have to say I much prefer it.
Personally I would admit I'm quite selfish,so for me being able to do what I want,when I want is very important to me.
I've never bought into the social stigma that seems to be everyone should be in a "Relationship"
I see so many couples who are together and unhappy,and I just think what's the point in living your life like that ?
Each to their own I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been in the same relationship since I was 20 and can't imagine life without him. Prior to that I completely enjoyed the single life."
wow he's a lucky man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP (Lee, Luke or Liam? Lol) I do recall a thread you started a few months ago where you outlined the criteria that a woman had to meet 'or you wasn't interested' and the list (when aggregated) was nigh on unobtainable for any mere mortal as far as I can remember."
I'm a very specific sort of guy with a very specific personality, hence why my tastes in women are also, but I don't think my standards are ridiculously high. I just want a happy, healthy relationship with a woman who's
Good looking
Intelligent
Affectionate and compassionate
A bit geeky (otherwise they won't get me)
Surely that's not too much to ask? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My problem when men get close to me is that I like my own space and alone time. I'm not a busy person when it comes to someone else's life. He can do what he likes when he likes and doesn't have to check in with me. That sounds like I don't care about someone and causes problems. Even in a relationship I don't need to know everything a man is doing or where he is. As long as he shows affection and I feel loved I'm ok. |
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