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"or am I just a misogynistic barrister  "
When does a compliment become misogyny? When does a compliment become harassment?
It's a difficult one, I guess it's all in tone and intent. e.g. If one of my colleagues had a new haircut etc I might say to them that it looks good - now is that being misogynistic? That certainly isn't my intent, but I guess it could be interpreted that way |
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"or am I just a misogynistic barrister
When does a compliment become misogyny? When does a compliment become harassment?
It's a difficult one, I guess it's all in tone and intent. e.g. If one of my colleagues had a new haircut etc I might say to them that it looks good - now is that being misogynistic? That certainly isn't my intent, but I guess it could be interpreted that way "
It would depend in the first instance on whether your colleague was a woman or a man. I wouldn't interpret any genuine compliment such as "your hair looks nice today" as misogyny but that might change if there was a background that made me believe otherwise. |
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"or an intent by the receiving individual to use it to showcase themselves through social media? "
That too.
The problem with misogyny and its other genders equivalent is that intent and perception can streets apart or uncomfortably close. |
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I think LinkedIn wasn't the appropriate place to be making unprofessional comments 
If it were on a dating or informal social site then I'd say yes 
But to actually comment this to a female barrister who fights for womens issues etc. is a very poor case of judgement  |
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"I think LinkedIn wasn't the appropriate place to be making unprofessional comments
If it were on a dating or informal social site then I'd say yes
But to actually comment this to a female barrister who fights for womens issues etc. is a very poor case of judgement "
I agree he shouldn't have done it but the message he sent was fairly harmless and as far as it goes, he was right; it is a nice photo.
Posting it up online was such an overreaction and her reply was far worse than his message... "Objectified", "eroticisation", "exercising power over women". |
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He was in the wrong for sending such a message through a professional site like Linkedin.
She was in the wrong for branding him sexist and publishing the messages.
The media is in the wrong because this is the most unimportant story this week :s |
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"I don't think she dealt with things proportionately.who?"
This female barrister. She added someone on LinkedIn; he then sent a message to say "nice to connect with you; what a beautiful picture,etc" which was inappropriate but obviously misjudged - she's now publicly shamed them by posting the exchange publicly which seems a little over the top.
A simple "thanks but that makes me uncomfy" message in response would've been more appropriate, she's kind of turning sexual harassment into a mockery. And she's complaining that it's ruined her career, instead of blaming her severe lack of judgment. |
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If people do not ask for something, but get it anyway, then that can be unwelcome and people will moan about it or even take offence.
I don't see what looks have got to do with anything to do with work. In fact, although some people enjoy compliments on their appearance, some people don't need, want, or care for that validation. They feel confident enough without it, and may even take offence at being objectified.
Subjective unwanted opinions mean nothing to the person receiving them, or they shouldn't anyway. This is why you shouldn't give them unless asked. |
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"I don't think she dealt with things proportionately.who?
This female barrister. She added someone on LinkedIn; he then sent a message to say "nice to connect with you; what a beautiful picture,etc" which was inappropriate but obviously misjudged - she's now publicly shamed them by posting the exchange publicly which seems a little over the top.
A simple "thanks but that makes me uncomfy" message in response would've been more appropriate, she's kind of turning sexual harassment into a mockery. And she's complaining that it's ruined her career, instead of blaming her severe lack of judgment. "
yes I've just read it thanks, and I also agree with everything you say in that post |
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