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Im thinking of making a HUGE decision!!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm at a point in my life where I am unsure at what direction to go in and want to do something to try and help this terrible world we seem to live in.

I know some of you will think this is a wind up and probably come back with some smart arsed comments but....

I am thinking about joining the fight against Isis in Syria.

I'm looking at joining up with a group who will be aiding the Kurdish Peshmerga.

And yes I have looked into and researched this before you say it.

I'm just in a position at the minute were I can do something like this.

I obviously know the extreme dangers and risks involved, but it's something I am considering very seriously.

Does anyone have any sensible comments on my plans or has anyone thought the same?

I would be interested to read people's _iews...

Please no smart arse comments or wise cracks I'm genuinely wanting people's opinions and _iews

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

your life your choice ...why do you need others to say what they think ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"your life your choice ...why do you need others to say what they think ??"
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I'm just asking opinions ... You know like you do on a forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets hope no one are from the border force here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that I would refer you back to my comments in reference to your 'I need a hug' thread from the other day.

Frankly I think you sound like you are on an emotional roller coaster and would benefit from some talking therapy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If its something you feel passionately about and are in a position to do it what is stopping you? Serious question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes and I was having my point of _iew too...you know like you do on a forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lets hope no one are from the border force here lol

I did think that, then thought they don't usually look like swingers!!

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Judging on your thread from the other night, I'd say you're probably not in a position to make such a huge decision.

There are other ways you can help. Most likely on your doorstep. Enquire about those. There are all sorts of heros in the world.

Personally, if I was out on a mission to sort that particular fight out, I'd want people beside me who were stable and reliable rather than having some sort of crisis and doing on a whole knee jerk reaction to try and make a difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you any relevant military or medical experience? Hell, even catering would be seen as an asset. Think about what you can bring to them, other than just being one more target.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep your head down and remember to squeeze not pull the trigger.

God speed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If its something you feel passionately about and are in a position to do it what is stopping you? Serious question. "

The only thing that's stopping me is the worry it would cause other people close to me

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

people have always gone to fight in foreign wars and they've all had their reasons. I would say do it if you are genuinely prepared to be killed or injured in a life changing way for this cause but before you commit consider the effect on your loved ones, personally I think theirs are the opinions you should be seeking and taking note of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you any relevant military or medical experience? Hell, even catering would be seen as an asset. Think about what you can bring to them, other than just being one more target."

Yeah I have a lot of experience that I think would really help them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"people have always gone to fight in foreign wars and they've all had their reasons. I would say do it if you are genuinely prepared to be killed or injured in a life changing way for this cause but before you commit consider the effect on your loved ones, personally I think theirs are the opinions you should be seeking and taking note of."

This is my biggest concern and the thing that's making me question it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lets hope no one are from the border force here lol

I did think that, then thought they don't usually look like swingers!!

They are civil servants, you need to look beyond the grey exterior, bet loads of them are swingers!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Judging on your thread from the other night, I'd say you're probably not in a position to make such a huge decision.

There are other ways you can help. Most likely on your doorstep. Enquire about those. There are all sorts of heros in the world.

I can see what you are saying but It's not about being a hero or making a knee jerk reaction, this is something I have thought about for a long time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably not helpful, but only you can know how passionately you feel about this and how much it means to you.

As you say you've thought it through, the risks and implications on family and friends.

Have you thought about the UK armed forces rather than a Kurdish group.

I didn't read your thread the other day that others are referring to so don't know the context / back story to what they're saying but I guess mental clarity is critical in such a huge decision.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

This is my biggest concern and the thing that's making me question it "

Talk to them. If you were my son, brother or partner I would be very frightened for you and try to dissuade you but people need to do what's right for them. Do you have children?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This is my biggest concern and the thing that's making me question it

Talk to them. If you were my son, brother or partner I would be very frightened for you and try to dissuade you but people need to do what's right for them. Do you have children?"

Obviously I will discuss it with them but I think I know there reaction. No I don't have kids

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Judging on your thread from the other night, I'd say you're probably not in a position to make such a huge decision.

There are other ways you can help. Most likely on your doorstep. Enquire about those. There are all sorts of heros in the world.

I can see what you are saying but It's not about being a hero or making a knee jerk reaction, this is something I have thought about for a long time "

If you are able to support your own mental health and have something to offer then go and speak to someone who can give you real advice knowing all of your circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't believe you're in the best shape mentally to deal with such a situation, going by your posts. I'd advise against it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Probably not helpful, but only you can know how passionately you feel about this and how much it means to you.

As you say you've thought it through, the risks and implications on family and friends.

Have you thought about the UK armed forces rather than a Kurdish group.

I didn't read your thread the other day that others are referring to so don't know the context / back story to what they're saying but I guess mental clarity is critical in such a huge decision. "

Yeah I have considered that, the post the other day was I was feeling a bit shit, it doesn't mean I'm mentally unstable just having a bad time, but like I said earlier this is something I thought about for a long time to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't believe you're in the best shape mentally to deal with such a situation, going by your posts. I'd advise against it. "

I notice the OP is ignoring any references to stability at present so I am going to refrain from watching this car crash any longer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't believe you're in the best shape mentally to deal with such a situation, going by your posts. I'd advise against it.

I notice the OP is ignoring any references to stability at present so I am going to refrain from watching this car crash any longer."

I'm not ignoring it I've answered it in a couple of replies, if you have nothing useful to say regarding THIS thread then please don't say anything thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't believe you're in the best shape mentally to deal with such a situation, going by your posts. I'd advise against it. "

Thank you for your input

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

To troll, or not to troll... That is the question...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably not helpful, but only you can know how passionately you feel about this and how much it means to you.

As you say you've thought it through, the risks and implications on family and friends.

Have you thought about the UK armed forces rather than a Kurdish group.

I didn't read your thread the other day that others are referring to so don't know the context / back story to what they're saying but I guess mental clarity is critical in such a huge decision.

In that thread, you mentioned how hard it was for you to pull yourself together when having a "bad time". That's not indicative of someone who doesn't struggle mentally. Putting yourself in a war zone will most likely push you further into a darker place.

Then again, you're an adult. Do what you fancy, just remember it was your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Without meaning to sound patronising, you just sound a bit lost at the minute and I don't that is a particularly good reason to go.

You can't run away from your problems an d you should probably fight your own war first before joining another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Without meaning to sound patronising, you just sound a bit lost at the minute and I don't that is a particularly good reason to go.

You can't run away from your problems an d you should probably fight your own war first before joining another."

Like I said earlier this is something I thought about for a long time, it's just now I'm in a position I can seriously consider it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Without meaning to sound patronising, you just sound a bit lost at the minute and I don't that is a particularly good reason to go.

You can't run away from your problems an d you should probably fight your own war first before joining another.

Like I said earlier this is something I thought about for a long time, it's just now I'm in a position I can seriously consider it "

That may be so but my point still stands.

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

If you truly sympathize with the cause of Kurdish freedom in Iraq and Syria, as well as independence from Turkey, then you're best offering your support for them in a way that avoids contributing to the cycle of violence that is already out of control there.

Educate yourself of every aspect of the issue (political, cultural, geographic, strategic, social, economic, historical, etc.) in a manner that is balanced and academic in order to engage effectively and tirelessly in debate with you local MP. Persuade them to lobby for greater pressure upon Turkey to reverse Erdogan's recent policy change regarding the PKK, as well as to move the agenda of Kurdish human rights back into the sphere of mainstream political debate within the context of UK, EU, UN, ICC and NATO policy. If you really are committed to helping the Kurds, this is where your efforts will do the greatest good.

Trust me on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

May I ask,if as you say you have put so much thought into this,why you are asking for advice/opinions/guidance on a swingers site ?

A site that is so far removed from war it's at the other end of the spectrum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm at a point in my life where I am unsure at what direction to go in and want to do something to try and help this terrible world we seem to live in.

I know some of you will think this is a wind up and probably come back with some smart arsed comments but....

I am thinking about joining the fight against Isis in Syria.

I'm looking at joining up with a group who will be aiding the Kurdish Peshmerga.

And yes I have looked into and researched this before you say it.

I'm just in a position at the minute were I can do something like this.

I obviously know the extreme dangers and risks involved, but it's something I am considering very seriously.

Does anyone have any sensible comments on my plans or has anyone thought the same?

I would be interested to read people's _iews...

Please no smart arse comments or wise cracks I'm genuinely wanting people's opinions and _iews

Thanks

Join the ta for a while so you at least know how to shoot?

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man over a year ago

Stourbridge

Serious commitment. As has been said, do you have military training and experience? Because they don't have time to train you. Have you contacted any of the groups to see what they actually want? It's not just a case of turning up with a rucksack saying hi. It's not a video game, you are highly likely to get killed if you aren't experienced.

Don't do this to impress or upset someone. It's real. It's brutal. In contact situations there will be blind panic and your head will spin. You have to be clear and detached. Your comrades will fall in front of you, with the calibre of ammo used it's likely that limbs will be ripped off. Will you save a shot for yourself? If you are taken then you will be tortured in barbaric ways. Burnt alive or beheaded with a pocket knife. Imagine that. Take all that seriously and think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right I'm not commenting on this anymore because as usual it turns into everyone questioning and trying to be clever against the OP

Thank you to the people who gave me SENSIBLE replies.

Next time I'll post a "snog marry avoid" thread which seems to be more popular amongst the locals on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you have any actual combat experience / military training?!

Xbox Call of Duty doesn't count.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Serious commitment. As has been said, do you have military training and experience? Because they don't have time to train you. Have you contacted any of the groups to see what they actually want? It's not just a case of turning up with a rucksack saying hi. It's not a video game, you are highly likely to get killed if you aren't experienced.

At last a sensible reply thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At last a sensible reply thanks "

Wtf my contribution was sensible. Rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What actually is your relevant experience, and is it up to date?

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

At last a sensible reply thanks "

Just because previous comments weren't what you wanted to hear, doesn't make them any less sensible.

The fact that you don't appear to be able to handle a discussion with a bunch of randoms on the internet and choose to throw your toys out because you don't want to hear opinions that contradict yours, would make me question your reasons and ability to be able to function successfully in a war zone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At last a sensible reply thanks

Just because previous comments weren't what you wanted to hear, doesn't make them any less sensible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You were appreciative enough of the sympathy. Dunno why you can't apply that kinda acceptance to people recommending you don't make a fucking stupid decision.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

if you are caught, they will behead you or burn you alive....

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

or worse.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"or worse....."

I want to be bummed alive though this is my sole reason for wanting to go

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"or worse.....

I want to be bummed alive though this is my sole reason for wanting to go "

sorry, I thought you didn't want silly answers

good luck with whatever you choose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being in a war zone is different than being in any other situation.

I don't know you. I know next to nothing about you. However, I know people who trained for war, and I know people who fought in war. If you are not mentally prepared for it, it will ruin you. If you are not physically prepared for it, it will ruin you.

We all want to do what is right, but in order to do what is right we need to consider whether we are the right people to do it. Consider these things before making such a huge decision.

-Courtney

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"or worse.....

I want to be bummed alive though this is my sole reason for wanting to go "

Get a job as a choir boy then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I honestly can't do this anymore, Jeeeeeezzzzz I was joking and trying to amuse myself to see how long it was before it got all argumentative!

Sorry guys no hard feelings meant was just having a little bit of fun!

I wouldn't be able to hold a gun nevermind Fire one, I'm a lover not a fighter!! I'd be bloody useless in a war zone ... Anyway back to my day job

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"or worse.....

I want to be bummed alive though this is my sole reason for wanting to go

Get a job as a choir boy then.

You havnt heard my voice mate!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I honestly can't do this anymore, Jeeeeeezzzzz I was joking and trying to amuse myself to see how long it was before it got all argumentative!

Sorry guys no hard feelings meant was just having a little bit of fun!

I wouldn't be able to hold a gun nevermind Fire one, I'm a lover not a fighter!! I'd be bloody useless in a war zone ... Anyway back to my day job

Did I miss something or did you just say you were joking about joining a war?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sound advice.