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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok we are on a swingers site where people can hook up to have sex and people go to swingers clubs where again they can have sex.... After reading some other posts in the forums do you think some people are too focused on the sex part and try jump straight in? Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club? |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
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I find the wanting of just sex by some to be cold and unwelcome.
A little human interaction via a few chats and a less haste approach leads to a passionate union for a brief time, no need for the curb crawler approach. |
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"Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?
Yup
Definitely!! "
I was (ironically) trying to keep the response as brief as possible  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I like the interactions on the forum but I have zero interest in the flirty & constant exchange of messages. I am happy to meet for a social but I am not in the game of building long term rapport/friends with benefits/fb's and all that shit.
I want to connect and shag, the rest of the needy pish...... is not for me.
but I am cool for people to exclude me because of it and won't lose a nano second of sleep and I hope others find what they seek |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?
Yup
Definitely!!
I was (ironically) trying to keep the response as brief as possible "
Really? |
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"Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?
Yup
Definitely!!
I was (ironically) trying to keep the response as brief as possible
Really?"
Ye |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?
Yup
Definitely!!
I was (ironically) trying to keep the response as brief as possible
Really?
Ye"
Ok |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We prefer to get to know something about the people we wish to meet or play with. However you do get people who just wish to get to the point with messages or like when in an open room in a club and guys who've not said a word to you all night try to get involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like the interactions on the forum but I have zero interest in the flirty & constant exchange of messages. I am happy to meet for a social but I am not in the game of building long term rapport/friends with benefits/fb's and all that shit.
I want to connect and shag, the rest of the needy pish...... is not for me.
but I am cool for people to exclude me because of it and won't lose a nano second of sleep and I hope others find what they seek"
I think this approach is fine.
I also think the OP's "seduction and intelligent conversation" approach is fine too.
I will choose the way that works for me. Along the same vein as View said, if other people want to exclude me for not fitting in with their way of doing things, I really don't care.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We prefer to get to know something about the people we wish to meet or play with. However you do get people who just wish to get to the point with messages or like when in an open room in a club and guys who've not said a word to you all night try to get involved."
They do things differently so you're not compatible. Doesn't mean one way is better than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to chat for a while get to know each others likes/ dislikes then gradually escalte the flirting to a level where were both extremely horny, then when we meet we are guaranteed a good time |
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"I like the interactions on the forum but I have zero interest in the flirty & constant exchange of messages. I am happy to meet for a social but I am not in the game of building long term rapport/friends with benefits/fb's and all that shit.
I want to connect and shag, the rest of the needy pish...... is not for me.
but I am cool for people to exclude me because of it and won't lose a nano second of sleep and I hope others find what they seek"
Needy pish?
Are you referring to my penchant for intelligent conversation as needy pish?!
How very dare you!! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like to chat for a while get to know each others likes/ dislikes then gradually escalte the flirting to a level where were both extremely horny, then when we meet we are guaranteed a good time "
This for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want in fact no I need to be seduced.
I am not desperate so in no hurry. I appreciate that can sometimes be seen as defeating the object on here by some. Or perhaps it makes me a time waster in the eyes of others. However I don't care. I'm here for me and me alone. So like everyone else can use this site however we wish |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We prefer to get to know something about the people we wish to meet or play with. However you do get people who just wish to get to the point with messages or like when in an open room in a club and guys who've not said a word to you all night try to get involved.
They do things differently so you're not compatible. Doesn't mean one way is better than the other."
Didn't say we don't let them join in 
And no you're right no one way is better although I know title (if spelt correctly!) might suggest otherwise. Just looking for peoples opinions so thank you to you and View as well as everybody else so far for sharing yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok we are on a swingers site where people can hook up to have sex and people go to swingers clubs where again they can have sex.... After reading some other posts in the forums do you think some people are too focused on the sex part and try jump straight in? Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?"
sex is about conversation to but as a prelude to meeting ,its all about meeting for me ,I'm not into clubs because they are definitely not about seduction or emotion they are about look and sex and money  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much so. I have to be as sure as possible that there's a connection, physically as well as mentally. Otherwise I can just resort to a cucumber. Or summat. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I like the interactions on the forum but I have zero interest in the flirty & constant exchange of messages. I am happy to meet for a social but I am not in the game of building long term rapport/friends with benefits/fb's and all that shit.
I want to connect and shag, the rest of the needy pish...... is not for me.
but I am cool for people to exclude me because of it and won't lose a nano second of sleep and I hope others find what they seek
Needy pish?
Are you referring to my penchant for intelligent conversation as needy pish?!
How very dare you!!
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it's a big old melting pot.... and we are all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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90 percent of sexuality is in the mind according to experts and I definitely want to connect with anyone I swing with and (hopefully) to be seduced by them. But each to their own  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Can't see for the life of me why I would want to have sex with somebody if I cannot at least share some conversation, humour and connection.
Otherwise I might as well use my toys - they don't expect anything in return |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok we are on a swingers site where people can hook up to have sex and people go to swingers clubs where again they can have sex.... After reading some other posts in the forums do you think some people are too focused on the sex part and try jump straight in? Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?"
For me they do, I like to get to know the person before meeting. The idea of just meeting a stranger for sex, it similar to having sex with a prostitute. Not a lot of feeling or connection with the other person. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Ok we are on a swingers site where people can hook up to have sex and people go to swingers clubs where again they can have sex.... After reading some other posts in the forums do you think some people are too focused on the sex part and try jump straight in? Or do you feel seduction and intelligent conversation do have its place in the swinging world whether on here or in a club?
For me they do, I like to get to know the person before meeting. The idea of just meeting a stranger for sex, it similar to having sex with a prostitute. Not a lot of feeling or connection with the other person."
For the same reason I would add that if I cannot have a good laugh, a chat, a conversation, an exchange of thoughts and possibly an entire evening with a person... why on earth would I want to be intimate with that person?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is certainly the assumption that because we are all on this site, that we should have high sex drives, love sex, and are non judgemental about everything sexual.
This is certainly not the case for me.
The sex is not the pull for me in the swinging world, it is the exhibitionism, the decadence, the wild parties, the weird clubs and the strange assortment of people you meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally the latter but one of the best meets I ever had was a 'Silent Meet'..
We did speak after though and communicated how the meet would go prior via messaging x |
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