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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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I think everyone is entitled to privacy so I wouldn't be offended if they didn't want to answer something. I ask a load of nosy questions. 
I'm an open book and painfully honest so I don't have topics that are off limits. I guess I just trust my instincts and meet people when I'm comfortable enough. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I agree with Dirtygirl - I ask plenty of questions and trust my instinct which has only been wrong once in the scene.
If people don't answer my questions or are evasive I am not going to meet them.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree with Dirtygirl - I ask plenty of questions and trust my instinct which has only been wrong once in the scene.
If people don't answer my questions or are evasive I am not going to meet them. "
What kind of questions though? Past partners, experience, their real name, what job they do? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I don't need to know much. I do ask if they're single or attached. If they refuse to answer that I won't meet. Of course, I don't necessarily take their word fir it if they say they are single.
I also need to see decent face and body pics. I won't meet otherwise.
I like to know a bit about people and be fairly sure we have a similar outlook and things in common but there aren't many specific things I want to know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they're ever travelling down South ...
I like a general chat, get to know them a bit, obviously a face pic etc.
Other than that there's no pre-requisite questions I have, but I am very much into a social first to ensure face to face compatibility so would probably feel uncomfortable meeting directly for sex without knowing we get on properly first.
And there's very little I would hold back if asked so if I was asked something I was uncomfortable with or really didn't want to answer then the line of questioning would have gone down a such a severe to probably not want to meet them anyway!
Oh and if and when anything more was on the cards then an idea of likes and dislikes sexually would be useful so not to do anything to cause offence! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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You could have a multiple choice questionnaire that you send , they could bring it too he date and you could discuss the answeres |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
You could have a multiple choice questionnaire that you send , they could bring it too he date and you could discuss the answeres "
Yes I find this works well
But I put more written answers in so I can check their spelling etc   |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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We don't have any set questions that we ask others.
If someone didn't want to answer a question, that's fine. It's more how they handled it, if that's makes sense?
We haven't always wanted to answer everything we've been asked.
The main things for us is, are we attracted to them. Do we have a few common interests and is conversation easy with them. Does how we both meet match.
Then we just go with our gut instinct..
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree with Dirtygirl - I ask plenty of questions and trust my instinct which has only been wrong once in the scene.
If people don't answer my questions or are evasive I am not going to meet them.
What kind of questions though? Past partners, experience, their real name, what job they do? "
Good point and even better a question!
I cannot answer that as a "one fits all" line of questions. I initially get the feel of a person by reading their profile, looking at veris and pictures and I guess I gauge my questions around that. I would want to know if they are attached and what they were looking for (eg the are some men who want more of a relationship/ FB type of contact which I do not want). I might ask them what they do workwise and I would never ask details - I just build up a kind of picture of what they might like and often, when speaking on the phone this confirms initial impressions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everyone is entitled to privacy so I wouldn't be offended if they didn't want to answer something. I ask a load of nosy questions.
I'm an open book and painfully honest so I don't have topics that are off limits. I guess I just trust my instincts and meet people when I'm comfortable enough. "
This except i do like to know if there above average size wise. Ive discovered i cant go beyond a 7 without pain...
This tends to come up without me asking though... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
We don't have any set questions that we ask others.
If someone didn't want to answer a question, that's fine. It's more how they handled it, if that's makes sense?
We haven't always wanted to answer everything we've been asked.
The main things for us is, are we attracted to them. Do we have a few common interests and is conversation easy with them. Does how we both meet match.
Then we just go with our gut instinct..
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Think I'm the same really. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"and are they drama free, is their mojo intact, do they howl on the night of the full moon, are they looking for a relationship
You don't want much you do ya "
no, just come and go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
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"Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
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Wow clever girl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I need to know that i fancy them,that we have some sort of connection and that i feel safe enough to meet them. I need know nothing more. "
Me too and if they kiss and give as well as receive oral. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and how many fucking times have they been here, I associate that with drama of some sort....
not 100%, but high"
I've been here a few times. I'm not a drama queen  |
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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* face pic
* availability
* expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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We don't ask any , if they are fit we will meet them .
Upon meeting if we connect we play , simple |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
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Out of curiosity, how does someone's childhood tell you how they'll sexually?
Mr B and I had very different childhoods yet we are fairly similar sexually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
Out of curiosity, how does someone's childhood tell you how they'll sexually?
Mr B and I had very different childhoods yet we are fairly similar sexually."
A guys relationship with his mother can tell you what he thinks about himself and other women. It's a bit complex and you'd need to know if he spent a lot of time with a grandmother or some other female family member.
I'd say most the single people on here that are filthy stinking sexually and have weird and wonderful kinks would be from a broken home, most the swinging couples on here would have grown up in a mum and dad household! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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They just need to be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
They just need to be nice "
That's me out then |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"and how many fucking times have they been here, I associate that with drama of some sort....
not 100%, but high
I've been here a few times. I'm not a drama queen "
cool you will be in the small number that is drama free |
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O probably have a formula that I follow, and discussions focus on interests - their personality comes out along the way.
Rarely would work etc stuff be discussed, as I'm not looking for a mortgage partner or bridge club mate.
If they were distant and cold I'd probably hold back, before deciding what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I interrogate to establish if they are Daily Mail reporters, then get hopelessly sidetracked from any suggestion about sex before the conversation dries up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
They just need to be nice
That's me out then "
Pfft. You know your a nice bird  |
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"I'd say most the single people on here that are filthy stinking sexually and have weird and wonderful kinks would be from a broken home, most the swinging couples on here would have grown up in a mum and dad household! "
Single filthy sexual kinkster here... my parents have been married 51 years and are still very much in love.
I realise you said 'most' but I think that whole paragraph is bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
Out of curiosity, how does someone's childhood tell you how they'll sexually?
Mr B and I had very different childhoods yet we are fairly similar sexually.
A guys relationship with his mother can tell you what he thinks about himself and other women. It's a bit complex and you'd need to know if he spent a lot of time with a grandmother or some other female family member.
I'd say most the single people on here that are filthy stinking sexually and have weird and wonderful kinks would be from a broken home, most the swinging couples on here would have grown up in a mum and dad household! "
I know your posts before I see it's you that posted. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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When in doubt run out. Would be NY advice. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Once I've met them in the flesh and we've agreed that we find each other attractive. I'll ask when they last had a relationship/sex, when they last had an all clear std test, what they're looking for (I'll already have said I'm not looking for a one off) ask where they grey up, they'll say mother and father or mother and step dad, step dad was a prick, mother was horrible, lived with grandparents, their childhood tells me things about what they'll be like sexually.
Out of curiosity, how does someone's childhood tell you how they'll sexually?
Mr B and I had very different childhoods yet we are fairly similar sexually.
A guys relationship with his mother can tell you what he thinks about himself and other women. It's a bit complex and you'd need to know if he spent a lot of time with a grandmother or some other female family member.
I'd say most the single people on here that are filthy stinking sexually and have weird and wonderful kinks would be from a broken home, most the swinging couples on here would have grown up in a mum and dad household! "
Your theory falls down in my case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you start chatting to someone new on here, what do you need to know before you will meet them for sex?
If they don't want to disclose information, would that put you off them, or are there certain questions you don't mind them not answering?
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My needs are simple
do you have pictures
do you give oral
if the answer is yes to both and I like their pics it's just a case of chatting to see if we get along |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say most the single people on here that are filthy stinking sexually and have weird and wonderful kinks would be from a broken home, most the swinging couples on here would have grown up in a mum and dad household! "
Swing and a miss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I need to know that i fancy them,that we have some sort of connection and that i feel safe enough to meet them. I need know nothing more. "
That's pretty much me too. My judgement hasn't been wrong yet, either. |
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