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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I'm overweight & married
I don't lie about it on my profile like a lot of people do on here.
I play alone but the reason why is between my wife and me. I don't rub it in her face.
But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.
Just a rant no response required
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Does she know you play? If so then fair point, if not I'm not sure why you feel aggreaved at been a cheater when it's the truth |
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In essence though you are cheating on your wife so will be known as a cheater I'm sure you have your reasons to be on fab I cast no judgement over that, some just have a strong opinion of married people on fab straying... |
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I can understand it in a way.
Consider this; if you "don't rub it in her face", i presume you have initial permission but beyond that she has no idea what you do, with who and when, so in a sense your are cheating on her as your not being honest with her when you do meet. Most swinging couples that meet separately still know what the other is up to, with who and when. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Removed
Ask the moderators to delete the whole thread."
 I'm guessing OP you're in a dark place right now. Best not to come here to ask for comments...they're unlikely to help at this moment. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"So I'm overweight & married
I don't lie about it on my profile like a lot of people do on here.
I play alone but the reason why is between my wife and me. I don't rub it in her face.
But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.
Just a rant no response required
Does she know you play? If so then fair point, if not I'm not sure why you feel aggreaved at been a cheater when it's the truth"
If you are playing with your wife's full knowledge and consent, then its not cheating. If you are playing without her knowledge or consent, what word would YOU chose to describe it? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
So I am thinking:
1) Married guy, cannot accommodate; hurried infrequent and irregular daytime midweek meets; wife might find out; will blame me too
2) Single guy; can accommodate; nice pleasant Saturday night with him
Hmmm, who do I choose? This is a difficult one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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I'd say get the thread removed, it probably won't do your sanity any good reading the replies in the morning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
I'd say get the thread removed, it probably won't do your sanity any good reading the replies in the morning "
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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Then say so on your profile; otherwise people will guess that you are cheating on her
Whilst I do not make any moral judgements about married men or women playing away from home, I'd rather not get in the midst of a 'domestic' |
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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Yes but my point was because although that is agreed to a swinging couple that have that kind of open honest respect of each other you could be _iewed as a cheat that has no respect for his wife, even though it's not the case
Also as a women a little advice is if she doesn't want to know the details. I could be wrong but I'd say she isn't happy with the arrangement and it could be hurting her on a level you don't realise even though she says its "ok". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
I'd say get the thread removed, it probably won't do your sanity any good reading the replies in the morning "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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All that matters is what happens between you and your partner not random people you meet for sex. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
Yes but my point was because although that is agreed to a swinging couple that have that kind of open honest respect of each other you could be _iewed as a cheat that has no respect for his wife, even though it's not the case
Also as a women a little advice is if she doesn't want to know the details. I could be wrong but I'd say she isn't happy with the arrangement and it could be hurting her on a level you don't realise even though she says its "ok". "
I know enough couples who have given each other permission but on the agreement that it's not discussed and details aren't exchanged.
There are married men and women on here. Some are cheating and some have permission. I don't judge why they are here as I don't know what happens in their marriage and the decisions they have made together, explicitly or implicitly.
I have met those claiming to be single only to find that they really aren't so I prefer people to be explicit and I can make my decision based on that knowledge. At the end of the day, we only have what people choose to tell us anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
All that matters is what happens between you and your partner not random people you meet for sex."
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Also as a women a little advice is if she doesn't want to know the details. I could be wrong but I'd say she isn't happy with the arrangement and it could be hurting her on a level you don't realise even though she says its "ok". "
That's a very good point, I believe that is true in a lot of cases.  |
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"There are loads of married men on here cheating ,as there wife's won't have sex ,if he cannot have sex with his wife then he will go else were ..."
I wouldn't want to find myself in a relationship where sex was more important than other aspects that bind people together.
People don't die from lack of sex. I never hold with that excuse for infidelity. |
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"There are loads of married men on here cheating ,as there wife's won't have sex ,if he cannot have sex with his wife then he will go else were ...
I wouldn't want to find myself in a relationship where sex was more important than other aspects that bind people together.
People don't die from lack of sex. I never hold with that excuse for infidelity. "
Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are loads of married men on here cheating ,as there wife's won't have sex ,if he cannot have sex with his wife then he will go else were ...
I wouldn't want to find myself in a relationship where sex was more important than other aspects that bind people together.
People don't die from lack of sex. I never hold with that excuse for infidelity. "
Yet you're on a site where sex is what we're all looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
A very fair point, if stated rather bluntly!
Would I have sex with a person if it would upset their partner? - no.
Would I criticise a person looking for sex outside their relationship? - hell no, - I have no right to condemn other peoples' lifestyles, moral values, or personal choices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
We're not all cheating on anyone though. That is the difference.
If cheats are honest on their profiles and get on with it, it's up to them and those that decide to meet. If they plaster it all over the fora then anyone and everyone is entitled to comment.
Many people here have been cheated on or seen the fallout from infidelity, so of course some will have strong _iews. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing "
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing "
I'm not cheating on anyone so I am absolutely not doing the same as those who are. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex. "
Some of us don't have a partner who believes we are in a monogamous relationship, that would be hurt if they found out. Some of us haven't made a commitment to somebody we are supposed to love, care for and support.
Wanting sex is fine. Cheating to get it isn't.
That this is a site for people looking for sex will never justify cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex. "
I get that, this is why i never slag off cheats. I don't want to a part of hurting anyone else though so choose to avoid cheaters. Plus, what if i got an STD and unknowingly passed that onto someone who hasn't even had sex with me...like a persons wife or partner? Plenty of reasons why i'm not interested and they're all to do with me, not that person who is cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex. "
Yes, but they're not being "judged" by their want for sex, they're being "judged" for wanting it with someone who isn't their spouse. So it is totally different. I'm not sure why you seem to be failing to see the distinction |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
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live your life honey. you only get one x you are arent owned by anyone and all the judgmental people in the world aint gonna change the fact that we all end up dead....where no one gives a shit....life is too short to be concerned by other peoples business or make assumptions about other peoples circumstances..if you want to be ruled by social conditioning and whats considered right, then no one would be swinging in the first place..selective morality doesn't work...
however no rules and impeccability works..i am impeccable but in no way am i moral..
morality is man made bullshit to control the masses...always was and always will be no matter what you dress it up as..fuck the new world moral order..live your own life, be free and happy xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex.
Yes, but they're not being "judged" by their want for sex, they're being "judged" for wanting it with someone who isn't their spouse. So it is totally different. I'm not sure why you seem to be failing to see the distinction "
You seem to be failing to see that you are talking about judging to someone who has stated that she is not judging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex.
Yes, but they're not being "judged" by their want for sex, they're being "judged" for wanting it with someone who isn't their spouse. So it is totally different. I'm not sure why you seem to be failing to see the distinction "
Most on here want sex with someone who isn't their spouse, even couples so your point is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all
live your life honey. you only get one x you are arent owned by anyone and all the judgmental people in the world aint gonna change the fact that we all end up dead....where no one gives a shit....life is too short to be concerned by other peoples business or make assumptions about other peoples circumstances..if you want to be ruled by social conditioning and whats considered right, then no one would be swinging in the first place..selective morality doesn't work...
however no rules and impeccability works..i am impeccable but in no way am i moral..
morality is man made bullshit to control the masses...always was and always will be no matter what you dress it up as..fuck the new world moral order..live your own life, be free and happy xx"
A brilliantly put argument. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex.
Yes, but they're not being "judged" by their want for sex, they're being "judged" for wanting it with someone who isn't their spouse. So it is totally different. I'm not sure why you seem to be failing to see the distinction
Most on here want sex with someone who isn't their spouse, even couples so your point is?"
Thats how I read your point miss I and I totally agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex.
I get that, this is why i never slag off cheats. I don't want to a part of hurting anyone else though so choose to avoid cheaters. Plus, what if i got an STD and unknowingly passed that onto someone who hasn't even had sex with me...like a persons wife or partner? Plenty of reasons why i'm not interested and they're all to do with me, not that person who is cheating."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you got an STD you could pass it on to a future girlfriend or boyfriend too of someone you've fucked. They're no less important than a wife or girlfriend regarding their health. |
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Don't complain don't explain!
If someone makes a comment in a private message you feel untrue, ignore them. If you can ignore the pain you're undoubtedly causing your wife, why let total strangers get to you?!!
Moreover, why share your frustration with people, who frankly in the main don't...care!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you got an STD you could pass it on to a future girlfriend or boyfriend too of someone you've fucked. They're no less important than a wife or girlfriend regarding their health."
Difference is that person chose to have sex with me, they had a choice. Same for someone who's partner is sleeping with someone else and knows about it, but they also sleep with them, they have a choice.
A cheated on partner doesn't get to choose, they're oblivious to the whole situation. And that makes a difference to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really understanding your comment:
'But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.'
Your wife doesn't know you are on here therefore you are a cheater, no matter what the reason |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not really understanding your comment:
'But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.'
Your wife doesn't know you are on here therefore you are a cheater, no matter what the reason "
Thanks for your response, please read in full next time.
Quote "She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all"
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Not really understanding your comment:
'But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.'
Your wife doesn't know you are on here therefore you are a cheater, no matter what the reason "
His wife does know that he is meeting other women. She just doesn't want to know all the details, like who he met, what she was like, etc
I can see myself saying to that my boyfriend, if I had one, and he wanted to meet others and I didn't want us to split up. I don't think I would say it because it makes me feel happy but because I would not want to loose him. But maybe it is different between them. I don't know and I don't want to assume |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
I'm not sure a married person looking for sex is exactly the same thing as a single person looking for sex.
The married person has other people in their life to consider, whereas the single person does not.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging married folk coming on here, there are genuine married people who have various reasons for being on here. I just think you are making a somewhat sweeping statement by saying we're all doing the same thing
But everyone is doing the same thing. Wanting sex.
Yes, but they're not being "judged" by their want for sex, they're being "judged" for wanting it with someone who isn't their spouse. So it is totally different. I'm not sure why you seem to be failing to see the distinction
Most on here want sex with someone who isn't their spouse, even couples so your point is?"
Well said ... and about time. Having sex with someone other than your partner is having sex with someone other than your partner ... and hiding behind the swinging route can disguise many sins. Is every married swinger on here one hundred per cent sure that their spouse totally approves and encourages everything they do ...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really understanding your comment:
'But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.'
Your wife doesn't know you are on here therefore you are a cheater, no matter what the reason
Thanks for your response, please read in full next time.
Quote "She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all"
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You know the truth. Why do you care so much what strangers think? |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
But everyone on here also wants money too (not for sex), so having a job, or robbing a bank is the same right? Because everyone wants money. |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
But everyone on here also wants money too (not for sex), so having a job, or robbing a bank is the same right? Because everyone wants money. "
this..
i may want that cream bun that the person before me brought but if i take it from him 'because i can' its wrong..
not saying what the OP (and others) is doing is wrong personally but can see that others will do..
View said it spot on, just get on with doing what you do.. |
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If your married and your wife knows put it on your profile
If your married and she doesn't know put it on your profile.
Those that will play with you will and those that don't won't.
But drawing attention to it, starting threads on it or trying to justify it won't work in your favour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really understanding your comment:
'But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.'
Your wife doesn't know you are on here therefore you are a cheater, no matter what the reason
Thanks for your response, please read in full next time.
Quote "She doesn't want to know when or where I do, she knows that I do and it's with agreement.
Feel free to carry on with the thread I was airing my _iew that's all.
Night all"
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Except I was going by your opening post that you deleted, didn't read anything else as I know where these go |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
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hahaha, yeah ok! So where do I stand? How am I doing the same? A SINGLE lady, looking for SOCIAL meets and sex is an added bonus, but rarely happens and I don't go out looking for sex. I ain't cheating on no one, hunny!  |
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You are not someone I would meet,I need everything out in the open no secrets,no hiding away. Why mention you are overweight,what bearing does this have on being called a cheater. Are you not attractive to your wife anymore,hence the reason you look for sex outside of your marriage... |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
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You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??"
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To be fair to the OP he retracted his original comments very early on but was unfortunately quoted later in the thread.
Doesn't a retraction deserve some respect or acknowledgement or is a continued witch hunt fair game? Just wondering .. |
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You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
what a bizzare thing to say  I couldn't care less if anyone is married or not but to say we are all the same is just wrong |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.what a bizzare thing to say I couldn't care less if anyone is married or not but to say we are all the same is just wrong"
It depends where everyone's moral compass lies I guess. For some people any shagging around, swinging, gangbangs, bisexuality etc is a sin and we're all going to burn in hell. On here a lot of people judge based on their morality, ie what they think is right and anyone not conforming to their '_iew' of what is acceptable is fair game for a kicking.
I'm not a religious man but do strongly believe in the mantra of 'let he without sin cast the first stone' ...
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"To be fair to the OP he retracted his original comments very early on but was unfortunately quoted later in the thread.
Doesn't a retraction deserve some respect or acknowledgement or is a continued witch hunt fair game? Just wondering .. "
and I've made no comment on his OP, just the strangest of comments that Miss Innocence had put. I am not a hypocrite, so I will stand my ground on that. |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.what a bizzare thing to say I couldn't care less if anyone is married or not but to say we are all the same is just wrong
It depends where everyone's moral compass lies I guess. For some people any shagging around, swinging, gangbangs, bisexuality etc is a sin and we're all going to burn in hell. On here a lot of people judge based on their morality, ie what they think is right and anyone not conforming to their '_iew' of what is acceptable is fair game for a kicking.
I'm not a religious man but do strongly believe in the mantra of 'let he without sin cast the first stone' ...
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I'm not going to hell, I don't believe in such a place and I never did when I was a Christian.
As throwing stones, my family are aware of why I am on a site such as this, so I don't hide anything from anyone. |
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"To be fair to the OP he retracted his original comments very early on but was unfortunately quoted later in the thread.
Doesn't a retraction deserve some respect or acknowledgement or is a continued witch hunt fair game? Just wondering ..
and I've made no comment on his OP, just the strangest of comments that Miss Innocence had put. I am not a hypocrite, so I will stand my ground on that."
Fair enough - I was talking generically about the whole thread from start to finish rather than any particular individual posts, the OP deleted very early (there's only a small window to delete a post) yet the general backlash against the OP has continued through the night and this morning!
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile."
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
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"To be fair to the OP he retracted his original comments very early on but was unfortunately quoted later in the thread.
Doesn't a retraction deserve some respect or acknowledgement or is a continued witch hunt fair game? Just wondering ..
and I've made no comment on his OP, just the strangest of comments that Miss Innocence had put. I am not a hypocrite, so I will stand my ground on that.
Fair enough - I was talking generically about the whole thread from start to finish rather than any particular individual posts, the OP deleted very early (there's only a small window to delete a post) yet the general backlash against the OP has continued through the night and this morning!
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People sometimes requote earlier on to ensure the thread continues regardless if the OP deletes the original opening post..... |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
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I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it.  |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
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This is exactly what I meant.
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it. "
If you're talking about me, then sorry but I'm not married, I'm single so please get your facts straight. |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not."
How dare they? They dare  |
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it. "
What did you join for then if it your intial interest had nothing to done with sex in any shape or form....knitting patterns?
And what do you gain by having private notes that she is cheating?!
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it.
What did you join for then if it your intial interest had nothing to done with sex in any shape or form....knitting patterns?
And what do you gain by having private notes that she is cheating?!
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came here to find some garden swings for my nieces and nephews
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it.
If you're talking about me, then sorry but I'm not married, I'm single so please get your facts straight."
not nice when people don't get their facts right is it?
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it.
If you're talking about me, then sorry but I'm not married, I'm single so please get your facts straight.not nice when people don't get their facts right is it?
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
Everyone is cheating on their partner??
A strange comment.
Are you cheating? Is that what sparks your comment??
yes, since then hidden profile.
I took Miss Innocents comment to mean she was fed up with people taking the high ground when fundamentallly regardless of anyone's moral code & high horses everyone on here initially signed up looking for sex ~ in that way we are all the same & that's where the similarity also ends.
And for what it's worth people can see the grey areas inbetween regardless of their own marital situation ~ a rather pompous attitude to assume her opinion & subsequent hidden profile means she's cheating... and so what is she is ffs.
I didn't join to look for sex, we aint all nymphos.
Pompus? Hell yeah! It was on her profile that she's married, I have it on private notes and her cheating has nowt do with me, I'm not the one who has to live with it.
What did you join for then if it your intial interest had nothing to done with sex in any shape or form....knitting patterns?
And what do you gain by having private notes that she is cheating?!
came here to find some garden swings for my nieces and nephews
The gain is for my own business, not yours "
Okay I hope they enjoyed them!
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Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation. |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation."
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation."
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that. |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that."
I think I should be apologising for thinking you were married, I obviously noted the wrong profile 
I know who it is, you have similar avatars. Sorry |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that."
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not. |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
I think I should be apologising for thinking you were married, I obviously noted the wrong profile
I know who it is, you have similar avatars. Sorry "
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not."
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you. |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not.
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you."
Like we said through our comments, it is our opinion.
What you say is true, and people will continue to do it.
We are not trying to get people to agree to our morals, but just point out that it is unfair to treat someone who you care for like that.
Of course it will go on forever, it is just a shame for the unknowing usually innocent partner. |
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not.
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you."
Did you know that archeologists believe the oldest profession in the world (for humans) was actually a hunter? Makes more sense than prostitute when you think about it 
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not.
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you.
Did you know that archeologists believe the oldest profession in the world (for humans) was actually a hunter? Makes more sense than prostitute when you think about it
-Courtney"
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"So I'm overweight & married
I don't lie about it on my profile like a lot of people do on here.
I play alone but the reason why is between my wife and me. I don't rub it in her face.
But still get tarred with the 'cheater' badge.
Just a rant no response required
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Don't let it worry you OP. Male or female, single or couples, there sadly are a surprising number on here who chose to project problems in their own lives onto others rather than looking closer to home. You neither have to explain nor justify anything you do to anyone on here.
Hope you're in a better place today.
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not.
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you.
Did you know that archeologists believe the oldest profession in the world (for humans) was actually a hunter? Makes more sense than prostitute when you think about it
-Courtney"
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"Miss innocent meant all are here for sex. Not that all are here cheating. I think that was pretty obvious. And she's right people are looking for sex with people other than there partners if they have one already. That was the comparison. Those who aren't here for sex may take themselves out of the equation.
Yep, that's exactly what I meant. Of course I didn't mean everyone here was cheating
I apologise if that's what people thought I meant because it wasn't intended to mean that.
Just our opinion of course, but there is a difference between people looking for sex with others with the full consent of their partner, and people who are looking for sex with others without their partner even knowing or being given a choice whether to accept the situation or not.
Of course, we do understand everyone has their own _iew on it, but just as cheaters make a conscious choice to come on here, surely they should then allow their life partner to have the choice whether to accept it or not.
The simple answer here is if you say so. Others won't agree. People have their own reasons for what they do. Those reasons are theirs and theirs alone. They say the oldest profession in the world is prostitution. Infidelity has been going on just as long and isn't going to stop any time soon. No matter how many times we have posts like this they are going to carry on. You aren't going to get them to change their ways. You aren't going to get them to fess up to their partners and give them a choice to accept it or not. Those are decisions they will make on their own. At the end of the day all your doing is getting people to agree with your moral compass. Those that agree with you will go yeah right on. Those who dont will just ignore you.
Like we said through our comments, it is our opinion.
What you say is true, and people will continue to do it.
We are not trying to get people to agree to our morals, but just point out that it is unfair to treat someone who you care for like that.
Of course it will go on forever, it is just a shame for the unknowing usually innocent partner."
Absolutely. It is a Shame. For both the unknowing partner and unknowing people who meet attached people. But also the person who feels the need to go elsewhere. Not those who are just greedy though. But then I guess that's my level of moral compass. Heck, who am I to judge. |
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"I am happy to judge, I am happy to be judged.
and what difference does it make to the life of the person I pass judgement on.... FUCK ALL
and mine: FUCK ALL.
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"I am happy to judge, I am happy to be judged.
and what difference does it make to the life of the person I pass judgement on.... FUCK ALL
and mine: FUCK ALL.
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Thats pretty much what I said earlier. Think you said it better though. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I see people who comment that they won't meet married women and men (the 'cheaters') but they are happy to banter with the same people on the forum, in chat etc.
Obviously I understand their line in the sand is on having sex with them, maybe some won't meet them in any social setting either. My own experience of being cheated on was that it was the communication, chatter and flirting I found harder to handle than the sex act.
Casual sex, the one off moment where you get swept along by the moment is a dip. Spending lots of time getting to know people, sharing secrets and fun times with them is something else.
On the basis that I do chat to married men and women on the forum means that, for me, I am contributing to that 'cheating' so why should I judge them for being here? How many of you make sure you don't compliment a stated married man's arse picture or a stated married woman's boobs or avoid interacting with them in any friendly way at all?
As I said yesterday, we don't know what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed in any relationship. Some couples I know outside of the World of Fab have agreements. They just get on with it and continue to have happy relationships that work for them.
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"I see people who comment that they won't meet married women and men (the 'cheaters') but they are happy to banter with the same people on the forum, in chat etc.
Obviously I understand their line in the sand is on having sex with them, maybe some won't meet them in any social setting either. My own experience of being cheated on was that it was the communication, chatter and flirting I found harder to handle than the sex act.
Casual sex, the one off moment where you get swept along by the moment is a dip. Spending lots of time getting to know people, sharing secrets and fun times with them is something else.
On the basis that I do chat to married men and women on the forum means that, for me, I am contributing to that 'cheating' so why should I judge them for being here? How many of you make sure you don't compliment a stated married man's arse picture or a stated married woman's boobs or avoid interacting with them in any friendly way at all?
As I said yesterday, we don't know what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed in any relationship. Some couples I know outside of the World of Fab have agreements. They just get on with it and continue to have happy relationships that work for them.
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I will say that I have many qualms about people cheating....and I don't meet people who I know to be cheating.
Having said that, THIS post is very interesting to me and makes a hell of a good point. I will have to reflect on this.
Though I still won't ever meet someone who I know is cheating, it is definitely a point that induces further thought. So thank you for that!
And also, can I say, the guy tried to delete the post, can we not leave him alone about it? I feel bad for him at this point.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I see people who comment that they won't meet married women and men (the 'cheaters') but they are happy to banter with the same people on the forum, in chat etc.
Obviously I understand their line in the sand is on having sex with them, maybe some won't meet them in any social setting either. My own experience of being cheated on was that it was the communication, chatter and flirting I found harder to handle than the sex act.
Casual sex, the one off moment where you get swept along by the moment is a dip. Spending lots of time getting to know people, sharing secrets and fun times with them is something else.
On the basis that I do chat to married men and women on the forum means that, for me, I am contributing to that 'cheating' so why should I judge them for being here? How many of you make sure you don't compliment a stated married man's arse picture or a stated married woman's boobs or avoid interacting with them in any friendly way at all?
As I said yesterday, we don't know what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed in any relationship. Some couples I know outside of the World of Fab have agreements. They just get on with it and continue to have happy relationships that work for them.
I will say that I have many qualms about people cheating....and I don't meet people who I know to be cheating.
Having said that, THIS post is very interesting to me and makes a hell of a good point. I will have to reflect on this.
Though I still won't ever meet someone who I know is cheating, it is definitely a point that induces further thought. So thank you for that!
And also, can I say, the guy tried to delete the post, can we not leave him alone about it? I feel bad for him at this point.
-Courtney "
Also, we all know it's not that easy for men to get a meet on Fab. For a lot of the married men they may never actually meet (or really want to) but enjoy the thrill of being here, perving the pictures and chatting to people.
There have been very popular 'single' men on here who were attached. We only know what people choose to tell us.
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There have been far too many personal insults on this thread and not enough calm discussion.
In an effort to simplify matters, can we agree that people are in different circumstances and behave in different ways. Some people will disagree with others' behaviour, but that is a personal choice and no reason for others to pass judgement. By all means express your _iews on behaviour but please don't be rude to or about people.
A final thought:- What is a "cheater"? A person who plays away without the partner's knowledge. But the OP's partner is aware - is he a "cheater"? If so, then is everyone in a Fab couple who plays singly a "cheater"?
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"There have been far too many personal insults on this thread and not enough calm discussion.
In an effort to simplify matters, can we agree that people are in different circumstances and behave in different ways. Some people will disagree with others' behaviour, but that is a personal choice and no reason for others to pass judgement. By all means express your _iews on behaviour but please don't be rude to or about people.
A final thought:- What is a "cheater"? A person who plays away without the partner's knowledge. But the OP's partner is aware - is he a "cheater"? If so, then is everyone in a Fab couple who plays singly a "cheater"?
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Re your second paragraph. Nice thought mate and I totally agree, but cheaters, barebacking and bbw threads always bring the hate. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"How dare anyone on this site have a go at anyone married or not, who is looking for sex.
You're all doing the same & you're a bloody hypocrite if you say you're not.
hahaha, yeah ok! So where do I stand? How am I doing the same? A SINGLE lady, looking for SOCIAL meets and sex is an added bonus, but rarely happens and I don't go out looking for sex. I ain't cheating on no one, hunny! "
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