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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm in a relationship and looking for discreet fun, I find the thrill exciting and makes for better sexual tension and also great sex in general! Are women or couples on here open to going with a guy already in a relationship?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, not for me. Not into the whole cheating thing.
Might be worth putting it in your profile so that people who are put off by it don't need to ask if you are attached. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope, not for me. Not into the whole cheating thing.
Might be worth putting it in your profile so that people who are put off by it don't need to ask if you are attached. "
Just updated my profile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP you'll find there's a lot of haters who will judge before knowing why you're here."
He said why he was here. He likes the thrill of cheating. If thats your thing then fine but most women on here dont meet cheaters so its a good thing to put it on his profile. I know i dont want to meet guy in relationships and i certainly dont want an angry wife calling me or turning up at my door. Who needs that crap?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP you'll find there's a lot of haters who will judge before knowing why you're here.
He said why he was here. He likes the thrill of cheating. If thats your thing then fine but most women on here dont meet cheaters so its a good thing to put it on his profile. I know i dont want to meet guy in relationships and i certainly dont want an angry wife calling me or turning up at my door. Who needs that crap??"
That's why it's called discreet x |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol."
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"OP you'll find there's a lot of haters who will judge before knowing why you're here.
He said why he was here. He likes the thrill of cheating. If thats your thing then fine but most women on here dont meet cheaters so its a good thing to put it on his profile. I know i dont want to meet guy in relationships and i certainly dont want an angry wife calling me or turning up at my door. Who needs that crap??
That's why it's called discreet x "
Plenty of cheats who think they're being discreet and clever still get caught.
To me, it's not worth the risk and the hassle.
If the thrill is worth the risk of losing your partner and the consequent fallout, that's up to you. There will be a lot who won't want anything to do with you, and some that won't care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol.
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site."
That's right and although not many women do start these threads like these, but when they do, everyone will understand their sexual needs and stuf like that I mean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spice up ur relationship, u and ur partner meet in a bar pretend u don't no her, chat her up n get hotel room, even get ur partner to get a wig so she looks different, I belive u just love the chase so give it ago b4 u decide to ruin things, one word of advice us girls no when partners are cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP you'll find there's a lot of haters who will judge before knowing why you're here.
He said why he was here. He likes the thrill of cheating. If thats your thing then fine but most women on here dont meet cheaters so its a good thing to put it on his profile. I know i dont want to meet guy in relationships and i certainly dont want an angry wife calling me or turning up at my door. Who needs that crap??
That's why it's called discreet x
Plenty of cheats who think they're being discreet and clever still get caught.
To me, it's not worth the risk and the hassle.
If the thrill is worth the risk of losing your partner and the consequent fallout, that's up to you. There will be a lot who won't want anything to do with you, and some that won't care."
Never known a man yet that hasn't been caught cheating. Women know. And if they suspect they go looking. I'm not up for that amount of hassle or sneaking about either.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol.
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site.That's right and although not many women do start these threads like these, but when they do, everyone will understand their sexual needs and stuf like that I mean."
I don't agree with you. The people who think cheating is wrong tend to think it is wrong for both men and women.
I don't recall ever seeing a woman start a thread like this, or one trying to justify or garner support for cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol.
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site."
If women are cheating on here then I would want to know. Not that it would change my decision but I think it's only fair for the other person to know.
I have made this forum as I'm curious to find out what people think, not to start arguments. If someone don't like it or agree with what I'm doing they don't have to post.
At the end of the day this is an adult swingers site and there will be a lot of wrong doings that go on. Everyone on this site is here to meet like minded people what ever that may be |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol.
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site.
If women are cheating on here then I would want to know. Not that it would change my decision but I think it's only fair for the other person to know.
I have made this forum as I'm curious to find out what people think, not to start arguments. If someone don't like it or agree with what I'm doing they don't have to post.
At the end of the day this is an adult swingers site and there will be a lot of wrong doings that go on. Everyone on this site is here to meet like minded people what ever that may be "
Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. You can't start a thread and expect only those who agree with you to post. Well, you can but it won't work.
You asked for comments, expect to hear comments you don't like. People who dislike cheating don't have to post but they are perfectly free to and will if they want to.
Some people will have more sympathy for your partner than for your desire for a thrills.
As for what "everyone" is here to do, contrary to oft expressed opinion, we're not "all here for the same thing". People use this site in all sorts of different ways.
You point out it's a swingers site, which in your mind seems to mean it's a site for wrong-doing. Some may tell you it is indeed a swinger's site, not a cheater's site. Swinging is about sexual openness and honesty and is worlds apart from cheating.
Good luck but expect to hear comments you don't like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You will also find its more ok for a woman to meet behind his back here lol.
It's not more ok. Women tend to just get on with it without needing to shout and brag about it all over the site. That's why they get less criticism.
These threads are nearly always started by men. Opinions are polarised so of course some people don't agree with the cheater. Starting threads about it invites those opinions as well as those who don't think it's a big deal.
More men will meet women who cheat that women will meet male cheats partly because there are a lot more men on the site.
If women are cheating on here then I would want to know. Not that it would change my decision but I think it's only fair for the other person to know.
I have made this forum as I'm curious to find out what people think, not to start arguments. If someone don't like it or agree with what I'm doing they don't have to post.
At the end of the day this is an adult swingers site and there will be a lot of wrong doings that go on. Everyone on this site is here to meet like minded people what ever that may be
Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. You can't start a thread and expect only those who agree with you to post. Well, you can but it won't work.
You asked for comments, expect to hear comments you don't like. People who dislike cheating don't have to post but they are perfectly free to and will if they want to.
Some people will have more sympathy for your partner than for your desire for a thrills.
As for what "everyone" is here to do, contrary to oft expressed opinion, we're not "all here for the same thing". People use this site in all sorts of different ways.
You point out it's a swingers site, which in your mind seems to mean it's a site for wrong-doing. Some may tell you it is indeed a swinger's site, not a cheater's site. Swinging is about sexual openness and honesty and is worlds apart from cheating.
Good luck but expect to hear comments you don't like."
I am open to receiving comments. If they agree or don't agree it does not affect me in anyway. I posted this as I wanted to find out peoples thoughts.
Everyone on here of course here for different reasons and looking for different things. But everyone is looking for "like minded" people. Which means people who have the same interests and ideas/fantasies or even just someone to talk to.
I know this is a swingers site and not a cheating site. But you will get people who are cheating on every site, swinging or not and even if you are in a bar/club. Weather people agree or disagree it happens all around us.
As you said swinging is being open and honest which is why people on here who are cheating clearly state on there profile. And like I said looking for like minded people, so someone like myself will find another cheater or some who doesn't mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey, everyone's here for their own reasons. Though, I personally wouldn't meet with someone who's in a relationship. I always think to myself, "how would I feel if I found out my partner was cheating on me on a swinging site."
Besides, there's plenty of genuine single men on here to talk to that aren't telling porkies to the person that they're meant to be in love with. |
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Great that the ops honest and edited his profile. For some, someone cheating is no issue - if you met in a club, perhaps nobody would guess or ask.
Just focus on those who don't mind. There are enough people who've been hurt or who wouldn't want someone else hurt, that you'll find a significant number who will not. Plus for some, it adds potential unreliability or hassle, so it's unattractive.
Show your tattooed cock, as this may help? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in a relationship and looking for discreet fun, I find the thrill exciting and makes for better sexual tension and also great sex in general! Are women or couples on here open to going with a guy already in a relationship?? "
The serious question I'd be asking myself is "how would I feel if she was cheating on me?" I'd put the effort of finding a quick thrill into changing the sex life with my partner.
Personally I couldn't deal with the guilt,you'll be riddled for life if your relationship got my serous.
I obviously don't know your situation so I can't and wouldn't judge you but honestly think about it before taking action. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP you'll find there's a lot of haters who will judge before knowing why you're here."
Its no one's business why anyone is here. I don't care why someone is on here but I don't wish to play with married/attached men. I want no part of playing with someone else's partner behind their back, for me, its morally wrong but I'm in no way judging them. As long as they're upfront, which sadly many aren't, then I know not to waste their time and them mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope, not for me. Not into the whole cheating thing.
Might be worth putting it in your profile so that people who are put off by it don't need to ask if you are attached.
Just updated my profile x "
Sensible.....not for me but will save you and others time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Going through exactly the same , most girls won't touch an attached man but if the relationship at home has gone stale what's a man supposed to do , I've tried to get it back on track to no avail |
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Seeing as you asked - No, I would not knowingly meet a man who is in a relationship.
I get no thrill from potentially causing another person pain, I am not that selfish.
As I spent Friday night with a very good friend who had only that morning found out that her fella has been cheating on her, I have seen how painful and soul destroying it can be when you discover the person you trust is as trustworthy as a politician.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Going through exactly the same , most girls won't touch an attached man but if the relationship at home has gone stale what's a man supposed to do , I've tried to get it back on track to no avail "
Talk to her mate...she may feel the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Going through exactly the same , most girls won't touch an attached man but if the relationship at home has gone stale what's a man supposed to do , I've tried to get it back on track to no avail "
Then do your other half a favour and finish the relationship. Or show her your profile on here where you state to be honest and genuine, and let HER finish the relationship. |
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