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I must confess I don't understand why, its easy enough to make a point without swearing, certainly if you are introducing yourself to someone in a message, or replying to an enquiry, why do so many feel the need to swear? As it is an adult site I fully accept I am going to come across swearing, I can totally acknowledge it has its place, I can even see how, within this site, swearing can be used to convey an emotion more accurately or highlight lust, frustration even, I just think its a shame that it seems so overused. If I swear, folks KNOW they have upset me, in fact the shocked silence around me shows how much of an impact swearing can have - its a useful tool used like that, but constantly, everyday, its lost its power.
I just wondered if I was the only one around who felt put out by the fact that at least 60% of her messages contain unnecessary swearing, or if I am just being over-sensitive?
*and yes, I know I have opened the doors for a thread full of gratuitous swearing, go ahead, its too much temptation isn't it?* | |||
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"http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/41755 this was just one thread posted in a similar vein yesterday xx" Not really, no, that was just about one word, within it most accepted that swearing was the norm, just that certain words were unacceptable - why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? | |||
Not all the time but the odd word slips out but not all the time.
Sometimes the word used is appropriate and saves me smaking someone.
My dad never ever swore and he always said its a unintelligent person that does ..as they dont have the where withall to find the correct word... 
ahem !!!
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" why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? " good point. personally, I like to swear and it never offends me. I don't like hearing kids swear though. | |||
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 but if i know it offends whoever i am with i try to tone it down | |||
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"http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/41755 this was just one thread posted in a similar vein yesterday xx Not really, no, that was just about one word, within it most accepted that swearing was the norm, just that certain words were unacceptable - why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? " Personally I think "kick 'um in the cunt" is one of the funniest phrases. | |||
"http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/41755 this was just one thread posted in a similar vein yesterday xx Not really, no, that was just about one word, within it most accepted that swearing was the norm, just that certain words were unacceptable - why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? Personally I think "kick 'um in the cunt" is one of the funniest phrases." i guess in depend on the delivery of the phrase
Someone at work once told me they were gonna kick me in the fanny  | |||
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 **** see? can you tell I'm pissed off about that?  ****
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"Some don't like swearing, some don't like text speech. Others dislike silhouette profiles and there are more who dislike cheaters and BBW dislikes. Lets face it we all have dislikes. What i do have to say is that if everyone put a dislike thread it would be pretty depressing. On the whole why not live n let live unless someone really raggs you." I haven't anywhere said no-one has the right to swear, in fact I have myself echoed exactly what you say here, albeit in slightly different words... | |||
"http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/41755 this was just one thread posted in a similar vein yesterday xx Not really, no, that was just about one word, within it most accepted that swearing was the norm, just that certain words were unacceptable - why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? " You just swore, yet you stated that you hate it. If you hated it that much you would have posted: What makes the 'f' word acceptable, and the 'c' word not? We'd all have known which words you meant but you chose to use the full length adult version. I swear, probably a little too much if I'm honest, but I was brought up in an environment where every other word was 'fuck' or 'wanker'. Up north, 'twat' is a huge insult, but where I'm from it carries no more significance than 'prat', 'idiot' or 'fool'. So one person's gratuitous use of swearing is simply another person's everyday language. | |||
"Some don't like swearing, some don't like text speech. Others dislike silhouette profiles and there are more who dislike cheaters and BBW dislikes. Lets face it we all have dislikes. What i do have to say is that if everyone put a dislike thread it would be pretty depressing. On the whole why not live n let live unless someone really raggs you. I haven't anywhere said no-one has the right to swear, in fact I have myself echoed exactly what you say here, albeit in slightly different words..." Nope but you did say you personally don't like swearing and you will get a reaction which is why you i presume put the thread up. I was just commenting and looking at things from a different point of _iew. | |||
"http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/41755 this was just one thread posted in a similar vein yesterday xx Not really, no, that was just about one word, within it most accepted that swearing was the norm, just that certain words were unacceptable - why should we differentiate? What makes saying "fuck" acceptable, and "cunt" not? You just swore, yet you stated that you hate it. If you hated it that much you would have posted: What makes the 'f' word acceptable, and the 'c' word not? We'd all have known which words you meant but you chose to use the full length adult version. I swear, probably a little too much if I'm honest, but I was brought up in an environment where every other word was 'fuck' or 'wanker'. Up north, 'twat' is a huge insult, but where I'm from it carries no more significance than 'prat', 'idiot' or 'fool'. So one person's gratuitous use of swearing is simply another person's everyday language." LMSO... look a little firther in the thread and you will find a much better example to prove your point! I wasn't actually saying that swearing was wrong, just that it was gratuitous and proliferate, and it was that which I hate, it just seems a shame when folks can't express themselves without using swearing, I am certainly not denying that there is a use for it! | |||
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"Some don't like swearing, some don't like text speech. Others dislike silhouette profiles and there are more who dislike cheaters and BBW dislikes. Lets face it we all have dislikes. What i do have to say is that if everyone put a dislike thread it would be pretty depressing. On the whole why not live n let live unless someone really raggs you. I haven't anywhere said no-one has the right to swear, in fact I have myself echoed exactly what you say here, albeit in slightly different words... Nope but you did say you personally don't like swearing and you will get a reaction which is why you i presume put the thread up. I was just commenting and looking at things from a different point of _iew." ALSO taken from my first post: "As it is an adult site I fully accept I am going to come across swearing, I can totally acknowledge it has its place, I can even see how, within this site, swearing can be used to convey an emotion more accurately or highlight lust, frustration even," | |||
" Can someone explain the 'not in front of the children' thing to me ? SERIOUSLY! " I otherwise agree with your post, Granny, but.... I don't think it's a good idea to swear in front of kids. Growing up in my family I was taught that adults were (generaly) figures to respect. They didn't swear in front of me and I didn't swear in front of them. Obviously I swore in front of my peers, but I wasn't an adults 'peer' until I was an adult myself. I don't think that this is a bad idea to teach.... | |||
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"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either "as you prove regularly in the forums
as well as proving that you are capable of NOT swearing - the children angle on things, I find most folks try to moderate their language around children, but you still find those who simply aren't capable of not swearing around, and if you bring up a child to use swearing in their everyday language, you basically limit their employability - I certainly wouldn't employ someone who couldn't control their language in front of my customers, and I am pretty positive almost everyone here would complain if the person serving them at Tescos was to say "Fucking awful weather we're having isn't it?" ... So, yes, giving children an environment in which they are taught NOT to swear is simply preparing them for the multiple situations they are likely to face in life, however, expecting them never to swear, especially when they are with their own friends and in their own group, is just as unrealistic, and probably just as damaging, because, like it or not, you will come across swearing in your everyday life.
 sorry, my sentence construction has totally gone to pieces and that is a struggle to read through - sigh, been a long time since I did an IQ test! | |||
"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either
as you prove regularly in the forums
as well as proving that you are capable of NOT swearing - the children angle on things, I find most folks try to moderate their language around children, but you still find those who simply aren't capable of not swearing around, and if you bring up a child to use swearing in their everyday language, you basically limit their employability - I certainly wouldn't employ someone who couldn't control their language in front of my customers, and I am pretty positive almost everyone here would complain if the person serving them at Tescos was to say "Fucking awful weather we're having isn't it?" ... So, yes, giving children an environment in which they are taught NOT to swear is simply preparing them for the multiple situations they are likely to face in life, however, expecting them never to swear, especially when they are with their own friends and in their own group, is just as unrealistic, and probably just as damaging, because, like it or not, you will come across swearing in your everyday life.
sorry, my sentence construction has totally gone to pieces and that is a struggle to read through - sigh, been a long time since I did an IQ test!"I love a wind up merchant but sorry i just can't take you seriously. Its a good attempt at winding people up though | |||
"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either
as you prove regularly in the forums
as well as proving that you are capable of NOT swearing - the children angle on things, I find most folks try to moderate their language around children, but you still find those who simply aren't capable of not swearing around, and if you bring up a child to use swearing in their everyday language, you basically limit their employability - I certainly wouldn't employ someone who couldn't control their language in front of my customers, and I am pretty positive almost everyone here would complain if the person serving them at Tescos was to say "Fucking awful weather we're having isn't it?" ... So, yes, giving children an environment in which they are taught NOT to swear is simply preparing them for the multiple situations they are likely to face in life, however, expecting them never to swear, especially when they are with their own friends and in their own group, is just as unrealistic, and probably just as damaging, because, like it or not, you will come across swearing in your everyday life.
sorry, my sentence construction has totally gone to pieces and that is a struggle to read through - sigh, been a long time since I did an IQ test!"sorry, but thats the biggest load of twaddle ive read on here in a long while, i have never struggled with gaining employment...also i believe that giving children a well rounded _iew of the world is more likely to set them up and prepare them for what life throws at them. | |||
"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either "Cattell B? | |||
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"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either
Cattell B?"If you grade in percentiles it doesn't matter which scoring system | |||
" sorry, but thats the biggest load of twaddle ive read on here in a long while, i have never struggled with gaining employment...also i believe that giving children a well rounded _iew of the world is more likely to set them up and prepare them for what life throws at them." I think you read it wrong, you have simply said the same, but in different wording, I wouldn't expect you would ever find a problem getting a job, in fact my comment as to your IQ was as a compliment, your posts on the forums often show you to be an intelligent and very open minded person who is able to see the many different shades of colour in almost any subject, I can only apologise if you read it differently. The children thing, I said also that it wound be damaging not to let them swear, as it happens in every day life... just that everyone needs to be able to NOT swear at times, which again, you seem perfectly capable of accomplishing.. Please, read it through again, I agree entirely with what you have said! | |||
sorry! | |||
"I swear....i will continue to swear......btw my IQ aint half bad either
Cattell B?
If you grade in percentiles it doesn't matter which scoring system "I know! | |||
" sorry, but thats the biggest load of twaddle ive read on here in a long while, i have never struggled with gaining employment...also i believe that giving children a well rounded _iew of the world is more likely to set them up and prepare them for what life throws at them. I think you read it wrong, you have simply said the same, but in different wording, I wouldn't expect you would ever find a problem getting a job, in fact my comment as to your IQ was as a compliment, your posts on the forums often show you to be an intelligent and very open minded person who is able to see the many different shades of colour in almost any subject, I can only apologise if you read it differently. The children thing, I said also that it wound be damaging not to let them swear, as it happens in every day life... just that everyone needs to be able to NOT swear at times, which again, you seem perfectly capable of accomplishing.. Please, read it through again, I agree entirely with what you have said!" I can only suggest you put on your profile that anyone swearing in initial message will be deleted. | |||
" I rarely use the "c" word, but bollocks rolls of my tongue far too easily "I knew that reading View and I's posts you would come around to the half pink dark side Welcome Jack.. | |||
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" I can only suggest you put on your profile that anyone swearing in initial message will be deleted." I did at one point, but found folks tend not to read through a profile anyway, so kept it simple, I just seem to have had an influx lately of messages with swearing every sentence, I am guessing its just a random chance that its happened this way, or maybe with christmas round the corner we're all finding ourselves that extra bit stressed and need to vent! myself included, and unless the swearing is actively aggressive (or again, I interpret it as such, it needn't be the writers intention, such a loss it is not to be able to use body language) I will usually answer, even if to say "no thank you" or occasionally simply replying and hoping the answer comes back in the same vein without the swearing, tends to be about 50/50 that that works with. | |||
" I can only suggest you put on your profile that anyone swearing in initial message will be deleted. I did at one point, but found folks tend not to read through a profile anyway, so kept it simple, I just seem to have had an influx lately of messages with swearing every sentence, I am guessing its just a random chance that its happened this way, or maybe with christmas round the corner we're all finding ourselves that extra bit stressed and need to vent! myself included, and unless the swearing is actively aggressive (or again, I interpret it as such, it needn't be the writers intention, such a loss it is not to be able to use body language) I will usually answer, even if to say "no thank you" or occasionally simply replying and hoping the answer comes back in the same vein without the swearing, tends to be about 50/50 that that works with." just tell em go fuck themselves! | |||
" I can only suggest you put on your profile that anyone swearing in initial message will be deleted. I did at one point, but found folks tend not to read through a profile anyway...." Just change the title of your profile... most read that.... "This Profile is a SWEAR FREE ZONE - or I'll delete your mother fucking shit! | |||
" I can only suggest you put on your profile that anyone swearing in initial message will be deleted. I did at one point, but found folks tend not to read through a profile anyway.... Just change the title of your profile... most read that.... "This Profile is a SWEAR FREE ZONE - or I'll delete your mother fucking shit!" | |||
" ....just tell em go fuck themselves! "Or kick 'um in the cunt. (I am so tempeted to start a thread: Snog, Marry or Kick 'um in the Cunt) | |||
" Can someone explain the 'not in front of the children' thing to me ? SERIOUSLY! I otherwise agree with your post, Granny, but.... I don't think it's a good idea to swear in front of kids. Growing up in my family I was taught that adults were (generaly) figures to respect. They didn't swear in front of me and I didn't swear in front of them. Obviously I swore in front of my peers, but I wasn't an adults 'peer' until I was an adult myself. I don't think that this is a bad idea to teach...." George. I never said it was a good idea to swear in front of kids. I was pointing out the hypocrisy of it. Children want booze cos adults have it. Children want to smoke cos it's adult. Children want to swear cos it's adult. Children want sex cos it's adult. ..... My point is it's NOT adult. I never get the term adult? Adult just basically means we can do what the fuck we like and no one can tell us not to. I meant.....IF ..swearing is okay for YOU then it's okay for kids... It's hairbrained to say it's not. IF swearing is wrong.... don't do it. Just don't do it. I was pointing out the duality of it all not saying we should swear in front of kids tho I do sometimes envy the honesty of families that don't make the distinction. Those are the people who truly see nothing wrong in the words. The rest of us are hypocrites. I was in a neighbours yesterday and he swears non stop. His grandaughter came in and the swearing stopped. ? So why swear in the first place ? | |||
" Can someone explain the 'not in front of the children' thing to me ? SERIOUSLY! I otherwise agree with your post, Granny, but.... I don't think it's a good idea to swear in front of kids. Growing up in my family I was taught that adults were (generaly) figures to respect. They didn't swear in front of me and I didn't swear in front of them. Obviously I swore in front of my peers, but I wasn't an adults 'peer' until I was an adult myself. I don't think that this is a bad idea to teach...." P.S. If you didn't swear in front of adult BUT swore in front of your peers and the adults in your family didn't swear in front of you ...... hmmmmmmmmm They may as well have chucked you out for your mates to rear... You didn't really respect them but simply showed them lip service... Like the rest of us. You have accepted swearing. This is a bloody odd world. Everyone pretending not to swear but swearing their heads off when relaxed..... tsk | |||
"This is a bloody odd world." Think that about sums it up really Granny C | |||
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