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Are forums essential for single males?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others? |
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Why just single guys.
Most of my Lt friends have come from the forums, it gives you a chance to get the gist of someone's personality.
Yesterday I had a total of 13 messages as a direct result of forum threads
7 from one
And two threes.
I've always used sites with forums, but if I chat to someone whose not from the forums it just means I take longer to get to know their personality
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't be because most of the guys I talk to are not on the forums, and I've had friends come back on here with a new profile and get good meets arranged within a couple of days."
This. 99.9% of the men I chat to & meet have never been on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way .
We have met lots of single guys and none have been as the result of the forums .
If you want to while away the hours with messages rather than actual meets , the forums are probably a great way to get to know people .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've messaged women who I've known via the forums but they've never been within 20 miles of me. I can't recall ever seeing a post from any women locally. Most of the messages I get are in reply to my status updates. I just enjoy the banter on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. I still haven't had sex with a single guy from the forums, even if there are some I'd like to 
-Courtney
Queue inbound!"
 Most men on the forums are simply too far away, in any case. I really should move to Scotland. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.
Shame more people don't use them really.
I wonder why?
You're not really wondering are you?  "
No, no I'm not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are forums essential for single males?... simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts"
No. It's because you focus your attention on the forums and the people here.
Others who focus on the chat rooms, or the local clubs, or local people and their status and photo changes will all have their results and responses resulting from their approach.
I would be very surprised if dozens of chat room regulars messaged me. But after a popular thread I chat with you lovely people from the forums. |
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"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.
Shame more people don't use them really.
I wonder why?
You're not really wondering are you?
No, no I'm not "
Phew... I thought for a moment I was going to have to explain the cliques and trolls again. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?"
Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.
I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. |
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"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?
Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.
I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?
Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.
I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "
Probably because that fishy site no longer has a forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends why you join Fab really?
If you joined in under the impression you're likely to be sexually satisfied everytime you get the urge at your beck and call,then you're going to be dissapointed.
However if you joined with a lighthearted approach to simply have fun then you will probably stumble across them and join in....during the half hour a day you get spare,from all that carnal activity you're now signed up to. |
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By *usterMan
over a year ago
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I would say "Not essential" but people do visit my profile after I've posted something on them. Not that they follow up to message me but I'm out of most people's age range despite their preference showing as 18-99. Dare I add "lol"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?
Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.
I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "
Does the fishy site have a forum? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're a bloke then yes I think forums do definitely help how you come across
I've heard that sometimes when a female just joins FAB she gets messages/attention before she's even clicked the browse/forum button! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How many of the thousands of people on Fab use or look at the forums? I've heard it's a very small percentage. Looking around I've seen plenty of single men with verifications who aren't on the forums. I've met some too. There are very few men,if any,who use the forums that I want to meet,although in the past I did meet a few. They weren't having trouble meeting with non forum users. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?
Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.
I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there.
Probably because that fishy site no longer has a forum."
There you go then not essential. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think being on the forum may help some single men to be more successful, in terms of learning how to operate more effectively in the virtual world of Fab and possibly outside of Fab and in real life, as it can be educational. But in terms of meeting others I don't think it is essential at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many lurk. . We've received messages that prove it."
That is true. I've had messages from people who have read stuff I've written on the forums but who haven't actually written on the forums themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think being on the forum may help some single men to be more successful, in terms of learning how to operate more effectively in the virtual world of Fab and possibly outside of Fab and in real life, as it can be educational. But in terms of meeting others I don't think it is essential at all. "
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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not essential, worthwhile though imo..
ive met socially quite a few off the forum and will be meeting more in the autumn, i think the forums are a great place for single guys to get known.. and seen.
i got a lot of messages from those not on forums before i stopped them all.
if people want to find me and banter on the forums..this is the only way now, to get themselves into my fort knox inbox.. that and meeting me when im out and about  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only met one person off here. Well two button like to forget the disaster that was my first meet lol. As such I'm hardly a good measure. The good meet was via the forum. Most of my interaction, including chat and yes being blocked as come via the forum. Very little interaction from direct messaging. One exception to the case as always. I think it's just another way to get yourself out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forums have certainly raised my profile to a degree! I know only a small percentage use them but my last two meets were generated through contact/flirting on here |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I've met a couple of guys who use (or used to use) the forums but I've got to know them better through private messaging first. I've also met a few who never use the forums at all who do very well on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not essential but I think it can help get you known, it's a another part of the fab tool to use.
And it's the advice dished out quite a lot to single men who are having no luck ~ "join in the forums / chat rooms..."
I must be fairly unique because the majority of my meets have been via the forums.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whilst it's not the be all and end all of making contact and meeting people, If it wasn't for the forum I doubt I'd be here. I find it a great icebreaker (no pun intended) and at times the banter is enjoyable. |
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When I met men alone on my single profile, I never frequented the forums .. and had a fair few meets over four years. I don't think they are necessary at all and certainly do both attract and ward off a certain type of man, which was not then the type I was looking for. Since being part of a couple too, I do post here, and some people have come across our posts and met us because of that ... someone we may not have spoken to at a party or a club, but I certainly dont think it is essential ... there are a couple of people who have promised me a coffee though, hem, hem .... |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm fairly sure every meet I've ever had was with a forumite.
Trying to get actual interaction out of the blue would have been hard for me, as I come across better on conversation (even within the context of nonsense on here).
That doesn't sell me very well, but as few of the ladies reading it use the forums to identify meets, it won't matter! |
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"Not bragging or anything.
But in the past 4 months I have met 32 women from the forum.
Not bad going for a single guy."
How do you fit that in? That is mad going? Do you do anything else? Not being rude, just wondering where you find the time ... |
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"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.
Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?"
No. Forums are simply just a fun way to while away a bit of time. Nothing more. Sure, they can be a good way to strike up a conversation with people but I don't think the forums have any bearing on actually meeting up with someone. |
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