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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Trying hard to hold on to some sanity. My partner and I split 10 weeks ago. We have been in contact ever since. On Wednesday she messaged me. Saying I can't live without you. We has dinner last night. Before we resumed our relationship she said she needed a few days to sort thing out. Could I be patient please. She has been seeing someone else as a friend, she assured me. Tonight he is at her house and I have no doubt will spend the night. Because we all love close together I've seen this before. Last night she asked me to make plans for a holliday with her. I love her so am trying to give her space to resolve her situation. It is hurting me so much. I know there is no possibility of sleep or rest until I see her next. I'm in a truly bad way. Don't know why I'm posting this, writing it helps a little. |
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Hope that after a night sleep you can look at things again and realise as hard as the knowledge of what might have happened last night she wants to be with you. She is moving forward with you. If I was you I'd get looking at a holiday and use that as a way to reconnect fully.
Hope it works out for yo |
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As long as you're clear on your boundaries and uphold your own rules - as well as look after yourself - it should help you rest a little easier. You can take some of your power back, that may have been lost, via the breakup.
Hope you feel better soon. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Elephant in the room.... your on here as single."
. No elephant. She knows. Until the split she featured in my profile. To the other posters. Thanks. Support helps. A lot. x
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had my ex dicking me about while he was seeing someone else. I pretty much shut myself off from him emotionally and spent those months doing my own thing and acting single because i had an idea that he wasn't being honest with me. It helped because now i found out the truth i don't really feel anything for him and don't want to be with him.
Do you know what's doing your head in, and can you talk to her about it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah sorry about that quite insensitive, she's obviously doing what she wants regardless of your emotions. She's playing devils advicote saying she wants you then goes with the other guy. Get shut because that is a never ending cycle right there. Do yourself a favour and cut all ties and within a month you'll feel great! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww Annie so sorry to hear this hun! You are obviously still very much in love, what I will say is don't let her walk all over you, you deserve better! If it's something you can return from and work at then do so otherwise cut your losses, concentrate on your happiness, it may take time! People here love you and will help, hope it works out xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope by writing this all down on here has helped you feel a bit better, sharing can sometimes do that.
Giving the person you love space to work themselves out is hard, even harder when you are aware that another is involved in some equation.
I don't feel I can give you any advice on your relationship so look after yourself & don't be afraid to ask for help if need be.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for the supportive replies. It helps in a big way. When on an even keel , I tend towards cynicism regarding on line outpourings. Your response have made me think again. Big thank you. To all. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had my ex dicking me about while he was seeing someone else. I pretty much shut myself off from him emotionally and spent those months doing my own thing and acting single because i had an idea that he wasn't being honest with me. It helped because now i found out the truth i don't really feel anything for him and don't want to be with him.
Do you know what's doing your head in, and can you talk to her about it?"
I feel she may not be entirely stable herself. I'm certainly not. I don't think she knows herself, what she believes. Hopefully we will get an extended chance to talk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had my ex dicking me about while he was seeing someone else. I pretty much shut myself off from him emotionally and spent those months doing my own thing and acting single because i had an idea that he wasn't being honest with me. It helped because now i found out the truth i don't really feel anything for him and don't want to be with him.
Do you know what's doing your head in, and can you talk to her about it?
I feel she may not be entirely stable herself. I'm certainly not. I don't think she knows herself, what she believes. Hopefully we will get an extended chance to talk. "
I hope it helps too. You sound like you really need that. I know i did at times and although everything didn't work out for me (because he wasn't entirely honest) it did help me not feel so crazy at times. |
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Just keep strong don't act in haste and remember to value yourself and hope for the right outcome.
Personally I needed to find me and like me before I realised I could let people in on my own terms.
Luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all for the supportive replies. It helps in a big way. When on an even keel , I tend towards cynicism regarding on line outpourings. Your response have made me think again. Big thank you. To all. x"
I like your posts. You stimulate debate. 
This is a nice thread. Chin up.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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plenty more fish in the sea
move on for peace of mind as theres some one who will appreciate you rather thaan fuck you about, space is space, but not if they have someone sleeping over, seems you both are being used |
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