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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. |
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By *icky999Man
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
you could of just pm'd me |
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
I real life, apparently not great! My 8 year old niece had to tell me someone was checking me out today, I totally didn't notice, despite talking to him!
On here it's easier, they tend to send a message! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"We never know until a place & time are suggested, up to that point we don't rely on the hints....."
Ah yes, I understand not being sure until you've met but can you tell if they are interested in meeting unless they come out and say it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never know until a place & time are suggested, up to that point we don't rely on the hints.....
Ah yes, I understand not being sure until you've met but can you tell if they are interested in meeting unless they come out and say it?"
No, not really..... |
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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago
Near Bournemouth |
"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
I don't know about a brick, think I need a concrete block.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a wonder some of us manage to sort out any meets at all.
I'm glad it's not just me though!"
To be fair the opening messages are usually about fucking .before they have seen your face pic. what is that about?? lol |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I'm excellent at having conversations with people, either here or in the outside-fab-world and not noticing anything at all, then a few days later suddenly wondering if something they said was hinting/flirting and I didn't pick up on it. Then I convince myself it probably wasn't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not that great at noticing if I'm honest I tend to get carried away flirting and sometimes the moments passes and it ends up a case of he who hesitates masturbates x |
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By *ncrathMan
over a year ago
Hull (ish) |
"I'm not very good at spotting the signs at all. Even after a social I've had to ask if they fancied me or not  "
You had to ask if someone fancied you or not !!! 
Flippin Jeesh,and scaramanga!
They were obviously not worth the time ! I just saw your pic's and
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm terrible they would have to hold up a ten foot sign and even then I'd missed it. Was out with two of my daughters and missed that a man I was talking to was flirting with me |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock"
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I never assume someone wants to play with me even though I know they're flirting with me, they'd have to show or tell me "
Also a good point.
I tend to miss that they're even flirting though!
Sometimes people flirt for the fun of it. I've fallen foul of that one a couple of times by contacting people who've been flirting and them saying oh, sorry, it was just messing around, I wasn't serious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers"
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!"
No I always assume it;s banter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers"
Even worse, knowing how to say I'm interested without sounding like a total twat |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!
No I always assume it;s banter "
*sigh* Yep I understand that. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!
No I always assume it;s banter "
I tend to assume that people are interested in what I have to say, as opposed to fancying me.
Of course, it has dawned upon me that I talk absolute shite, so..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. "
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was talking to a young lady awhile ago and she was flirting like mad and a bit d*unk, she said she likes older guys but I at the time thought she was taking the piss and fobbed her off, week later her mate walked passed and said you had your chance last week and blew it....damn!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! "
I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!
No I always assume it;s banter "
Me too.
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! "
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here it's pretty obvious but as people say one thing and generally do another I really don't take any notice
In real life I'm aware of flirting but as I'm not looking for men in my real life I ignore or brush it off
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I'm clueless I don't get it till I'm told outright I usually think someone is just being nice haha"
Same and this and even when they say they like me or they want to go play i look at them or look around like are they taking the piss???? I just don't get any signs even when they tell how fucking dumb!!! |
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!"
Did someone mention a kilt??   |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that
If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock
What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!
Did someone mention a kilt?? "
BM, Get yer kilt, you've pulled! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. "
I could still not notice someone being perfectly obvious, or think they were just messing around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm awful at this, even the brick with 'Fancy a fuck' on it needs to be thrown at me twice followed by another one saying 'Really, this means you'....
Even then I may still need another hint
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually struggle, but sometimes, very rarely, you know from the very first exchanged messages that something very inevitable has been set in motion
Sometimes mere eye contact conveys the same sure message in a crowded shop or pub, but I've never had the nerve to putsue that promise. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. "
I usually have to say it or I'd never get any sex.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
I usually have to say it or I'd never get any sex.
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I then have to say it again to get follow up sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint "
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
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Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. "
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. |
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Reasonably aware, though I've had a fair few who don't want to make an embarrassing situation, in their minds, as they see me as too discerning, have higher standards or some nonsense. I prefer to know, than have someone with hidden motivations, around me. And I've had people lurch and grope, in their desperation - which is unpleasant, in the extreme.
So not always on the ball and I can't say I'm the hottest thing since sliced bread, with a trail of lustful admirers.
Easiest tends to be picking ot up with unknown people, where our pheromones and body language gives a lot away. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. "
If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything?"
"Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you,
From doing all the things in life you'd like to,
So if theres something you'd like to try,
Ask me, I won't say no, how could I?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything?
"Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you,
From doing all the things in life you'd like to,
So if theres something you'd like to try,
Ask me, I won't say no, how could I?"
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything?
On cards on the table I fancy the pants off you but I bet half the time you don't wear any. 
I so do!  "
Just had a look at your profile for research purposes in relation to this thread of course and there is a distinct lack of knickers.
Not that I'm complaining mind, enjoying the view here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. "
But I encourage them to talk then I'll mention the time and how late it is and they're all Awww do you have to go, I'll leave and they'll message! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright.
If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. "
But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here
Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
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If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick.
But I encourage them to talk then I'll mention the time and how late it is and they're all Awww do you have to go, I'll leave and they'll message! "
Again, were it me, and you'd mentioned the time, I would assume it was a thinly-veiled hint, say goodnight and never, ever initiate contact with you again.
But them, I am the kind of bloke who lives in the woods by himself and spends most of his working life with animals and not people. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright.
If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick.
But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here
Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood."
I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks? |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright.
If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick.
But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here
Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood.
I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks? "
No, we prefer them with a bit of a bend. They hit the right spots better when they're not quite centred.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint
I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning!
Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it.
People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know!
Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright.
If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick.
But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here
Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood.
I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks?
No, we prefer them with a bit of a bend. They hit the right spots better when they're not quite centred.
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Kinky dicks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go to places where I have no interest in the men. I have conversations and a laugh with them but I don't respond to flirting. I don't go out to pick up men,I can do that in the comfort of my own home. |
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too"
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially."
I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm useless at hints.
I usually require a written notice of intent, sky writing and a massive neon sign that can be seen from space before I even begin to wonder if someone likes me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm better at noticing flirting in 'real life' than I am on here, I'm good at reading people and body language. Then again I also think I'm better flirting in person than I am on here, I'm articulate but struggle to convey what I want to say in a message. The problem is that I don't meet a lot of women in my day to day life, and I enjoy the forums and the occasional meet and party. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially.
I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself"
Welcome to my world.
I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
I'm hopeless at Reading signs or signals even on meets I don't make the first move incase I get rejected |
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I'm completely oblivious.
I have been taken by surprise several times when women I know have made a pass at me as I didn't think they were remotely interested. Only to be told that they had been throwing the kitchen sink at me in flirting terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing."
What's your theory? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing.
What's your theory?"
I'm scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! "
See that is where I will fail as I won't make eye contact with people at clubs lol x |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! "
God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing.
What's your theory?
I'm scary."
Ah right that's my theory for me too.
You're not scary. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing.
What's your theory?
I'm scary.
Ah right that's my theory for me too.
You're not scary. "
You're a woman, of course you'd think that. Most men find me terrifying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing.
What's your theory?
I'm scary."
I used to think that when I was on as a single. Couples wouldn't talk to me... Guys would approach me x I had to blantantly ask and now I won't ask. Lucky for me Mr is a cheeky chap. |
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Haha! I think I'm rubbish at this. I don't imagine I'm particularly approachable on a night out. Here it's much more straightforward. I like to look. I don't ever meet people who approach me. I guess I know what I like when I see it and I do some fishing to see if it's reciprocated. If you ask the right questions it seems fairly simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!!
God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole..
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A bar then, a wether spoons where they don't even play music! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that.
But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing.
What's your theory?
I'm scary.
Ah right that's my theory for me too.
You're not scary.
You're a woman, of course you'd think that. Most men find me terrifying "
I've never understood men being terrified of women lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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After several weeks of seeing a particular couple, I ended up in messaging them and let them know I like them, funny thing really, I didn't get turned down!
A few weeks later, and a big surprise for me! I got to play with both of them
I could never just blurt it out to them though, was embarrassing writing to them, glad I dod though as they are such a lovely couple.
Hopefully I may get the chance again one day ? Until then I can only dream about our encounter |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!!
God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole..
A bar then, a wether spoons where they don't even play music!"
Are you asking me out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle in the real world as I'm open, direct and honest if I find someone attractive - but only if I know they're single and there's a good chance they find me attractive!
I don't even flirt in the real world and wouldn't assume that someone found me attractive unless they came right out and said it!
Fab suits me - it's far simpler - but the trick is not to take offence if you get turned down! We all get turned down sometimes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
i have given you far too many hints ffs |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially.
I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself
Welcome to my world.
I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself."
I'm not only that but I'm doing quite well at physically destroying myself too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially.
I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself
Welcome to my world.
I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycologically destroy themself."
I think our worlds might be in the same quadrant of the galaxy waspy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle.
Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers
One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me.
Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things.
Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too
I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy.
Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially.
I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself
Welcome to my world.
I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself.
I'm not only that but I'm doing quite well at physically destroying myself too."
I'm surprised I'm still in one piece to be honest |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Believe it or not but I am quite shite as well.....
I had a message the other night with 'The Fab Queen' as the subject and I just thought he was being a sarcastic Barsteward lol It seems he is actually interested, and I thought I was the queen of sarcasm in my area |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here?
Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it?
I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. "
I(Mr) wouldn't have a clue, unless someone spelt it out to me on a wall in five foot high lettering I would be clueless.
Not wanting to sound self deprecating but I am, I would be very surprised if someone did come onto me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always think nobody will be interested, because when you look like me, that's the norm.
If by some miracle, I did recognise flirting, I'd assume they were either just being friendly, or more likely taking the piss (example: 'snog-a-dog' @ niteclub... that happened). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Believe it or not but I am quite shite as well.....
I had a message the other night with 'The Fab Queen' as the subject and I just thought he was being a sarcastic Barsteward lol It seems he is actually interested, and I thought I was the queen of sarcasm in my area "
I'm that useless that I wouldn't even be able to think of a title like that. Flirting is not my thing really, my messages probably sound like an angry Secretary has typed them 20 minutes after home time from work lol |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Believe it or not but I am quite shite as well.....
I had a message the other night with 'The Fab Queen' as the subject and I just thought he was being a sarcastic Barsteward lol It seems he is actually interested, and I thought I was the queen of sarcasm in my area
I'm that useless that I wouldn't even be able to think of a title like that. Flirting is not my thing really, my messages probably sound like an angry Secretary has typed them 20 minutes after home time from work lol"
Don't beat yourself up, some have the gift and others don't, it may have been a great title, but it took him a few messages before he let me know he was interested! So there you go! Not everyone is as confident as they seem to be, so don't give up x |
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I seem to be the same as 99% of the posters.. Shy and sign blind.
I was actually chatting to someone in a club this weekend as we walked round and didn't know if she fancied me til we arrived in a private room..
Maybe a fancy a fuck post is a good idea after all.. |
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I'm very good at reading people and am normally spot on with what kind of person they are, it is very rare that I am surprised by people. Possible because I am the kind to sit back and observe before I get involved.
I do pick up on the hint and flirting but unless the bloke is prepared to come straight out and say that he is interested in playing with me then it won't happen, if he doesn't have the confidence to say anything then he isn't the playmate I am looking for.
Probably why I rarely play when I go to a club, have been told many, many times that I am intimidating...... and that is by guys that I have known for a while and are very confident
I don't really stand a chance |
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