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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We all know somebody like this ?
Somebody who likes to throw a spanner in the works. Somebody who stirs the pot to deliberately provoke reaction.
If I feel strongly about something I will express my point and take opposing opinions on board. Sometimes I may even change my opinion based on a good argument. It would be unusual for me to get involved with something that doesn't concern me.However, I have (in real life and on here) encountered some people who seem to just enjoy being deliberately argumentative for the sake of it . I'm not saying this is a bad thing either as sometimes it opens up a much wider discussion.
Now for the questions.
Do you ever contribute to a debate/argument that has no interest to you just to provoke reaction ?
Do you consider it to be a good thing that somebody neutral to a discussion throws a curve ball in to makes people question things they hadn't considered ?
Or, do you think that some just enjoy shit stirring for their own entertainment ?
I would like to add that this is not aimed at anyone in particular it is just something I often wonder about as I like to understand people's behaviours and motives.
Discuss.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me. |
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4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might contribute to arguments, that I have no particular interest in the content or positions being taken,using humour as an attempt to diffuse tension.
In a conversation where I am interested in the content I might throw in alternative perspectives in an attempt to get a more complete view of the issue at hand or to raise awareness.
I don't deliberately shit stir but might do so unintentionally I guess, but can't think of an example of doing so.
I'm more likely to play devil's advocate in real life than online, but do it from time to time on here if I can be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couple of points on this thread already claiming not to be deliberately argumentative, yet the hilariously petty stuff on the thread about cats and dogs prove otherwise  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I don't care about a subject I probably won't post. Unless I feel for example someone is being unfair to another poster.
I think there are definitely a few who post to cause a reaction. I do enjoy hearing others viewpoints especially when they say something that's well considered and changes my view.
I like people who are honest even if their views not popular. However some people sometimes ruin a good point by being aggressive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Occasionally i'll post to a religious debate if i feel that religion is being unfairly represented, i have no interest in it though. It won't be for provocation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly. |
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"Couple of points on this thread already claiming not to be deliberately argumentative, yet the hilariously petty stuff on the thread about cats and dogs prove otherwise "
You trying to start an argument ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy playing Devil's Advocate because I can often see, and explain, points others miss.
I try not to do that on Internet forums though because of the overwhelming prevalence of opinion over fact, and the desire to point score wherever possible. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly. "
Disapproving of cheating is just an opinion though.
Many share that opinion.
Do you expect that after one person has expressed that view that nobody else should say it? Do you expect the same of those posting in support of the cheater? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly.
Disapproving of cheating is just an opinion though.
Many share that opinion.
Do you expect that after one person has expressed that view that nobody else should say it? Do you expect the same of those posting in support of the cheater?"
All depends how it's done doesn't it. Some people just throw down a nasty comment and walk away. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but sometimes OPs are attacked for something they weren't asking anyone's opinion on in the first place.
At least I think that's what the poster meant x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't intentionally throw in a bone in the hope the pack will follow. I will join a debate and add my opinions. Some people don't see it as debate and want to pick holes in what people say,like it's a court case, and try to out smart others. I like to see other sides to a story and other peoples' points of view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't intentionally throw in a bone in the hope the pack will follow. I will join a debate and add my opinions. Some people don't see it as debate and want to pick holes in what people say,like it's a court case, and try to out smart others. I like to see other sides to a story and other peoples' points of view. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
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This is something I was expecting to be honest. I'm big enough and ugly enough to take whatever is thrown at me. I do think that some are reluctant to post what they really think though for fear of what will come back at them.
I might appear to sit on the fence a lot myself. This is partly because I can't be bothered with arguing and partly because I often enjoy observation more than participation. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly.
Disapproving of cheating is just an opinion though.
Many share that opinion.
Do you expect that after one person has expressed that view that nobody else should say it? Do you expect the same of those posting in support of the cheater?
All depends how it's done doesn't it. Some people just throw down a nasty comment and walk away. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but sometimes OPs are attacked for something they weren't asking anyone's opinion on in the first place.
At least I think that's what the poster meant x"
That I agree with.
The poster's post suggested to me that it's wrong for a group of people with the same opinion to say so, as it's akin to surrounding the person, tutting.
I often see claims of bullying, ganging up and cliques, simply because a number of people disagree with someone, when there has been no bullying at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Since when was the majority of people so holier than thou? There's often stupid ridiculous arguments on here, and no one lays claim to being involved in them?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly.
Disapproving of cheating is just an opinion though.
Many share that opinion.
Do you expect that after one person has expressed that view that nobody else should say it? Do you expect the same of those posting in support of the cheater?
All depends how it's done doesn't it. Some people just throw down a nasty comment and walk away. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but sometimes OPs are attacked for something they weren't asking anyone's opinion on in the first place.
At least I think that's what the poster meant x
That I agree with.
The poster's post suggested to me that it's wrong for a group of people with the same opinion to say so, as it's akin to surrounding the person, tutting.
I often see claims of bullying, ganging up and cliques, simply because a number of people disagree with someone, when there has been no bullying at all."
people do gang up on others in here iv seen it,i think everybody should be able to voice their opinion if others dont like it then tough |
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"4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
This is something I was expecting to be honest. I'm big enough and ugly enough to take whatever is thrown at me. I do think that some are reluctant to post what they really think though for fear of what will come back at them.
I might appear to sit on the fence a lot myself. This is partly because I can't be bothered with arguing and partly because I often enjoy observation more than participation. "
Is that the male or female half ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since when was the majority of people so holier than thou? There's often stupid ridiculous arguments on here, and no one lays claim to being involved in them? "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Both on and off the site, I enjoy a good debate. I suspect at times it might be perceived as argumentative but I only ever get involved if I feel interested in it.
On a different but related point, I get frustrated when people add comments to forum posts when they have nothing to add other than to condemn the opening poster. For instance some guys post about being married and it provokes a chorus of disapproving views with no real feedback on the point being asked. To me its just like everyone circling the OP and tutting loudly.
Disapproving of cheating is just an opinion though.
Many share that opinion.
Do you expect that after one person has expressed that view that nobody else should say it? Do you expect the same of those posting in support of the cheater?
All depends how it's done doesn't it. Some people just throw down a nasty comment and walk away. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but sometimes OPs are attacked for something they weren't asking anyone's opinion on in the first place.
At least I think that's what the poster meant x
That I agree with.
The poster's post suggested to me that it's wrong for a group of people with the same opinion to say so, as it's akin to surrounding the person, tutting.
I often see claims of bullying, ganging up and cliques, simply because a number of people disagree with someone, when there has been no bullying at all. people do gang up on others in here iv seen it,i think everybody should be able to voice their opinion if others dont like it then tough"
Yes, they do. Some people cry bullying and cliques simply because a number of people disagree with them though. Some can be quite fragile when it comes to having others disagree with them. |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
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"We all know somebody like this ?
Somebody who likes to throw a spanner in the works. Somebody who stirs the pot to deliberately provoke reaction.
If I feel strongly about something I will express my point and take opposing opinions on board. Sometimes I may even change my opinion based on a good argument. It would be unusual for me to get involved with something that doesn't concern me.However, I have (in real life and on here) encountered some people who seem to just enjoy being deliberately argumentative for the sake of it . I'm not saying this is a bad thing either as sometimes it opens up a much wider discussion.
Now for the questions.
Do you ever contribute to a debate/argument that has no interest to you just to provoke reaction ?
Do you consider it to be a good thing that somebody neutral to a discussion throws a curve ball in to makes people question things they hadn't considered ?
Or, do you think that some just enjoy shit stirring for their own entertainment ?
I would like to add that this is not aimed at anyone in particular it is just something I often wonder about as I like to understand people's behaviours and motives.
Discuss.
B x"
My father in law is like is and is a complete cunt because of it, we are dying to put him in a home lol
And yes we just avoid him xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me."
Not necessarily a bad thing. I would rather know where I stand with somebody. My problem is I can sometimes be a bit too soft with people. I don't see any issue with telling it how it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We all know somebody like this ?
Somebody who likes to throw a spanner in the works. Somebody who stirs the pot to deliberately provoke reaction.
If I feel strongly about something I will express my point and take opposing opinions on board. Sometimes I may even change my opinion based on a good argument. It would be unusual for me to get involved with something that doesn't concern me.However, I have (in real life and on here) encountered some people who seem to just enjoy being deliberately argumentative for the sake of it . I'm not saying this is a bad thing either as sometimes it opens up a much wider discussion.
Now for the questions.
Do you ever contribute to a debate/argument that has no interest to you just to provoke reaction ?
Do you consider it to be a good thing that somebody neutral to a discussion throws a curve ball in to makes people question things they hadn't considered ?
Or, do you think that some just enjoy shit stirring for their own entertainment ?
I would like to add that this is not aimed at anyone in particular it is just something I often wonder about as I like to understand people's behaviours and motives.
Discuss.
B x
My father in law is like is and is a complete cunt because of it, we are dying to put him in a home lol
And yes we just avoid him xx"
Ah so nice |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
Not necessarily a bad thing. I would rather know where I stand with somebody. My problem is I can sometimes be a bit too soft with people. I don't see any issue with telling it how it is. "
Frankly, people can take me or leave me. I am who I am. I'm not changing because some don't understand me or don't like me.
I'm happy with who I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me."
that's not what your hairy arsed cat told me! hehe! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
This is something I was expecting to be honest. I'm big enough and ugly enough to take whatever is thrown at me. I do think that some are reluctant to post what they really think though for fear of what will come back at them.
I might appear to sit on the fence a lot myself. This is partly because I can't be bothered with arguing and partly because I often enjoy observation more than participation.
Is that the male or female half ?"
Sorry forgot to sign off. Its me the female. |
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It's not a heated debate without Mrs Merton!!!
I can be outspoken, as tenacious as a Jack Russell and will play devils advocate. But I'm always aware that this is just a forum, and nobody can hurt me or others. I just wish some people could remember that it's HARMLESS, and nobody has to cry or sulk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not a heated debate without Mrs Merton!!!
I can be outspoken, as tenacious as a Jack Russell and will play devils advocate. But I'm always aware that this is just a forum, and nobody can hurt me or others. I just wish some people could remember that it's HARMLESS, and nobody has to cry or sulk. "
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"4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
This is something I was expecting to be honest. I'm big enough and ugly enough to take whatever is thrown at me. I do think that some are reluctant to post what they really think though for fear of what will come back at them.
I might appear to sit on the fence a lot myself. This is partly because I can't be bothered with arguing and partly because I often enjoy observation more than participation.
Is that the male or female half ?
Sorry forgot to sign off. Its me the female."
I did think it was you. You don't sit on the fence. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I'm a generally measured try and consider all points of view type, which on occasion makes me a devil's advocate. That doesn't mean that I don't have my own strong feelings or opinions but I feel no need to belabour them. This might come across as fence sitting but I don't actually care if it does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can say that on certain threads I know who will comment,and in what tone. If certain people aren't online the thread stays quite nice and friendly. It's the tone of some people that changes the way the thread goes. All part of the Fab experience  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"4. Doesn't matter that you've provided a disclaimer. Someone whose computer keys echo in the vastness of their empty room will be in to accuse you of something shortly. What's more they will tell you what you think.
Disclaimer. This post was not aimed at anyone in particular.
This is something I was expecting to be honest. I'm big enough and ugly enough to take whatever is thrown at me. I do think that some are reluctant to post what they really think though for fear of what will come back at them.
I might appear to sit on the fence a lot myself. This is partly because I can't be bothered with arguing and partly because I often enjoy observation more than participation.
Is that the male or female half ?
Sorry forgot to sign off. Its me the female.
I did think it was you. You don't sit on the fence. "
Now that you mention it perhaps I am a bit more outspoken than I thought. 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm a generally measured try and consider all points of view type, which on occasion makes me a devil's advocate. That doesn't mean that I don't have my own strong feelings or opinions but I feel no need to belabour them. This might come across as fence sitting but I don't actually care if it does."
I happen to think this is a great quality to have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong "
Not wrong at all. I like people having a pop as well and I'll give it back but if I feel like I've hurt someone or touched a nerve I get upset! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm opinionated and outspoken. I also don't overly seek popularity and will never be a sycophant. I do try to respond to posts without getting personal so if someone is offended by my opinion I'm not overly worried
Those that have met me would likely agree I can be the same in real life but am a lot friendlier tgan the above paragraph makes me sound! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread "
Ask the cat to proof read your posts too  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I'm a mass debater.
I will be more passionate about some things than others. Sometimes my mood and life in general will affect the tone of my posts. I try to be consistent in what I say, here and in my debates away from Fab, but I am open to hearing other views and learning from them.
I get annoyed when opinion is presented as fact.
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"I'm opinionated and outspoken. I also don't overly seek popularity and will never be a sycophant. I do try to respond to posts without getting personal so if someone is offended by my opinion I'm not overly worried
Those that have met me would likely agree I can be the same in real life but am a lot friendlier tgan the above paragraph makes me sound!"
Your posts come across as straight forward to me. Not judgmental or argumentative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me."
^^ Same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread "
Completely off track here but I once took a kitten for a walk on a lead. Mr L wont let me forget about it either.
Yours crazy cat lady. |
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I'm way too lazy just to wind people up. If I care enough to reply then I'm happy to give my opinion. I always give an honest opinion cause my memory is too poor to make it up then try and remember.
I don't agree with people to win favour cause I genuinely don't give a shit. However, it bothers me when people take offence at my cheek. I'm really never nasty... I can be sarcastic but I'm rarely mean. When you've been hanging round the forum like a bad smell as long as me you've seen the same threads a hundred times over so some days it's quite tricky not to reply with 'get the fuck over yourself, no-one gives a shit that you've been here five minutes and can't get a shag' but on the whole I try to refrain.
I like a bit of banter and I'm inclusive to those I'm cheeky too, you don't need to be in the clique or known to me, I'm happy to give you lip regardless.
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"We all know somebody like this ?
Somebody who likes to throw a spanner in the works. Somebody who stirs the pot to deliberately provoke reaction.
If I feel strongly about something I will express my point and take opposing opinions on board. Sometimes I may even change my opinion based on a good argument. It would be unusual for me to get involved with something that doesn't concern me.However, I have (in real life and on here) encountered some people who seem to just enjoy being deliberately argumentative for the sake of it . I'm not saying this is a bad thing either as sometimes it opens up a much wider discussion.
Now for the questions.
Do you ever contribute to a debate/argument that has no interest to you just to provoke reaction ?
Do you consider it to be a good thing that somebody neutral to a discussion throws a curve ball in to makes people question things they hadn't considered ?
Or, do you think that some just enjoy shit stirring for their own entertainment ?
I would like to add that this is not aimed at anyone in particular it is just something I often wonder about as I like to understand people's behaviours and motives.
Discuss.
B x"
I'm this person you describe. A few weeks ago, due to family stuff stress levels have been through the roof and I could have a argument in a empty room if that makes sense. |
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong
Not wrong at all. I like people having a pop as well and I'll give it back but if I feel like I've hurt someone or touched a nerve I get upset! "
I never set out to hurt. HOWEVERRRRRR I don't get those who take a pop , even in jest, and then crumple when someone responds.
I asked my monkey about this and she said shut the fuck up. |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same."
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ? |
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong
Not wrong at all. I like people having a pop as well and I'll give it back but if I feel like I've hurt someone or touched a nerve I get upset!
I never set out to hurt. HOWEVERRRRRR I don't get those who take a pop , even in jest, and then crumple when someone responds.
I asked my monkey about this and she said shut the fuck up. "
Your monkey is a total bell end! |
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over a year ago
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong
Not wrong at all. I like people having a pop as well and I'll give it back but if I feel like I've hurt someone or touched a nerve I get upset!
I never set out to hurt. HOWEVERRRRRR I don't get those who take a pop , even in jest, and then crumple when someone responds.
I asked my monkey about this and she said shut the fuck up.
Your monkey is a total bell end! "
Hey stop bullying the monkey! Next thing you'll be wanting to spank it |
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong
Not wrong at all. I like people having a pop as well and I'll give it back but if I feel like I've hurt someone or touched a nerve I get upset!
I never set out to hurt. HOWEVERRRRRR I don't get those who take a pop , even in jest, and then crumple when someone responds.
I asked my monkey about this and she said shut the fuck up.
Your monkey is a total bell end! "
My monkey shows you his red puffy asshole! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread
Ask the cat to proof read your posts too "
If either of us gave a flying f*** about correct grammar and spelling I would .
See the green arrow on threads relating to spelling and my ( and not the cats ) opinion is clear |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just noticed my monkey changed gender.... it's ALLOWED!
It was the mention of the bell end.
You're so transparent Gwanny.  "
Slightly off track ... i may have to spank my monkey later as we had a late night dogging last night and Sabrina 's pussy needs a rest  |
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong "
Your just saying that. It's always the same with you isnt it? You'll jump on any old subject. Just to get yourself off!
Is this working? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?"
No, I said "can". |
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"I don't like starting arguments but I like being argued with if that makes sense?
I get turned on by someone having a go at me. I know that's wrong
Your just saying that. It's always the same with you isnt it? You'll jump on any old subject. Just to get yourself off!
Is this working? "
Yes!!  |
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"Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread
Ask the cat to proof read your posts too
If either of us gave a flying f*** about correct grammar and spelling I would .
See the green arrow on threads relating to spelling and my ( and not the cats ) opinion is clear "
I can't argue with that. My dogs are thick as shit |
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"Just noticed my monkey changed gender.... it's ALLOWED!
It was the mention of the bell end.
You're so transparent Gwanny.
Slightly off track ... i may have to spank my monkey later as we had a late night dogging last night and Sabrina 's pussy needs a rest "
Oooooh I say!  You are naughty!! |
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"Well i just bought a cat and the cat and I are always up for a heated debate .
But first the cat and i will be having a walk up to our local beauty spot to peruse the view and while away an hour or two .
Upon our return we will collectively see if we fell we can contribute furthet on this thread
Ask the cat to proof read your posts too
If either of us gave a flying f*** about correct grammar and spelling I would .
See the green arrow on threads relating to spelling and my ( and not the cats ) opinion is clear
I can't argue with that. My dogs are thick as shit "
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters. "
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!"
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
Explain the difference between can and may."
I would if I could be bothered, but I can't. I don't see why it matters.
I am aware of how I come across sometimes and what some people think of me.
You don't always come across in a good way on here yourself.
I expect you care what others think about as much as I do. |
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
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I can just picture the scene if they were all in the flesh in the same room, gesticulating, chin stroking and arguing over who's turn it is to make the popcorn. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can"."
Stop being so bloody argumentative |
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over a year ago
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No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
I can just picture the scene if they were all in the flesh in the same room, gesticulating, chin stroking and arguing over who's turn it is to make the popcorn."
I'll still have to type as it's really difficult enunciating with a cherry in my mouth.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
Stop being so bloody argumentative "
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"No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men! "
I'm sorry,I can't take anything seriously from a woman who can lick her own nipple |
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over a year ago
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"No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men! "
Now your talking. I fancy a couple of delicious men for dinner. |
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"No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men!
I'm sorry,I can't take anything seriously from a woman who can lick her own nipple "
Hang on a min.....let me put my argumentative avatar on
Don't think I've got one |
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"No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men!
I'm sorry,I can't take anything seriously from a woman who can lick her own nipple "
I just gave that a try. My colleague is giving me funny looks. |
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"No I'm not deliberately argumentative
I can be argumentative though
On here I can't be bothered to be either,I say what I say and then that's generally it,I wont go back to continue it,arguing the toss with a load of strangers is pointless to me when I could be perving and arranging meets with delicious men!
I'm sorry,I can't take anything seriously from a woman who can lick her own nipple
I just gave that a try. My colleague is giving me funny looks. "
Tell them you dropped a crumb |
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
I can just picture the scene if they were all in the flesh in the same room, gesticulating, chin stroking and arguing over who's turn it is to make the popcorn."
What do you mean 'they'? |
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
I can just picture the scene if they were all in the flesh in the same room, gesticulating, chin stroking and arguing over who's turn it is to make the popcorn.
What do you mean 'they'?"
Well not me obviously...its beneath me....everyone else I meant....although I prefer to be under them! |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can"."
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin |
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"I have noticed that people with their cocks out aren't taken as seriously as other posters.
Well have you ever tried to get a serious point across with your bits out? You don't see Jeremy Paxman dangling his junk onto the desk when he's interviewing!
It is one of the most amusing things about the Fab forum. You are having the most serious, albeit virtual, discussion with someone and all you have as a visual reference is a boob or a cock.
I can just picture the scene if they were all in the flesh in the same room, gesticulating, chin stroking and arguing over who's turn it is to make the popcorn.
What do you mean 'they'?
Well not me obviously...its beneath me....everyone else I meant....although I prefer to be under them!"
Silly me. I'd forgotten you are above it all |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin "
a) You are pixels on a screen. Your opinion is not important to me.
b) I may plenty of posts that are not in the least aggressive so making a blanket statement is bollocks.
I come across as aggressive to some people, sometimes. Which is the same as "can" come across as aggressive. I've already said this so clearly it's not news to me.
Anyone who believes every post I make on here is aggressive has some sort of issue of their own, like not understanding what aggressive means or not being able to read properly.
c) Thank you for your opinion, I've filed it in an appropriate place. |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin
a) You are pixels on a screen. Your opinion is not important to me.
b) I may plenty of posts that are not in the least aggressive so making a blanket statement is bollocks.
I come across as aggressive to some people, sometimes. Which is the same as "can" come across as aggressive. I've already said this so clearly it's not news to me.
Anyone who believes every post I make on here is aggressive has some sort of issue of their own, like not understanding what aggressive means or not being able to read properly.
c) Thank you for your opinion, I've filed it in an appropriate place."
That's abit aggressive |
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"We all know somebody like this ?
Somebody who likes to throw a spanner in the works. Somebody who stirs the pot to deliberately provoke reaction.
If I feel strongly about something I will express my point and take opposing opinions on board. Sometimes I may even change my opinion based on a good argument. It would be unusual for me to get involved with something that doesn't concern me.However, I have (in real life and on here) encountered some people who seem to just enjoy being deliberately argumentative for the sake of it . I'm not saying this is a bad thing either as sometimes it opens up a much wider discussion.
Now for the questions.
Do you ever contribute to a debate/argument that has no interest to you just to provoke reaction ?
Do you consider it to be a good thing that somebody neutral to a discussion throws a curve ball in to makes people question things they hadn't considered ?
Or, do you think that some just enjoy shit stirring for their own entertainment ?
I would like to add that this is not aimed at anyone in particular it is just something I often wonder about as I like to understand people's behaviours and motives.
Discuss.
B x"
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin
a) You are pixels on a screen. Your opinion is not important to me.
b) I may plenty of posts that are not in the least aggressive so making a blanket statement is bollocks.
I come across as aggressive to some people, sometimes. Which is the same as "can" come across as aggressive. I've already said this so clearly it's not news to me.
Anyone who believes every post I make on here is aggressive has some sort of issue of their own, like not understanding what aggressive means or not being able to read properly.
c) Thank you for your opinion, I've filed it in an appropriate place.
That's abit aggressive "
And very honest and you know exactly where you are with me. Just like I said.
I didn't ask for your opinion, but you chose to give it anyway. You said what you thought and now I've done the same.
Don't like it, don't make unsolicited negative comments about other people. |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin
a) You are pixels on a screen. Your opinion is not important to me.
b) I may plenty of posts that are not in the least aggressive so making a blanket statement is bollocks.
I come across as aggressive to some people, sometimes. Which is the same as "can" come across as aggressive. I've already said this so clearly it's not news to me.
Anyone who believes every post I make on here is aggressive has some sort of issue of their own, like not understanding what aggressive means or not being able to read properly.
c) Thank you for your opinion, I've filed it in an appropriate place.
That's abit aggressive
And very honest and you know exactly where you are with me. Just like I said.
I didn't ask for your opinion, but you chose to give it anyway. You said what you thought and now I've done the same.
Don't like it, don't make unsolicited negative comments about other people."
I'd leave it there to be fair |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
"You both come across aggressive"
That's my interpretation. Just sayin
a) You are pixels on a screen. Your opinion is not important to me.
b) I may plenty of posts that are not in the least aggressive so making a blanket statement is bollocks.
I come across as aggressive to some people, sometimes. Which is the same as "can" come across as aggressive. I've already said this so clearly it's not news to me.
Anyone who believes every post I make on here is aggressive has some sort of issue of their own, like not understanding what aggressive means or not being able to read properly.
c) Thank you for your opinion, I've filed it in an appropriate place.
That's abit aggressive
And very honest and you know exactly where you are with me. Just like I said.
I didn't ask for your opinion, but you chose to give it anyway. You said what you thought and now I've done the same.
Don't like it, don't make unsolicited negative comments about other people.
I'd leave it there to be fair"
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I don't prize the last word.
Knowing when replying is pointless, for whatever reason, is far more important.
If an individual comes over as self contradicting or paranoid or possibly having other problems I leave them to it. For their benefit. |
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"When I first started as a Mod on a different forum. The best piece of advice someone gave me was that I didn't need the last word. It's true. It's winning advice and it's done me well over the years.
I don't prize the last word.
Knowing when replying is pointless, for whatever reason, is far more important.
If an individual comes over as self contradicting or paranoid or possibly having other problems I leave them to it. For their benefit. "
Yup... there are often times you come across people who have nothing better to do than troll. I'm all for reasoned debate and I like to learn so I'm often happy to change my view when I've heard something that really made me think. It's pointless replying after things have become personal... I've got better things to do. Talking to my cat is up there. |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
Explain the difference between can and may.
I would if I could be bothered, but I can't. I don't see why it matters.
I am aware of how I come across sometimes and what some people think of me.
You don't always come across in a good way on here yourself.
I expect you care what others think about as much as I do."
I care what people may think xx |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
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Threatening to put your size 10 clog up my arse is rather aggressive "
You, sir, have confused me with someone who wears size 10 clogs.
As you have, in the past, borrowed my kinky thigh boots, you should know this.
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"When I first started as a Mod on a different forum. The best piece of advice someone gave me was that I didn't need the last word. It's true. It's winning advice and it's done me well over the years.
I don't prize the last word.
Knowing when replying is pointless, for whatever reason, is far more important.
If an individual comes over as self contradicting or paranoid or possibly having other problems I leave them to it. For their benefit.
Yup... there are often times you come across people who have nothing better to do than troll. I'm all for reasoned debate and I like to learn so I'm often happy to change my view when I've heard something that really made me think. It's pointless replying after things have become personal... I've got better things to do. Talking to my cat is up there. "
I'm just doing a quick browse before going home for a cat language.. hold on. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
No, I said "can".
Explain the difference between can and may.
I would if I could be bothered, but I can't. I don't see why it matters.
I am aware of how I come across sometimes and what some people think of me.
You don't always come across in a good way on here yourself.
I expect you care what others think about as much as I do.
I care what people may think xx"
Nobody said you don't 
I was referring to myself and Granny.
I know that some people care what strangers think of them. Some of them care far too much IMO. |
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Its words on a site not the real world its not face to face its nothing really as most you will never meet . At times people should step back give it all a rest to see how silly it all is and just not worth getting upset about as life is fare to short . |
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Hmmmmmmmmm
*Feline language is a complex mix of facial expression, tail position, ear position and other forms of body language in addition to scent and sound.*
Make sure you smell like a cat from now on and hold your tail correctly. Oh . no farting or sounding like a fart.
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I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, |
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, "
Loving the pants avatar.... Whit Whoo x |
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, "
don't you just think they must just be bored . |
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, don't you just think they must just be bored . "
Or avoiding doing something they don't want to do. |
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"Hmmmmmmmmm
*Feline language is a complex mix of facial expression, tail position, ear position and other forms of body language in addition to scent and sound.*
Make sure you smell like a cat from now on and hold your tail correctly. Oh . no farting or sounding like a fart.
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*sticks nose in air*
*looks haughty*
*holds in fart*
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I wonder if sometimes we (and I guess I occsaionally include myself here) seek arguments not so much because we disagree but more because we feel the need to have a go at the other person? |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?"
Some people say I come across as aggressive. I think that some people aren't used to being challenged and they don't like it.
I sometimes take part in a university debating society and to be honest, I'm pretty fucking meek and mild.
But ultimately, I just don't care if people think I'm aggressive. I don't see having an aggressive personality as being a bad thing. It's how I Get Shit Done. |
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, don't you just think they must just be bored .
Or avoiding doing something they don't want to do."
Like making a cake or something  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who's going to admit to getting turned on by the argumentative so and sos? "
Me!! I thought I was alone in this. Any ideas as to why it makes me want to fuck them? |
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,,
Loving the pants avatar.... Whit Whoo x "
It's a cock pic....let's not pretend now |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
Some people say I come across as aggressive. I think that some people aren't used to being challenged and they don't like it.
I sometimes take part in a university debating society and to be honest, I'm pretty fucking meek and mild.
But ultimately, I just don't care if people think I'm aggressive. I don't see having an aggressive personality as being a bad thing. It's how I Get Shit Done."
^ same, but for the meek and mild part.
If I have a strong view, I express it strongly.
Women with strong opinions are often accused of being aggressive as a means to try to control. Pardon me for not bowing down in supplication.
I'm less argumentative in real life, mainly because a lot of people aren't comfortable saying the contentious stuff they say on here in real life, don't get antagonistic for fun and are usually nicer about others in person.
I'm equally happy to say what I think in day to day life but I consider it necessary much less often. |
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over a year ago
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" I like seeing mischievously argumentative posts.......and I like it even more when people bite,,,,,,, and I really like seeing people take silly things seriously,,,,, don't you just think they must just be bored .
Or avoiding doing something they don't want to do.
Like making a cake or something "
Possibly. Or housework. |
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"I'm considered argumentative.
I have strong opinions on some things and belief in my views.
I word things strongly and can come across as aggressive. It's how I write. I'm direct and tact isn't a strong point. I'm very much an all or nothing person.
But no, I don't argue things I don't care about. If I'm arguing it's over something that matters to me, even if it's not the original subject of the thread. The attitude or comments of someone/people on a thread can cause me to get involved, even if I am not particularly fussed about the subject.
I'm honest and people always know where they stand with me.
^^ Same.
You both think you 'may' come accross as aggressive ?
Some people say I come across as aggressive. I think that some people aren't used to being challenged and they don't like it.
I sometimes take part in a university debating society and to be honest, I'm pretty fucking meek and mild.
But ultimately, I just don't care if people think I'm aggressive. I don't see having an aggressive personality as being a bad thing. It's how I Get Shit Done."
Thank you for your answer. Your posts don't appear aggressive to me.
Aggression tends to get a negative press when it's actually essential at times.
The word is often misused here.
I smiled yesterday when reading, I'll have to paraphrase, ' i despise those that wish to appear 'nice' because they have no claws'...... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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^ same, but for the meek and mild part.
I meant meek and mild compared to the others in the debating society."
Understood. I meant I've done the debating thing and I'm usually one of the more...
I'm looking for a good word here but I'm struggling for one.
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"[quote
^ same, but for the meek and mild part.
I meant meek and mild compared to the others in the debating society.
Understood. I meant I've done the debating thing and I'm usually one of the more...
I'm looking for a good word here but I'm struggling for one.
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Unpalatable. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"[quote
^ same, but for the meek and mild part.
I meant meek and mild compared to the others in the debating society.
Understood. I meant I've done the debating thing and I'm usually one of the more...
I'm looking for a good word here but I'm struggling for one.
Unpalatable."
To some, definitely. |
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"When I first started as a Mod on a different forum. The best piece of advice someone gave me was that I didn't need the last word. It's true. It's winning advice and it's done me well over the years. "
I confess to occasionally enjoying poking a stick into one or two fairly boring topics - nobody mention the lovely eurozone. I enjoy them most when I manage to write post 182 or thereabouts and they close it. I might just have to reform and take your adviser's advice. |
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^ same, but for the meek and mild part.
I meant meek and mild compared to the others in the debating society.
Understood. I meant I've done the debating thing and I'm usually one of the more...
I'm looking for a good word here but I'm struggling for one.
Unpalatable."
After some consideration, I'm going with passionate  |
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Sorry, must confess to not having read through the whole thread ... I do have strong pc opinions which I voice on the site. I think through things I do, so why not here too? I am also genuinely interested in what people say, so I do listen, but I will sometimes interrogate their language, just out of interest, not pickiness, just me being me and a pedant. I have been called a pedant and told to shush, but only by other women, strange that, and on a black man's thread .... I won't say any more, but I have my own opinions why. Made a decision, recently, to post my more controversial thoughts, the ones that are more personal, on my single profile, as don't think its fair to represent Mr as a raving Looney, as that is just me .... get a bit fed up with the same old predictive arguments discussions and opinions though, it is predictable who will say what. I also feel that I have to stand up for people who I feel are picked on ... that is who and how I am ... just me. Pepper. |
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I do have a nasty habit of sticking up for the underdog, even if I actually disagree with their viewpoint!
Maybe that's a British trait
I do love a good argument though |
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"I do have a nasty habit of sticking up for the underdog, even if I actually disagree with their viewpoint!
Maybe that's a British trait
I do love a good argument though "
You took your time, this thread had your name written all over it |
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