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Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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If it was Charlize Theron they'd brought with them then I'd be fine with that!  |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
If it was Charlize Theron they'd brought with them then I'd be fine with that! "
You are easily swayed ya floosie 
Especially if they were wearing socks I guess |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Errmm... I've done that before - double book.
Can work very nicely
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
If it was Charlize Theron they'd brought with them then I'd be fine with that!
You are easily swayed ya floosie
Especially if they were wearing socks I guess "
You and Theron stood naked before me in nothing but ya socks! Now you're talking   |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
Errmm... I've done that before - double book.
Can work very nicely
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Did you discuss it with the person you arranged to meet first though? Prior to turning up? Or did you just pitch up with an extra body? |
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I'm quite open minded and liberal so,after a short deliberation,I would have a chat with them both to see if there's any sexual chemistry and go from there. I would however reprimand the person as they should have spoken to me first. If one of my long term fbs brought a good friend along I probably wouldn't mind at all if they were as sexy as they are  |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
Errmm... I've done that before - double book.
Can work very nicely
Did you discuss it with the person you arranged to meet first though? Prior to turning up? Or did you just pitch up with an extra body?"
Done both.
I would typically say there's the possibility of a 3rd and make introductions. That is polite.
I have, however, just winged it a couple of times but that's only because I knew the second very well and knew they would (probably) be ok with my choice of a third.
I wouldn't just randomly do it. |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
Errmm... I've done that before - double book.
Can work very nicely
Did you discuss it with the person you arranged to meet first though? Prior to turning up? Or did you just pitch up with an extra body?
Done both.
I would typically say there's the possibility of a 3rd and make introductions. That is polite.
I have, however, just winged it a couple of times but that's only because I knew the second very well and knew they would (probably) be ok with my choice of a third.
I wouldn't just randomly do it. "
Interesting... I'm curious, what was the male/female dynamic of each one?
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
Errmm... I've done that before - double book.
Can work very nicely
Did you discuss it with the person you arranged to meet first though? Prior to turning up? Or did you just pitch up with an extra body?
Done both.
I would typically say there's the possibility of a 3rd and make introductions. That is polite.
I have, however, just winged it a couple of times but that's only because I knew the second very well and knew they would (probably) be ok with my choice of a third.
I wouldn't just randomly do it.
Interesting... I'm curious, what was the male/female dynamic of each one?
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You're talking about a range of different experiences from 3 sum with MF couple to MMMs (which is mostly the case now I think of it).
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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Interesting responses... it's only happened to me once, I was at a social and the bloke I was there with told me he'd invited someone back to our room. Not cool.
Communication is always key for me. Had he come and said 'what do you think about x coming back with us?' my answer still would have been no but it wouldn't have pissed me off in the same way.
That was a long night with zero sleep in someone else's room! 
A post I saw this morning just made me think wtf?! I would no more invite someone else along when I already had plans without discussing it with that person first. It's just good manners. I'm not opposed to threesomes and moresomes but not without first knowing. I fear I may verge on the uptight side right enough but I think that's pretty rude to assume it would be okay just to go ahead and bring someone else along to a prearranged meet.
Oh... and I lie... it's happened twice. You should never ever ask the first person if the third person can join in while the third person is there. Definitely not cool.
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My first meet was with a couple. When I got there another guy was there. Whilst I was already nervous this didnt help.
I suspect they wanted a back up plan knowing that I was new to this world but to not tell me was just rude |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Depends how fit they were send how horny I was |
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"Interesting responses... it's only happened to me once, I was at a social and the bloke I was there with told me he'd invited someone back to our room. Not cool.
Communication is always key for me. Had he come and said 'what do you think about x coming back with us?' my answer still would have been no but it wouldn't have pissed me off in the same way.
That was a long night with zero sleep in someone else's room!
A post I saw this morning just made me think wtf?! I would no more invite someone else along when I already had plans without discussing it with that person first. It's just good manners. I'm not opposed to threesomes and moresomes but not without first knowing. I fear I may verge on the uptight side right enough but I think that's pretty rude to assume it would be okay just to go ahead and bring someone else along to a prearranged meet.
Oh... and I lie... it's happened twice. You should never ever ask the first person if the third person can join in while the third person is there. Definitely not cool.
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That's disgusting. Both cases.
I wouldn't speak to either of them again. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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A quick check is all it takes. I'd say with at least 8 hours notice so as not to put me on the spot. And I think if it were a first meet it would really put me off. That being said, the BF occasionally surprises me like that but that's an entirely different scenario since he knows me and what I like. |
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"Yes I would, would be a good mff 3sum ."
You're assuming it would be another fem? Would mmf be ok?
I think it shows a lack of respect. If the other person was hot I'd arrange another time with them and fuck the original meet off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One guy I'd met before turned up to a meet with another woman despite me telling him a few days before that we had no interest in couples
He said she could wait while we fucked
I politely told him no
I lied........I wasn't polite |
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By *huramMan
over a year ago
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If the arrangement was for you to meet someone, and they phone you on the day of the meet to ask if they can bring another person along.
At least they asked and you have the option to accept or decline.
But to turn up to a meet with another person, not even having the basic decency to ask if this is ok?
That's unacceptable.
(But if you find the other person amiable and attractive, then enjoy) |
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"Yes I would, would be a good mff 3sum .
You're assuming it would be another fem? Would mmf be ok?
I think it shows a lack of respect. If the other person was hot I'd arrange another time with them and fuck the original meet off."
No as I don't do meetings with 2 men, so just a mff. But yeah they had to show a pic before hand or if we met outside to check who they are it would be fine and good point, could also arrange it for another time too. |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Perfectly ok as long as the person they bought with them wasn't a minger |
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It's all about spontaneity for us , the anticipation of not knowing what to expect . Contrived meets are a thing of the past for us .
So a stranger turning up would be a definate bonus  |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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BIG noooooo from me, even if it was another woman. It's a breach of trust. |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's all about spontaneity for us , the anticipation of not knowing what to expect . Contrived meets are a thing of the past for us .
So a stranger turning up would be a definate bonus "
Thing is though... you're an 'us' so you have each other there with you. That's at least taking into account the safety issue. As a single girl, if I turn up to meet a single bloke and there are two of them there, without prior warning/discussion I would feel horribly compromised and not particularly comfortable with that.
It's okay to be different.
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
Perfectly ok as long as the person they bought with them wasn't a minger "
Good for you Gloswingers for bucking the 'NO' trend on this thread. In the end its no different to going dogging and ending up getting down and dirty.
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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But when you go dogging, you kinda know that you're going to be faced with complete strangers. When you arrange a meet with someone specific, you wouldn't expect them to turn up with their best mate on the off chance surely? |
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"It's all about spontaneity for us , the anticipation of not knowing what to expect . Contrived meets are a thing of the past for us .
So a stranger turning up would be a definate bonus
Thing is though... you're an 'us' so you have each other there with you. That's at least taking into account the safety issue. As a single girl, if I turn up to meet a single bloke and there are two of them there, without prior warning/discussion I would feel horribly compromised and not particularly comfortable with that.
It's okay to be different.
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Yeah that's the same for me I would feel a little nervous around two men especially if I didn't know one x |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Depends on the person who tagged along.... |
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I think it also partly depends upon where/who you're meeting. If it's a social in a coffee shop etc, a visit in a single female's home with two fellas turning up, or someone visiting a supposed single's home and finding they're not alone.
Spontaneity can be great, but making snap decisions, based upon who's turned up on your doorstep, when you know nothing of them etc and you're alone, or maybe have the kids asleep, all changes things. |
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"But when you go dogging, you kinda know that you're going to be faced with complete strangers. When you arrange a meet with someone specific, you wouldn't expect them to turn up with their best mate on the off chance surely? "
We wouldn't expect it but if it happened it would be a bonus |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Depends on the kind of meet and the intentions, if it's for moral support, security, coincidental, or to not be stranded in the event of me not turning up, fine. If it's for a meet not at mine, fine. If it's a meet at mine, and the intention is to join in,hell no. I'd leave instantly and block them and deal with the feeling of having made a mistake or been an asshole |
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"But when you go dogging, you kinda know that you're going to be faced with complete strangers. When you arrange a meet with someone specific, you wouldn't expect them to turn up with their best mate on the off chance surely? "
See, that I'd have to chat with them first and get a feel for what the person is like, but if I get the impression something is off, even if I can't describe it at the moment, I'm out |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol. "
This is partly why I asked. I was curious whether there would be a difference in opinion based on gender. |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend, hell yeah, another guy, absolutely not "
On both occasions for me it was another woman. I'm pretty fussy so it wasn't going to happen. I'm not sure that my view would be different if I found them attractive. In terms of etiquette I think it's pretty bad form.  |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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NO! |
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol.
This is partly why I asked. I was curious whether there would be a difference in opinion based on gender. "
If I arrange to meet someone 1-on-1 it's because I want to meet them 1-on-1. If they turn up with an 'extra' of any gender they'd be told to bugger off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Arranged a meet with a couple a while ago and then on the afternoon of the meet they rang me to say they'd invited another lady as well...........would have been rude to refuse |
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol.
This is partly why I asked. I was curious whether there would be a difference in opinion based on gender.
If I arrange to meet someone 1-on-1 it's because I want to meet them 1-on-1. If they turn up with an 'extra' of any gender they'd be told to bugger off."
This is exactly how I feel and why I told my meet to bugger off,I arranged a meet with him,not him and another woman,it's rude and I'd never be so rude to do the same to someone else without asking beforehand
Not surprised that so many men have said yay!!! to having another woman turn up though
What if she looked like Nora Batty? would they still be so yay!!! |
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol.
This is partly why I asked. I was curious whether there would be a difference in opinion based on gender.
If I arrange to meet someone 1-on-1 it's because I want to meet them 1-on-1. If they turn up with an 'extra' of any gender they'd be told to bugger off.
This is exactly how I feel and why I told my meet to bugger off,I arranged a meet with him,not him and another woman,it's rude and I'd never be so rude to do the same to someone else without asking beforehand
Not surprised that so many men have said yay!!! to having another woman turn up though
What if she looked like Nora Batty? would they still be so yay!!! "
Lol, yes, I noticed too, maybe because I'm bicurious, it wouldn't matter, man or woman, pretty much because the first time I met one of my exes, she brought a guy along for moral support and security, so I shrugged it off. No big deal. If it was for joining in, it would depend on how well I get along with ANY additional, again, no big deal. Inviting themselves around to my home, they can sling their hooks |
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol.
This is partly why I asked. I was curious whether there would be a difference in opinion based on gender.
If I arrange to meet someone 1-on-1 it's because I want to meet them 1-on-1. If they turn up with an 'extra' of any gender they'd be told to bugger off.
This is exactly how I feel and why I told my meet to bugger off,I arranged a meet with him,not him and another woman,it's rude and I'd never be so rude to do the same to someone else without asking beforehand
Not surprised that so many men have said yay!!! to having another woman turn up though
What if she looked like Nora Batty? would they still be so yay!!! "
Hahaha very well put |
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol. "
But what if you didn't like the look of the other Woman, The complete opposite of what you go for  |
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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I would want to know what they were thinking and why they felt it would be ok.
I would then (probably) say that it is a bit disrespectful and not for me. "
Maybe we should ask the other question... would you take someone along to a meet with you without previous discussion?
I'm really curious as to whether I'm just not 'go with the flow' enough or whether I'm too uptight for that sort of swinging. I think maybe I'm just too fussy! |
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"It's all about spontaneity for us , the anticipation of not knowing what to expect . Contrived meets are a thing of the past for us .
So a stranger turning up would be a definate bonus "
So it wouldn't annoy you that you'd arranged to meet a single person and they turn up with a mate then |
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We like to be prepared! My missus was chatting to a guy off here, and on our profile we wrote where off to a club, anyway turned up at the club and who jumps out and shouts "Surprise" we just laughed and kept our distance. He travelled 40 miles too. |
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"I would want to know what they were thinking and why they felt it would be ok.
I would then (probably) say that it is a bit disrespectful and not for me.
Maybe we should ask the other question... would you take someone along to a meet with you without previous discussion?
I'm really curious as to whether I'm just not 'go with the flow' enough or whether I'm too uptight for that sort of swinging. I think maybe I'm just too fussy! "
I wouldn't take anyone with me nor would I even think of doing so |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Even if it was another bloke I'd be pretty miffed. How would they like it if I did the same thing?
Meets are discussed and arranged, so why drop something like that on someone, who then has to either accept the change and feel uncomfortable, or say no and look like the bad guy. |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
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Definitely not okay, completely unacceptable |
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"Or not?
Following from another thread... if you had arranged a meet with someone and they turned up having brought someone else with them... would that be okay with you?
can we share please?
If it was Charlize Theron they'd brought with them then I'd be fine with that! "
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"Mixed feelings on this one. If a lady brought another lady for mff id struggle to not be ok with that lol.
But what if you didn't like the look of the other Woman, The complete opposite of what you go for "
As I said I'd have mixed feelings. As others had said it's a bit rude. But I'm realistic if they brought a Kelly Brook look alike I'd be like hell yeah. Nora batty not so much. On a side note I met Kathy staff who played her many years ago. Absolutely lovely woman. |
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