I have to laugh at my mother. I'm sure she thinks because I'm single and have been for a while (through choice) that I must be sat at home every night sobbing into a pillow watching romantic comedies and depressed at how single I am!!
I'm off out tomorrow night with a male friend and she's already making jokes about moving him in and things like that. Don't get me wrong he's a lovely lad but im not wanting a relationship at all at the moment!!
Anyone else feel like people feel sorry for them because they are single and get the feeling that they don't think you can be happy on your own? |
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Yes and I been single all my life cos I have chosen the fitness lifestyle and I prefer it that way, parents wonder if I ever gonna get a gf lol, its just not for me and I am happy to be a lonewolf. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have been single for over 10 years now (like you through choice as well) Well I split with my ex my mum called me a delinquent 
I never wanted kids, and now my mum has problems with 2 of my siblings.......I have now made a great choice  |
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"Yes and I been single all my life cos I have chosen the fitness lifestyle and I prefer it that way, parents wonder if I ever gonna get a gf lol, its just not for me and I am happy to be a lonewolf."
I know plenty of people that go to the gym like you do though shag and still have a relationship/are married with kids etc. you could make time for a lady if you wanted to! Especially if she was into that too! X |
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"I have been single for over 10 years now (like you through choice as well) Well I split with my ex my mum called me a delinquent
I never wanted kids, and now my mum has problems with 2 of my siblings.......I have now made a great choice "
My mum was glad I got shot of my ex he is bad news. Maybe it's because she is terrible with her own company hates being on her own if dad is away at work and there's no one to keep her company she'll be climbing the walls. |
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"Anyone else feel like people feel sorry for them because they are single and get the feeling that they don't think you can be happy on your own? "
I do and they are right to and extent. |
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"Oh yes!
At least I no longer get comments about having children! 
I still get those! "
Certain people used to try to tell me that I'd change my mind about having kids when my own was in my arms (bit too late then if I was right all along and still didn't want them! ). Now cos of my health issues they're too wary of broaching whether or not I still can have them. It makes life a bit easier without the babies chats. |
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I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that, some people just don't understand that being fussy and not settling for an average relationship is a good thing. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone feels sorry for me for being lonely. They know I have a full and varied life, and some people even comment that they are slightly envious.
I'm not the only single person in my family. I think the fact we are all happy helps. |
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"Anyone else feel like people feel sorry for them because they are single and get the feeling that they don't think you can be happy on your own?
I do and they are right to and extent. "
Ah see it's different if you are someone like that. My mother is one that is miserable on her own and I think that's why she thinks I must be too x |
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I'm loving my new single life no being told what to do
No waiting around for people
No having to ask if I can...
Im happier then I've ever been
Fish n chips with curry sauce for T my choice
N I'm moving into my new flat on Tuesday |
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My ex in-laws ask me all the time if I'm seeing anyone yet. It's been 5 years and I'm very happy on my own. My plus one at weddings is my single daughter |
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"I'm loving my new single life no being told what to do
No waiting around for people
No having to ask if I can...
Im happier then I've ever been
Fish n chips with curry sauce for T my choice
N I'm moving into my new flat on Tuesday "
Do you think that you will still be happy if that's the case in say 5 years time? Are you content with your own company? X |
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over a year ago
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Been single for just over a year now through choice. None of my friends know of my Fab life so they keep trying to set me up with single women on nights out bless them. |
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"I'm loving my new single life no being told what to do
No waiting around for people
No having to ask if I can...
Im happier then I've ever been
Fish n chips with curry sauce for T my choice
N I'm moving into my new flat on Tuesday
Do you think that you will still be happy if that's the case in say 5 years time? Are you content with your own company? X"
Yes defo I have social anxiety disorder this is the best decision I've ever made i still see my daughters every other day x |
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"Anyone else feel like people feel sorry for them because they are single and get the feeling that they don't think you can be happy on your own?
I do and they are right to and extent.
Ah see it's different if you are someone like that. My mother is one that is miserable on her own and I think that's why she thinks I must be too x"
To be fair it's mostly the people in my department at work that enquire and nothing quite so intrusive as my parents. |
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"I like my own company. Like doing what I want. It would be nice to have someone special.....but only in small dozes  "
Very much this 
My family are always asking why I don't get out and meet someone....  |
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"I like my own company. Like doing what I want. It would be nice to have someone special.....but only in small dozes
Very much this
My family are always asking why I don't get out and meet someone.... "
I dunno, I'm the same but the right person is fine as a full time fixture; it's only the wrong person that doesn't fit with you/your life. |
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"I like my own company. Like doing what I want. It would be nice to have someone special.....but only in small dozes "
This!
When you work anti-social hours and all hours, the last thing you want is someone telling you you're neglecting them! |
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"I like my own company. Like doing what I want. It would be nice to have someone special.....but only in small dozes
Very much this
My family are always asking why I don't get out and meet someone....
I dunno, I'm the same but the right person is fine as a full time fixture; it's only the wrong person that doesn't fit with you/your life."
I guess your probably right tbh, but I think I may be too stuck in my ways after 3 years alone to let myself find him  |
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id like a family unit.. and id like to consider myself a top notch lass but now just isnt a great time in life, ive other priorities that take preference over a man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get pitiful looks all the time....
And constantly get asked " why are you single"
But I cant really answer with...
I like chatting to strangers online then sneak off to shag them ....
So I just giving them a knowing smile |
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"I like my own company. Like doing what I want. It would be nice to have someone special.....but only in small dozes
Very much this
My family are always asking why I don't get out and meet someone....
I dunno, I'm the same but the right person is fine as a full time fixture; it's only the wrong person that doesn't fit with you/your life.
I guess your probably right tbh, but I think I may be too stuck in my ways after 3 years alone to let myself find him "
No way, all it takes is the right person. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that"
Its the old joke isn't it:
I always hated weddings because the elderly would come over and poke me saying "You're next.". They stopped doing it when I started doing it to them at funerals. |
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that
Its the old joke isn't it:
I always hated weddings because the elderly would come over and poke me saying "You're next.". They stopped doing it when I started doing it to them at funerals."
Boom tsssssh. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that
Its the old joke isn't it:
I always hated weddings because the elderly would come over and poke me saying "You're next.". They stopped doing it when I started doing it to them at funerals."
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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It doesn't happen for me. No one expects me to be with anyone now or ever.
I don't get lonely as such, but sometimes I feel it would be nice if someone found me to be special enough to want to be with me above anyone else.
I'm mostly the booby prize.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I cannot stand anyone's company for too long, even my own. after my last relationship, noone will ask, with my future plans, noone will ask, but I am my own judge, jury and executioner in all matters,and I'm too quick to don the black cap so to speak |
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that, some people just don't understand that being fussy and not settling for an average relationship is a good thing. "
I don't believe everyone who is in a relationship has to settle for average or is not fussy - I waited a long time, as I was a major commitment phone - with the right person (and this is in response to other posts) you don't have to compromise or answer to anyone because it is such a natural thing - I did not honestly every think I would say that because I love my own company (and we can be in the house, but in different rooms, doing our own thing, not have to be in each other's pockets) - two or three, even a year ago I would have said I could not have a relationship, now I just feel so comfortable in one - so, I think if you don't feel that, you are settling for less than - interesting to reflect on this topic, thanks OP |
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"I have to laugh at my mother. I'm sure she thinks because I'm single and have been for a while (through choice) that I must be sat at home every night sobbing into a pillow watching romantic comedies and depressed at how single I am!!
I'm off out tomorrow night with a male friend and she's already making jokes about moving him in and things like that. Don't get me wrong he's a lovely lad but im not wanting a relationship at all at the moment!!
Anyone else feel like people feel sorry for them because they are single and get the feeling that they don't think you can be happy on your own? "
All the time!
Often get married people say to me, your better off single! |
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that, some people just don't understand that being fussy and not settling for an average relationship is a good thing.
I don't believe everyone who is in a relationship has to settle for average or is not fussy - I waited a long time, as I was a major commitment phone - with the right person (and this is in response to other posts) you don't have to compromise or answer to anyone because it is such a natural thing - I did not honestly every think I would say that because I love my own company (and we can be in the house, but in different rooms, doing our own thing, not have to be in each other's pockets) - two or three, even a year ago I would have said I could not have a relationship, now I just feel so comfortable in one - so, I think if you don't feel that, you are settling for less than - interesting to reflect on this topic, thanks OP"
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I have been single for over 10 years now (like you through choice as well) When I split with my ex my mum called me a delinquent
I never wanted kids, and now my mum has problems with 2 of my siblings.......I have now made a great choice "
I must also interject that I have not once actively looked for a relationship in the last ten years. I thought I would spend at least one year on my own (as is normally suggested) I did not expect to still be single after ten, but hey, that's life and I do think if it will happen it will happen, will I feel the same in another ten years? I have no idea x |
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By *rown eyes 8Woman
over a year ago
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"I chuckle, it's funny at weddings and occasions like that
Its the old joke isn't it:
I always hated weddings because the elderly would come over and poke me saying "You're next.". They stopped doing it when I started doing it to them at funerals."
Brilliant......I chuckled at that |
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In a nutshell a lot of people think that everyone should conform to some rulebook or something, usually on some subconscious level, forgetting somewhat that each to their own. |
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My famfamy could see how unhappy I was when married so it came as no surprise when I walked out and left everything, bar my kids behind over 5 years ago .
They can see how happy I am now and understand why I could never see myself in a long term relationship ever again .
Love my single life, have my grown up kids still living with me and have fab for my fun times . Happy days. |
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I'm just thankful I came out of my 10 year relationship with a child because I've been single almost 6 years since him and not through choice either.
Was 26 when I had my daughter, didn't even think about guys for 2 years, was too busy adjusting to being a mum and living on my own. At 28 I thought I'd give dating a try and now I'm 32 and finding someone I like that wants to make a go of things just hasn't happened for me.
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"I'm just thankful I came out of my 10 year relationship with a child because I've been single almost 6 years since him and not through choice either.
Was 26 when I had my daughter, didn't even think about guys for 2 years, was too busy adjusting to being a mum and living on my own. At 28 I thought I'd give dating a try and now I'm 32 and finding someone I like that wants to make a go of things just hasn't happened for me.
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started a family late on was 32 when I was left with 2 children, best years of my life though.
though over the years the kids have noticed that im on my own and have said often when traveling on public transport
that theres a loverly lady there for you to go out with poor lady has gone bright red and im a little red
recently ive been looking and I dont hide it either and been told by 13 year old daughter theres another one over there as well pointing away 
ive got more to come yet  |
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I tried dating again after splitting with my daughters dad, twice, neither worked out. I dont want my daughter growing up getting attached to men who then leave, and I've now got too used to my own space, a full time partner just wouldn't work for me now. I have a fwb, who i see when its mutually convenient, and the freedom to still see others, its ideal.
do sometimes get lonely, but have friends and family local, this isnt how i thought life would be, but it is, and im not unhappy about it.x |
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"I was told by my doctor you better start thinking about having kids, talk about making a girl feel shit lol
I do feel for you cheeky, I was lucky as I never wanted them x"
If I have them I have them but fuck me talk about pressure lol x |
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