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"By someone you know, woukd you go?"
. No. I prefer to be independent and do as I please . In any event I don't think anyone will offer me a free holiday , but I am happy to be proved wrong . Off to Cap d Agde next week.
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over a year ago
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For me a holiday destination needs to be somewhere of my own choosing .....
But aside from that I wouldn't accept a spontaneously random invitation anyway.  |
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over a year ago
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"I was offer a free hoilday frm sumone on here last wk I said NO
No thing as a free hoilday
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 Depends on the circumstances - unless it was s really good long term friend I'd suspect that there would be strings attached. It would depend what those strings were |
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over a year ago
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"I was offer a free hoilday frm sumone on here last wk I said NO
No thing as a free hoilday
Depends on the circumstances - unless it was s really good long term friend I'd suspect that there would be strings attached. It would depend what those strings were"
Yep are there stings attached lol and can I bring the Pooch  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Iv known him for years now, he lives in the next town from me. I hardly see him, maybe on a night out over Face B.
he has asked me a few times to go and Iv always declined.
I spoke to him via messenger yesterday as I needed the use of him and his van and he asked me again to go away new year to Egypt. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you've always declined you must have had valid reasons. What's changed to make you consider it now?"
Iv always considered the others, but ended up saying no, mainly due to not wanting him expecting anything as I don't fancy him. |
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over a year ago
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"If you've always declined you must have had valid reasons. What's changed to make you consider it now?
Iv always considered the others, but ended up saying no, mainly due to not wanting him expecting anything as I don't fancy him. "
And what makes you think he didn't expect anything in return now? Or have you changed your mind about him? |
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over a year ago
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I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future? |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"If you've always declined you must have had valid reasons. What's changed to make you consider it now?
Iv always considered the others, but ended up saying no, mainly due to not wanting him expecting anything as I don't fancy him. "
I think you'll find that he will have a soft spot for you as he keeps asking you. He probably will want more than just a friendly holiday.
Come to playa del ingles with me instead, you'll have to pay for yourself tho lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you've always declined you must have had valid reasons. What's changed to make you consider it now?
Iv always considered the others, but ended up saying no, mainly due to not wanting him expecting anything as I don't fancy him.
And what makes you think he didn't expect anything in return now? Or have you changed your mind about him?"
No Iv not changed my mind, he is a lovely bloke, but I'm not attracted to him. I'm only guessing he has fancied me at some point. I think my main concern is the awkward conversation if he ever tried it on. |
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future? "
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness. |
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over a year ago
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future?
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness."
In the same, that's why I never go on dates either. |
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future?
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness."
If he's asking because he doesn't want to go alone and fears loneliness then consider it. But if he has any small hope that it may lead to more than you'll have to have a very honest chat about that and gently get him to grasp that it isn't going to happen. |
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"Iv known him for years now, he lives in the next town from me. I hardly see him, maybe on a night out over Face B.
he has asked me a few times to go and Iv always declined.
I spoke to him via messenger yesterday as I needed the use of him and his van and he asked me again to go away new year to Egypt. "
In these circumstances there is no way I'd go. I could be completely wrong, but it sounds like he is pretty interested in you. I'd skip it either way, but it would be even worse if he liked you and he expects something....
-Courtney |
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over a year ago
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future?
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness.
If he's asking because he doesn't want to go alone and fears loneliness then consider it. But if he has any small hope that it may lead to more than you'll have to have a very honest chat about that and gently get him to grasp that it isn't going to happen."
I think part of it is loneliness, all his mates are in a relationship etc, as are mine, hence why I either go with my mum or on my own. |
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"Iv known him for years now, he lives in the next town from me. I hardly see him, maybe on a night out over Face B.
he has asked me a few times to go and Iv always declined.
I spoke to him via messenger yesterday as I needed the use of him and his van and he asked me again to go away new year to Egypt.
In these circumstances there is no way I'd go. I could be completely wrong, but it sounds like he is pretty interested in you. I'd skip it either way, but it would be even worse if he liked you and he expects something....
-Courtney"
I totally understand what you and others are saying on this point |
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over a year ago
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Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.  |
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me. "
Did you ever find out whether the bed was deliberate? |
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future?
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness.
If he's asking because he doesn't want to go alone and fears loneliness then consider it. But if he has any small hope that it may lead to more than you'll have to have a very honest chat about that and gently get him to grasp that it isn't going to happen.
I think part of it is loneliness, all his mates are in a relationship etc, as are mine, hence why I either go with my mum or on my own. "
Then if that's what it is and he's clear that no moves are to be made or anything expected then why not go as friends. |
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"I could never do this if I had no chance of reciprocating. I would feel very uncomfortable with this.
In your case, you say you don't fancy him. Think of his motivation: why is he offering this? What does he expect and how could you repay him now or in the future?
I agree....ask yourself why he's asking you? Personally I wouldn't accept but then I'm not one for putting myself into situations outside my comfort zone, and I don't like awkwardness.
If he's asking because he doesn't want to go alone and fears loneliness then consider it. But if he has any small hope that it may lead to more than you'll have to have a very honest chat about that and gently get him to grasp that it isn't going to happen.
I think part of it is loneliness, all his mates are in a relationship etc, as are mine, hence why I either go with my mum or on my own.
Then if that's what it is and he's clear that no moves are to be made or anything expected then why not go as friends. "
I think in those circumstances I'd be happier paying my way. Then it's equal as friends nothing more. I wouldn't let him pay, that's too wierd. |
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
Did you ever find out whether the bed was deliberate? "
He said it wasn't, but I wasn't that fussed. He invited me as a friend and that's what got. If he'd wanted more he should have said beforehand. I don't do complications. |
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me. "
I'm seeing him tomorrow and think this is a wise idea.
Definitely would ask for twin beds! |
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"I think part of it is loneliness, all his mates are in a relationship etc, as are mine, hence why I either go with my mum or on my own. "
I know people (myself included) who have travelled with the opposite sex in a platonic way. But always as equals, never where the finances have been so unbalanced.
As well as what's already been discussed here, if a travelling partner could be mutually beneficial, why not suggest something like that for the future: travel together but, pay your way and have a choice in the room and bed situation! Two single beds and your own flight ticket says a lot and means there's no implied payment pending. |
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
Did you ever find out whether the bed was deliberate?
He said it wasn't, but I wasn't that fussed. He invited me as a friend and that's what got. If he'd wanted more he should have said beforehand. I don't do complications."
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
I'm seeing him tomorrow and think this is a wise idea.
Definitely would ask for twin beds! "
Do you want to spend 24/7 with this guy on holiday, do you enjoy his company?
Holidays can be tricky with friends at times let alone people that you may not know as well. |
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
I'm seeing him tomorrow and think this is a wise idea.
Definitely would ask for twin beds!
Do you want to spend 24/7 with this guy on holiday, do you enjoy his company?
Holidays can be tricky with friends at times let alone people that you may not know as well."
Ah....but it's free! |
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If you are platonic freinds only.. go. Tell him youll chuck into the price.
His insistence suggests he sees it as more.
Either tell him straight now, or you will have one disappointed guy on your hands.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
I'm seeing him tomorrow and think this is a wise idea.
Definitely would ask for twin beds!
Do you want to spend 24/7 with this guy on holiday, do you enjoy his company?
Holidays can be tricky with friends at times let alone people that you may not know as well."
He is very laid back, we are very different though as in he probably likes boats and water sports, my holidays consist of relaxing, would need an honest long chat about it. I'm not sure I could let him pay. |
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"If you are platonic freinds only.. go. Tell him youll chuck into the price.
His insistence suggests he sees it as more.
Either tell him straight now, or you will have one disappointed guy on your hands.
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Iv asked him, what's the catch as its a very generous offer... His reply was. No catch. I will talk to him face to face tomorrow |
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"If you are platonic freinds only.. go. Tell him youll chuck into the price.
His insistence suggests he sees it as more.
Either tell him straight now, or you will have one disappointed guy on your hands.
Iv asked him, what's the catch as its a very generous offer... His reply was. No catch. I will talk to him face to face tomorrow "
Can't say fairer than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couldn't you just have a open and honest conversation with him before you decide? I'm assuming its not much fun going on holiday on your own, but I also know drink is cheap!
Someone took me to New York for long weekend, just as friends. We got to the hotel to find a double bed. I shopped the fuck out of New York for three day solid. Poor bastard was asleep every night before me.
I'm seeing him tomorrow and think this is a wise idea.
Definitely would ask for twin beds!
Do you want to spend 24/7 with this guy on holiday, do you enjoy his company?
Holidays can be tricky with friends at times let alone people that you may not know as well.
He is very laid back, we are very different though as in he probably likes boats and water sports, my holidays consist of relaxing, would need an honest long chat about it. I'm not sure I could let him pay. "
Sounds like a plan, lay your cards on the table. Afterwards if you're both still happy & comfortable with the arrangements then take it from there
And to answer your original question, Yes I would take someone up on a free holiday providing everyone knew where they stood.
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"If you are platonic freinds only.. go. Tell him youll chuck into the price.
His insistence suggests he sees it as more.
Either tell him straight now, or you will have one disappointed guy on your hands.
Iv asked him, what's the catch as its a very generous offer... His reply was. No catch. I will talk to him face to face tomorrow "
I don't know the full details of your friendship with this guy OP but I'd be pretty sure at the back of his mind he'll be hoping something may happen between you while you're away. That's quite a natural thought to go through a guys mind.
You'd need to make it very clear to him beforehand that nothing will be happening between you. Slightly odd situation but if he's a genuinely decent guy like you say it could be fine. |
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I wouldn't discount it, but I'd like to know honest and true reasons for asking.
I usually go on holiday alone, however the single supplement is usually about the same as a second passenger. I'll be in a position of having surgery, and taking a holiday to recuperate, and in those circumstances would appreciate company. However , I am careful who I will ask, as I don't want to pay for and share with someone who just wants a free ride.
There are always two sides to everything, so until you find out why they need/want company, and what are the expectation and 'rules'.... And no two offers are the same.
Are you both the sort who want the same from a holiday, ie.... Lay on the beach with sun and cocktails, or do you want to fill every day with trips out, meals with locals etc, and if you are both equal in how you'd like the holiday to pan out then it could be worth thinking about. |
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"He plans to take you out to Sinai and sell you to nomads in exchange for a herd of camels "
On a serious note the reason I wouldnt is because I'd be scared of being a drug mule, honestly why would somebody offer you a free holiday? 
I go to Sicily every year twice a year once paid by me once paid by my family because thats the agreement we made, my nan said it made more sense for her to pay for me to come over and see everybody than her pay for herself then only see gets to see me, so about 6 years ago she stopped coming to England and paid for me to go over instead as me paying twice a year for me and the kids is to much, but I trust my family not to use me other than that no chance you get bugger all for free now days |
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"By someone you know, woukd you go?
I have been offered one and I did go. Had a great time!"
To clarify, it was offered as he wanted some company and the single supplement was almost as much as me going. Plus he's not short of a penny. |
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"I get a free holiday every year so yes but it would depend on the situation behind it, I wouldnt take a free holiday from a friend or anybody off here"
I wouldn't take one from someone on here.
We have been friends for years. |
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"He plans to take you out to Sinai and sell you to nomads in exchange for a herd of camels
I won't sell for much, I'm not blonde "
I'd sell for bugger all look to much like the locals |
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What's the problem with a free holiday with someone from here?
I was invited to take a place free last year...just flight required...by a lady I had met there 6mths earlier. She had a spare bed and offered it to me.
I was flattered that I had imparted so much trust from our friendship before. We cohabited platonically perfectly well, and had a great time. No sex but just a great laugh.
I usually holiday alone, so it was very refreshing.
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"What's the problem with a free holiday with someone from here?
I was invited to take a place free last year...just flight required...by a lady I had met there 6mths earlier. She had a spare bed and offered it to me.
I was flattered that I had imparted so much trust from our friendship before. We cohabited platonically perfectly well, and had a great time. No sex but just a great laugh.
I usually holiday alone, so it was very refreshing.
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Because I would wonder why a guy I had met off here had offered me a holiday
I know there are some genuinely nice people on here but there are also some nasty twats
Imagine finding out in your way home through customs this great new mate of yours only befriended you and invited you on holidysd because they wanted to pack your case full of cocaine on the way home and you end up doing 10 years in a nasty prison abroud while they walk away to look for their next victim
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Well, I would expect due diligence. Blind faith would be ridiculous in this situation and the law will protect you wherever you are, if you go to the authorities and explain your situation.
I work with the worst type of people, and even I know that there are far more good people around than bad.
On here, well I am not so sure, but I would assume you would take the same (or more) care than if you you were going to have sex with them, if you were going on holiday with them?
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