"If someone is stressed and you know they are lying how do u catch them out?"
If you know they're lying say " I know you're lying" it's much easier than trying to catch them out. What's the connection between the lying and the stress? |
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Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.
Facts are facts signs are signs. |
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"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.
Facts are facts signs are signs. "
Maybe she thinks it's none of your business. Why on earth would you want to catch someone out if you believe they're stressed? Wouldn't quietly helping alleviate the stress be a more friendly option? |
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Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.
Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will. |
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"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.
Facts are facts signs are signs. "
Maybe she doesn't want your help & wants you to back off.
Tell her your concerns, be there as a friend but respect her decisions. |
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"Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.
Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will."
The friend is saying they aren't stressed when the op believes they are.....this is lying in the ops eyes. |
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"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.
Facts are facts signs are signs. "
maybe your questioning of her is causing her to be stressed or increasing it..?
help to alleviate the stress and then see how she is perhaps?
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If they are stressed they have a problem or an anxiety. The last thing they need is someone trying to catch them out. They need a supportive person who is there for them, to help them. I take this view with the kids and with my partner - if all goes quiet, something is on their minds, so I just let them know I love and support them and eventually what is worrying them comes out and we deal with it together, as a family. They do the same for me as I get worried over things my partner can handle and he is the same - that is what support and love for partners, friends and families is all about. Not trying to catch someone out |
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"Their actions don't correlate with their words is the easiest way to tell.
Usually there is a reason why you can't trust someone though. If you ask them about it and they lie then keep shtum until they slip up - which they will.
The friend is saying they aren't stressed when the op believes they are.....this is lying in the ops eyes."
Oh right. I didn't understand the OP. |
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"Cos some one I know is stressed I see the signs and 1+1=2 she is denying it she says no I'm not stressed, I call bull on that story.
Facts are facts signs are signs. "
What exactly are you trying to catch her out at? Lying or being stressed? If it is simply stress, offer support. Simple.
If you are trying to catch her out lying there are a myriad of ways...but generally there will be inconsistencies, bu if you go pointing this out the she will likely become defensive.
You need to work out what is more important, being right or being a friend |
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Er, why would you want to 'catch her out'? If she doesn't want to talk to you about it you're being intrusive. Offer her an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, then leave her be. It's not your business until she makes it your business. |
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It's a real bummer when you know someone is lying to you.
you don't really need to catch them out though, if you know that's enough. Then you decide what to do |
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No, you let HER decide what she wants. If she is the one struggling, give her the time and space to come to you if she needs help.
Anything else is purely self-serving. |
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So, the OP knows someone who appears to be stressed and is denying that they are stressed because:
a) they aren't stressed
b) they don't feel stressed
c) they don't want to admit they are stressed to themselves
d) they don't want to admit they are stressed to the OP.
Now, out of concern for his friend who is potentially stressed, the OP wants a way to trap this person in such a way as to prove that it is "d", which the OP sees as "lying".
Did I summarise correctly?
How about you back off and just let them know that you are there if they need anything. |
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One thing I can't stand is someone who keeps asking if I'm ok. If I have said I'm fine I am either fine or don't want to talk about it. Keep asking is just going to piss me off |
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To all I see x many of the tell-tale signs simple as that but I'll let it be, she is prescribed medications for it but wont take them.
I cared, but not now smokes like a trooper 100G smoked in what 2 weeks...
When I smoked 50g lasted me 2 weeks easily. |
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