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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well least she's honest and knows exactly what she wants with no hidden agendas. Respect for that, not all on here are!
Have you been honest to her and yourself in what it is that you really want? Without knowing what you've told her. Maybe you haven't been??? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
She likes to meet multiple men and that makes her a prostitute, (lady of the night)?
It doesn't sound as if you and she are compatible, no. Are you sure swinging is for you? You do realise it's about having sex with multiple partners? |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"So met a girl she says she likes open relationships and to meet guys alone for nites of passion / sounds like fun / mabe mabe not / a little different to couple swinging more like a fuckbuddy / don't think she's the girl for me more like a lady of the night over to ye sexy girls and guys to solve this one / problem is she's booked out with different guys only a game to her to feel like she's wanted by different guys / good or bad answers please P      "
Hmmm. How would you describe a swinger?
Open relationships are workable if both in the relationship are honest.
My advice is be honest & tell her you are on a swinging site looking for sex with lots of people without giving a commitment. Then tell her you think she is a hooker for the way she lives her life..
Pot/kettle...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So met a girl she says she likes open relationships and to meet guys alone for nites of passion / sounds like fun / mabe mabe not / a little different to couple swinging more like a fuckbuddy / don't think she's the girl for me more like a lady of the night over to ye sexy girls and guys to solve this one / problem is she's booked out with different guys only a game to her to feel like she's wanted by different guys / good or bad answers please P
Hmmm. How would you describe a swinger?
Open relationships are workable if both in the relationship are honest.
My advice is be honest & tell her you are on a swinging site looking for sex with lots of people without giving a commitment. Then tell her you think she is a hooker for the way she lives her life..
Pot/kettle...
Mrs _d40"
This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok to be honest not sure I believe or sympathise with the op but was thinking that an open relationship can work for some.
We have friends where the female spends nights and evenings away from their husband/partner and things are great. I personally couldn't and don't want that but I understand that it wworks for them.
So yes open relationships work for some x |
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We are open with each other, but I, like you, could not spend any night with another man away from him, and he could not either - with a man, or indeed a woman ... it does work for some, but I don't see the need as I have enough right here at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So met a girl she says she likes open relationships and to meet guys alone for nites of passion / sounds like fun / mabe mabe not / a little different to couple swinging more like a fuckbuddy / don't think she's the girl for me more like a lady of the night over to ye sexy girls and guys to solve this one / problem is she's booked out with different guys only a game to her to feel like she's wanted by different guys / good or bad answers please P "
For some people they do, for others they don't.
If you don't enjoy that relationship, then you don't have to be in it.
I wouldn't have a monogamous relationship now, it's not for me. If guys don't want a poly/open relationship, then they can do out with someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"she is milking me for money and meeting other guys at weekends when she should be with me"
Why 'should' she be with you? You don't own her? She's never agreed to be monogamous? She's never signed a contract saying she'll always spend every weekend with you? |
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"she is milking me for money and meeting other guys at weekends when she should be with me
Why 'should' she be with you? You don't own her? She's never agreed to be monogamous? She's never signed a contract saying she'll always spend every weekend with you?"
I don't think he said he owned her so I don't see the relevance unless you are trying to be dramatic or put the guy down. |
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I think his post is courting drama, saying she is a lady of the night and only after him for his money - I am not normally offended, but I sort of did a double take at the language and implications there. Its defo not looking like a personal attack ... compared to some on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"she is milking me for money and meeting other guys at weekends when she should be with me
Why 'should' she be with you? You don't own her? She's never agreed to be monogamous? She's never signed a contract saying she'll always spend every weekend with you?
I don't think he said he owned her so I don't see the relevance unless you are trying to be dramatic or put the guy down."
"When she should be with me". This implies that the guy thinks he somehow owns her time. Or she owes it to him to spend weekends with him.
It's really rather posessive language. I don't think I'm being dramatic, but rather pointing out that perhaps an attitude shift might be required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she's as unpleasant as yiu claim in your second post I really don't understand what you are asking in your first post?
If you meet someone and it turns out you aren't compatible then have some self respect and walk away rather than try and change her or slag her off to strangers on the internet |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
What a catch the OP is. I wonder what on earth she is thinking not devoting herself to him.
OP, by being on here, looking fir casual sex, you are no better at all than her. Whatever you think of her applies equally to you. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Didn't you ask this before?
Is it the same woman?
Exactly. How many times are you going to go over the same thing about this woman? Either get on with it or get rid. "
Looking back, he said he was just out of a relationship with her 13 weeks ago.
Unless that's a different woman and he has really bad taste in women!
I see what you mean. A lot of threads all on basically the same subject, spanning months and months. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its like Groundhog day in here.
Is it the same woman ? You could refer back to all the advice you were given previously but it seems like you already know the answer.
Only you can decide how long are you going to let it carry on for.
Over and out.
B x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have an open relationship, we both have a girlfriend, I love my time with her as he loves his time with his girl. It makes our time together better. We watched videos of each other playing with our respective ladies, very horny. We just make sure we communicate our wishes & don't go behind each other's back, we always know what each other are up to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you are more interested in your money.. Find a hooker at least then you know what your getting. As for discretion... Good luck finding someone on here now mate. "
It sounds like she's one already and he wants more than that or he's annoyed that she said what he wanted to hear while they were enjoying each other and that she says the same things to her clients. It really sounds like he wants her to have different stories so he can feel special but I could have read it wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes they work, but only if you have open communication about what each person wants and needs. That doesn't sound like you, OP. Women aren't your property. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Wasp hunter says sex is not a charity but a lady wanting an open relationship mane 300 per week and mane you get to make love to her if you lucky / he is a female manipulate sociopath / so there you have it watch out guys out there / don't be a bank long machine to a woman as she uses sex for ur money and is as cold as Ice / it's financial. Domination as you want the sex and she wants it money / so wasp hunter sex is a compromise with 2 ppeople who love each other again you are wrong and sending out the wrong signal to wemon /,more input my friends / who agrees with wasp hunter / wil win this one hands down / p     "
You make no sense. As I'm female you will probably discount (that's not a financial discount) what I say.
You have a problem with one woman. It appears to have been going on for some time. If you don't do anything to change it why should we?
If you feel you are paying for sex and that gives you ownership rights that she is not honouring is the problem with her or with you? You're the one handing over the money.
If you are in an abusive relationship I give you the same advice that I give to women: walk away, seek support and counselling and build your confidence and self esteem back.
As I've only recently learned how to accept a drink, rarely dinner, I'm not a woman who understands a money exchange for sex. I do understand what Wasp Hunter means, though, and I'm not sure you do.
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Well as I said if your daft enough to let her get away with it that's more fool you and unless you have physical proof she's sleeping with other in exchange for money id be very cautious making allegations you could end up be charged with slander |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Oh give it up OP.
You clearly feel quite strongly that you have been used and badly treated.
Stay away from her, stop slagging her off on here and post about something else for a bit.
You've been on about it, and nothing else for several months.
You should know what we think by now. Not that it matters because you've made your own mind up and don't want to listen.
Incidentally, I expect Wasp Hunter hasn't replied because she has a life and hasn't seen the thread or she doesn't want to further engage with you and your very set way of thinking. Personally I don't think she was wrong at all.
Your attitude is crappy. Slagging this woman off and calling her a prostitute over and over on here is crappy. If you stay away from her I think she'll have had at least as much of a lucky escape as you.
Surely you have some other subject you can post about? |
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OP, I really don't understand your obsession with wanting us all to gang up on Wasp.
She was articulate and correct in her points, and because it's not what you want to hear you're having a go at her. You invited comment on this subject.
I can't decide whether you have an obsession with this woman in your life, or are just trolling because you're bored.
If what you have said is true, and I'm not convinced it is, then you should cut ties with this woman and seek counselling as this clearly runs deep.
And please remember that just because a woman doesn't want a relationship with you that doesn't mean she's a prostitute. Unless you have proof to back that up?
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"OP, I really don't understand your obsession with wanting us all to gang up on Wasp.
She was articulate and correct in her points, and because it's not what you want to hear you're having a go at her. You invited comment on this subject.
I can't decide whether you have an obsession with this woman in your life, or are just trolling because you're bored.
If what you have said is true, and I'm not convinced it is, then you should cut ties with this woman and seek counselling as this clearly runs deep.
And please remember that just because a woman doesn't want a relationship with you that doesn't mean she's a prostitute. Unless you have proof to back that up?
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I'm coming to the belief he can't understand that he's just a punter.
OP, people are unlikely to agree with you that Wasp Hunter is wrong because her point is clear and yours isn't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where is the banging head against brick wall emoji ?
Listen up our horny well hung friend Paul.
If you feel like the lady is just using you for money and doesn't care about you then for goodness sake just call it a day with her and concentrate on finding somebody more compatible.
The end. X |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Take it fm me boots and balls that is the case ok has gone through 10 failed relationships prentents to be a victim of circumstances all the time asks you for money on a daily basis to pay bills tax car insurance holidays it's a pay as you go service don't mind her swinging around as I do but it's all about the money with her / you pay what she wants and she is open for buissness mane one fuck a wek if your lucky as she has a very busy schedule with other guys who always come first to her older punters / so there you have a pro in discuse at work /. Beware out there my fellow male dabblers as all these wemon are sticking together on this one / a blind man can see its a cash for sex business / a female manipulate rat sociopath at work for money / mrs important / who livers in a dark world and gets her kicks by robbing guys with her body / scary stuff / watch out guys plenty more around like her / no more input from wasp hunter / mire input my friends p /    "
This continued slagging of her is showing you to be rather unpleasant yourself.
What more input can you possibly need???
I'm starting to agree with those suggesting you need therapy. You obsession is seriously unhealthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my days that's been that hardest read of my life.
OP if you feel this way then you need to leave her well alone get on with your life and move on . If we are to believe what you are saying we are all in for a lucky escape. But it looks like your in love with this woman but it not reciprocated so there for . Get the fuck over it and move on .
Just my thoughts that's all |
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I'm not sure about the op and the posts are worse than mine for grammar and spelling.
Do open relationships work. Hmm
I'd say they can but I'd never be able to imagine myself in one.
I need that commitment, I could not share my entire life with someone and do that repeatedly with different people.
We share everything so I just can't get my head round doing that 3 ways never mind more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've gone from open relationships to being taken for (want of a word) mug .
This thread has not made much sense from start to finish . You have said one thing and really meant another thing.
Move on move on move on please move on |
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By *usterMan
over a year ago
worthing |
Open relationships can work if both people /all people involved want it that way. Same as any relationships including swinging. And some 'closed' marriages where one partner is able to support the other `by playing away when sex is the only thing missing in the relationship.
If you have to ask...it means you aren't convinced in your own mind...Time to move on. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Oh.
Apparently some man on the internet said I was wrong about sex and relationships.
I'm devastated. And unsurprised."
Don't start him off again pllleeeaaasssseee.
I / can't / take / any / more / comments / about / his / great / wealth / and / ladies / of / the / night/ and / how / men / should / be / careful / because / women / are / scheming / and / evil. |
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OP, you really need to stop now. You're making yourself sound ridiculous.
The women are not all ganging up on you on this thread and sticking together. Everyone here is pointing out that you are wrong, and offering advice.
If what you say is true, it sounds like you have been meeting a prostitute and have developed an incredibly unhealthy obsession. Stop talking to her, stop seeing her, stop giving her money and walk away.
You say that you are not bothered, everything you have said here demonstrates the exact opposite. In fact, I would not be surprised to find out that you are actually stalking this woman, that's how much your behaviour is concerning me. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"OP, you really need to stop now. You're making yourself sound ridiculous.
The women are not all ganging up on you on this thread and sticking together. Everyone here is pointing out that you are wrong, and offering advice.
If what you say is true, it sounds like you have been meeting a prostitute and have developed an incredibly unhealthy obsession. Stop talking to her, stop seeing her, stop giving her money and walk away.
You say that you are not bothered, everything you have said here demonstrates the exact opposite. In fact, I would not be surprised to find out that you are actually stalking this woman, that's how much your behaviour is concerning me. "
Not just me then?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure about the op and the posts are worse than mine for grammar and spelling. "
Aren't you curious what job affords an illiterate person 15000 to spend on wemon? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"OP, you really need to stop now. You're making yourself sound ridiculous.
The women are not all ganging up on you on this thread and sticking together. Everyone here is pointing out that you are wrong, and offering advice.
If what you say is true, it sounds like you have been meeting a prostitute and have developed an incredibly unhealthy obsession. Stop talking to her, stop seeing her, stop giving her money and walk away.
You say that you are not bothered, everything you have said here demonstrates the exact opposite. In fact, I would not be surprised to find out that you are actually stalking this woman, that's how much your behaviour is concerning me.
Not just me then?
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Not just you, no. |
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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago
Outskirts of Notts |
"I'm not sure about the op and the posts are worse than mine for grammar and spelling.
Aren't you curious what job affords an illiterate person 15000 to spend on wemon? "
Is it legal to have sex with wemon ?
Jo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure about the op and the posts are worse than mine for grammar and spelling.
Aren't you curious what job affords an illiterate person 15000 to spend on wemon?
Is it legal to have sex with wemon ?
Jo x"
In / the / real / world / or / in / this / fantasy / land? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
You'll move on swiftly?
You've started numerous threads over the course of months about this woman
Given your attitude and total lack of discretion, good luck getting a meet with anyone who reads the fora. |
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