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over a year ago
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What's the best way?!
My friend's ex is driving me bananas. I've blocked her every way that I can, apart from the fact that her texts still come through. Her behavior seems obsessive & sociopathic, and her language seems to be chosen in order to provoke a response. I ignore her and laugh it off because a) I'm not giving her any satisfaction in a response, and b) her behavior bores me. Is there any other ways to deal with her, or is it best off to ignore her until she gets bored & pesters someone else?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them. |
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How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway |
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them."
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days. |
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway"
Because we USED to be friends when they were together but she's flipped since they split up. |
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days."
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in. 
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex. |
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway"
You can block numbers on ANY smart phone. Built into the operating system. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex."
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it 
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway
You can block numbers on ANY smart phone. Built into the operating system."
I think Google is my friend 
On my phone, I can send her calls straight to voicemail and I don't get notifications if she texts me. |
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away."
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away.
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed."
I think so too. It's in my nature to care, so I am worried about her, and if she wasn't being the way she is I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but the way she's acting is putting me off doing so & she wouldn't accept it anyway. |
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Ignore and block and don't give her the time of day and her ex needs to grow some bollocks and tell her to 0121 do one and if she keeps on he will go to the police...I do think some are obsessed with their ex's it's toxic behaviour.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What's the best way?!
My friend's ex is driving me bananas. I've blocked her every way that I can, apart from the fact that her texts still come through. Her behavior seems obsessive & sociopathic, and her language seems to be chosen in order to provoke a response. I ignore her and laugh it off because a) I'm not giving her any satisfaction in a response, and b) her behavior bores me. Is there any other ways to deal with her, or is it best off to ignore her until she gets bored & pesters someone else? "
Wait is this the partner of the person who was in the abusive relationship in your other threadbare a different one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignore ignore ignore
And don't give her the attention she craves? "
Definitely. It does work eventually. You can get text blocker apps, maybe try that? Or just delete the texts when you get them. If she knows her texts are blocked it might make her try to contact you in other ways. By letting her text she's venting. Just don't let it get you down. Chin up. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's the best way?!
My friend's ex is driving me bananas. I've blocked her every way that I can, apart from the fact that her texts still come through. Her behavior seems obsessive & sociopathic, and her language seems to be chosen in order to provoke a response. I ignore her and laugh it off because a) I'm not giving her any satisfaction in a response, and b) her behavior bores me. Is there any other ways to deal with her, or is it best off to ignore her until she gets bored & pesters someone else?
Wait is this the partner of the person who was in the abusive relationship in your other threadbare a different one"
That's the one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away.
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed.
I think so too. It's in my nature to care, so I am worried about her, and if she wasn't being the way she is I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but the way she's acting is putting me off doing so & she wouldn't accept it anyway."
Are her parents keeping an eye on her? Wouldn't be surprised if she's focusing on him coz of her kid, that's probably what's bothering her more but she's transferred her feelings somewhere else to deal with it. Plus breaking up with someone is shitty as well so it'll be that too.
At least you know how to block her now anyway. I think you should care but leave everything down to her family and professionals.
Bit sad really, she's lost control of her life right now and is trying to claim it back. Hope she's ok. Dunno how you handle this tbh.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ignore ignore ignore
And don't give her the attention she craves?
Definitely. It does work eventually. You can get text blocker apps, maybe try that? Or just delete the texts when you get them. If she knows her texts are blocked it might make her try to contact you in other ways. By letting her text she's venting. Just don't let it get you down. Chin up. x"
I'll have a look. My chin's always up x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away.
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed.
I think so too. It's in my nature to care, so I am worried about her, and if she wasn't being the way she is I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but the way she's acting is putting me off doing so & she wouldn't accept it anyway.
Are her parents keeping an eye on her? Wouldn't be surprised if she's focusing on him coz of her kid, that's probably what's bothering her more but she's transferred her feelings somewhere else to deal with it. Plus breaking up with someone is shitty as well so it'll be that too.
At least you know how to block her now anyway. I think you should care but leave everything down to her family and professionals.
Bit sad really, she's lost control of her life right now and is trying to claim it back. Hope she's ok. Dunno how you handle this tbh.
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I hope they are, the rest of her family have disowned her. I hope she gets her stuff sorted but I don't want to see my friend getting more hurt through it. I don't want her to keep dragging him into shit when he's trying to move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away.
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed.
I think so too. It's in my nature to care, so I am worried about her, and if she wasn't being the way she is I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but the way she's acting is putting me off doing so & she wouldn't accept it anyway.
Are her parents keeping an eye on her? Wouldn't be surprised if she's focusing on him coz of her kid, that's probably what's bothering her more but she's transferred her feelings somewhere else to deal with it. Plus breaking up with someone is shitty as well so it'll be that too.
At least you know how to block her now anyway. I think you should care but leave everything down to her family and professionals.
Bit sad really, she's lost control of her life right now and is trying to claim it back. Hope she's ok. Dunno how you handle this tbh.
I hope they are, the rest of her family have disowned her. I hope she gets her stuff sorted but I don't want to see my friend getting more hurt through it. I don't want her to keep dragging him into shit when he's trying to move on."
Have you tried texting back? Maybe offer to meet her for a coffee in a public place? Might give her a shoulder to cry on as you said... or could also make it worse though... Play it by ear.
Shit like this can get you down without you realising.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get your friend to sort it out. He/she should be making it clear that *whatever she's texting about* isn't reality.
Sometimes people do lead their exes on, just in case they want a booty call or wanna get back with them.
Yeah, tbh he's not innocent in this situation & she's forever attempted to come between us! I'm going to grab him in person and talk to him about it in the next few days.
Hope it goes well. Once she realises that he isn't interested she might have a final go at you (but more him coz it's coming from him) and then probably be really upset and leave you alone when reality sinks in.
I'm guessing she hasn't got closure anyway, that's usually the reason why people become insane over their ex.
I think - hope - he'll listen to me over it
It doesn't help that he's staying with his parents and she lives across the road from them, she actually watches out for him when he sets off for work in the morning. She pesters him with texts too, something his mum's told me.
I think she's struggling as their relationship broke up on the same day her parents took her daughter away.
It sounds as if she's hurting badly over lots of things. None are your problem though and professional help might be needed.
I think so too. It's in my nature to care, so I am worried about her, and if she wasn't being the way she is I'd offer a shoulder to cry on, but the way she's acting is putting me off doing so & she wouldn't accept it anyway.
Are her parents keeping an eye on her? Wouldn't be surprised if she's focusing on him coz of her kid, that's probably what's bothering her more but she's transferred her feelings somewhere else to deal with it. Plus breaking up with someone is shitty as well so it'll be that too.
At least you know how to block her now anyway. I think you should care but leave everything down to her family and professionals.
Bit sad really, she's lost control of her life right now and is trying to claim it back. Hope she's ok. Dunno how you handle this tbh.
I hope they are, the rest of her family have disowned her. I hope she gets her stuff sorted but I don't want to see my friend getting more hurt through it. I don't want her to keep dragging him into shit when he's trying to move on.
Have you tried texting back? Maybe offer to meet her for a coffee in a public place? Might give her a shoulder to cry on as you said... or could also make it worse though... Play it by ear.
Shit like this can get you down without you realising. "
I've not considered it... I might do, but as you said it could make things worse |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore |
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore "
Ignoring, don't worry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If she has narcissistic personality disorder, she will never give in till she has someone else,
And if he has kids with her, he will never see the kids again
Been there done that |
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore
Ignoring, don't worry. "
excellent..im so glad you've met your mirror. i hope you see it as an ally
kindest regards s xx |
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore "
+1, |
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Have you tried texting back? Maybe offer to meet her for a coffee in a public place? Might give her a shoulder to cry on as you said... or could also make it worse though... Play it by ear.
Shit like this can get you down without you realising. "
^^This.
Ask her over, listen to what she says and comfort her, give a hug, reach down and tell her everything will be ok as you lovingly stroke the hair off her face and wipe a tear from her eye. Lean forward and kiss her, feel her firm ripe breasts pressing against you. Let your tongue dart in her mouth, dancing with hers as your hands hold her body tight, she gives herself to you, make the pain go away she asks, you smile and kiss her tenderly and tell her she never has to be scared again, as your head and mouth moves lower down her body.....mmmm duck, once you give her a taste of your lady loving she'll not want another man again..mmmm
Or perhaps a kind guy off here could seduce her and distract her from your guy... is she hot? |
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Sign her up as a single fem on here, verify her.
Send her the log on details
Viola... She will be too busy reading message about fancying a fuck and looking at cock pics to pester you (better still might even see one she like the look of) |
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore
+1, "
Well it's clear to see there's some personal issues going on here
Maybe all just ignore each other and keep it off the forums
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i think you're being indiscreet and you are feeding the drama...but i think you love it. in all honesty..just my opinion..its not worth anything im sure you wont change, because of it...feel free to ignore
+1,
Well it's clear to see there's some personal issues going on here
Maybe all just ignore each other and keep it off the forums
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway
Because we USED to be friends when they were together but she's flipped since they split up."
I'm sorry but if my friend and their partner split up there's no way I'd get with their ex. I'm not surprised she's behaving bonkers. It's maybe a bit extreme but I'd have considered her reaction prior to any involvement (which I wouldn't have had anyway) |
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"What's the best way?!
My friend's ex is driving me bananas. I've blocked her every way that I can, apart from the fact that her texts still come through. Her behavior seems obsessive & sociopathic, and her language seems to be chosen in order to provoke a response. I ignore her and laugh it off because a) I'm not giving her any satisfaction in a response, and b) her behavior bores me. Is there any other ways to deal with her, or is it best off to ignore her until she gets bored & pesters someone else? "
Inform your phone company its a stalker and they can block alternatively contact the police and lay it on thick they may have a word with the ex advising them they may get into trouble if it continues. |
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway
Because we USED to be friends when they were together but she's flipped since they split up.
I'm sorry but if my friend and their partner split up there's no way I'd get with their ex. I'm not surprised she's behaving bonkers. It's maybe a bit extreme but I'd have considered her reaction prior to any involvement (which I wouldn't have had anyway)"
Did I read the thread wrong?
I read it as OP is friends with the guy. Becamd friends with his girlfriend also and now the guy and the girl have split up she's still messaging OP and OP's friend? Not that op is with the chap in question?? |
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"How on earth did she get your number?! There should be a way you can put unwanted messages into a separate box (spam messages like email) well you can on a Samsung anyway
Because we USED to be friends when they were together but she's flipped since they split up.
I'm sorry but if my friend and their partner split up there's no way I'd get with their ex. I'm not surprised she's behaving bonkers. It's maybe a bit extreme but I'd have considered her reaction prior to any involvement (which I wouldn't have had anyway)
Did I read the thread wrong?
I read it as OP is friends with the guy. Becamd friends with his girlfriend also and now the guy and the girl have split up she's still messaging OP and OP's friend? Not that op is with the chap in question?? "
Maybe i've read it wrong.
In which case, if the OP and the guy aren't in a relationship, just ignore her/get her blocked/threaten police/contact police. |
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