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"I wish someone would tell me what I want for dinner. I have no idea." Balmoral chicken with potatoes and steamed vegetables | |||
"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. " Learn how to kiss properly! And Tinge and finger a oussy properly! So many do not have a fucking clue  | |||
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"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. " A guy who can can communicate and is good at listening to what you say is a great start. | |||
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"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. A guy who can can communicate and is good at listening to what you say is a great start. " Well said, do go on, i'm listening.   | |||
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"The art of mental stimulation. Too many go straight for the cunt. Zzzzzz" What like Sudoku before sex?.....kinky! | |||
"I wish (some) men would stop thinking that there is a magical formula that will work with all women. I wish (some) women would stop thinking that a man will know what she wants without her saying anything. A book on sexual success needs only one paragraph in my opinion and that applies to both sexes. Talk and listen." | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know!" they just think, clit and tits and that's it! | |||
"I wish (some) men would stop thinking that there is a magical formula that will work with all women. I wish (some) women would stop thinking that a man will know what she wants without her saying anything. A book on sexual success needs only one paragraph in my opinion and that applies to both sexes. Talk and listen." | |||
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"Don't re enact Frankie Dettori riding a horse when doing it doggy style. It's not a race and no prizes if you come first. " | |||
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"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it! "I resent that comment... what about the bum hahaha
in all seriousness though a good conversation can make other things a whole lot better...
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"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. A guy who can can communicate and is good at listening to what you say is a great start. " Women often say this about listening but tbh you people are awful at actually saying what you mean. We can't listen to what's not there or what's the oposite of what's there or some convoluted deviation of what was said we were meant to figure out like a fucking game of cludo. Just pissing tell us straight. | |||
"The art of mental stimulation. Too many go straight for the cunt. Zzzzzz" Yeah but the Last guy who tried going for the brain is waiting the electric chair. | |||
"I expected loads of different opinions..... That's why I asked.... Blimey..... Can't win sometimes lol" I didn't know it was a competition 
The problem is that some men genuinely believe that there is a one size fits all method and it's mostly focussed on oral sex and squirting. | |||
"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. A guy who can can communicate and is good at listening to what you say is a great start. Women often say this about listening but tbh you people are awful at actually saying what you mean. We can't listen to what's not there or what's the oposite of what's there or some convoluted deviation of what was said we were meant to figure out like a fucking game of cludo. Just pissing tell us straight. " I do!  | |||
"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. " If you've read the book, why ask? | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
I resent that comment... what about the bum hahaha
in all seriousness though a good conversation can make other things a whole lot better...
"For sure! always talk to mine beforehand. (Some still don't listen) | |||
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"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
I resent that comment... what about the bum hahaha
in all seriousness though a good conversation can make other things a whole lot better...
For sure! always talk to mine beforehand. (Some still don't listen) "LOL you can tell if they aren't listening with three simple signs. 1. looking at their watch alot. 2 the word yep as opposed to yes.. 3. if his hands are up your skirt whilst you are discussing feminism. | |||
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"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
I resent that comment... what about the bum hahaha
in all seriousness though a good conversation can make other things a whole lot better...
For sure! always talk to mine beforehand. (Some still don't listen)
LOL you can tell if they aren't listening with three simple signs.
1. looking at their watch alot.
2 the word yep as opposed to yes..
3. if his hands are up your skirt whilst you are discussing feminism."Try discussing what the oposite of feminism is the fact there isn't even a recognised word for it kinda shows how fucked male issues are. I mean after all men are; The main victims of violence Make up 95% of all workplace deaths (excluding armed forces) Account for over 70% of all suicides Despite being roughly proportional in number of gender related cancers women's cancer issues recive nearly twice the funding of males. As a result men are 40% more likely to die of cancer than women on the whole and in the case of a cancer that affects both sexes are 70% more likely to die from it than a woman. The depressing thing about that last stat there's no biological reason men should be at more risk. But if you mention any of this someone will yell "but patriarchy!!!!" At you. | |||
" The depressing thing about that last stat there's no biological reason men should be at more risk." To what extent is it due to men being less willing to go to their doctor to get things checked out, and leaving it until it is advanced and difficult to treat successfully? It's an issue that affects men more than women, but it's not due to oppression of men or discrimination against men, (not that I can see, anyway), so it isn't really evidence for the need for an equality for men movement. | |||
" The depressing thing about that last stat there's no biological reason men should be at more risk. To what extent is it due to men being less willing to go to their doctor to get things checked out, and leaving it until it is advanced and difficult to treat successfully? It's an issue that affects men more than women, but it's not due to oppression of men or discrimination against men, (not that I can see, anyway), so it isn't really evidence for the need for an equality for men movement." Ever seen a prostate cancer test van in the super market car park? Cause the mammogram one is around fairly often. The breast screening program has worked our at roughly 1 million pounds for every life saved* | |||
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"Although that post is kinda interesting, everything else ignored and one point pciked out to attempt to shift the blame onto the men themselves. Imagine the backlash of saying "well women who are victims of domestic violence don't reach out to the police and get the issue sorted before it escalates so it's not due to any oppression of women"" I understand what you are saying. Guys often say though that any blow job is a good blow job. | |||
"The art of mental stimulation. Too many go straight for the cunt. Zzzzzz What like Sudoku before sex?.....kinky! "I prefer logic problems | |||
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"I've never met two women who enjoyed the same things done the same way. I am yet to find a substitute for the process of discovery and verbal communication is not the only way to find out and can sometimes be misleading. Reading what a woman's body says is what I've found most useful. Also the process of discovering each other I have found to be very erotic. Also at different times the same woman will respond differently to the same thing. Also doing the same things repeatedly bores the pants off me, surprise and mystery is much more seductive on an ongoing basis." | |||
"So lady's.. Ive just been reading a book on what women wish a man would telepathically know and do to her during sex! Give us one thing you wish us men ( or women) were doing more of or better. A guy who can can communicate and is good at listening to what you say is a great start. Women often say this about listening but tbh you people are awful at actually saying what you mean. We can't listen to what's not there or what's the oposite of what's there or some convoluted deviation of what was said we were meant to figure out like a fucking game of cludo. Just pissing tell us straight. " Amen brother. | |||
"The art of mental stimulation. Too many go straight for the cunt. Zzzzzz What like Sudoku before sex?.....kinky!
I prefer logic problems "I LOVE THESE! never come across anyone else who likes them | |||
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"The art of mental stimulation. Too many go straight for the cunt. Zzzzzz" Not all!! I personally like to start with nipples, these often help to create lovely cunt fizzing  | |||
"Learn how to kiss properly!" I think I've probably forgotten how do to this. | |||
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"Learn how to kiss properly! I think I've probably forgotten how do to this." Pucker up I'll show you  | |||
"Learn how to kiss properly! I think I've probably forgotten how do to this. Pucker up I'll show you "Careful, I'm going through a spell and may take you up on that offer. | |||
"Learn how to kiss properly! I think I've probably forgotten how do to this. Pucker up I'll show you
Careful, I'm going through a spell and may take you up on that offer. "Whoohoo promises, promises | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it! "I sometimes bypass the tits and clit and go straight for the arse. | |||
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"Lib and doc sitting a tree, k i s s i n g "Jealous or want to watch?  | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it! "Fuck that...it starts in the mind..tease tantalise and intrigue..make her want you so much she aches..then every touch of every inch of her will feel like electric...if you can make her shudder by running a fingertip up the back of her leg she will blow your mind | |||
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"Learn how to kiss properly! I think I've probably forgotten how do to this." Come ere | |||
"Lib and doc sitting a tree, k i s s i n g
Jealous or want to watch? "I want to watch and take notes | |||
"I want to watch and take notes "I hope you've got a lot of paper. | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
Fuck that...it starts in the mind..tease tantalise and intrigue..make her want you so much she aches..then every touch of every inch of her will feel like electric...if you can make her shudder by running a fingertip up the back of her leg she will blow your mind"I always shudder when that's done very sensitive I am | |||
"Although that post is kinda interesting, everything else ignored and one point pciked out to attempt to shift the blame onto the men themselves. Imagine the backlash of saying "well women who are victims of domestic violence don't reach out to the police and get the issue sorted before it escalates so it's not due to any oppression of women"" I mentioned that one aspect because it was the aspect I had a comment to make on. A GP can do the initial tests for prostate cancer, so in that sense every surgery is a prostate cancer testing centre. However, GPs surgeries are not usually equipped to do breast screens. If a man wants to be screened for prostate cancer, he has to actively go and get it done. If he's not willing to go, no amount of screening vans are going to help. Women, on the other hand, can't be screened by a GP for breast cancer. It needs specialist equipment and a scan, so even if she's willing to go, without the vans, she might not be able to. It's not about blaming men, it's about pointing out that your examples of why a men's equality movement is required are not all examples of discrimination against men. I agree that the have historically been fewer awareness and education campaigns about cancer in men. I'm glad that is changing. However, I don't think that the main reasons for any differences in mortality rates from cancer in men and women are anything to do with discrimination against men. I also think that trying to denigrate feminism with claims that men have a rough ride sometimes too is poor form. Yes, in some ways men have it hard. I particularly, for example, feel that men are very badly discriminated against during divorce and custody cases. However, men have not been systematically discriminated against and oppressed throughout history the way women have. | |||
"Lib and doc sitting a tree, k i s s i n g
Jealous or want to watch?
I want to watch and take notes "What'ya think Lib will will let her watch? | |||
"I want to watch and take notes
I hope you've got a lot of paper."She'll probably just record it so she can review it a few times. And sell copies. | |||
"That squirting is not the holy grail - stop fingering me like a man possessed to prove a point to yourself! " Amen!
But they do it in porn, ergo any man that can do it is a porn star, no?! | |||
"I want to watch and take notes
I hope you've got a lot of paper.
She'll probably just record it so she can review it a few times.
And sell copies.
"As long as she gets a decent price | |||
"I want to watch and take notes
I hope you've got a lot of paper.
She'll probably just record it so she can review it a few times.
And sell copies.
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"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
Fuck that...it starts in the mind..tease tantalise and intrigue..make her want you so much she aches..then every touch of every inch of her will feel like electric...if you can make her shudder by running a fingertip up the back of her leg she will blow your mind
I always shudder when that's done very sensitive I am "Always good to know  | |||
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"I met a woman who told me she loves dirty sex. So I took her into the garden and we f*cked in the mud. I listened "Basic basic error. Never ever take a woman literally. Unless you want them to hate you. Especially if the line is 'do what the fuck you want' Or they say 'Nothing' when you ask them whats wrong. Dont take them literally on that one ffs | |||
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"My entire body is an errogenous zone - touch every inch of it and kiss as much as possible too! "YES!!! Touch us all over, wake all the skin up, not just the obvious zones. Most women find sex incredibly cerebral so saying the right things and making the right noises helps too. When in doubt, ask! | |||
and giving a good pounding to one is pure agony to others deffo communication at all times | |||
"As said not all women are the same thank god or that be boring the guy I was last with clearly watch far to much porn treated my boobs like they were going to tune in a radio station and what is with men that feel ramming some fingers in a pussy is any way pleasure able yes if done properly enjoyment can be had that said drilling for oil with them doesn't do anything but make me wanna punch them in the head and giving a good pounding to one is pure agony to others deffo communication at all times "Communication is indeed the key to great sex.Not all guys are the same either.I'd hope in this day and age,with all the sexual info out there,that there aren't too many guys that "drill for oil"? Going by this thread tho,it seems i'm being optimistic that my gender has evolved beyond Neanderthal in their approach to sex?? | |||
"As said not all women are the same thank god or that be boring the guy I was last with clearly watch far to much porn treated my boobs like they were going to tune in a radio station and what is with men that feel ramming some fingers in a pussy is any way pleasure able yes if done properly enjoyment can be had that said drilling for oil with them doesn't do anything but make me wanna punch them in the head and giving a good pounding to one is pure agony to others deffo communication at all times
Communication is indeed the key to great sex.Not all guys are the same either.I'd hope in this day and age,with all the sexual info out there,that there aren't too many guys that "drill for oil"?
Going by this thread tho,it seems i'm being optimistic that my gender has evolved beyond Neanderthal in their approach to sex??"Some have. A lot have yet to catch up. Quite a few seem to have been educated more by porn than by any real experience. The few that are convinced that porn has it right and refuse to listen or be guided are the worst. | |||
"As said not all women are the same thank god or that be boring the guy I was last with clearly watch far to much porn treated my boobs like they were going to tune in a radio station and what is with men that feel ramming some fingers in a pussy is any way pleasure able yes if done properly enjoyment can be had that said drilling for oil with them doesn't do anything but make me wanna punch them in the head and giving a good pounding to one is pure agony to others deffo communication at all times
Communication is indeed the key to great sex.Not all guys are the same either.I'd hope in this day and age,with all the sexual info out there,that there aren't too many guys that "drill for oil"?
Going by this thread tho,it seems i'm being optimistic that my gender has evolved beyond Neanderthal in their approach to sex??
Some have. A lot have yet to catch up.
Quite a few seem to have been educated more by porn than by any real experience. The few that are convinced that porn has it right and refuse to listen or be guided are the worst."Would that be mainly younger guys would you say?Porn is so mainstream these days,so it would possibly explain younger guys approaching meets in a porno style...? | |||
"As said not all women are the same thank god or that be boring the guy I was last with clearly watch far to much porn treated my boobs like they were going to tune in a radio station and what is with men that feel ramming some fingers in a pussy is any way pleasure able yes if done properly enjoyment can be had that said drilling for oil with them doesn't do anything but make me wanna punch them in the head and giving a good pounding to one is pure agony to others deffo communication at all times
Communication is indeed the key to great sex.Not all guys are the same either.I'd hope in this day and age,with all the sexual info out there,that there aren't too many guys that "drill for oil"?
Going by this thread tho,it seems i'm being optimistic that my gender has evolved beyond Neanderthal in their approach to sex??
Some have. A lot have yet to catch up.
Quite a few seem to have been educated more by porn than by any real experience. The few that are convinced that porn has it right and refuse to listen or be guided are the worst.
Would that be mainly younger guys would you say?Porn is so mainstream these days,so it would possibly explain younger guys approaching meets in a porno style...?"It's a huge generalisation but in my experience, yes, it's more of a problem with younger guys, though in no way exclusive to them. I'm loathe to say older guys will have more experience because that's not necessarily the case, but maybe older guys have had more opportunities to learn. That could be a factor. Certainly some younger guys think vigour overcomes everything - Jackhammer syndrome. They would say it's a benefit of meeting younger guys, as older guys can't keep up. I prefer men who've learnt that prolonged pounding the shit out of their partner doesn't (usually - I guess some like it) make for good sex! | |||
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"You only have to read posts on here about how women who let guys cum on their face and let them smack them round the face with their cock are doing BJs right and such like to see some of the attitudes. Younger guys are more likely to be disrespectful and want to degrade women, in my experience. They're more likely to assume I want to feel like, and be treated like, a slut. As I say though, I speak only from my own experience, which may be totally different to the experiences of others." Yea it's a tough one if younger guys have learnt how to have sex through porn where it can be nasty and almost misogynistic.I hear younger fellas talking about ruining women. Of course on here,like everywhere else,people have a choice.You can probably get a handle on what someone will be like in bed by the very nature of their profile... I'd also say that I read quite a few profiles that want a dominant male,or to be treated like a slut...! Each to their own I guess... | |||
"You only have to read posts on here about how women who let guys cum on their face and let them smack them round the face with their cock are doing BJs right and such like to see some of the attitudes. Younger guys are more likely to be disrespectful and want to degrade women, in my experience. They're more likely to assume I want to feel like, and be treated like, a slut. As I say though, I speak only from my own experience, which may be totally different to the experiences of others. Yea it's a tough one if younger guys have learnt how to have sex through porn where it can be nasty and almost misogynistic.I hear younger fellas talking about ruining women. Of course on here,like everywhere else,people have a choice.You can probably get a handle on what someone will be like in bed by the very nature of their profile... I'd also say that I read quite a few profiles that want a dominant male,or to be treated like a slut...! Each to their own I guess..." Indeed. Yes, plenty of women do want a dominant, (though usually not abusive, and some men confuse those two), man and want to be treated like a slut. That's fine; there's nothing wrong with it at all. However, when some men think that's how all women should be treated, or believe that's how all women want to be treated, there's a problem. I was told recently it's a man's job to keep his bitches in line. No, he wasn't a pimp. He was a fairly average 20-something! As you say, talk of ruining women and the like isn't uncommon. It may be a dream meet for some but personally, I don't want to be ruined, have my back doors smashed in or anything remotely similar. There's also anal. Some men seem to think it's a woman's duty to allow anal, and we they should all love it. If we don't adore it or won't even permit it, they seem to think there is something wrong with us. Apparently on the sex education programme on the other day, young boys believed women should swallow when giving a BJ, "out of respect". Respect, it seems was a one way street. When boys have that sort of attitude at school age, is it any wonder they grow up to be entitled, selfish and believing women are property and exist solely for their pleasure? | |||
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"If a man asks if I squirt or gush, I won't meet him. If he focuses solely on what he wants when we chat, particularly if it's anal, MFFs etc. (i.e. things I tend to do more for my partner than for myself) with no suggestion he'd be open to doing anything for me rather than for himself, I won't meet him. There has to be give and take. If he's vulgar or crass in his first message or talks to me as if I'm a slut, I won't even continue the chat. If he brags about his cock, has a load of cock photos on his profile or sends me cock photos with his first message, I won't meet him. If he assumes I'm sub because I am female and say I'm kinky, I block him for not reading my profile, annoying me and for assuming submissive is a woman's role. So I guess what I want initially, before anything else, is to be treated with respect, as a person, not as a sex object or "cum receptacle" (or worse "cum dump"!). Quite a few men are here to meet women - are desperate to meet women - and yet, at the same time, look down on the women on here, regarding us as cheap, (free, actually), sluts not deserving of respect." Generalising the younger guys,I think they perhaps see women who swing in a worse light than they would someone they might date. Going by some of the posts moaning about not getting meets etc,there seems to be a thought that women who swing are easy,or slutty,just cos they admit to,and actively seek out,sex on the Internet? Not wanting to bash the younger guys,but generally,the older you get,and the more you do it,you should get better at this whole sex lark with age,shouldn't you?? | |||
"I've never met two women who enjoyed the same things done the same way. I am yet to find a substitute for the process of discovery and verbal communication is not the only way to find out and can sometimes be misleading. Reading what a woman's body says is what I've found most useful. Also the process of discovering each other I have found to be very erotic. Also at different times the same woman will respond differently to the same thing. Also doing the same things repeatedly bores the pants off me, surprise and mystery is much more seductive on an ongoing basis." | |||
" Not wanting to bash the younger guys,but generally,the older you get,and the more you do it,you should get better at this whole sex lark with age,shouldn't you?? " Not necessarily. ..There are a lot of people (both sexes) who in a monogamous long term relationship, get so used to only knowing their partners body, and almost get into a groove of what works for them. Then if they have to meet someone new it doesnt feel right. A friend of mine told me he finds it almost impossible to cum with any woman after separating from his wife..and from a purely physical perspective as they 'dont do it right' | |||
"A guy who treats me as the individual I am, rather than grouping me with 'all the women'. We're not all the same you know! they just think, clit and tits and that's it!
I resent that comment... what about the bum hahaha
in all seriousness though a good conversation can make other things a whole lot better...
For sure! always talk to mine beforehand. (Some still don't listen)
LOL you can tell if they aren't listening with three simple signs.
1. looking at their watch alot.
2 the word yep as opposed to yes..
3. if his hands are up your skirt whilst you are discussing feminism.
Try discussing what the oposite of feminism is the fact there isn't even a recognised word for it kinda shows how fucked male issues are.
I mean after all men are;
The main victims of violence
Make up 95% of all workplace deaths (excluding armed forces)
Account for over 70% of all suicides
Despite being roughly proportional in number of gender related cancers women's cancer issues recive nearly twice the funding of males.
As a result men are 40% more likely to die of cancer than women on the whole and in the case of a cancer that affects both sexes are 70% more likely to die from it than a woman.
The depressing thing about that last stat there's no biological reason men should be at more risk.
But if you mention any of this someone will yell "but patriarchy!!!!" At you.
"Patriarchy is responsible for everything you've listed - male suicide is heavily linked to the fact that men regularly suppress and hide their emotions due to the wide held view that "men shouldn't cry, only girls cry". Patriarchy created and upholds that principle. Same with domestic abuse, patriarchy ignores the abuse of men because they are the 'stronger' sex and therefore shouldn't be a victim where the perpetrators are women. Feminism should be about equality, and for me that also means removing harmful stereotypes that seriously (negatively) impact on men's health and wellbeing as well | |||
"If a man asks if I squirt or gush, I won't meet him. If he focuses solely on what he wants when we chat, particularly if it's anal, MFFs etc. (i.e. things I tend to do more for my partner than for myself) with no suggestion he'd be open to doing anything for me rather than for himself, I won't meet him. There has to be give and take. If he's vulgar or crass in his first message or talks to me as if I'm a slut, I won't even continue the chat. If he brags about his cock, has a load of cock photos on his profile or sends me cock photos with his first message, I won't meet him. If he assumes I'm sub because I am female and say I'm kinky, I block him for not reading my profile, annoying me and for assuming submissive is a woman's role. So I guess what I want initially, before anything else, is to be treated with respect, as a person, not as a sex object or "cum receptacle" (or worse "cum dump"!). Quite a few men are here to meet women - are desperate to meet women - and yet, at the same time, look down on the women on here, regarding us as cheap, (free, actually), sluts not deserving of respect." Your sentence, treated with respect, boom! Exactly, that's definitely how I want to be treated too. | |||
" Not wanting to bash the younger guys,but generally,the older you get,and the more you do it,you should get better at this whole sex lark with age,shouldn't you?? Not necessarily. ..There are a lot of people (both sexes) who in a monogamous long term relationship, get so used to only knowing their partners body, and almost get into a groove of what works for them. Then if they have to meet someone new it doesnt feel right. A friend of mine told me he finds it almost impossible to cum with any woman after separating from his wife..and from a purely physical perspective as they 'dont do it right'" I can't relate to that! | |||
"If a man asks if I squirt or gush, I won't meet him. If he focuses solely on what he wants when we chat, particularly if it's anal, MFFs etc. (i.e. things I tend to do more for my partner than for myself) with no suggestion he'd be open to doing anything for me rather than for himself, I won't meet him. There has to be give and take. If he's vulgar or crass in his first message or talks to me as if I'm a slut, I won't even continue the chat. If he brags about his cock, has a load of cock photos on his profile or sends me cock photos with his first message, I won't meet him. If he assumes I'm sub because I am female and say I'm kinky, I block him for not reading my profile, annoying me and for assuming submissive is a woman's role. So I guess what I want initially, before anything else, is to be treated with respect, as a person, not as a sex object or "cum receptacle" (or worse "cum dump"!). Quite a few men are here to meet women - are desperate to meet women - and yet, at the same time, look down on the women on here, regarding us as cheap, (free, actually), sluts not deserving of respect. Your sentence, treated with respect, boom! Exactly, that's definitely how I want to be treated too. " Its sad that this isn't always the case...I always try and communicate with everyone with politeness and respect first and foremost....if things develop from there then it is an organic thing, wit, humour and banter all the way. Even if the messages get...frisky..it always has to be within the bounds of what is acceptable between the two parties..why waste time and effort making someone think you are a selfish twat? The english language is amazing when used right. Use it right. | |||
"If a man asks if I squirt or gush, I won't meet him. If he focuses solely on what he wants when we chat, particularly if it's anal, MFFs etc. (i.e. things I tend to do more for my partner than for myself) with no suggestion he'd be open to doing anything for me rather than for himself, I won't meet him. There has to be give and take. If he's vulgar or crass in his first message or talks to me as if I'm a slut, I won't even continue the chat. If he brags about his cock, has a load of cock photos on his profile or sends me cock photos with his first message, I won't meet him. If he assumes I'm sub because I am female and say I'm kinky, I block him for not reading my profile, annoying me and for assuming submissive is a woman's role. So I guess what I want initially, before anything else, is to be treated with respect, as a person, not as a sex object or "cum receptacle" (or worse "cum dump"!). Quite a few men are here to meet women - are desperate to meet women - and yet, at the same time, look down on the women on here, regarding us as cheap, (free, actually), sluts not deserving of respect. Your sentence, treated with respect, boom! Exactly, that's definitely how I want to be treated too. Its sad that this isn't always the case...I always try and communicate with everyone with politeness and respect first and foremost....if things develop from there then it is an organic thing, wit, humour and banter all the way. Even if the messages get...frisky..it always has to be within the bounds of what is acceptable between the two parties..why waste time and effort making someone think you are a selfish twat? The english language is amazing when used right. Use it right." If only more people could! | |||
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"I find this thread interesting because I learnt to have sex from porn, I've even had points in my life where I've felt addiction growing, but I watched all kinds and learnt that my way of having sex is nothing like that. I love the taste of kissing a woman's neck, her breasts, and every part I can reach. And whilst being polite and respectful is good, I sometimes find that goes to my head and wonder why things aren't going as expected. Just the way things go sometimes" Its knowing the difference between fantasy and reality...and the difference between hope and expectation. | |||
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"I find this thread interesting because I learnt to have sex from porn, I've even had points in my life where I've felt addiction growing, but I watched all kinds and learnt that my way of having sex is nothing like that. I love the taste of kissing a woman's neck, her breasts, and every part I can reach. And whilst being polite and respectful is good, I sometimes find that goes to my head and wonder why things aren't going as expected. Just the way things go sometimes Its knowing the difference between fantasy and reality...and the difference between hope and expectation. " Yes indeed, and everything develops from experience and communication | |||
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"I'd like it if people could just learn to communicate and tell people what they'd like to do. I know, rocket science. Right?" Changing one small word can make a big difference. ..'I want to do this with you' as opposed to 'I want to do this to you' The second version can imply that it doesnt really matter who the recipient is or that they have much choice. It's the same as saying 'can we' rather than 'can I'.. | |||
