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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself. |
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There's a Japanese concept called 'mono-no-awa-re' (I've probably mangled it but hey) that means 'the sadness that underlies all things', like the failing beauty of falling cherry blossom, and even joy itself.
Without that that, joy is nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was like that for years and then day I woke up and felt differently.
you have to live life for you sometimes take some time for yourself and learn to be more selfish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself."
This is sad to read .
Sorry you feel this way , and hopefully you will find a way to get out of this horrible headspace you are in .
Don't try to stop giving a shit , that's a part of you and what makes you who you are .
As suggested by joe , without sadness there can't be happiness , and we hope you find your happiness real soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was like that for years and then day I woke up and felt differently.
you have to live life for you sometimes take some time for yourself and learn to be more selfish. "
big hugs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh Miss I, it is hard when we disappoint ourselves, but the only way we can make ourselves better is by seeing our faults. So in a way, every time you feel like this you should feel empowered. It means you can see your faults and better yourself.
Hugs your way. You always make me smile on the forums so don't stop now
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was like that for years and then day I woke up and felt differently.
you have to live life for you sometimes take some time for yourself and learn to be more selfish.
big hugs"
im fine now happiest ive ever been since ive learnt not to give a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself.
This is sad to read .
Sorry you feel this way , and hopefully you will find a way to get out of this horrible headspace you are in .
Don't try to stop giving a shit , that's a part of you and what makes you who you are .
As suggested by joe , without sadness there can't be happiness , and we hope you find your happiness real soon "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself.
This is sad to read .
Sorry you feel this way , and hopefully you will find a way to get out of this horrible headspace you are in .
Don't try to stop giving a shit , that's a part of you and what makes you who you are .
As suggested by joe , without sadness there can't be happiness , and we hope you find your happiness real soon "
You two post a lot of common sense that gets missed.
@ miss innocent ~ emotions are good, makes you human & who you are.
chin up x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks all xxx
I'm fine if other people have pissed me off, it's when I annoy myself that I have problems. "
Simple solution:- always blame other people.
Alternatively, say to yourself: "OK, I fucked up. But nobody died. So it could be worse."
Confucius says: "When shit happens, use extra tissues." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The pooch and I are sending a hug.
Its only human to have emotions , and some times they can control us.
I use mindfulness to help me
Its well worth looking into xx |
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself."
These sound more like deep rooted responses and I think maybe some form of therapy is needed for consideration here x i used to use mindfulness techniques oof meditation x certainly consider going to tour doctor for advice too x acceptance and tolerance huni x |
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Our abilities to feel are precious and those that we may think are cool, calm and collected could just be dysfunctional.
One of the worst crimes against humanity is hating ourselves.
If we don't like our behavioral patterns, which always involve emotions as either triggers or payoffs, then seek to change the behavior.
But hating ourselves, as the op refers to, is unjust and destructive. Sense the pain and seek to change something - but not having feelings and being sensitive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well just had a message from someone I know from Tinder who I've been chatting to for months & months.
All I will say is that something that didn't grow much now is, down to testosterone injections & he is very happy.
Put a smile on my face too, on his behalf xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well just had a message from someone I know from Tinder who I've been chatting to for months & months.
All I will say is that something that didn't grow much now is, down to testosterone injections & he is very happy.
Put a smile on my face too, on his behalf xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself.
This is sad to read .
Sorry you feel this way , and hopefully you will find a way to get out of this horrible headspace you are in .
Don't try to stop giving a shit , that's a part of you and what makes you who you are .
As suggested by joe , without sadness there can't be happiness , and we hope you find your happiness real soon "
I echo this sentiment massively. You are what you are. More importantly you feel how you feel. Don't change. Chin up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself."
I know all of these feelings 
Deep breaths and stay strong xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Miss Innocent, did it finally dawn on you that supporting Norwich was a bad choice?
We all make mistakes, and us Spurs fans would welcome you into the light! x"
Never, never, never!!!  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"better out than in
Are you sure this wasn't meant for the thread about having a good fart in the morning?  "
maybe
I was just being caring, I do it from time to time.
hope you feel better soon |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"better out than in
Are you sure this wasn't meant for the thread about having a good fart in the morning? maybe
I was just being caring, I do it from time to time.
hope you feel better soon "
I know you were & it is much appreciated xxx |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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"This sounds like there is a body under a patio somewhere.... 
Tina, does your insurance extend to patios..... "
There's an exclusion clause for stiffs, though. This also prohibits claims by chaps caught wanking on patios. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's a Japanese concept called 'mono-no-awa-re' (I've probably mangled it but hey) that means 'the sadness that underlies all things', like the failing beauty of falling cherry blossom, and even joy itself.
Without that that, joy is nothing."
:0) what a lovely quote x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself."
Its hard when you have emotions like those i can relate to that in so many way. But learning to not give a shit is not always the best way it dont always make you a better person. But i will say dont be angry with your self there really is no need. Im always up for a chat if you ever need it obviously putting aside what this site is all about its still noce to just have a nice normal chat with someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find when I'm pissed off and angry and need to calm down I take myself mentally to a 'happy place' (I know it sounds bollocks but it works for me!) - a nice beach I've been to, or a happy event etc.
So maybe take yourself to somewhere nice - Carrow Road on a match day? That first half in the Playoff Final at Wembley? A coffee with a stranger in Reading station? That sort of thing
Hope you're feeling perky and chirpy again soon - you're too nice a person not to! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself.
Its hard when you have emotions like those i can relate to that in so many way. But learning to not give a shit is not always the best way it dont always make you a better person. But i will say dont be angry with your self there really is no need. Im always up for a chat if you ever need it obviously putting aside what this site is all about its still noce to just have a nice normal chat with someone "
Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find when I'm pissed off and angry and need to calm down I take myself mentally to a 'happy place' (I know it sounds bollocks but it works for me!) - a nice beach I've been to, or a happy event etc.
So maybe take yourself to somewhere nice - Carrow Road on a match day? That first half in the Playoff Final at Wembley? A coffee with a stranger in Reading station? That sort of thing
Hope you're feeling perky and chirpy again soon - you're too nice a person not to!"
Thanks lovely xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the way I let my emotions rule me with some people.
I wish I could not give a shit like loads are able to do.
I hate the thoughts that go through my head when I'm angry with myself & I hate that I know what I could do to myself.
Its hard when you have emotions like those i can relate to that in so many way. But learning to not give a shit is not always the best way it dont always make you a better person. But i will say dont be angry with your self there really is no need. Im always up for a chat if you ever need it obviously putting aside what this site is all about its still noce to just have a nice normal chat with someone
Thank you xx"
Not a problem xx |
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