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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Men on fab often suggest they have no choice in who they meet and have to March to the beat of our drum. Obviously this isn't true, of course men have the choice and should keep their integrity and not message those women who they feel are being "demanding".
Personally I would love to read a guys profile who stated exactly what he found attractive (even more so if I fit the bill) it would, in my opinion, show that they aren't Just here to fuck anyone that agrees.
Those men with "demands" I applaud you 3 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes of course they can.
The men I've chosen to meet have also chosen to meet me, it's a two way street
They have all been very different re looks, personalities etc but what they do have in common is they're confident & know what they want. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Men on fab often suggest they have no choice in who they meet and have to March to the beat of our drum. Obviously this isn't true, of course men have the choice and should keep their integrity and not message those women who they feel are being "demanding".
Personally I would love to read a guys profile who stated exactly what he found attractive (even more so if I fit the bill) it would, in my opinion, show that they aren't Just here to fuck anyone that agrees.
Those men with "demands" I applaud you 3 "
There are many of them. I'd go as far as to suggest not enough.
A lot are also very successful in finding what they seek. Plenty aren't but understand the limitations that Internet sites will always have and either accept this or seek alternative routes to supplement their internet activities.
Of course some choose to plod along bemoaning the lack of suitable companions online and the apparent high 'demand' for those they deem suitable as the blocker for them getting noticed and 'their chance' to meet said women.
The same is just as true for women and couples of course.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are. 
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo. 
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ignore demands
Nor do I make them
I don't see a clearly set out profile that explains what they want as demanding though and enjoy reading some of those that have had a lot of thought put into them
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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When I message women or couples and it's deleted, I don't spam by messaging again. I'll sometimes get messaged or a random friend invite from them asking for a meet, as if I have never messaged.
I don't know if this is choosy or not, but it is a turn off for me. If there was a reply saying 'we are sorted' or 'we are looking for built this time' or whatever, I could understand, but I can honestly say that unless there is extreme chemistry in their message I wont reply. |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex."
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well! "
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A"
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If I read a profile and it said I like curvy and love blondes for regular fun (preferably short lol) or similar, I would be seriously happy I'd think... Hopefully I'll be what he's looking for and message hoping for a positive response.
If however it said I'm looking for a tall red head or black bbw or a slim Asian etc I'd Just move on but come on here moaning about it or send them an abusive message, demanding they give me a chance because I like their profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If I read a profile and it said I like curvy and love blondes for regular fun (preferably short lol) or similar, I would be seriously happy I'd think... Hopefully I'll be what he's looking for and message hoping for a positive response.
If however it said I'm looking for a tall red head or black bbw or a slim Asian etc I'd Just move on but come on here moaning about it or send them an abusive message, demanding they give me a chance because I like their profile "
Not come on here... Not but come on here  |
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I think there is an undercurrent of men here who think that some of the women on here would not get a second look on the street and the only way they can get a man is to come on here as men have to lower their standards. I have heard it and seen it. I do wonder though what men who think this really think about women .... as people, I mean. On the other hand, of course, because there always is one, there are men on here who would not get a second glance on the street that are on here for the exact same reason .... I just think its best to focus on what you want yourself and why you are here and not on others. Lowering your standards ... how can you tell before you meet the person? It took me a good while on here, when I was meeting men as a single fem, to 'lower my standards' to meet men my age. When I started, it was not long after than I met Mr law, and so we became a couple. I do sometimes wonder if I was deliberately and unconsciously meeting younger men because I was not ready for anything other than a quick anonymous meet. As said on another thread by another poster, its good to reflect on some of these things now and then ... and why |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
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Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!"
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men on fab often suggest they have no choice in who they meet and have to March to the beat of our drum."
Do they?
We have much, much less choice than women, but that's still considerably more than 'none'. |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?"
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I choose to meet people that fit what I'm looking for and have mutual interests.
If that means I don't have a meet for 6 months then so be it. I'm certainly not going to alter my preferences or lower my expectations just to get a shag.
I've turned plenty of single ladies and couples down because they're not right for me. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We all like different things and the idea of 'standards' is anything but standard. If we all liked the same things then the world would be a very dull place and the vast majority of people would go without sex ( assuming that the 'standard' is the same as the modern media 'standard' such as a FHM or Heat magazine's top 100 sexiest celebrities). Ultimately we all have a choice, but are my standards going to be as high as David Beckham's or Brad Pitt's, the answer is no and I dare say that's the same for most of the guys on here. |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested. "
Maybe they see something in her that you don't? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Men on fab often suggest they have no choice in who they meet and have to March to the beat of our drum.
Do they?
We have much, much less choice than women, but that's still considerably more than 'none'."
Yes I have received dozens of private messages and the forum is full of guys asking why women are so demanding and that we have the upper hand. Which of course isn't true and wouldn't be the case if these men maintained their own standards. People (women in this case) only have the power if you give it to them. |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested.
Maybe they see something in her that you don't?"
Yeah...not having to put in effort for a quick fumble. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
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You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested. "
That's fair enough. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested.
Maybe they see something in her that you don't?
Yeah...not having to put in effort for a quick fumble. "
I felt the same about a woman in my area, turned out she was really lovely... Still a bike and not attractive (one guy said he did her from behind coz she knocked him sick!!!) but she was a nice girl and many men probably found that out through meeting her. |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested.
Maybe they see something in her that you don't?
Yeah...not having to put in effort for a quick fumble.
I felt the same about a woman in my area, turned out she was really lovely... Still a bike and not attractive (one guy said he did her from behind coz she knocked him sick!!!) but she was a nice girl and many men probably found that out through meeting her. "
Interesting. Before I blocked her, not one of her 70+ verifications (in 2 months) were repeats. So...no idea. Maybe she is charming.
Still not meeting anyone who has met her! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested.
Maybe they see something in her that you don't?
Yeah...not having to put in effort for a quick fumble.
I felt the same about a woman in my area, turned out she was really lovely... Still a bike and not attractive (one guy said he did her from behind coz she knocked him sick!!!) but she was a nice girl and many men probably found that out through meeting her.
Interesting. Before I blocked her, not one of her 70+ verifications (in 2 months) were repeats. So...no idea. Maybe she is charming.
Still not meeting anyone who has met her! "
I don't know her so can't comment, but my friend has over 100 veris but she attended clubs regularly and worked in one so a lot were Just people who had met her xx |
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I did not have loads of meets with men as a single fem before I met Mr, but I hardly had any repeat meets, because I wanted to keep the guys I met at arms length and it was nsa sex .... it served a particular purpose for where I was in life and was all about me and what I wanted. Things change, times change, people change and we should be free to be able to do things for ourselves as long as they are not hurting others .... |
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"Never lower your standards. Even if you don't know what they are.
Don't pity fuck me and I won't do the same in return.
It happens and unless you're a mind reader, do we ever truly know, the whole truth.
Do what makes YOU happy, and don't be taken for a fool and it should all be tickety boo.
...And, yes thankfully, lots of men do have standards and won't fuck anything with a pulse. Just as do the women....PEOPLE are strange beasts, regardless of the sex.
Sadly it seems a lot of local men have been dropping their standards to meet the local bike. I block anyone who has met her and messages me. Harsh maybe...but if you aren't choosy over who you bump uglies with...well. I'm just not interested. Call me shallow, judgemental. I probably am, but it serves me well!
What if someone's met her and doesn't show a veri saying so?
How would you know?
A
Then they're clever sods. Hopefully my standards are that high that I won't meet anyone who has met her as they have similar standards to mine!
Why does it matter to you how many she has slept with as long as you practice safe sex?
It doesn't...the point is that men who meet her have really low standards. And she has no standards whatsoever.
Therefore the men who have met her are not being choosy. Therefore i'm not interested.
Maybe they see something in her that you don't?
Yeah...not having to put in effort for a quick fumble.
I felt the same about a woman in my area, turned out she was really lovely... Still a bike and not attractive (one guy said he did her from behind coz she knocked him sick!!!) but she was a nice girl and many men probably found that out through meeting her.
Interesting. Before I blocked her, not one of her 70+ verifications (in 2 months) were repeats. So...no idea. Maybe she is charming.
Still not meeting anyone who has met her!
I don't know her so can't comment, but my friend has over 100 veris but she attended clubs regularly and worked in one so a lot were Just people who had met her xx"
She doesn't frequent clubs. |
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"From what I have heard about quoting the whole thing, it clogs up the thread space .... the discussion seems to have gone off topic onto a woman who is meeting loads of men as one offs ... "
It was a discussion about men being choosy. I answered the comments put to me.
And taoist you should absolutely be demanding! |
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"From what I have heard about quoting the whole thing, it clogs up the thread space .... the discussion seems to have gone off topic onto a woman who is meeting loads of men as one offs ...
It was a discussion about men being choosy. I answered the comments put to me.
And taoist you should absolutely be demanding!"
I think its an interesting discussion .... why should anyone be choosy or not |
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"From what I have heard about quoting the whole thing, it clogs up the thread space .... the discussion seems to have gone off topic onto a woman who is meeting loads of men as one offs ...
It was a discussion about men being choosy. I answered the comments put to me.
And taoist you should absolutely be demanding!
I think its an interesting discussion .... why should anyone be choosy or not"
Why shouldn't they be?
In my case if I see a man isn't choosy I won't meet them. I'm very choosy and I still do alright! |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck. "
Yes and no! I want to be desired if and when I end up in bed with someone. The point I was making is that some profiles don't give enough away to be able to tell if that will happen. Therefore there is a filtering process that goes on after the first message. I am reasonably selective about who I send messages to but because you can't tell enough from a profile you need to chat and meet as well. |
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"Men on fab often suggest they have no choice in who they meet and have to March to the beat of our drum. Obviously this isn't true, of course men have the choice and should keep their integrity and not message those women who they feel are being "demanding".
Personally I would love to read a guys profile who stated exactly what he found attractive (even more so if I fit the bill) it would, in my opinion, show that they aren't Just here to fuck anyone that agrees.
Those men with "demands" I applaud you 3 "
I'm picky over personality and attitude as what I'm attracted to can vary and a pretty face is a dime a dozen. I gauge this on how people communicate through their profile/messages.  |
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over a year ago
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Shallow bitch here, looks for something that's not readily available in my locale
I do the looking and the hunting ...... Sometimes in stealth and Fab photos so they know I've been there, unless of course I'm feeling particularly flirty and message them
So boys..... More gorgeous rears please and I may fab yours too |
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over a year ago
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Women read profiles? 
Of course men have a choice. I choose carefully who I message, based on reading a profile and see if we are compatible. More often than not I choose not to message as I don't fit their criteria. Those left that I choose to message can then decide if I was wrong! |
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over a year ago
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Yes we can be selective but that means the wait will be even longer to find them also you can get them quicker if your prepared to travel hundreds of miles as nobody would be local tho lol. |
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over a year ago
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I'd like to see a guys profile with a list of demands of what he was looking for and none of this 18-99 age range.
More men should try it as it makes them look more desirable instead of them looking like they'll just take whatever's available.
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over a year ago
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Here, here! Totally agree, though I would say the same regarding women's and couple's profiles too. It's so much more attractive to meet someone who knows what they're after (and you're it). |
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A 'lady' in a club, once said to me, "Oh just fuck anything, I do, I just lay back and think of England." One of the very few times, I've bitten my tongue! It will haunt me, till my deathbed.
Another example, this time from a guy, who without doubt wouldn't struggle to meet beautiful women, as he is a 'good looking guy'. Told of a time, he met a woman and went back to hers. In your best Geordie accent now peeps "So we gets down to getting fruity and she takes of her knickers and the stench near blew us back like, so I flipped her over and pulled my t-shirt, over my face. Cos as I was pumping away at her, the smell was wafting up at us!, she turned around like and I just tells her, I'm role playing and it's like a mask!...to mask her fishy fanny."
Appalling examples, of both sexes. Kind of making me embarrassed, to be either haha and whilst the second was funny as he's hot and is a Geordie, I'd still be repulsed to go near either.
Some people, unfortunately feel the need to fuck, regardless of the person or that persons hygiene, looks, personality or pulse. As we are on a site that evolves around sex. It's more noticeable when it's beyond wrong. |
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"A 'lady' in a club, once said to me, "Oh just fuck anything, I do, I just lay back and think of England." One of the very few times, I've bitten my tongue! It will haunt me, till my deathbed.
Another example, this time from a guy, who without doubt wouldn't struggle to meet beautiful women, as he is a 'good looking guy'. Told of a time, he met a woman and went back to hers. In your best Geordie accent now peeps "So we gets down to getting fruity and she takes of her knickers and the stench near blew us back like, so I flipped her over and pulled my t-shirt, over my face. Cos as I was pumping away at her, the smell was wafting up at us!, she turned around like and I just tells her, I'm role playing and it's like a mask!...to mask her fishy fanny."
Appalling examples, of both sexes. Kind of making me embarrassed, to be either haha and whilst the second was funny as he's hot and is a Geordie, I'd still be repulsed to go near either.
Some people, unfortunately feel the need to fuck, regardless of the person or that persons hygiene, looks, personality or pulse. As we are on a site that evolves around sex. It's more noticeable when it's beyond wrong. "
Oh no, I liked that mask role play |
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck. "
I'm with you guys, I've turned people down because I just seemed to be on their list. if they don't make a proper effort to know me better it's not happening.. |
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck.
I'm with you guys, I've turned people down because I just seemed to be on their list. if they don't make a proper effort to know me better it's not happening.. "
I've done exactly that today. |
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck.
I'm with you guys, I've turned people down because I just seemed to be on their list. if they don't make a proper effort to know me better it's not happening..
I've done exactly that today."
One lady tried to persuade me that it didn't matter that I didn't find her attractive as it would be good sex.. Err, ok! |
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"I'm only interested in in being with women that:
A - I want to meet/play with
B - they want to meet/play with me.
I get much more pleasure from a feeling of being desirable to someone than I would do from fucking someone that doesn't really want to be there. No matter how hot they are.
However, while you can tell a certain amount from photos and messages, It's really difficult to really know if there is chemistry until you meet someone. I've been very pleasantly surprised on a few occasions where people I've met have surpassed expectations and other times where I had high hopes that were not met. That's why in most cases meeting for a drink first is a good idea.
The process of discovery is all part of the fun.
You said something there I really relate to. I want to feel desired and sexy, therefore I want to be "hand picked" not Just sent a copy and pasted message coz they are playing the numbers game and don't care who responds as long as they get a fuck.
I'm with you guys, I've turned people down because I just seemed to be on their list. if they don't make a proper effort to know me better it's not happening..
I've done exactly that today.
One lady tried to persuade me that it didn't matter that I didn't find her attractive as it would be good sex.. Err, ok! "
Same.
Apparently compatibility doesn't matter.  |
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