I love my old man more than ever and we've been together 20 years. I've been terribly hurt too and it does get better  He obviously wasn't the one and when you meet the one you'll realise that. Bug hugs  |
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If it hurts then the other person doesn't appreciate you, if they don't appreciate you, you need to accept it. Once you accept that it becomes easier to let them go......from my experience anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it hurts then the other person doesn't appreciate you, if they don't appreciate you, you need to accept it. Once you accept that it becomes easier to let them go......from my experience anyway "
Thank you, that's a different way of looking at it. I'll ponder that one. |
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If he let you go then he didn't truly love you or have the same feelings you had for him.....
It will get better hun, my heart was broken in December and even though I still think of him in some way everyday the pain has gone and I've realised life is way too short to waste on unreciprocated love
Always happy to chat if you need a shoulder
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Well I feel for anyone in a dark time....been there a few years ago and the pain was excruciating. ..almost like a physical pain only in your heart and mind. Can't sleep. ..can't eat...nothing is enjoyable as it once was. It does pass...you cannot hurry your way out of it...it takes time..coping and living thro it. There is a way....rake care...! |
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"I have been there a few times. It doesn't last forever. Pain isn't the last word.
I hope not. The pain is unbearable right now "
I know that feeling only too well.... it does fade hun. ... at the time it's so painful you think it will never leave you.. it will...
Chin up xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some great advice above ^^^^
Mad isn't it ..I didn't know that kind of pain existed... when people talked of heartbreak I just thought ah get over it .but no..it's real. ..it hurts...
Surround youtself with friendship fun and laughter xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or does it fade?
Love is really hurting for me right now
Will I ever feel better?"
Depends on the two people. You say it's hurting now but do you feel it's worth fighting for? |
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Don't believe those that say if the other person didn't feel the same as you or let you go then they didn't care.
Don't cheapen or tarnish what you had.
AT times love is about letting go.
The hurt and pain that people feel is for themselves and that isn't love either.
Shock, sorrow, anger, fear what ever you want to call it but it's not love.
I'm not saying you don't love him. I'm saying love isn't measured by how much you hurt or cry after splitting.
Get over it as quickly as possible. Be glad you had it when you did.
Don't wallow or feel sorry. That is not love.
Above all. Remember to love yourself and look to better times. xx |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i love..that's it, does it depend on anyone else..no
pain is from an entirely different source, usually broken trust...
sorry you are in pain, im glad you can acknowledge it though, so many cant xx
hugs xx |
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"i love..that's it, does it depend on anyone else..no
pain is from an entirely different source, usually broken trust...
sorry you are in pain, im glad you can acknowledge it though, so many cant xx
hugs xx"
That was it...broken trust |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"i love..that's it, does it depend on anyone else..no
pain is from an entirely different source, usually broken trust...
sorry you are in pain, im glad you can acknowledge it though, so many cant xx
hugs xx
That was it...broken trust "
thats where the pain comes in....
the dichotomy between the feelings of love and the feelings of the broken trust, both present for a time, they dont mesh well,heart and head at odds...
however, if you turn, (when you can) to begin to trust yourself again, it takes away the charge of the 'brokenness'..but you'll never lose 'being love', you'll just direct it somewhere else, firstly i hope, towards yourself xx much love honey x |
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No love does not last forever, but what you learn from loving and losing does, the pain is temporary, as hard as it is to believe, that pain will pass, the sleeplessness will pass, the lack of appetite will pass, then one day someone worthy will make a pass, and you will realise that the pain is in the pass(t)  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't believe those that say if the other person didn't feel the same as you or let you go then they didn't care.
Don't cheapen or tarnish what you had.
AT times love is about letting go.
The hurt and pain that people feel is for themselves and that isn't love either.
Shock, sorrow, anger, fear what ever you want to call it but it's not love.
I'm not saying you don't love him. I'm saying love isn't measured by how much you hurt or cry after splitting.
Get over it as quickly as possible. Be glad you had it when you did.
Don't wallow or feel sorry. That is not love.
Above all. Remember to love yourself and look to better times. xx "
 What Granny said.
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I think true love lasts forever.
It doesn't mean you have to make yourself vulnerable when people take advantage and you don't have to reciprocate it or let it hurt you either. Also, as has been pointed out already, relationships can change over time - your love will feel different sometimes.
Your mind finds ways to protect itself when it can't cope, there's no fixed time for this but it will find a way eventually so that you stop focusing on being hurt and start feel better.
If/when the pain gets too much, try and focus on how you didn't feel like this before and will stop feeling like you can't cope again soon. |
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it does last forever - but ........... the way we deal with it alters - whether its blocking it out - accepting and allowing other things to take over - i always say we have two choices sit in the corner and rock or get on and live - im not as cold and hard as that but having gone through heaps of shite in my life i now think that way - of course you have to live through the emotional bits and some are amazingly beautiful and some are painful - xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everything changes..nothing is in stasis.
Its just perception as emotions are raw. It does help talking..quantifying, reflecting.
All you can do is put a smile on your face and best foot forward and kick every challenge in the nuts..
Things will get better. The hurt fades, the memories less fresh.
Dont dwell and let negativity consume you
Sending good thoughts your way |
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