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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Meaning what do you offer to try and sell yourself on your profile or mail?
Read so many dozens of profiles of guy's who claim to be able to make women gush, they are amazing in bed, hung like a horse..
Tbh this doesn't make you stand out actually just another egotistical narcissist who will probably be spending more time looking at himself in the mirror during a meet than at the female in question.
And women, it's easy for you right!
We have seen many profiles where the woman is overly aggressive and has a list of demands longer than most guy's cocks.
Very off putting.
And us couples are not any better, lot's of very samey profiles, bi only women, guy's who must be repeaters and hung.
So how do we all sell ourselves better, how can we bring a bit of honesty and clarity back to meeting?
What do we need to do to redress the balance of truth over bullshit?
Can we start?
This is us,
Normal mid 40's couple, nothing exceptional, fairly shy,but polite, clean and discreet.
We cannot guarantee that we will Rock your world she is not a supermodel and he has a very average size penis.
We don't like rude,vulgar loud aggressive people.
We are not kinky or prudes.
We are probably just like you.
Our selling point is honesty.
Thank you. Xx |
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"Meaning what do you offer to try and sell yourself on your profile or mail?
Read so many dozens of profiles of guy's who claim to be able to make women gush, they are amazing in bed, hung like a horse..
Tbh this doesn't make you stand out actually just another egotistical narcissist who will probably be spending more time looking at himself in the mirror during a meet than at the female in question.
And women, it's easy for you right!
We have seen many profiles where the woman is overly aggressive and has a list of demands longer than most guy's cocks.
Very off putting.
And us couples are not any better, lot's of very samey profiles, bi only women, guy's who must be repeaters and hung.
So how do we all sell ourselves better, how can we bring a bit of honesty and clarity back to meeting?
What do we need to do to redress the balance of truth over bullshit?
Can we start?
This is us,
Normal mid 40's couple, nothing exceptional, fairly shy,but polite, clean and discreet.
We cannot guarantee that we will Rock your world she is not a supermodel and he has a very average size penis.
We don't like rude,vulgar loud aggressive people.
We are not kinky or prudes.
We are probably just like you.
Our selling point is honesty.
Thank you. Xx"
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over a year ago
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Mine are I have a decent body, average manhood but haven't had any complaints of yet and a am a trier, willing to try any kinks and I'm very easy to talk to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Selling point? I didn't realise we were meant to be charging. Back to business school for me. Although "cash cows" and "dogs" aren't the most affectionate nicknames. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've tried the naturist angle as we have met many naturists who admit their swingers,but I don't think we have swung with a naturist couple yet on here.
We find the cattle market idea a bit distasteful, we don't want to "sell " ourselves, we just want to meet like minded people for fun, a laugh and good sex, surely that is all swinging is eh?.
Or have we got it wrong again?. |
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I suppose my selling point is that you can expect me to be super polite and respectful and very sociable so we can enjoy talking to each other before and after. That and I try to let people know a little bit about me so that they can see I've got a life outside fab. |
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over a year ago
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I have a number of them, but my defining quality would be my mind.
I'm a deep and philosophical guy who tends to do a lot of thinking, which won't always be everyones cup of tea, but I'm never boring. I actually have an interest in the women I meet beyond fucking them, so if you're looking for someone who enjoys the social side of the meet as well, then I'm your man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Selling point? I didn't realise we were meant to be charging. Back to business school for me. Although "cash cows" and "dogs" aren't the most affectionate nicknames. "
Well how else was I supposed to title thread.
Is how we attract the right sort of people to us a better thread title?
Or course we not "selling "ourselves as such, your just being argumentative for the sake of it as most do.
At the end of the day we are trying to attract others to meet and play with (well some of us are anyway) with this will come a certain degree of selling yourself as it were.
Women on here really don't have to due the way things are on here
So they can be, fuck you this is me tough shit if you don't like me there is a 100 others who won't care.
But for some probably guy's they really have to work at it and "sell "themselves and try to stand out.
My point is there is far too much bullshit and bragging, aggression.
Just thought it would be nice if people can be more honest.
But hey ho perhaps we are the odd one's wanting this and are the weirdos. |
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't ."
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am what I am.
I am who I am.
I am the sum of my whole.
Like me or loathe me.
Love me or shove me.
I'm no more or no less than anyone else, I'm by no means unique.
SW3. Some will, some won't, so what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just me, if people are interested then great, if they're not, I'm not changing to get a shag. So I guess my selling point is being genuine, self respect and integrity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say I'm just your average sort of guy. I am polite and respectful of the people I chat with and I just enjoy being myself which I have been told is a nice guy and some like this and some don't. I do enjoy finding out more about people and this hopeful sparks an interest from them to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't .
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello! "
Well perhaps we all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Please feel free to correct me.
But surely in putting up our profiles with pic's and information about ourselves.
It's no different from trying to sell a car on autotrader?
Yes there is no money involved but we are trying to attract the right person/s to our profile by virtue of posting pic's and a description of our like and dislikes.
To this end are we not selling ourselves?
Selling is the wrong word maybe but surely you get my point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Suppose it's my sense of humour and adventure but at the end of the day we are all a bit like jars of marmite on the super market shelf we all desire to be picked up and taken home by someone but like marmite were not to everyone's taste x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Selling point? I didn't realise we were meant to be charging. Back to business school for me. Although "cash cows" and "dogs" aren't the most affectionate nicknames. "
We 'sell' ourselves on our best attributes to determine our 'price' which potential meets can then 'pay' via the appeal of their own best attributes.
Its like an economy built on sex appeal and charisma |
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I like the tenor of your O.P. O.P. 
It's a good talking point.
A lot of the profiles built on do's and don'ts and physical characteristics read like i'm browsing a catalogue for a piece of furniture or a machine. And it's a piece of furniture that's well and truly polished with B.S. Full of promise but with so many punctures they can't inflate in the flesh as much as they can in text.
The W.Y.S.I.W.Y.G brigade always cause me to think well if WISI all IG you can keep it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't really try to sell myself as such! My profile says a lot about who I am - friendly, chatty and good fun - and my verifications back it up!
What I look like is pretty secondary I think - though luckily a lot of people seem to like the way I look too!
I'm far from perfect but not bad for an old 'un! - so maybe it's my honesty people appreciate?
Who knows?  |
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't .
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello!
Well perhaps we all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Please feel free to correct me.
But surely in putting up our profiles with pic's and information about ourselves.
It's no different from trying to sell a car on autotrader?
Yes there is no money involved but we are trying to attract the right person/s to our profile by virtue of posting pic's and a description of our like and dislikes.
To this end are we not selling ourselves?
Selling is the wrong word maybe but surely you get my point?"
Selling is not the wrong word. |
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"Meaning what do you offer to try and sell yourself on your profile or mail?
Read so many dozens of profiles of guy's who claim to be able to make women gush, they are amazing in bed, hung like a horse..
Tbh this doesn't make you stand out actually just another egotistical narcissist who will probably be spending more time looking at himself in the mirror during a meet than at the female in question.
And women, it's easy for you right!
We have seen many profiles where the woman is overly aggressive and has a list of demands longer than most guy's cocks.
Very off putting.
And us couples are not any better, lot's of very samey profiles, bi only women, guy's who must be repeaters and hung.
So how do we all sell ourselves better, how can we bring a bit of honesty and clarity back to meeting?
What do we need to do to redress the balance of truth over bullshit?
Can we start?
This is us,
Normal mid 40's couple, nothing exceptional, fairly shy,but polite, clean and discreet.
We cannot guarantee that we will Rock your world she is not a supermodel and he has a very average size penis.
We don't like rude,vulgar loud aggressive people.
We are not kinky or prudes.
We are probably just like you.
Our selling point is honesty.
Thank you. Xx"
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1. A variety of pictures on profile
2. Numerous hobbies and interests . Sex is only a small part of your life .
3.Available in a variety of locations including Cap d Agde ; London ; Belfast ;Cambridgeshire and Herts .
4. A detailed profile which allows members to make an informed decision.
5. Tested for all STIs regularly
6. Read a variety papers including the Daily Mail ; Telegraph and Times .
7. Experienced and fairly well hung .
8. Polite and do not feel offended if rejected .
9. Will bring condoms and drinks
10. Will pay for a hotel room if necessary
11. Happy to be filmed or videoed .
12. Have performed at sex clubs in Cap d Agde in front of an audience . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on? "
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I don't really have a selling point. As for do's and don'ts then mine is that I don't meet very often but if we like each other I might if I can. Pretty simple really. I don't have a specific type I go for so my profile's pretty vague. I can describe me a bit and that's pretty much it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well how else was I supposed to title thread.
Is how we attract the right sort of people to us a better thread title?
Or course we not "selling "ourselves as such, your just being argumentative for the sake of it as most do.
At the end of the day we are trying to attract others to meet and play with (well some of us are anyway) with this will come a certain degree of selling yourself as it were.
Women on here really don't have to due the way things are on here
So they can be, fuck you this is me tough shit if you don't like me there is a 100 others who won't care.
But for some probably guy's they really have to work at it and "sell "themselves and try to stand out.
My point is there is far too much bullshit and bragging, aggression.
Just thought it would be nice if people can be more honest.
But hey ho perhaps we are the odd one's wanting this and are the weirdos. "
I was being facetious rather than argumentative. But that doesn't really come across very well in text.
I've been on fab as a single male and in a couple. As a single male it's more or less a lottery if you're looking for couples or single females. You're in the swarm. You have to meet two people's tastes in personality, physical appearance, wants and needs, and then hope that when you send a message they are even in the mood at the time, or else it gets lost in a spiralling inbox.
As a couple you already have inbuilt selling points. Sure, it's lazy, but you happen to be in one of the more sought after groups. The best way for single men to sell themselves (to us anyway) is try to write an interesting first message rather than just write a porn script. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the pooch , walking and a large selection of kites
well its the minions that hooked me into your zones"
ha ha and yes my tiribe of poorly trained Minions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its like an economy built on sex appeal and charisma
In that case, my partner is the bread winner. "
Shall I assume it's the male half talking then, such is the state of the swingers sellers market? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well how else was I supposed to title thread.
Is how we attract the right sort of people to us a better thread title?
Or course we not "selling "ourselves as such, your just being argumentative for the sake of it as most do.
At the end of the day we are trying to attract others to meet and play with (well some of us are anyway) with this will come a certain degree of selling yourself as it were.
Women on here really don't have to due the way things are on here
So they can be, fuck you this is me tough shit if you don't like me there is a 100 others who won't care.
But for some probably guy's they really have to work at it and "sell "themselves and try to stand out.
My point is there is far too much bullshit and bragging, aggression.
Just thought it would be nice if people can be more honest.
But hey ho perhaps we are the odd one's wanting this and are the weirdos.
I was being facetious rather than argumentative. But that doesn't really come across very well in text.
I've been on fab as a single male and in a couple. As a single male it's more or less a lottery if you're looking for couples or single females. You're in the swarm. You have to meet two people's tastes in personality, physical appearance, wants and needs, and then hope that when you send a message they are even in the mood at the time, or else it gets lost in a spiralling inbox.
As a couple you already have inbuilt selling points. Sure, it's lazy, but you happen to be in one of the more sought after groups. The best way for single men to sell themselves (to us anyway) is try to write an interesting first message rather than just write a porn script. "
Totally agree regards the lottery thing for guy's.
It must be extremely frustrating for guy's who try their hardest to tick all the boxes and appear to be what fems /couples want.
An honest well written message is always preferred to "wanna fuck "
I hope this thread has been taken in the way it's meant to be by people.
It's not intended to criticise or belittle anyone
More spark debate and encourage honest dialogue between members.
Happy swinging everyone xx |
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't .
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello!
Well perhaps we all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Please feel free to correct me.
But surely in putting up our profiles with pic's and information about ourselves.
It's no different from trying to sell a car on autotrader?
Yes there is no money involved but we are trying to attract the right person/s to our profile by virtue of posting pic's and a description of our like and dislikes.
To this end are we not selling ourselves?
Selling is the wrong word maybe but surely you get my point?"
Yes, I guess we are all selling ourselves to some degree but some have very different ways of doing it. Like someone else said, I'm not going to change who I am just to get a shag. A lot of guys on here really do try to sell themselves, often coming across as really desperate in my opinion. They'll literally say and do anything to get a shag. It's all just about their sexual prowess. They appear to have nothing else to say except...'I've got a cock sooo big', 'look at my amazing abs', 'I can make a woman cum ten times just by looking at her!' I just couldn't do that! It would be like selling my soul or something. I guess you'll get certain women doing that but not necessarily the women I would like. So I'll just stick to being me I guess. |
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Shall I assume it's the male half talking then, such is the state of the swingers sellers market? "
Your assumption is correct. I'm checking the joint bank account on here whilst she is doing "important things". Most markets tend to go through boom or bust, however the swing market seems focused more heavily on the busts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't .
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello!
Well perhaps we all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Please feel free to correct me.
But surely in putting up our profiles with pic's and information about ourselves.
It's no different from trying to sell a car on autotrader?
Yes there is no money involved but we are trying to attract the right person/s to our profile by virtue of posting pic's and a description of our like and dislikes.
To this end are we not selling ourselves?
Selling is the wrong word maybe but surely you get my point?
Yes, I guess we are all selling ourselves to some degree but some have very different ways of doing it. Like someone else said, I'm not going to change who I am just to get a shag. A lot of guys on here really do try to sell themselves, often coming across as really desperate in my opinion. They'll literally say and do anything to get a shag. It's all just about their sexual prowess. They appear to have nothing else to say except...'I've got a cock sooo big', 'look at my amazing abs', 'I can make a woman cum ten times just by looking at her!' I just couldn't do that! It would be like selling my soul or something. I guess you'll get certain women doing that but not necessarily the women I would like. So I'll just stick to being me I guess."
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"Selling point? I didn't realise we were meant to be charging. Back to business school for me. Although "cash cows" and "dogs" aren't the most affectionate nicknames.
Well how else was I supposed to title thread.
Is how we attract the right sort of people to us a better thread title?
Or course we not "selling "ourselves as such, your just being argumentative for the sake of it as most do.
At the end of the day we are trying to attract others to meet and play with (well some of us are anyway) with this will come a certain degree of selling yourself as it were.
Women on here really don't have to due the way things are on here
So they can be, fuck you this is me tough shit if you don't like me there is a 100 others who won't care.
But for some probably guy's they really have to work at it and "sell "themselves and try to stand out.
My point is there is far too much bullshit and bragging, aggression.
Just thought it would be nice if people can be more honest.
But hey ho perhaps we are the odd one's wanting this and are the weirdos. "
Far too much aggression on here. Probably just forum bullshit, one upmanship. Those with ego issues. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x"
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet  |
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"I haven't got a.selling point people like.me or they.don't .
Same here. I don't try to sell myself anyway. I'm just me. People either get me or they don't. I like to think of myself as a decent, respectful guy. I think eventually like-minded women will see that and warm to me and maybe even come and say hello!
Well perhaps we all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
Please feel free to correct me.
But surely in putting up our profiles with pic's and information about ourselves.
It's no different from trying to sell a car on autotrader?
Yes there is no money involved but we are trying to attract the right person/s to our profile by virtue of posting pic's and a description of our like and dislikes.
To this end are we not selling ourselves?
Selling is the wrong word maybe but surely you get my point?"
It is the right word. Hence why I rarely have a 'proper' profile. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet "
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet "
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho"
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet "
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them."
No I don't. And I have to actively look as well if I want to meet. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over "
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more? |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more? "
NO!!! that is exactly my point. Clearly I'm the only single female on the whole of fab that doesn't get loads of messages.... |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them.
No I don't."
You're telling me you don't get 10+ messages a day...?
"And I have to actively look as well if I want to meet. "
Uh huh - the difference is, you're so much more likely to get a reply than we are.
Trust me, you will lose this debate. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more? "
Honestly no I haven't but I'm intrigued to know your answer now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them.
No I don't.
You're telling me you don't get 10+ messages a day...?
And I have to actively look as well if I want to meet.
Uh huh - the difference is, you're so much more likely to get a reply than we are.
Trust me, you will lose this debate."
Trust me....i bet it feels loads worse knowing you are in a minority of single women not inundated than one of the majority of single men that don't get a lot of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more?
NO!!! that is exactly my point. Clearly I'm the only single female on the whole of fab that doesn't get loads of messages...."
I think what happens is when new ladies arrive on fab's they get lots of stupid messages for a period of time. After a while being here you make friends and you then just mainly chat to them and maybe the odd new person. So I don't think you would be the only lady in the position. But that's just how I see it so it could be totally squiffy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them.
No I don't.
You're telling me you don't get 10+ messages a day...?
And I have to actively look as well if I want to meet.
Uh huh - the difference is, you're so much more likely to get a reply than we are.
Trust me, you will lose this debate.
Trust me....i bet it feels loads worse knowing you are in a minority of single women not inundated than one of the majority of single men that don't get a lot of messages. "
I see, so you're trying to tell me, in all honesty, that if you message a single male you like the look of on here, typically your message will be:
A. Deleted with no reply
B. Read but not responded to
C. Neither read nor responded to due to the sheer volume of other mails in their box - also known as the dreaded 'yellow wall of ignorance'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You have the option of sifting through the mails you get and selecting the ones you like best, we don't, we have to actively LOOK for them.
No I don't.
You're telling me you don't get 10+ messages a day...?
And I have to actively look as well if I want to meet.
Uh huh - the difference is, you're so much more likely to get a reply than we are.
Trust me, you will lose this debate.
Trust me....i bet it feels loads worse knowing you are in a minority of single women not inundated than one of the majority of single men that don't get a lot of messages. "
Honestly Scarlet I get a fraction of the messages now that I got when I first joined fab! Tbh I'm quite grateful - having 700 unread messages Isn't fun!
I know a few women on the scene who get bombarded with messages - but everything they do on here is designed to attract attention/fabs! They'll post several pics a day, display lots of provocative/suggestive statuses - and accept friend requests from hundreds of guys!!
If that's what they want to do to feel good about themselves and to get lots of attention then great!
It's suits some but not me!! Most of the messages I DO get are nice messages from lovely, attractive guys! I can count the number of abusive or 'filthy' messages I've received on one hand - so I'm happy with my profile etc as it is!
A little attention from the right people is far better than a lot of attention from the wrong people I think Hun?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're getting too many messages, you can always rectify that with a filter.
However, there's no filter that can rectify a single males lack of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My selling point is that I'll have a go at pretty much anything. Approach me with an interesting idea for kink and it might just take my fancy.
On the other hand though - 'vanilla' sex does very little for me, unless it's with a gorgeous dyke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics."
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high? |
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?"
i don't get a lot of offers |
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers"
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers"
Well you do have rather specific criteria, and that is obviously fine.
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right. "
No of course we arnt always right, but if a lot of guys just in this thread are attracted to her then that must be fairly indicative of the male population of fab as a whole. |
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By *bfoxxxMan
over a year ago
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"Meaning what do you offer to try and sell yourself on your profile or mail?
Read so many dozens of profiles of guy's who claim to be able to make women gush, they are amazing in bed, hung like a horse..
Tbh this doesn't make you stand out actually just another egotistical narcissist who will probably be spending more time looking at himself in the mirror during a meet than at the female in question.
And women, it's easy for you right!
We have seen many profiles where the woman is overly aggressive and has a list of demands longer than most guy's cocks.
Very off putting.
And us couples are not any better, lot's of very samey profiles, bi only women, guy's who must be repeaters and hung.
So how do we all sell ourselves better, how can we bring a bit of honesty and clarity back to meeting?
What do we need to do to redress the balance of truth over bullshit?
Can we start?
This is us,
Normal mid 40's couple, nothing exceptional, fairly shy,but polite, clean and discreet.
We cannot guarantee that we will Rock your world she is not a supermodel and he has a very average size penis.
We don't like rude,vulgar loud aggressive people.
We are not kinky or prudes.
We are probably just like you.
Our selling point is honesty.
Thank you. Xx"
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right. "
When I see guys posting about how all the women on here get hundreds of messages a day I always think 'alright mate, whatever makes you feel better about not getting a reply'. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers"
Just wondering as you have a specific requirement in men then would this also narrow down the potential messages received? I'm not sure what the ratio is between mixed race and black gentlemen to white ones here is? |
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over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right.
When I see guys posting about how all the women on here get hundreds of messages a day I always think 'alright mate, whatever makes you feel better about not getting a reply'."
Women do get lots of replies, or at least the women that I have chatted to.
It doesn't make me feel better or worse about anything. I get replies, because I try to be interesting funny and articulate. I can't do anything about being ugly tho. It's just as well a lot of women arnt that shallow other wise did still be a virgin.
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over a year ago
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"My selling point is my 6pack torso  "
Shhh I thought that was one of the best kept secrets on fab's now you have just blurted it out... Change your filter or you will be snowed under man... |
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Well how else was I supposed to title thread.
Is how we attract the right sort of people to us a better thread title?
Or course we not "selling "ourselves as such, your just being argumentative for the sake of it as most do.
At the end of the day we are trying to attract others to meet and play with (well some of us are anyway) with this will come a certain degree of selling yourself as it were.
Women on here really don't have to due the way things are on here
So they can be, fuck you this is me tough shit if you don't like me there is a 100 others who won't care.
But for some probably guy's they really have to work at it and "sell "themselves and try to stand out.
My point is there is far too much bullshit and bragging, aggression.
Just thought it would be nice if people can be more honest.
But hey ho perhaps we are the odd one's wanting this and are the weirdos.
I was being facetious rather than argumentative. But that doesn't really come across very well in text.
I've been on fab as a single male and in a couple. As a single male it's more or less a lottery if you're looking for couples or single females. You're in the swarm. You have to meet two people's tastes in personality, physical appearance, wants and needs, and then hope that when you send a message they are even in the mood at the time, or else it gets lost in a spiralling inbox.
As a couple you already have inbuilt selling points. Sure, it's lazy, but you happen to be in one of the more sought after groups. The best way for single men to sell themselves (to us anyway) is try to write an interesting first message rather than just write a porn script. "
. Single males having difficulty obtain meets can also work in your favourable ..Last week I had three meets and could have had another two but I was away for the weekend . I have ssen various couples for repeat meets over a five period. I did however meet them from a different site . In order to obtain meets you have to be able to market yourself correctly ; have good pictures and an interesting profile .In addition you will need the right attitude and also be able to perform well at the meet . Satisfy all these criteria and your meets will want to meet you again..After putting extensive efforts into marketing mself various couples that I have meet have my number and know that I am available within an hour .
A two line profile and poor pictures will not result in many meets . I did however see one couple last week whose sole selection criteria was my pictures but that is unusual.
As with most things in life , effort in has an impact on the result obtained .  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right.
When I see guys posting about how all the women on here get hundreds of messages a day I always think 'alright mate, whatever makes you feel better about not getting a reply'."
This.
If a guy was really what a woman was looking for then she'd notice.
Blaming a lack of response on her inability to cope with a busy inbox, regardless of if that was 10 messages a day or 100 is pretty patronising.
I know people who get hundreds of messages a week. They still meet.
And those meets come from messages in their inboxes. The ones from profiles they're actually interested in from guys they're attracted to.
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You need only look at the carefully chosen pics that people display.
Larger ladies that rarely show full body shots.
Cock pics where they are only using one finger to hold it.
Bent over bum shots to hide any saginess etc. etc. etc.
Selling, marketing or trying to catch people's eye. Whatever you call it, everybody does it...even subconsciously.
How many "What's wrong with my profile (shop window)?" threads do we see?
It's so blatantly a marketing process...particularly for guys.
Yet some are successful in meeting regularly, whilst others fall by the wayside. I do not believe this is luck. I think some people have more desired USPs for this market, and they become sought after.
There are a myriad of these...people like diff things...but no matter the ultimate weapon in your armoury, there is one other factor.
Personality. You can be "Hot As..." (which for a lady is "Has a pulse") but you can certainly fuck it up in 5 secs of communication.
So, for me, the reason I get to meet regularly....my USP...is simple.
I manage to translate my personality through text. I am not great in a pub...my appearance doesn't help there...but I am laid back and genuinely interested in the people I chat to. I am a thinker and wonder about people.
As a result, I ask questions, one of which is never "FAF?".
At the end of the day, we all have ugliest, we all want to bump them, but before and after that, we have to have something lovely that makes it more than just that.
Not that 'just that' isn't good, but to repeat and build, you need to connect.
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As it's been said before "you either like what you see and read or you don't." A USP means sweet FA if you don't match that person's preferences. In fact, having a USP could potentially work against you by highlighting something people might not like.
Just introduce yourself, try not to be psycho and let the chips fall where they may!  |
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"My selling point is my 6pack torso
Shhh I thought that was one of the best kept secrets on fab's now you have just blurted it out... Change your filter or you will be snowed under man... "
Good idea there and yes it was kinda a secret as well |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
You must be mistaken. The Men say you do. The Men are always right.
When I see guys posting about how all the women on here get hundreds of messages a day I always think 'alright mate, whatever makes you feel better about not getting a reply'."
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
Just wondering as you have a specific requirement in men then would this also narrow down the potential messages received? I'm not sure what the ratio is between mixed race and black gentlemen to white ones here is?"
Oh don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about lack of messages I'm just pointing out that not all women are the most desired things on fab. And yes i believe my preferences do play a part in me not getting many messages. . Oh but wait a minute there is that other myth that single guys don't read profiles. ...i certainly do appear to be an anomaly if you believe all you read on the forum |
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I agree with OP to a point, our profiles are our own personal sexual billboards. But as a single woman I can choose to be picky and tough.
Domme, likes playing with Tgirls, boys, girls, couples. Educated, daft, no drama, have own place, own worlds best dog.
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more?
NO!!! that is exactly my point. Clearly I'm the only single female on the whole of fab that doesn't get loads of messages...."
Maybe they read your profile and realise they're not what your looking for, so don't fill up your inbox with junk mail.
Revolutionary thinking, but it might be right.
Editors note; replace "they" with "i". |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
You are very attractive so I'm sure you do get a lot of offers, I never said they would be quality offers tho
You are very very wrong. Maybe one a day and that is only because I regularly put up pics.
So your saying you don't get a lot of offers
Or are you saying the quality is high?
i don't get a lot of offers
Just wondering as you have a specific requirement in men then would this also narrow down the potential messages received? I'm not sure what the ratio is between mixed race and black gentlemen to white ones here is?
Oh don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about lack of messages I'm just pointing out that not all women are the most desired things on fab. And yes i believe my preferences do play a part in me not getting many messages. . Oh but wait a minute there is that other myth that single guys don't read profiles. ...i certainly do appear to be an anomaly if you believe all you read on the forum "
So actually you do get a lot of attention but you filter out a lot that don't fit your requirements.
In essence your having your pick of what's available and only selecting those that fit the bill. It just so happens that your criteria are quite narrow
I always read profiles how else will I know if that person is some one I want to know better
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As it's been said before "you either like what you see and read or you don't." A USP means sweet FA if you don't match that person's preferences. In fact, having a USP could potentially work against you by highlighting something people might not like.
Just introduce yourself, try not to be psycho and let the chips fall where they may! "
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"I'm widely credited for inventing bees.
That one kind of blows anyone's socks off.
For me... Your ass is all the selling point you need!   "
I really think we should swap arses for a while as I'd like to spend some quality time with yours.
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"I'm widely credited for inventing bees.
That one kind of blows anyone's socks off.
For me... Your ass is all the selling point you need!
I really think we should swap arses for a while as I'd like to spend some quality time with yours.
FYI mine detaches."
SOLD!!! |
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"Meaning what do you offer to try and sell yourself on your profile or mail?
Read so many dozens of profiles of guy's who claim to be able to make women gush, they are amazing in bed, hung like a horse..
Tbh this doesn't make you stand out actually just another egotistical narcissist who will probably be spending more time looking at himself in the mirror during a meet than at the female in question.
And women, it's easy for you right!
We have seen many profiles where the woman is overly aggressive and has a list of demands longer than most guy's cocks.
Very off putting.
And us couples are not any better, lot's of very samey profiles, bi only women, guy's who must be repeaters and hung.
So how do we all sell ourselves better, how can we bring a bit of honesty and clarity back to meeting?
What do we need to do to redress the balance of truth over bullshit?
Can we start?
This is us,
Normal mid 40's couple, nothing exceptional, fairly shy,but polite, clean and discreet.
We cannot guarantee that we will Rock your world she is not a supermodel and he has a very average size penis.
We don't like rude,vulgar loud aggressive people.
We are not kinky or prudes.
We are probably just like you.
Our selling point is honesty.
Thank you. Xx"
some womens profile are very aggresive and demands are over the top and some oe them are butt ugly!! |
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"I'm widely credited for inventing bees.
That one kind of blows anyone's socks off. "
Well they were kinda stiff legged until I came along. I invented their knees |
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I was asked this question over a year ago & I gave a detailed reply re my USP on Fabs.
Now, I pretty much have the belief that it comes down to the basics ~ I have tits & a fanny.
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"I was asked this question over a year ago & I gave a detailed reply re my USP on Fabs.
Now, I pretty much have the belief that it comes down to the basics ~ I have tits & a fanny.
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Great pair of tits tho |
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Been very interesting reading all the different opinions expressed today.
Thanks for taking part.
Be good if we could have regular grown up debates, rather than just ending up with insults...
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"I was asked this question over a year ago & I gave a detailed reply re my USP on Fabs.
Now, I pretty much have the belief that it comes down to the basics ~ I have tits & a fanny.
Great pair of tits tho "
Why thank you....
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"I was asked this question over a year ago & I gave a detailed reply re my USP on Fabs.
Now, I pretty much have the belief that it comes down to the basics ~ I have tits & a fanny.
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Quality. |
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Must be my photos as people rarely read the profile! All I say is I'm here to get to know people more than just for sex, I'm all about the social side of things and would like to make lasting friendships, some people like that, some people it scares off. For those who read the profile and are not scared off, I usually get complimented for my honesty and somehow being different. Whatever that means. |
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more?
Honestly no I haven't but I'm intrigued to know your answer now. "
I had my filters to allow men to message me because I have so many profiles in a 5 mile area I get physically ill scrolling through them. I made my age range smaller to lessen the traffic. Even being a new profile and not verified I was getting message after message after message. I have said no thank you a lot. Occasionally a profile looks interesting and I speak to the man. That may be 1 profile in 100. I got sick of looking through profiles. Apart from age my preferences are very open so when I search myself hundreds of profiles come up. I'm not saying that every man who messages me will want to meet once they get to know me or that they weren't looking for wank talk but it's more profiles to look through. A lot of profiles look much the same with little text which makes it difficult to get any inspiration. |
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"Been very interesting reading all the different opinions expressed today.
Thanks for taking part.
Be good if we could have regular grown up debates, rather than just ending up with insults...
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"I don't buy into this theory that we have to sell ourselves to others. Surely it's more about whether there is a mutual attraction and a desire to have sex with that person not a list of attributes/personality traits that will make 2 or more people get it on?
Thats easy to say when your sat upon the thing that everyone wants
If a fox wants his lunch he has to chase it x
It gets a bit boring the way everyone assumes all single women have their pick and men falling at their feet
Sounds like a job for the health and safety department with all those men to step over
Ever had so much of something you can't face looking at it any more?
Honestly no I haven't but I'm intrigued to know your answer now.
I had my filters to allow men to message me because I have so many profiles in a 5 mile area I get physically ill scrolling through them. I made my age range smaller to lessen the traffic. Even being a new profile and not verified I was getting message after message after message. I have said no thank you a lot. Occasionally a profile looks interesting and I speak to the man. That may be 1 profile in 100. I got sick of looking through profiles. Apart from age my preferences are very open so when I search myself hundreds of profiles come up. I'm not saying that every man who messages me will want to meet once they get to know me or that they weren't looking for wank talk but it's more profiles to look through. A lot of profiles look much the same with little text which makes it difficult to get any inspiration. "
Well you do live in a highly populated area and London can be a very small place like that. There are many a different type of profile here the short fancy a shag ones to the more detailed ones but I do appreciate its hard to sift through that amount of profile without it feeling more like a job than enjoyment. So I see your profile is closed from contact to allow you the time to find the person you would most like to chat with which is a better way for you to work. |
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"I was asked this question over a year ago & I gave a detailed reply re my USP on Fabs.
Now, I pretty much have the belief that it comes down to the basics ~ I have tits & a fanny.
Great pair of tits tho
Why thank you....
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You have a fanny why the hell was this not mentioned before |
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"Been very interesting reading all the different opinions expressed today.
Thanks for taking part.
Be good if we could have regular grown up debates, rather than just ending up with insults...
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I have enjoyed reading and participating in this today great choice of topics thanks. |
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I only have one will maybe 2. But the main one is my hands. More precisely my fingers. I'm a sleight of hand magician so naturally I have very nimble fingers that are capable of wonderful things |
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we like to have a lot of fun socially and whilst playing - we arent pushy and wont throw a paddy if you cant meet straight away (cos we cant either most of the time) - we are very easy to get on with and everybody says how comfortable they are with us - so yes just normal i guess |
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