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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just been stood up. Arranged to meet a lady for a coffee this morning. But because I haven't messaged in the last couple of days she's made other plans.
She rightly or wrongly thought me to be a time waster, such a shame the real time wasters are having such an impact on genuine people.
Rant over, happy Sunday. |
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When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh iv done the same
I had a meet planned but he hadn't replied to.my message even though he had read them and has been online on here too
Looks like he didn't get a better offer he messaged me thisor nine iv cancelled
I'm no one's 2nds"
How do you know he was holding out for a better offer? Seems a tad extreme to just cancel because you think that.  |
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"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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this is one of the situations that differs across the genders, if a guy looks for a possible 2nd meet because he hasn't had confirmation and he posted here, he would mostly be condemned. A female, it sways the other way.
I don't see anything wrong with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a meet go quiet on me , but she told me before hand she was working and would meet after work, she turned up as promised, she was only quiet for that day, perhaps if you let people know you wont be in touch and why.  |
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"Just been stood up. Arranged to meet a lady for a coffee this morning. But because I haven't messaged in the last couple of days she's made other plans.
She rightly or wrongly thought me to be a time waster, such a shame the real time wasters are having such an impact on genuine people.
Rant over, happy Sunday."
Keep in touch next time lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.
Life's a beach  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.
Life's a beach "
You live and learn mate  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.
Life's a beach "
communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"If people don't keep in contact I assume lack of interest
I'd have done the same as her"
This .
Had a meet arranged with a lady, who went quiet on me 4 days before the meet and didn't answer a confirmation text on the day, even though she was online here. Had good verbs too |
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"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "
this..
give yourself a kick up the arse OP.. |
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"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.
Life's a beach
communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you"
I would agree with that, but somehow on here its always the guys fault. I'm not in the habit of constantly bombarding proposed meets with messages. Just set a date and then meet on that date, i prefer to keep things simple. |
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"Fair points, I could have assumed the same though as I have also had no communication from her. However I didn't, I trusted she'd turn up.
Life's a beach
communication is 2 way, I take it she didn't communicate with you
I would agree with that, but somehow on here its always the guys fault. I'm not in the habit of constantly bombarding proposed meets with messages. Just set a date and then meet on that date, i prefer to keep things simple. "
I would add i've never had anyone drop out of meeting either becasue they thought it was lack of interest. It did happen once with a club meet but i was'nt fussed becasue there was a club full of other people there to play with. |
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"When someone goes quiet before an arranged meet, it's probably a fairly easy assumption to make. You don't need to be constantly messaging but dropping a line to say 'looking forward to Sunday' might be smart in future. You can't blame other people for your lack of communication. "
Just to clarify... this is relevant for both parties. |
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